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10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by coolruler(m): 12:00pm On Sep 01, 2008
There are literally billions of single women out there at the moment.

Go ahead, add them up. Billions. Have you ever wasted time, money and oxygen on one that you never even had a chance with? Of course you didn’t realize it at the time, but yeah, you probably have. And the really annoying thing is that all the clues were right there in front of you, but you didn’t acknowledge them because you were so focused on the prize.

Well, you never need to make that mistake again, because we’re here to spell out the top 10 signs she’s not interested in you. Sure, it’s a hard thing to accept, but you’ll be much better off if you can spot these signs early on. You’ll also need to consider that these signs may come to you at any stage of the courtship: the day you ask her out, on the first date or perhaps even a few dates in. When any one of these signs she’s not interested do creep up, it should be your cue to move along and set your sights on one of the other billion girls out there.

Here they are, the top 10 signs she’s not interested in you:

10. She declines an invitation

Even once is not OK. Maybe her story about a busy schedule is true, but unless she's going into the hospital to have a kidney transplant that evening, a girl is going to find a way to go out with a guy she’s interested in. We’re not saying that you need to give up on this girl if she turns you down once, but you may need to prepare yourself for an uphill struggle to win her affection.

9. She hasn’t introduced her friends

When it comes to dating, most girls want the approval of their friends. If, after several dates, she still hasn’t tried to exhibit you to one or more of her friends, it means she doesn’t expect any type of romantic relationship develop. She might be spending time with you because she has no better alternatives at the moment, but take her “secrecy” about you as one of her signs she’s not interested.

8. She always brings her friends

Conversely, if you can’t get this girl to come out for some one-on-one time, there’s obviously something wrong. There’s very little room for romantic maneuvering when she has her friends in tow, which is why this is one of the signs she’s not interested in you. If she never gives you the opportunity to get close, she’s probably happy with the distance between you.

7. She talks about other men

Unless it’s Brad Pitt, or someone equally famous and unattainable, her talk about other men should cause you some concern. This girl’s clearly on the lookout for someone besides you, and this is a not-so-subtle way of letting you know that. The jealousy angle should not be coming into play in the early stages of a relationship -- there’s plenty of time for that later. Furthermore, if she has the nerve to ask you for relationship advice, she has likely placed you in the “trusted male friend” category. Either that or she’s already playing mind games with you, which is a big red flag -- thankfully, you can recognize this as a sign she’s not interested.

6. She pays more attention to other men (in a group setting)

In this scenario, you begin the night as a couple and end up with a group -- at a club or something -- and she spends more time talking to another guy. Unless it’s her brother or business partner, you should be concerned. Not only is she willing to risk losing you to other girls, but she also doesn’t really care about appearing rude. Sure, she may run back to you when it’s time to collect the coats and arrange the cabs home, but it’s clear that her heart isn’t in it, and you should probably cut her loose at this point.

5. She avoids intimate settings

Where she chooses to meet you says a lot. There’s a huge difference between a quiet dinner for two and coffee at lunch. If you ask her out for a romantic dinner and she suggests a lunch date, it might mean that she doesn’t want you to get the impression that your friendship is leading anywhere, particularly the bedroom. Take this avoidance for what it’s worth: it's one of her signs she’s not interested.

4. She hasn’t come near you

Whether it’s by conscious decision or not, if she hasn’t made any sort of physical contact with you, such as a brush on the arm or a pat on the thigh, she may have already counted you out of the race. It’s said that women generally know within a few minutes of meeting a man whether they’ll go to bed with him, and if there’s no incidental contact within the first couple of meetings, the chemistry’s probably not there and she knows it.

3. She doesn't engage in body language

The body language of a woman who is attracted to you is a telltale sign of interest. Does she play with her hair, mirror your gestures, sit up straight and generally try to look her best around you? No? Then she’s sending out signs she’s not interested.

2. She plays up other girls

This clue is as blatant as they come, yet men fail to read into this correctly. Unlike men, girls are constantly trying to set up their single friends, especially if they think you’d be a good match. When the girl you think you’re seeing starts to big up a single friend and asks you what you think about her, she’s more than likely trying to shake you off.

1. She doesn’t return your calls

Please, for your sake, take this as one of the major signs she’s not interested and not as an amusing game of cat and mouse. Don’t assume that she lost your number, that she tried to call but the line was busy or any other delusional rubbish like that. There’s nothing sadder than a guy who refuses to take a hint; don’t be him. Sure, you’re thinking: Some girls like persistent men. True, but they won’t really respect these men in the end. Don’t get played like this.


So, if you are in a relationship wher the object of your desire is showing any of these signs, maybe its time you move on bro,

Remember, there are a billion other girls waiting,

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Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Nobody: 2:53pm On Sep 02, 2008
embarassed shocked Guy, your 10 signs are not all true.
date some other ladies and you will know that all ladies are not the same
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Busta(f): 2:53pm On Sep 02, 2008
so much for "copy and paste".
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by sistawoman: 3:09pm On Sep 02, 2008
Number is so vitally important.

If you have been calling me for a week and i have not picked any of your calls or returned any calls, please please, please please, please stop calling me.

Take a hint. . . . . . . . . I dont want to talk to you. If i should ever want to talk to you I have 50 missed calls and your number and will call you.
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by coolruler(m): 4:08pm On Sep 02, 2008
duny:

embarassed shocked Guy, your 10 signs are not all true.
date some other ladies and you will know that all ladies are not the same

@duny,

which of the signs do you disagree with?
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Nobody: 9:10am On Sep 03, 2008
The poster's right!!

