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Brethren, I'm lost here. How do I handle this without creating any atom of conflict?

I've been living in this neighborhood for almost five years. As a young man still struggling, I understand what people, especially the married ones with children, go through, when you consider the economy of Nigeria and the poor income.

I'm an introvert. I appear very shy but I'm not, in fact. I don't just believe in talking too much, especially unnecessarily. I'm gentle and seemingly soft. I want to see people happy even if it's at my own detriment. I'm incurably and incredibly Generous to people and it's really affecting me. I'm too softhearted.
In my neighborhood, I have little children I always buy things for. Almost everyday, I'm buying something for a child or children around my vicinity. Coke, biscuits and sometimes clothes. Same goes to their parents who are largely unschooled, I give them money and buy them malt. Thing is, once I do for one person privately, the person goes to tell another, and they keep coming. The cycle just continues like that. There's a particular widow who is a farmer with five children, I assist her with little money almost every week. I do this because my spirit asked me to do so, not because the widow asked me. I have in my own little way assisted almost everyone around here, not because I have, but because that's who I am. I am not doing so to please anyone or get praised.
I'm not married, I don't even have a good job, I live in a room self-con and sometimes struggle to feed.
The issue now is, whenever these children see me, they now see me as their father Christmas. Once they spot me, it's how they can take money off me that they are concerned about. Now let's agree they are children and know nothing much about life. Now how about their parents(Mothers)?. These women can beg for Africa. I've been turned into a fool(according to them). If they come across me in a provision shop trying to buy a sachet of pure water for myself, they will come and meet me to buy something for them. This happens all the time. At first, I used to think they were joking. But no they aren't joking.
I have a woman neighbor who had just put to bed three months ago. She sells pure water and minerals right in her house. When she gave birth, I went to greet her, gave the baby some money. Then after two weeks, I saw her again, I jokingly said I would get the baby Hollandia yoghurt, the next day, I gave her a thousand naira for the baby to buy the Hollandia yoghurt but to my dismay, she collected it and said that the money wasn't enough for the yoghurt and I added a thousand five hundred naira- of course, I know the baby doesn't drink yoghurt. At least not now. This is a woman that I buy her drinks and water everyday, I buy for her children and even give them money. I pay her over three thousand for drinks and water every week. Again, I saw her carrying her baby in the sun 🌞, I met her on the road and asked why she wasn't Carrying an umbrella, but she said she didn't have. She now said, "Abi u get umbrella for house make I come carry am dey use" ?. In my mind, I said, no vex o.. na me find trouble. Just yesterday, while I went to pay her for drinks and water her children and a few other children consumed, immediately I approached her house and asked one of the children about his mum, the woman overhead me even before coming out to attend to me, she now asked if I came with Bread. " Hope u bring bread for us"? I asked her which Bread, with which money?. Once her children hear my voice, the six of them would come outside to wait for me so I can share money to them.
If I go out to buy something in a nylon, they want to know what is in the nylon. If I'm going out, they will tell me not to forget them o. All these are getting me really irritated. I'm someone who can not be predicted. My anger isn't good and if I'm pushed to the wall, I can react in manner that even me would end up regretting why I reacted in such manner.
The troubling part is, these are not people that have ever helped me in any way. They can't even help. There was a day I took a bike to my house and discovered I wasn't having anything in my wallet, and it was very late. I couldn't go out again to use the POS, so I collected three hundred naira from one of the women who benefits from me and paid the bike-man. Do you know that, before I woke up the next morning, same woman had sent her son to knock on my door to get her money back?. There are times I can't even afford pure water to drink, and I can't run to such people for help. I'm really worried because I've been taken advantage of. It's really very embarrassing and insulting to me right now.
We should be able to help one another. That's my philosophy about life, but it seems being nice to some certain persons is now a big problem. The day you stop, you become an enemy. My issue is, I hardly say no to their incessant and unnecessary requests.
Same thing goes to my family, I don't have parents or siblings. But my cousins won't let me rest. Once they try to chat you up on the social media, just know that they are about to make financial demands on you. If they call and you don't pick, they complain too. I'm tired. Should I change my line and social media accounts? I don't think so.

Nlfpmod Seun Lalasticlala Mynd44

Boundaries, boundaries.... Some of una no know how to set it to avoid see finish, because of the need to be LIKED by everyone.

Now, go and add extra line space to separate the paragraph... Hard to read.

