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mek she dey play, she fil sey husband plenty abi

Such men once they do not have a logical sense of reasoning are often times controlling and physically violent so mamu is avoiding domestic violence for her daughter.

I witnessed something similar you call someone in the middle of the night and instead of being apologetic that you have to wake people up from sleep you are offended that the person is not enthusiastic.

The result was domestic violence.

stuffs2002:
That was just the excuse the mother needed

The mother never liked the guy from the onset and likely the guy is not rich enough for the mother.

Very likely a single mother who raised her kid alone and is generally bitter at men

When the daughter is a Gen-Z

Zocalite:
Can you read and comprehend?

professor! Well-done, what did I not comprehend?

It good the way that woman call of the engagement, the man don't have a good character,he Will be worse when he gets married

PlasmaTV:
The mother has no right to call off the engagement. At best, she can advise the daughter.

PS: I'm not condoning what the man did in any way. It's best it was probably called off. But the mother wasn't in her right.

MODIFIED
Una won kill me. 20+ mentions. Cos I said the mother has no right to call off an engagement.

Make una no vex.

Make your daughter man shout for her head for ya front.....na pipu like you dey break bottle on top dat kain patrols.....

stuffs2002:
That was just the excuse the mother needed

The mother never liked the guy from the onset and likely the guy is not rich enough for the mother.

Very likely a single mother who raised her kid alone and is generally bitter at men

Only the both can tell the real problem. There's more to it

franugo:
Did you follow the post you copied so? The original poster clearly used mamu and 'his' to describe mamu throughout, why did you use mother in the thread topic instead of father?

Usually means: Indian slang for maternal uncle.

Her mamu, meanhing her uncle called off his daughter's wedding. She used 'he' and 'his' in the reply.

stuffs2002:
You need to read the story first before commenting. The guy never yelled at the mother

You right, this is what he did

According to her, her mother ended the engagement solely because the fiancé insulted her over a missed call. Sharing the story, she wrote: “My mamu called off his daughter’s engagement because her fiancée cursed at her cuz she didn’t pick up his call once. Respect for mamu+++.”

So a young man cursing his elders makes it so much better...

You guys, you should recall we have standards of behaviour here.

DyshApp:
A mother has reportedly called off her daughter’s engagement after the fiancé verbally lashed out at her for missing his phone call once.

The incident was shared on X (formerly Twitter) by a user with the handle @ohhyesweirdo, who identified herself as the daughter involved.

According to her, her mother ended the engagement solely because the fiancé insulted her over a missed call. Sharing the story, she wrote: “My mamu called off his daughter’s engagement because her fiancée cursed at her cuz she didn’t pick up his call once. Respect for mamu+++.”

While some social media users suggested that there might be more to the story, she responded: “No, that’s it. She said if he can speak to her like that when she’s in my house, then what would he do to her when she’s at his.”

She maintained that her mother believed the fiancé’s behavior was a red flag and could escalate in the future once her daughter moved in with him.

The post has since sparked widespread conversation online, with users flooding the comments to share their thoughts on the mother’s decision.

yelling is a norm

PlasmaTV:
The mother has no right to call off the engagement. At best, she can advise the daughter.

PS: I'm not condoning what the man did in any way. It's best it was probably called off. But the mother wasn't in her right.

MODIFIED
Una won kill me. 20+ mentions. Cos I said the mother has no right to call off an engagement.

Make una no vex.

What is best about fiance yelling at his fiancée and the mother in law appointed herself as the judge who has the right to decide that that's enough to call off the wedding? Hehe

femi4:
yelling is a norm

Thank you o. And with time, we learn to do away with it. When did yelling equate violence?

maasoap:
Thank you o. And with time, we learn to do away with it. When did yelling equate viola?

Almost all men don yell on their wife especially when teaching her how to drive

illicit:
I dislike people that can't use correct pronouns

It could be typo error since the pronoun wasn't spoken but typed. Sorry, Mr correct Pronouns

Fiscus105:
I guess the mother has the right, to put her daughter's head into furnace. The furnace that she herself already knew it's BURNING.


If the mother allows the wedding to go through, and the husband butchers the wife after 3 months into wedding, you would also be the first to condemn her mother's negligence.

Yelling or shouting isn't enough project all that fear and imagination. What happens to correction?

NwaliE01:
The mother did the best thing. As a parent, my kids are so precious to me and I can't stand any man maltreating them not even at my presence.

I guess your kids are so perfect and complete that their partners won't have anything to tolerate about them, right?

Goldeno:
Lucky lady, her mom just saved her from years of psychological, physical and emotional torture.

The man is a beast and should be neutered and prevented from marrying,

Really? On top yelling which is almost like normal in many African societies.

illicit:
I dislike people that can't use correct pronouns

Mamu... non mama. You could have done your research before jumping to conclusion. Mamu is an Indian slang for maternal uncle.

stuffs2002:
That was just the excuse the mother needed

The mother never liked the guy from the onset and likely the guy is not rich enough for the mother.

Very likely a single mother who raised her kid alone and is generally bitter at men

It wasn't her mother but her maternal uncle. Once you realise it's a man who made the decision your entire point comes crashing down

Discountsempai:
You right, this is what he did

According to her, her mother ended the engagement solely because the fiancé insulted her over a missed call. Sharing the story, she wrote: “My mamu called off his daughter’s engagement because her fiancée cursed at her cuz she didn’t pick up his call once. Respect for mamu+++.”

So a young man cursing his elders makes it so much better...

You guys, you should recall we have standards of behaviour here.

Go back and re-read the story again and stop quoting me because I am not responsible for your inability to understand simple English

DyshApp:
A mother has reportedly called off her daughter’s engagement after the fiancé verbally lashed out at her for missing his phone call once.