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Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by zerocool(m): 10:20am On Sep 03, 2008
Disagree with sign #10:

Most, if not all 'correct' babes would definitely want to flake out on you when you invite them for lunch or something. They wudn't want to look easy to ask out and some wud want to know how ur gonna 'react' to been denied an invitation request. Geddit!
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by zerocool(m): 10:29am On Sep 03, 2008
Disagree with sign #10:

Most, if not all 'correct' babes would definitely want to flake out on you when you invite them for lunch or something. They wudn't want to look easy to ask out and some wud want to know how ur gonna 'react' to been denied an invitation request. Geddit!
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by cruworld(m): 11:03am On Sep 03, 2008
had it been that u ask this question from woman close to you like your Mama i would have appreciate this piece of shit that u posted,whatever sha, over 10million ladies on earth so u cant judge them coz they have different life style
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Nobody: 11:44am On Sep 03, 2008
Poster, u hit da fr*kin nail on da fr*kin head.
Gat no issues with any.
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by lexicon(m): 12:17pm On Sep 03, 2008
Busta:

so much for "copy and paste".

It isn't easy 2 COPY & PAST. learn how to appreciate !
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by coolruler(m): 3:15pm On Sep 03, 2008
cruworld:

had it been that u ask this question from woman close to you like your Mama i would have appreciate this piece of shit that u posted,whatever sha, over 10million ladies on earth so u can't judge them because they have different life style

Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by coolruler(m): 3:20pm On Sep 03, 2008
zerocool:

Disagree with sign #10:

Most, if not all 'correct' babes would definitely want to flake out on you when you invite them for lunch or something. They wudn't want to look easy to ask out and some would want to know how your going to 'react' to been denied an invitation request. Geddit!

@zerocool

Flaking out once or twice is ok. But flaking out every single time you invite her out
Come on bro, wake up and smell the coffee!
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by TOYOSI20(f): 5:56am On Jan 19, 2009
If u see signs of # 1 and 7. . .then i say a quick signal should most def. go off in ur numb skull!!!!!!!!! cheesy
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by RasPwn(m): 6:00am On Jan 19, 2009
These signs . . .
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by iice(f): 10:32am On Jan 19, 2009
Interesting in dating. . .yes but she can be interested in other activities
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Taken(m): 10:48am On Jan 19, 2009
@ poster.

Almost true, but there are more interesting ones.

Let me give yall one interesting one guys - check out her pupils when she is around you <are they dilated or not dilated>

Dilated - promising.
Not dilated - her mind is else where

applies to all sexes.
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Okanran(m): 2:33pm On Jan 19, 2009
Taken:

@ poster.

Almost true, but there are more interesting ones.

Let me give yall one interesting one guys - check out her pupils when she is around you <are they dilated or not dilated>

Dilated - promising.
Not dilated - her mind is else where

applies to all sexes.

Not true! angry I smoke igbo all the tym, so my pupils are alwayz dilated! tongue


@ Topic: Poster is correct, even more alarming is the fact that guys know this for a fact. Some of them are just too pussy whipped/luv struck to accept the obvious.
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Taken(m): 2:37pm On Jan 19, 2009
Well you need to observe your pupils (motions) again, especially when you react to different situations maybe you will learn one or two things.

By the way, we are referring to females, and such that are not into igbo mumu.
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Okanran(m): 2:44pm On Jan 19, 2009
Taken:

Well you need to observe your pupils (motions) again, especially when you react to different situations maybe you will learn one or two things.

U just anutha beef monger! tongue


Taken:

applies to all sexes.

Taken:

By the way, we are referring to females, and such that are not into igbo mumu.

Kind sir, can u reconcile both quotes up there? tongue tongue tongue
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Moyola(f): 2:49pm On Jan 19, 2009
Typical!
Most applies to someone ah know, buh 'she' is very interested in 'him' tongue
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Taken(m): 2:52pm On Jan 19, 2009
The poster is about 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You.

True, it applies to all sexes (male / female): by observing body languages you can quickly determine where the heart is.

Igbo mumu  = smoking ganja
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Okanran(m): 2:58pm On Jan 19, 2009
Okanran:

Not true! angry I smoke igbo all the tym, so my pupils are alwayz dilated! tongue

The post up there was meant 2 be a joke, dn't blame me if u lack sense of humour!

As for ur last post, u need 2 chill, amigo, theres really no need gettin in2 beef over nuffin! wink
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Taken(m): 3:01pm On Jan 19, 2009
do away with the insult, no hard feeling was taken in the first place.

Just trying to offer something for the benefit of the poster and other readers.
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Okanran(m): 3:03pm On Jan 19, 2009
Na where u see insult naa Guy, e don do oooh!
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Taken(m): 3:06pm On Jan 19, 2009
ok let us forget it, just offer your opinion. U cool?
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Okanran(m): 3:12pm On Jan 19, 2009
Okanran:

@ Topic: Poster is correct, even more alarming is the fact that guys know this for a fact. Some of them are just too pussy whipped/luv struck to accept the obvious.

We cool, amigo. I've offered my opinion already, just wanted 2 play boiling point with u! wink Guess what! U've just won $100 for being a cool dude! tongue wink
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Phemour: 8:27pm On Jul 09, 2009
10 Signs She's Not Interested In You smiley
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by bluespice(f): 8:37pm On Jul 09, 2009
anyone that doesnt get no 1 is a fool
i actually told this one guy to pls stop calling me
he then resorted to text messages

i mean chill the Bleep out niggi!
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by Nobody: 8:55pm On Jul 09, 2009
any fella who needs 10 signs is in serious trouble and is beyond obsessed .
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by bluespice(f): 9:00pm On Jul 09, 2009
lol grin
Re: 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You by latch(m): 11:49pm On Jul 09, 2009
Any guy waiting for all these signs before getting the message should be shot.
Then again, they arent all true. I had a girl once who kept me away from her friends, cos she was convinced they would try and steal me from her

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