I thought your spirit led you, let your spirit continue to lead you to spend all your earnings

iamoyindamola:
I thought your spirit led you, let your spirit continue to lead you to spend all your earnings

I already know your likes, so I'm really not surprised at your comment. Try read to understand next time

Leep:
Brethren, I'm lost here. How do I handle this without creating any atom of conflict?

I've been living in this neighborhood for almost five years. As a young man still struggling, I understand what people, especially the married ones with children, go through, when you consider the economy of Nigeria and the poor income.

I'm an introvert. I appear very shy but I'm not, in fact. I don't just believe in talking too much, especially unnecessarily. I'm gentle and seemingly soft. I want to see people happy even if it's at my own detriment. I'm incurably and incredibly Generous to people and it's really affecting me. I'm too softhearted.
In my neighborhood, I have little children I always buy things for. Almost everyday, I'm buying something for a child or children around my vicinity. Coke, biscuits and sometimes clothes. Same goes to their parents who are largely unschooled, I give them money and buy them malt. Thing is, once I do for one person privately, the person goes to tell another, and they keep coming. The cycle just continues like that. There's a particular widow who is a farmer with five children, I assist her with little money almost every week. I do this because my spirit asked me to do so, not because the widow asked me. I have in my own little way assisted almost everyone around here, not because I have, but because that's who I am. I am not doing so to please anyone or get praised.
I'm not married, I don't even have a good job, I live in a room self-con and sometimes struggle to feed.
The issue now is, whenever these children see me, they now see me as their father Christmas. Once they spot me, it's how they can take money off me that they are concerned about. Now let's agree they are children and know nothing much about life. Now how about their parents(Mothers)?. These women can beg for Africa. I've been turned into a fool(according to them). If they come across me in a provision shop trying to buy a sachet of pure water for myself, they will come and meet me to buy something for them. This happens all the time. At first, I used to think they were joking. But no they aren't joking.
I have a woman neighbor who had just put to bed three months ago. She sells pure water and minerals right in her house. When she gave birth, I went to greet her, gave the baby some money. Then after two weeks, I saw her again, I jokingly said I would get the baby Hollandia yoghurt, the next day, I gave her a thousand naira for the baby to buy the Hollandia yoghurt but to my dismay, she collected it and said that the money wasn't enough for the yoghurt and I added a thousand five hundred naira- of course, I know the baby doesn't drink yoghurt. At least not now. This is a woman that I buy her drinks and water everyday, I buy for her children and even give them money. I pay her over three thousand for drinks and water every week. Again, I saw her carrying her baby in the sun 🌞, I met her on the road and asked why she wasn't Carrying an umbrella, but she said she didn't have. She now said, "Abi u get umbrella for house make I come carry am dey use" ?. In my mind, I said, no vex o.. na me find trouble. Just yesterday, while I went to pay to pay her for drinks and water her children and a few other children consumed, immediately I approached her house and asked of the children about his mum, the woman even before coming out to attend to me, first asked if I came with Bread. " Hope u bring bread for us"? I asked her which Bread, with which money?. Once her children hear my voice, the six of them would come outside to wait for me so I can share money with them.
If I go out to buy something in a nylon, they want to know what is in the nylon. If I'm going out, they will tell me not to forget them o. All these are getting me really irritated. I'm someone who can not be predicted. My anger isn't good and if I'm pushed to the wall, I can react in manner that even me would end up regretting why I reacted in such manner.
The troubling part is, these are not people that have ever helped me in any way. They can't even help. There was a day I took a bike to my house and discovered I wasn't having anything in my wallet, and it was very late. I couldn't go out again to use the POS, so I collected three hundred naira from one of the women who benefits from me and paid the bike-man. Do you know that, before I woke up the next morning, same woman had sent her son to knock on my door to get her money back?. There are times I can't even afford pure water to drink, and I can't run to such people for help. I'm really worried because I've been taken advantage of.
We should be able to help one another. That's my philosophy about life, but it seems being nice to some certain persons is now a big problem. The day you stop, you become an enemy. My issue is, I hardly say no to their incessant and unnecessary requests.
Same thing goes to my family, I don't have parents or siblings. But my cousins won't let me rest. Once they try to chat you up on the social media, just know that they are about to make financial demands on you. If they call and you don't pick, they complain too. I'm tired. Should I change my line and social media accounts? I don't think so.

don't bother to change your phone number or social media accounts

Keep helping them

You'll reap what you sow

I stopped reading half way because I was getting angry, my mum did similar things for people but they all repaid her with evil so I swore never to follow that path.

