₦airaland Forum

Teymanhenry:
I think people misunderstand what the post truly mean. Some women with lavish lifestyles might have questionable income sources. If the boyfriend visits her two-bedroom flat and notices expensive items, he might wonder how she affords them on her salary. Worst case is if she's not working, that could raise suspicions about her financial situation. We know most of our girls na. Nobody go tell us

I just saw you are a man.
No vex say I quote you. I take it back.

folake4u:
Do you get??!!

I'm appalled anytime Nigerians glorify poverty over things that are basic essentials designed to make life comfortable.

Country don spoil truly, otherwise all these things nor suppose dey expensive.

They are looking for who they will tell "after all I did for you"

😂😂😂

Sonnobax15:

She's right..

What's popping with these Nairaland bots these days . Someone can't just make a simple comment anymore . Any small thing,na ban straight up like say we get beef for somewhere before

Seun , please bring back the vibes that Nairaland used to be known for .

just let me get this right, she shouldn't live her life because she wants to get married?

pocohantas:
They are looking for who they will tell "after all I did for you"

😂😂😂

Lol tufiakwa.

Or they will now seize the TV he bought for her after relationship crash. Onye ara.

Luckysbab:
Congrats.

But honestly, no one cares. Your sarcasm is for your pocket.

I don't care about your comment either.

pocohantas:
@folake.4u, the page is @willytech.ng. Compare prices with new and declutter pages. 😘

Thank you Ma'am. 😊

Banbanna:
Go girl! Just dey do yourself dey go. YOLO, no time o.
The reasoning of whoever posted that crap is so shallow and dumb.
What has that got to do with a woman being able to be appealing to her suitors??
Nawao, she's just another mumu person on the internet

No time to check time oh.

But I want to believe that she's trolling sha because how can someone have such mentality in this big 2025? It's like telling women not to be educated because men find them unmarriageable.

I pour am spit.

pocohantas:
My friend rented a mini-flat and all she put was mattress on the floor. She had those small clothe wardrobe we used in secondary school and plastic baskets for her clothes. Then a tiny ceiling fan. It was my first time seeing a ceiling fan that tiny. Her sitting room was empty and filled with nonsense load. I entered her flat and I was disappointed. I asked why she is living like this and she said "Here na camp. When I marry I go enjoy".

How do you convince a man you are good for enjoyment when you have suffered all your life? Love yourself and let the man know how you love to be loved. Funny she was always giving her fake suitors gift and money, but found it hard to spend on herself.

Na me carry her to Thermocool office at Dopemu to buy fridge and AC. Introduced her to my furniture maker. Paid for her driving school. Taught her parallel parking. Introduced her to the late Gazz to overhaul her car. We even bought a big gen from him and she uses it till date. I told her "eat your money. Put on AC make e dey cool your head, see as your house hottttt. When husband come, una go discuss the way forward". Everything isn't about man and what they care about. You are not on earth for that.

Which one of you is married now? No need to reply, I already know the answer from your post.

pocohantas:
My friend rented a mini-flat and all she put was mattress on the floor. She had those small clothe wardrobe we used in secondary school and plastic baskets for her clothes. Then a tiny ceiling fan. It was my first time seeing a ceiling fan that tiny. Her sitting room was empty and filled with nonsense load. I entered her flat and I was disappointed. I asked why she is living like this and she said "Here na camp. When I marry I go enjoy".

How do you convince a man you are good for enjoyment when you have suffered all your life? Love yourself and let the man know how you love to be loved. Funny she was always giving her fake suitors gift and money, but found it hard to spend on herself.

Na me carry her to Thermocool office at Dopemu to buy fridge and AC. Introduced her to my furniture maker. Paid for her driving school. Taught her parallel parking. Introduced her to the late Gazz to overhaul her car. We even bought a big gen from him and she uses it till date. I told her "eat your money. Put on AC make e dey cool your head, see as your house hottttt. When husband come, una go discuss the way forward". Everything isn't about man and what they care about. You are not on earth for that.

Has she gotten married?
Are you also married?
The answer is a definite NO.
I understand the OP point of view.
Back in the day.a woman gets married straight from her father's house usually in her early to mid 20s.. now women are remaining single at 30+ due to high expectations in husband material. No one is saying a single woman shouldn't furnish her apartment..but when you furnish to a high level and a man enters.. definitely he'll be thinking how you got funds for this.. a lot comes to mind.

folake4u:
Lol tufiakwa.

Or they will now seize the TV he bought for her after relationship crash. Onye ara.

Hahahaha! You sabi them. They are angry they cannot say she never saw AC or smart TV until he married her. 😩😩😩

pocohantas:
Hahahaha! You sabi them. They are angry they cannot say she never saw AC or smart TV until he married her. 😩😩😩

I know right!

Their mentality is mind boggling indeed because parties are supposed to part ways peacefully after a breakup but they like the idea of leaving a woman dry and totally dependent on them for their existence. I blame old Nollywood movies for this.

folake4u:
I know right!