The incident was shared on X (formerly Twitter) by a user with the handle @ohhyesweirdo, who identified herself as the daughter involved.

According to her, her mother ended the engagement solely because the fiancé insulted her over a missed call. Sharing the story, she wrote: “My mamu called off his daughter’s engagement because her fiancée cursed at her cuz she didn’t pick up his call once. Respect for mamu+++.”

While some social media users suggested that there might be more to the story, she responded: “No, that’s it. She said if he can speak to her like that when she’s in my house, then what would he do to her when she’s at his.”

She maintained that her mother believed the fiancé’s behavior was a red flag and could escalate in the future once her daughter moved in with him.

The post has since sparked widespread conversation online, with users flooding the comments to share their thoughts on the mother’s decision.

This post and subsequent Nairaland comments is a research gold mine.

First of author abeg do research before you post. Mamu was clearly written by the girl. She used he and his all through but nope na mama your brain conclude.

Mamu is an Indian slang for maternal uncle, ergo it's a man who called off the wedding.

Since she is Indian and not Nigerian, we can only confer that per their tradition her father is probably no longer alive or in the picture so the uncle is standing in his place as the father figure.

Next let me mine the research info. Kindly find your location and be gracious enough to answer me. Thank you.

1. Those who concluded that the mother is a bad person and is probably single and only wants money (una know yourselves), does the new information change your stance? Is the father figure right in his decisions? Please be honest, there is no right or wrong answer just your opinion. Do you still believe that the parent (be it male or female) was after money after knowing that they are an Indian home where the women pay bride price?

2. The commenter who concluded he hates those who don't use the right pronouns. Do you feel mortified on finding out that you were in the wrong? Do you regularly find yourself being corrected for erroneous views due to personal ommisons or lack of clear information? Has this experience made you more likely to take some caution before commenting?

3. For those who said the man dodge a bullet because the girl could not make her own stance or similar posts, does your opinion stand even with the change from mother to father figure? Are you less likely to be unhappy with similar situation if it is a man who made the decision as opposed to a woman? Are you aware of the fact that Indian have a very strong traditional beliefs and family approval is crucial? If yes do you still think the girl was weak for accepting the decision?

4. For those who made conclusions that this was a Nigerian family, a bad mother, or a weak girl, do you still believe so knowing that it is neither a Nigerian family or a mother, and it is a girl from a deeply cultural background.

5. For those who believe there is more to the story because a woman can't be trusted does your opinion change now that you know hat the one who called of the engagement was a man and not a woman? Are you more likely to believe a story when a man tells it over a woman?

6. For those who sided with the mother, do you still stand by your opinion now that you know it was a father who made the decision? Do you still believe what he did was the best choice? Do you still think that he has a right to make that kind of decision for his neice?

7. For those who sided the man that he may have reasons for his yelling do you still believe so knowing all the new information and knowing that the women pay the bride price in India?

8. Kindly leave me a feedback of your personal feeling about the comment you made as a result of the wrong information posted by the author looking deeply on if this situation has changed the way you'll be reading posts and making comments in the future.

9. What is your take on false information or erroneous information?

Thank you for your active participation.

Pls close ur account for this ur thoughtlessness

PlasmaTV:
The mother has no right to call off the engagement. At best, she can advise the daughter.

PS: I'm not condoning what the man did in any way. It's best it was probably called off. But the mother wasn't in her right.

MODIFIED
Una won kill me. 20+ mentions. Cos I said the mother has no right to call off an engagement.

Make una no vex.

Jeezuzpick:
Make your daughter man shout for her head for ya front.....na pipu like you dey break bottle on top dat kain patrols.....

Not possible, my gee

Dvea:
Mamu... non mama. You could have done your research before jumping to conclusion. Mamu is an Indian slang for maternal uncle.

Well this is Nigeria...

maasoap:
I guess your kids are so perfect and complete that their partners won't have anything to tolerate about them, right?


Really? On top yelling which is almost like normal in many African societies.

If our African men would go abroad and suddenly learn tolerance, then we should learn it at home.

It's not the imperfections that makes "men" abusive, it's the system.

Had it been we have a good working system, we wouldn't be having this conversation.

PlasmaTV:
The mother has no right to call off the engagement. At best, she can advise the daughter.

PS: I'm not condoning what the man did in any way. It's best it was probably called off. But the mother wasn't in her right.

MODIFIED
Una won kill me. 20+ mentions. Cos I said the mother has no right to call off an engagement.

Make una no vex.

You're right sha.
But this one I support the mother. 💯

franugo:
Not mother, mamu....I'm pretty sure the mamu is the girl's father not mother, the poster uses 'his' to describe mamu throughout the post.

You are wrong!
The "his" being used refers to the girl's suitor.
How can mamu be male yet they are using "her daughter" in the post?

albacete:
You are wrong!
The "his" being used refers to the girl's suitor.
How can mamu be male yet they are using "her daughter" in the post?

Ignore the thread, check out the post the op copied and see what I mean.

franugo:
Ignore the thread, check out the post the op copied and see what I mean.

Seen.

Why is the narrator confusing himself/herself then?
"She maintained that her mother believed the fiancé’s behavior was a red flag and could escalate in the future once her daughter moved in with him."

Why didn't the narrator use father and his?

albacete:
Seen.

Why is the narrator confusing himself/herself then?
"She maintained that her mother believed the fiancé’s behavior was a red flag and could escalate in the future once her daughter moved in with him."

Why didn't the narrator use father and his?

If by narrator, you mean the thread op, then he's obviously confused. If by narrator, you mean the person op copied, then the narrator was pretty clear, she's obviously not a Nigerian, mamu probably means something in her language, mamu is an uncle in India.