I set boundaries when helping people, OP you made a big mistake allowing them to turn you to their maga......These same people will soon start raining insults on you once you stop helping them because of entitlement mentality.


You better quit now before it gets too late.

.... Just imagine after giving a kid biscuit and he gat a stomach ache, what do you think will happen to you?. Those you are helping and nice to will turn their back to you.. You are going to be the worst person of the society. Truly you won't find it funny. ..
.. A lawyer told me, a nice person in Nigeria should be expecting free Stony beans anytime (prison)..

Stop...

Else people will take advantage of you. ( They already are)

I used to be like you. I learned the hard way.

The annoying part is the people you think you are helping see you as a big f...

Change is the only constant thing in life... learn to adapt to life!

Leep:
I already know your likes, so I'm really not surprised at your comment. Try read to understand next time

Don’t stop abeg
Continue

Why are you too generous? Restrict it then. They will drown you. Lol

Continue...

If i give you something today and you come and wait for me tomorrow again, na slap you go collect. Or big fat knock...

Are you living in a face me, I slap you? Why the familiarity ? Even sensible ones that lives in FMISY set boundaries . They don't like you, they are just using you.

Hmmmm I can relate but it's very easy to stop. Very very easy

I’m a generous person but your story angered me and I had to stop reading. I need to process this and come back later to finish my thesis.

Try park from that environment and never repeat such generosity in your next environment. Use your head before them use am for you

Leep:
Brethren, I'm lost here. How do I handle this without creating any atom of conflict?

I've been living in this neighborhood for almost five years. As a young man still struggling, I understand what people, especially the married ones with children, go through, when you consider the economy of Nigeria and the poor income.

I'm an introvert. I appear very shy but I'm not, in fact. I don't just believe in talking too much, especially unnecessarily. I'm gentle and seemingly soft. I want to see people happy even if it's at my own detriment. I'm incurably and incredibly Generous to people and it's really affecting me. I'm too softhearted.
In my neighborhood, I have little children I always buy things for. Almost everyday, I'm buying something for a child or children around my vicinity. Coke, biscuits and sometimes clothes. Same goes to their parents who are largely unschooled, I give them money and buy them malt. Thing is, once I do for one person privately, the person goes to tell another, and they keep coming. The cycle just continues like that. There's a particular widow who is a farmer with five children, I assist her with little money almost every week. I do this because my spirit asked me to do so, not because the widow asked me. I have in my own little way assisted almost everyone around here, not because I have, but because that's who I am. I am not doing so to please anyone or get praised.
I'm not married, I don't even have a good job, I live in a room self-con and sometimes struggle to feed.
The issue now is, whenever these children see me, they now see me as their father Christmas. Once they spot me, it's how they can take money off me that they are concerned about. Now let's agree they are children and know nothing much about life. Now how about their parents(Mothers)?. These women can beg for Africa. I've been turned into a fool(according to them). If they come across me in a provision shop trying to buy a sachet of pure water for myself, they will come and meet me to buy something for them. This happens all the time. At first, I used to think they were joking. But no they aren't joking.
I have a woman neighbor who had just put to bed three months ago. She sells pure water and minerals right in her house. When she gave birth, I went to greet her, gave the baby some money. Then after two weeks, I saw her again, I jokingly said I would get the baby Hollandia yoghurt, the next day, I gave her a thousand naira for the baby to buy the Hollandia yoghurt but to my dismay, she collected it and said that the money wasn't enough for the yoghurt and I added a thousand five hundred naira- of course, I know the baby doesn't drink yoghurt. At least not now. This is a woman that I buy her drinks and water everyday, I buy for her children and even give them money. I pay her over three thousand for drinks and water every week. Again, I saw her carrying her baby in the sun 🌞, I met her on the road and asked why she wasn't Carrying an umbrella, but she said she didn't have. She now said, "Abi u get umbrella for house make I come carry am dey use" ?. In my mind, I said, no vex o.. na me find trouble. Just yesterday, while I went to pay to pay her for drinks and water her children and a few other children consumed, immediately I approached her house and asked of the children about his mum, the woman even before coming out to attend to me, first asked if I came with Bread. " Hope u bring bread for us"? I asked her which Bread, with which money?. Once her children hear my voice, the six of them would come outside to wait for me so I can share money with them.
If I go out to buy something in a nylon, they want to know what is in the nylon. If I'm going out, they will tell me not to forget them o. All these are getting me really irritated. I'm someone who can not be predicted. My anger isn't good and if I'm pushed to the wall, I can react in manner that even me would end up regretting why I reacted in such manner.
The troubling part is, these are not people that have ever helped me in any way. They can't even help. There was a day I took a bike to my house and discovered I wasn't having anything in my wallet, and it was very late. I couldn't go out again to use the POS, so I collected three hundred naira from one of the women who benefits from me and paid the bike-man. Do you know that, before I woke up the next morning, same woman had sent her son to knock on my door to get her money back?. There are times I can't even afford pure water to drink, and I can't run to such people for help. I'm really worried because I've been taken advantage of. It's really very embarrassing and insulting to me right now.
We should be able to help one another. That's my philosophy about life, but it seems being nice to some certain persons is now a big problem. The day you stop, you become an enemy. My issue is, I hardly say no to their incessant and unnecessary requests.
Same thing goes to my family, I don't have parents or siblings. But my cousins won't let me rest. Once they try to chat you up on the social media, just know that they are about to make financial demands on you. If they call and you don't pick, they complain too. I'm tired. Should I change my line and social media accounts? I don't think so.