Their mentality is mind boggling indeed because parties are supposed to part ways peacefully after a breakup but they like the idea of leaving a woman dry and totally dependent on them for their existence. I blame old Nollywood movies for this.

This!!!!!!!!!!! Display of wizardry masked as genuine concern. But we know it ends.

wahala dey ooooo, me wey dey pay 350k for house rent with 2 couch and 2 tvs , so otilo for her mind, shaking the table no be here, well provided that I get them legit nothing concern me because i cannot kill myself jare

pocohantas:
This!!!!!!!!!!! Display of wizardry masked as genuine concern. But we know it ends.

Pure wizardry at its finest.

Of course we know how it ends😊, that's why I'm amused anytime NL folks think Nigerian courts give women half of the man's properties after a divorce.

Nonsensical talk if U poorest of the poor man that will marry U will marry U & if you're rich the man that will marry U will surely do.....because of marriage now ladies shouldn't enjoy their single life again abi? wetin bird chop naim e go carry fly

pocohantas:
Nothing was misunderstood in her post.
She was clear to any right-thinking human.
"Man never marry you...Rent of 300k upwards"

If her problem was the lady being unemployed, she would have said it and you wouldn't need to explain to us. In Tinubu's Nigeria, a man that suspects a woman because of 300k rent should return to the cave he came out from and keep wondering.

300k is small, yet, big — No one is saying a single woman shouldn't rent and furnish her apartment but any right-thinking human wouldn't be so quick to say this considering the fact that we have lazy and jobless ladies whose parents, relations, or her boyfriend equally cannot afford the rent together with the property in it.

folake4u:
Pure wizardry at its finest.

Of course we know how it ends😊, that's why I'm amused anytime NL folks think Nigerian courts give women half of the man's properties after a divorce.

I thought of it yesterday and started laughing sef. Abi na prank? I want to believe he was trolling me. 😂😂😂

pocohantas:
My friend rented a mini-flat and all she put was mattress on the floor. She had those small clothe wardrobe we used in secondary school and plastic baskets for her clothes. Then a tiny ceiling fan. It was my first time seeing a ceiling fan that tiny. Her sitting room was empty and filled with nonsense load. I entered her flat and I was disappointed. I asked why she is living like this and she said "Here na camp. When I marry I go enjoy".

How do you convince a man you are good for enjoyment when you have suffered all your life? Love yourself and let the man know how you love to be loved. Funny she was always giving her fake suitors gift and money, but found it hard to spend on herself.

Na me carry her to Thermocool office at Dopemu to buy fridge and AC. Introduced her to my furniture maker. Paid for her driving school. Taught her parallel parking. Introduced her to the late Gazz to overhaul her car. We even bought a big gen from him and she uses it till date. I told her "eat your money. Put on AC make e dey cool your head, see as your house hottttt. When husband come, una go discuss the way forward". Everything isn't about man and what they care about. You are not on earth for that.

Did I hear late gazuz?
Is he dead?

Sonnobax15:

She's right..

What's popping with these Nairaland bots these days . Someone can't just make a simple comment anymore . Any small thing,na ban straight up like say we get beef for somewhere before

Seun , please bring back the vibes that Nairaland used to be known for .

Nairaland is loosing it fast. And some tribalistic entities here are spared when they make some negative comments which shows how biased nairaland has become

pocohantas:
I thought of it yesterday and started laughing sef. Abi na prank? I want to believe he was trolling me. 😂😂😂

Maybe he dey catch cruise, it better be trolling.

Sonnobax15:

She's right..

What's popping with these Nairaland bots these days . Someone can't just make a simple comment anymore . Any small thing,na ban straight up like say we get beef for somewhere before

Seun , please bring back the vibes that Nairaland used to be known for .

Why won't she right?: just say inferiority complex is affecting you, You are definitely one of the types that afraid of their wives success.

pocohantas:
My friend rented a mini-flat and all she put was mattress on the floor. She had those small clothe wardrobe we used in secondary school and plastic baskets for her clothes. Then a tiny ceiling fan. It was my first time seeing a ceiling fan that tiny. Her sitting room was empty and filled with nonsense load. I entered her flat and I was disappointed. I asked why she is living like this and she said "Here na camp. When I marry I go enjoy".

How do you convince a man you are good for enjoyment when you have suffered all your life? Love yourself and let the man know how you love to be loved. Funny she was always giving her fake suitors gift and money, but found it hard to spend on herself.

Na me carry her to Thermocool office at Dopemu to buy fridge and AC. Introduced her to my furniture maker. Paid for her driving school. Taught her parallel parking. Introduced her to the late Gazz to overhaul her car. We even bought a big gen from him and she uses it till date. I told her "eat your money. Put on AC make e dey cool your head, see as your house hottttt. When husband come, una go discuss the way forward". Everything isn't about man and what they care about. You are not on earth for that.

My only concern here with you is that i hope when she will marry, she will also bring all these properties into the marriage o ...... at least the man will only need to upgrade some and not provide everything while she dash them out?

