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Guys, I really need your honest advice on something and I will really appreciate it.
I have been dating my girl for two years now and I recently proposed marriage to her in which she said yes happily.noe the issue is it didt take up to a week before she removed the ring without telling me and when I asked her she told me she doesn't feel like wearing it.i was so mad but I kept my cool and coupled with her recent lackadaisical attitude to me now I feel she's either cheating on me or she's about to. What can I do?

Kontrol97:
Guys, I really need your honest advice on something and I will really appreciate it.
I have been dating my girl for two years now and I recently proposed marriage to her in which she said yes happily.noe the issue is it didt take up to a week before she removed the ring without telling me and when I asked her she told me she doesn't feel like wearing it.i was so mad but I kept my cool and coupled with her recent lackadaisical attitude to me now I feel she's either cheating on me or she's about to. What can I do?

keep your privacy for your sanity

No better advise can out from nairalander

They're all facing one or two thing's

Maybe she doesn't like jewelry like me
Don't take it personal
Focus on planning the wedding

It’s not the ring that makes her your fiancée, it’s the fact that you proposed and she accepted. You could expressed your feelings to her but you came online to be told to break up with her because she’s for the $treets. No worries, they’ll be here soon to insult your fiancée for you.

Ps. Many people don’t feel comfortable wearing jewellery. I lose rings, bracelets, necklaces because I constantly take them off and forget to put them back on. I only wear jewellery when I’m going to events or special occasions. I can’t afford to wear them daily or religiously.

The only jewelry I feel comfortable is wristwatch,anything other than side feels like extra load…
Don’t beat around it too much, just talk to her

Am not a jewelry type, I even wonder how I ho manage when I am married because wearing a ring always is what I may be be able to do, it's tiring, haven said that

Listen here, if the ring wearing and latest attitude is your only suspension towards here being a cheat then you don't have enough evidence yet to back up your curiosity, untill proven otherwise with concrete evidence, you don't have to beat yourself up for nothing .

If your looking for that perfect relationship you paint in your head or see in movies then u probably won't be getting married to any girl, because in real life e no dey. Be wise and calculative

Am not a jewelry type, I even wonder how I go manage when I am married because wearing a ring always is what I may not be able to do, it's tiring, haven said that

Listen here, if the ring wearing and latest attitude is your only suspension towards her being a cheat then you don't have enough evidence yet to back up your curiosity, untill proven otherwise with concrete evidence, you don't have to beat yourself up for nothing .

If your looking for that perfect relationship you paint in your head or see in movies then u probably won't be getting married to any girl, because in real life e no dey. Be wise and calculative

Waoh

Sucre6:
Am not a jewelry type, I even wonder how I ho manage when I am married because wearing a ring always is what I may be be able to do, it's tiring, haven said that

Listen here, if the ring wearing and latest attitude is your only suspension towards here being a cheat then you don't have enough evidence yet to back up your curiosity, untill proven otherwise with concrete evidence, you don't have to beat yourself up for nothing .

If your looking for that perfect relationship you paint in your head or see in movies then u probably won't be getting married to any girl, because in real life e no dey. Be wise and calculative

Kontrol97:
when I asked her she told me she doesn't feel like wearing it.

She doesn't want you to turn her to LORD OF THE RINGS and she needs to keep her options open with other customers. Thanks for understanding.

But on a serious note, she has accepted your proposal and she is waiting for you to do the follow-up but you are focused on the jewellery that most people don't even like wearing.

labake1:
Maybe she doesn't like jewelry like me
Don't take it personal
Focus on planning the wedding

When are we doing our wedding's


Should we invite seun and his people to our wedding's

Women are wiser, fear of Lord of the ring

Firebox123:
When are we doing our wedding's


Should we invite seun and his people to our wedding's

Yes, they need to eat rice

Tell her you're ready to meet her parents by month end for informal introductions so that by second week of August, your family can come for the list and marriage preparations can begin proper. It maybe she has seen signs of slackness in you and doesn't want to wear bangle for ten years thereby blocking serious opportunities. The onus is on you to stop wasting time but if after the visits her attitude doesn't change then, you're free to do as you wish because it's better to have a canceled marriage than a hellish one

Ghost her or you will become her puppet for life!

Engagement ring is imprisonment

Marry her formally and give wedding ring

Kontrol97:
Guys, I really need your honest advice on something and I will really appreciate it.
I have been dating my girl for two years now and I recently proposed marriage to her in which she said yes happily.noe the issue is it didt take up to a week before she removed the ring without telling me and when I asked her she told me she doesn't feel like wearing it.i was so mad but I kept my cool and coupled with her recent lackadaisical attitude to me now I feel she's either cheating on me or she's about to. What can I do?

you’re just giving yourself BP. she accepted, and I think that should be enough to go with. U want her to put on the ring everywhere she goes, be like you’re insecure. Been married for close to 10yrs and I don’t don’t think I’ve worn my ring for a month. For more than 5yrs now I don’t even know where the ring is, and that hasn’t stopped me from being my wife’s husband. Oga, no be by ring. Who go cheat, go cheat.

Nobody wants to be Lord of the rings. Engagement is not marriage. Tick says the clock tick tick, what you have to do, do quick.

Although engagement ring is a symbol of commitment to courtship that precedes the marriage ceremony, some ladies feel shy wearing it everywhere. You can talk to her, let her know what it symbolises and that her wearing it means a lot to you. Don't let it be a weapon you're using to 'tie' her down. If you ask me, the courtship shouldn't precede more than a year before marriage. Do what you have to do on time. Goodluck!

Talkisneeded:
The only jewelry I feel comfortable is wristwatch,anything other than side feels like extra load…
Don’t beat around it too much, just talk to her

Same with me, had to learn it with my wedding band(Ring) since I got married May 16th 2023.


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She doesn't want to be lord of the rings. She's keeping her options open. When you should be worried is if she takes of her wedding ring in that manner. Engagement no be marriage my man.