Nlfpmod Seun Lalasticlala Mynd44

😭😭😭😭😭😭I'm honestly touched.

Wisdom is profitable to direct. You see you're being used but you don't want to stop by virtue of your response to someone up there.

When you fall financially, they'll mock you saying "what did he do with all the money..."

Tomorrow isn't promised but you must plan as people perish for lack of vision. If you have plans for your life, you'll set boundaries and cut all unnecessary generosity....

BOT don tire with 40....

iamoyindamola:
I thought your spirit led you, let your spirit continue to lead you to spend all your earnings

no be better pikin U be

You're a people please, there's nothing good in what You're doing. What you're doing Is for people to say you're a good man. when you're tired of their praises, you'll stop by yourself.

Rule about life, never start what you can't finish, and the worst hell anyone can live in is trying to please everyone, because the day you'll say no to them, well it's better experienced than said. To you, you are been good and caring, but in their mind, you are a useless foul, only good for milking, because nigerians hate and abuse people like you.
Let me shock you, if you are critically ill, non of them will send you, they'll just visit to check on you cause you ain't buying things for them again, after that you can rot, they wouldn't give a rat ass.
The money you hustle to make is for yourself, trying to buy people with it is not wise, just relocate and stop such lifestyle.

Learn to reduce o
Or you will learn it the hard way

Leep:
➜We should be able to help one another. That's my philosophy about life, but it seems being nice to some certain persons is now a big problem. The day you stop, you become an enemy. My issue is, I hardly say no to their incessant and unnecessary requests.
Same thing goes to my family, I don't have parents or siblings. But my cousins won't let me rest. Once they try to chat you up on the social media, just know that they are about to make financial demands on you. If they call and you don't pick, they complain too. I'm tired. Should I change my line and social media accounts? I don't think so.

You presented yourself as Santa Claus to them for a time, but are now complaining that the people see you as Santa Claus?

Every individual out there has their very own philosophy which they live by; they owe you jack sheet when it comes to your philosophy. So, you need to learn to put on your big boy pants and adopt the use of the word, "No!" whenever possible. Learn to say no, and people will realize Santa Claus has left town.

If you know you can't cope just leave that environment. You need to set boundaries, this life nor too hard, na we dey make ham dey different for ourselves.

Leep:
Brethren, I'm lost here. How do I handle this without creating any atom of conflict?

I've been living in this neighborhood for almost five years. As a young man still struggling, I understand what people, especially the married ones with children, go through, when you consider the economy of Nigeria and the poor income.