HenryWilliams:
Has she gotten married?
Are you also married?
The answer is a definite NO.
I understand the OP point of view.
Back in the day.a woman gets married straight from her father's house usually in her early to mid 20s.. now women are remaining single at 30+ due to high expectations in husband material. No one is saying a single woman shouldn't furnish her apartment..but when you furnish to a high level and a man enters.. definitely he'll be thinking how you got funds for this.. a lot comes to mind.

Can't a woman also bring something into the marriage?
are men supposd to die young carrying all the load?

please lets change the game henceforth to 50/50 ..... so that men can live long too!!

Esthered:
Where shold they stay?

A lady working in Lagos and earns well but her parents live in Ikorudu while she works at CBD should not rent closer to her workplace because she wants to be marriageable. Is aunty saying she should sleep under bridge or live in a dipilated house to be marriageable? Aunty doesn't know what a good interior does to one's mental health as a home is a place of relaxation and not TURMOIL.

My sister just bought a washing machine last month and doing her Masters while working and we've always known that laundry is a chore for her. She was squatting with an aunt but needed more space for herself which we deliberated from a place of concern in terms of security and NEVER marriage.

Pay attention to the ladies doing well here, you'll see that they achieved a level of comfort before saying I do and it raises their standard to seek for the best for themselves. If a lady who wasn't born a nepo works hard and is becoming something, the guy that wants her should also be working hard to be deserving of such woman as she too knows the value she has added and is adding to herself for a better tomorrow.

It's always about standards for y'all...not love, shared goals or even interest in being a good wife and mother...it's always superficial stuffs and you wonder why men are not coming?

Esthered:
Where shold they stay?

A lady working in Lagos and earns well but her parents live in Ikorudu while she works at CBD should not rent closer to her workplace because she wants to be marriageable. Is aunty saying she should sleep under bridge or live in a dipilated house to be marriageable? Aunty doesn't know what a good interior does to one's mental health as a home is a place of relaxation and not TURMOIL.

My sister just bought a washing machine last month and doing her Masters while working and we've always known that laundry is a chore for her. She was squatting with an aunt but needed more space for herself which we deliberated from a place of concern in terms of security and NEVER marriage.

Pay attention to the ladies doing well here, you'll see that they achieved a level of comfort before saying I do and it raises their standard to seek for the best for themselves. If a lady who wasn't born a nepo works hard and is becoming something, the guy that wants her should also be working hard to be deserving of such woman as she too knows the value she has added and is adding to herself for a better tomorrow.

You clearly don't understand her...

folake4u:
I don't care about your comment either.

Okay Aunty Folake luxurious baby.

abbey621:
Yes and she's a rising star in her field!

Congratulations to you.

You can respect other people's growth in their own little way too.

folake4u:
I'm 80% unmarriageable actually cos I have AC, Smart TV, Microwave, Electric jug, and other home appliances.

Let me buy washing machine soon so I reach 100% completion unmarriageable stage. Fingers crossed.

I swear with all that I hold so dear!
You're 100% marriageable; a spec for hardworking and responsible man.

Just make sure you are not arrogant and disrespectful to generally accepted positive disposition.

Shalom 👌👌👌

pocohantas:
It has been 2 years and she hasn't moved out! But she is enjoying them. Sometimes I will call and notice she is home early. In the past she would stay at work until 9pm to enjoy AC and watch TV. Weekends she would rush out again.

This is 2025, if you want to move out, there are declutter pages to sell off your whole property in 24hrs. I had people that wanted to buy my things, they were even disturbing me. Na me no gree sell.

Minimalism is not sleeping with a mattress on the floor while giving money to men and relatives. That is not minimalism!

Please can you mention the declutter pages, please? Thank you

HEAVEN4444:
I don't mind living in poverty so long as my account is full 😆

You are what they should call a money-simp.

pocohantas:
My friend rented a mini-flat and all she put was mattress on the floor. She had those small clothe wardrobe we used in secondary school and plastic baskets for her clothes. Then a tiny ceiling fan. It was my first time seeing a ceiling fan that tiny. Her sitting room was empty and filled with nonsense load. I entered her flat and I was disappointed. I asked why she is living like this and she said "Here na camp. When I marry I go enjoy".

How do you convince a man you are good for enjoyment when you have suffered all your life? Love yourself and let the man know how you love to be loved. Funny she was always giving her fake suitors gift and money, but found it hard to spend on herself.

Na me carry her to Thermocool office at Dopemu to buy fridge and AC. Introduced her to my furniture maker. Paid for her driving school. Taught her parallel parking. Introduced her to the late Gazz to overhaul her car. We even bought a big gen from him and she uses it till date. I told her "eat your money. Put on AC make e dey cool your head, see as your house hottttt. When husband come, una go discuss the way forward". Everything isn't about man and what they care about. You are not on earth for that.

Na this your post make me know say Gazzuzz don die since last year. Chai, what a world.