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Kobojunkie:
Your previous post......indicates that you may actually be giving them yellow-light rather than full-on red light.

Not at all.
I meant, I would have loved to date at least one from all of them If they were single.

IblivinProgress:
➜Not at all. I meant, I would have loved to date at least one from all of them If they were single.

If it had been just one person, I would have maybe considered that you may have a deranged follower. But with more than one, I think you should do some reflecting on how you present yourself when you relate or interact with them. They might be confused the same way you were able to confuse me into thinking you are not really giving any of them the full red light.

Kobojunkie:
If it had been just one person, I would have maybe considered that you may have a deranged follower. But with more than one, I think you should do some reflecting on how you present yourself when you relate or interact with them. They might be confused the same way you were able to confuse me into thinking you are not really giving any of them the full red light.

Thanks for your input (I really appreciate it).

I am just being professionally friendly anything short of how I behave would be me being overly religious.
I'm trying my best to avoid escalating the issue by directly pointing it out to them that I am not comfortable with some of their actions but Whose son am I to say that?
After seeing me as being overly religious, they would then pour out their full wrath.
I'm trying to address their advances as office jokes but it's getting really messy.

Modified
I will surely look into what you said by trying my best to present myself in a social but different
way.
If I may ask,do you have any tips on how I can re-present myself as I interact with them daily?

IblivinProgress:
➜Thanks for your input (I really appreciate it). I am just being professionally friendly anything short of how I behave would be me being overly religious. I'm trying my best to avoid escalating the issue by directly pointing it out to them that I am not comfortable with some of their actions but Whose son am I to say that?
➜ After seeing me as being overly religious which I don't think they would then pour out their full wrath. I'm trying to address their advances as office jokes but it's getting really messy.
➜ Modified: I will surely look into what you said by trying my best present myself in a social but different way. If I may ask,do you have any tips on how I can re-present myself as I interact with them daily?

Professionals don't really discuss private matters with co-workers. You probably mean instead that your approach has been to try to keep a casual, open friendship with people in a professional environment.

2. None of those sound like office jokes I have ever encountered myself.

3. Remove private information and personal references from conversations when dealing with your colleagues. I mean, your religion shouldn't even be mentioned in a professional setting, let alone your relationship status. If anyone asks, simply respond that it is private and you don't think it appropriate to mention in that setting.

Kobojunkie:
Professionals don't really discuss private matters with co-workers. You probably mean instead that your approach has been to try to keep a casual, open friendship with people in a professional environment.

2. None of those sound like office jokes I have ever encountered myself.

3. Remove private information and personal references from conversations when dealing with your colleagues. I mean, your religion shouldn't even be mentioned in a professional setting, let alone your relationship status. If anyone asks, simply respond that it is private and you don't think it appropriate to mention in that setting.

You are so on point.
I'm guilty of what you said although it is the superiors that force me to open up about (my) relationship talks using their position .
I end up such sensitive discussions as jokes from the others that are fellow colleagues but now I know better.
I would implement your suggestion for both superiors and colleagues ✌️

Get a girlfriend even if it’s fake, have her deliver food for you once or twice at work and see how their attitude will change. It’ll be work related relationship only from that time .

Tobest94:
Get a girlfriend even if it’s fake, have her deliver food for you once or twice at work and see how their attitude will change. It’ll be work related relationship only from that time .

Kobojunkie what do you say to this?
I think it's a nice idea but would like to know your view on it.

Thanks Tobest94 btw 🙏

IblivinProgress:
➜ what do you say to this? I think it's a nice idea but would like to know your view on it. ...🙏

I don't recommend it at all. You lose out on the opportunity to build on your maturity as a professional and may end up making the situation worse by employing manipulative means such as those described. You should learn to stand up for yourself in the best way possible. Clear the air by way of the truth.

Kobojunkie:
I don't recommend it at all. You lose out on the opportunity to build on your maturity as a professional and may end up making the situation worse by employing manipulative means such as those described. You should learn to stand up for yourself in the best way possible. Clear the air by way of the truth.

💡

Kobojunkie:
I don't recommend it at all. You lose out on the opportunity to build on your maturity as a professional and may end up making the situation worse by employing manipulative means such as those described. You should learn to stand up for yourself in the best way possible. Clear the air by way of the truth.

💡 Thanks