I'm an introvert. I appear very shy but I'm not, in fact. I don't just believe in talking too much, especially unnecessarily. I'm gentle and seemingly soft. I want to see people happy even if it's at my own detriment. I'm incurably and incredibly Generous to people and it's really affecting me. I'm too softhearted.
In my neighborhood, I have little children I always buy things for. Almost everyday, I'm buying something for a child or children around my vicinity. Coke, biscuits and sometimes clothes. Same goes to their parents who are largely unschooled, I give them money and buy them malt. Thing is, once I do for one person privately, the person goes to tell another, and they keep coming. The cycle just continues like that. There's a particular widow who is a farmer with five children, I assist her with little money almost every week. I do this because my spirit asked me to do so, not because the widow asked me. I have in my own little way assisted almost everyone around here, not because I have, but because that's who I am. I am not doing so to please anyone or get praised.
I'm not married, I don't even have a good job, I live in a room self-con and sometimes struggle to feed.
The issue now is, whenever these children see me, they now see me as their father Christmas. Once they spot me, it's how they can take money off me that they are concerned about. Now let's agree they are children and know nothing much about life. Now how about their parents(Mothers)?. These women can beg for Africa. I've been turned into a fool(according to them). If they come across me in a provision shop trying to buy a sachet of pure water for myself, they will come and meet me to buy something for them. This happens all the time. At first, I used to think they were joking. But no they aren't joking.
I have a woman neighbor who had just put to bed three months ago. She sells pure water and minerals right in her house. When she gave birth, I went to greet her, gave the baby some money. Then after two weeks, I saw her again, I jokingly said I would get the baby Hollandia yoghurt, the next day, I gave her a thousand naira for the baby to buy the Hollandia yoghurt but to my dismay, she collected it and said that the money wasn't enough for the yoghurt and I added a thousand five hundred naira- of course, I know the baby doesn't drink yoghurt. At least not now. This is a woman that I buy her drinks and water everyday, I buy for her children and even give them money. I pay her over three thousand for drinks and water every week. Again, I saw her carrying her baby in the sun 🌞, I met her on the road and asked why she wasn't Carrying an umbrella, but she said she didn't have. She now said, "Abi u get umbrella for house make I come carry am dey use" ?. In my mind, I said, no vex o.. na me find trouble. Just yesterday, while I went to pay to pay her for drinks and water her children and a few other children consumed, immediately I approached her house and asked of the children about his mum, the woman even before coming out to attend to me, first asked if I came with Bread. " Hope u bring bread for us"? I asked her which Bread, with which money?. Once her children hear my voice, the six of them would come outside to wait for me so I can share money with them.
If I go out to buy something in a nylon, they want to know what is in the nylon. If I'm going out, they will tell me not to forget them o. All these are getting me really irritated. I'm someone who can not be predicted. My anger isn't good and if I'm pushed to the wall, I can react in manner that even me would end up regretting why I reacted in such manner.
The troubling part is, these are not people that have ever helped me in any way. They can't even help. There was a day I took a bike to my house and discovered I wasn't having anything in my wallet, and it was very late. I couldn't go out again to use the POS, so I collected three hundred naira from one of the women who benefits from me and paid the bike-man. Do you know that, before I woke up the next morning, same woman had sent her son to knock on my door to get her money back?. There are times I can't even afford pure water to drink, and I can't run to such people for help. I'm really worried because I've been taken advantage of. It's really very embarrassing and insulting to me right now.
We should be able to help one another. That's my philosophy about life, but it seems being nice to some certain persons is now a big problem. The day you stop, you become an enemy. My issue is, I hardly say no to their incessant and unnecessary requests.
Same thing goes to my family, I don't have parents or siblings. But my cousins won't let me rest. Once they try to chat you up on the social media, just know that they are about to make financial demands on you. If they call and you don't pick, they complain too. I'm tired. Should I change my line and social media accounts? I don't think so.

Nlfpmod Seun Lalasticlala Mynd44

Change your line... Leave your social media accounts


Pack out from that environment

I've got a friend I hosted freely for 4years now, I gave him 4 months quick notice in advance. Baba has been trying to act nice all this while but I can't continue due to Tinubu matters. Baba go dey monitor me for my house 🤔. Being too nice brings see finish especially amongst trenches people.
Avoid them

Leep:
Brethren, I'm lost here. How do I handle this without creating any atom of conflict?

I've been living in this neighborhood for almost five years. As a young man still struggling, I understand what people, especially the married ones with children, go through, when you consider the economy of Nigeria and the poor income.

I'm an introvert. I appear very shy but I'm not, in fact. I don't just believe in talking too much, especially unnecessarily. I'm gentle and seemingly soft. I want to see people happy even if it's at my own detriment. I'm incurably and incredibly Generous to people and it's really affecting me. I'm too softhearted.
In my neighborhood, I have little children I always buy things for. Almost everyday, I'm buying something for a child or children around my vicinity. Coke, biscuits and sometimes clothes. Same goes to their parents who are largely unschooled, I give them money and buy them malt. Thing is, once I do for one person privately, the person goes to tell another, and they keep coming. The cycle just continues like that. There's a particular widow who is a farmer with five children, I assist her with little money almost every week. I do this because my spirit asked me to do so, not because the widow asked me. I have in my own little way assisted almost everyone around here, not because I have, but because that's who I am. I am not doing so to please anyone or get praised.
I'm not married, I don't even have a good job, I live in a room self-con and sometimes struggle to feed.
The issue now is, whenever these children see me, they now see me as their father Christmas. Once they spot me, it's how they can take money off me that they are concerned about. Now let's agree they are children and know nothing much about life. Now how about their parents(Mothers)?. These women can beg for Africa. I've been turned into a fool(according to them). If they come across me in a provision shop trying to buy a sachet of pure water for myself, they will come and meet me to buy something for them. This happens all the time. At first, I used to think they were joking. But no they aren't joking.
I have a woman neighbor who had just put to bed three months ago. She sells pure water and minerals right in her house. When she gave birth, I went to greet her, gave the baby some money. Then after two weeks, I saw her again, I jokingly said I would get the baby Hollandia yoghurt, the next day, I gave her a thousand naira for the baby to buy the Hollandia yoghurt but to my dismay, she collected it and said that the money wasn't enough for the yoghurt and I added a thousand five hundred naira- of course, I know the baby doesn't drink yoghurt. At least not now. This is a woman that I buy her drinks and water everyday, I buy for her children and even give them money. I pay her over three thousand for drinks and water every week. Again, I saw her carrying her baby in the sun 🌞, I met her on the road and asked why she wasn't Carrying an umbrella, but she said she didn't have. She now said, "Abi u get umbrella for house make I come carry am dey use" ?. In my mind, I said, no vex o.. na me find trouble. Just yesterday, while I went to pay to pay her for drinks and water her children and a few other children consumed, immediately I approached her house and asked of the children about his mum, the woman even before coming out to attend to me, first asked if I came with Bread. " Hope u bring bread for us"? I asked her which Bread, with which money?. Once her children hear my voice, the six of them would come outside to wait for me so I can share money with them.
If I go out to buy something in a nylon, they want to know what is in the nylon. If I'm going out, they will tell me not to forget them o. All these are getting me really irritated. I'm someone who can not be predicted. My anger isn't good and if I'm pushed to the wall, I can react in manner that even me would end up regretting why I reacted in such manner.
The troubling part is, these are not people that have ever helped me in any way. They can't even help. There was a day I took a bike to my house and discovered I wasn't having anything in my wallet, and it was very late. I couldn't go out again to use the POS, so I collected three hundred naira from one of the women who benefits from me and paid the bike-man. Do you know that, before I woke up the next morning, same woman had sent her son to knock on my door to get her money back?. There are times I can't even afford pure water to drink, and I can't run to such people for help. I'm really worried because I've been taken advantage of. It's really very embarrassing and insulting to me right now.
We should be able to help one another. That's my philosophy about life, but it seems being nice to some certain persons is now a big problem. The day you stop, you become an enemy. My issue is, I hardly say no to their incessant and unnecessary requests.
Same thing goes to my family, I don't have parents or siblings. But my cousins won't let me rest. Once they try to chat you up on the social media, just know that they are about to make financial demands on you. If they call and you don't pick, they complain too. I'm tired. Should I change my line and social media accounts? I don't think so.

Nlfpmod Seun Lalasticlala Mynd44

Start being blunt 💯

Your monicker carries female. It's only male bachelors that I know act this why.

Why would you allow yourself to be used like this. This same people are busy calling you maga behind you.

Kobojunkie:
You presented yourself as Santa Claus to them for a time, but are now complaining that the people see you as Santa Claus?

Every individual out there has their very own philosophy which they live by; they owe you jack sheet when it comes to your philosophy. So, you need to learn to put on your big boy pants and adopt the use of the word, "No!" whenever possible. Learn to say no, and people will realize Santa Claus has left town.

Hahahaha, nice one.
I will. Thanks

You say that you "sometimes struggle to feed", and you are yet to wonder why?

I stopped being Mr Nice Guy in 2020.

Make I shock you OP, if one of those people you are assisting eventually gets a huge some of money, you can never smell their #400 to buy a bag of pure water.

Currently, I only help who fit help me tomorrow or if you genuinely need kindness, I go assist without expecting anything.

Finally, you need to reprogram your mind to always say NO and resist that urge of buying anything for those kids. A parent might accuse you of bewitching her kids with biscuits. Just dey careful

onome25:
😭😭😭😭😭😭I'm honestly touched.

It's well