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Esthered:
Where shold they stay?

A lady working in Lagos and earns well but her parents live in Ikorudu while she works at CBD should not rent closer to her workplace because she wants to be marriageable. Is aunty saying she should sleep under bridge or live in a dipilated house to be marriageable? Aunty doesn't know what a good interior does to one's mental health as a home is a place of relaxation and not TURMOIL.

My sister just bought a washing machine last month and doing her Masters while working and we've always known that laundry is a chore for her. She was squatting with an aunt but needed more space for herself which we deliberated from a place of concern in terms of security and NEVER marriage.

Pay attention to the ladies doing well here, you'll see that they achieved a level of comfort before saying I do and it raises their standard to seek for the best for themselves. If a lady who wasn't born a nepo works hard and is becoming something, the guy that wants her should also be working hard to be deserving of such woman as she too knows the value she has added and is adding to herself for a better tomorrow.

I agree with you because all men are shouting that they don't want liability as wife, so they shouldn't feel being intimidated by a working class lady living comfortably on her own. You know she is definitely bringing something to the table like men want

Karleb:
You are what they should call a money-simp.

what is a money simp

Karleb:
Don't mind those fools . If no be nigeria wey don turn something else. How much does it takes to set up a self-contained with those?

In 2013, 500k would cover everything. When a dollar was like N200.

I am really angry some people are used to poverty. This are not even luxuries, they are essentials.

You posted that word your post still scaled through and standing? Anyway, na your gender said it

Fortune109:
You clearly don't understand her...

You that understands her, please explain to us here.

luminouz:
It's always about standards for y'all...not love, shared goals or even interest in being a good wife and mother...it's always superficial stuffs and you wonder why men are not coming?

By designing the interior of my house as a spinster to suit my needs, it devoids me of falling in love, being a good wife, mother..... you're funny sha....

Who told you men aren't coming?

Esthered:
Where shold they stay?

A lady working in Lagos and earns well but her parents live in Ikorudu while she works at CBD should not rent closer to her workplace because she wants to be marriageable. Is aunty saying she should sleep under bridge or live in a dipilated house to be marriageable? Aunty doesn't know what a good interior does to one's mental health as a home is a place of relaxation and not TURMOIL.

My sister just bought a washing machine last month and doing her Masters while working and we've always known that laundry is a chore for her. She was squatting with an aunt but needed more space for herself which we deliberated from a place of concern in terms of security and NEVER marriage.

Pay attention to the ladies doing well here, you'll see that they achieved a level of comfort before saying I do and it raises their standard to seek for the best for themselves. If a lady who wasn't born a nepo works hard and is becoming something, the guy that wants her should also be working hard to be deserving of such woman as she too knows the value she has added and is adding to herself for a better tomorrow.

You have a point there.
The lady giving the advice also has a point too.
Yes,she will attract men of "substance" as you explained but most at times men with such "big pockets" are not many due to present economy situation of our country.
So in the process of waiting for such men of high financial standard,she might delay her marriage more than necessary cos such men are few.
Take for instance,if a lady stays in 2 bedroom flat that cost maybe 700k per anum with good Italian couch,65" Samsung Curve smart TV,2 big freezers,Panasonic AC unit in each of the room and parlour,etc and the young man that is in love with her which she is equally in love with him is only able to afford a one bedroom flat of about 400 --500k, with maybe 42" LG TV and less cost couch,do you think such a lady will want to lower her standard by leaving her 2 bedroom flat to go and stay with the guy in 1 bedroom flat after their marriage?
Of course,she will not.She will feel that if she as a lady can pay 700k for 2 bedroom flat then you as a man that wants to marry her should be able to afford 3 bedroom flat of about 1.something million naira.
So that means she will missed the man despite the fact that she love him and he has met her other criteria except the financial standard.
And if she misses such men like 5,do you know the age that will land her?
So the summary of wot de woman is saying is that,to find a man that will surpassed the financial standard she has already set for herself will be difficult cos we don't have many of such men that are still single.
And other men who are averagely well to do but not up to that her level will be feeling intimidated to approach her for marriage even though she would have loved to marry them if they have approached her.
But where is the courage to approach her for marriage?

Pacesetter123:
You have a point there.
The lady giving the advice also has a point too.
Yes,she will attract men of "substance" as you explained but most at times men with such "big pockets" are not many due to present economy situation of our country.
So in the process of waiting for such men of high financial standard,she might delay her marriage more than necessary cos such men are few.
Take for instance,if a lady stays in 2 bedroom flat that cost maybe 700k per anum with good Italian couch,65" Samsung Curve smart TV,2 big freezers,Panasonic AC unit in each of the room and parlour,etc and the young man that is in love with her which she is equally in love with him is only able to afford a one bedroom flat of about 400 --500k, with maybe 42" LG TV and less cost couch,do you think such a lady will want to lower her standard by leaving her 2 bedroom flat to go and stay with the guy in 1 bedroom flat after their marriage?
Of course,she will not.She will feel that if she as a lady can pay 700k for 2 bedroom flat then you as a man that wants to marry her should be able to afford 3 bedroom flat of about 1.something million naira.
So that means she will missed the man despite the fact that she love him and he has met her other criteria except the financial standard.
And if she misses such men like 5,do you know the age that will land her?
So the summary of wot de woman is saying is that,to find a man that will surpassed the financial standard she has already set for herself will be difficult cos we don't have many of such men that are still single.
And other men who are averagely well to do but not up to that her level will be feeling intimidated to approach her for marriage even though she would have loved to marry them if they have approached her.
But where is the courage to approach her for marriage?

Let's assume she doesn't spend on the interior of her house,nut she buys a land, builds has funds in mutual funds, stocks and other investment vehicles, don't you think that when she looks at her networth she'll still desire a man who's on that scale or more.

I have a former supervisor whose dad refused her to rent a place or drive a car to be marriageable. She was shuttling Akute to V.I daily. My madam married late still.....

Most Nigerian men cannot tolerate a successful lady. My cousin left GSK where she was a marketer with official car and relocated to Calabar and became a teacher in the name of marriage....till date no child and at some point accused her mum one of my favorite aunt of being a witch before the mum died.

Ladies are still getting married every Saturday and other days sha...

Why should I live like a PAUPER because I want to attract a man? This life that's not promised, we're here today and may leave tomorrow so why not live it to the fullest.

Our counterparts in saner climes are going on vacations touring the world and ordinary rent of 400k and royal chair is an abomination for a single hardworking lady.

aybabz101:
I dont why a lot of persons are ignorant. Because one wants to marry, one should live in poverty?.

The culture we bred is that for a man to be a man, he has to be richer than the female. This is why guys are going to extreme length to get money and the husbands are doing everything to suppress the progress of their wives. And this is why a lot of ladies are wasting their destinies and potentials looking for a man that will provide for them.

There is more to marriage than finance. One of the aim of marriage is to complement one another.

In as much the guy is not lazy, knows where he is going, and he's taking the necessary step to reach there, its a go for any lady who believes in the same dream.

Pls lets stop all these unnecessary mis-indoctrination of finance in marriage.

But all the things you have just stated have come to stay and has become part of our "marriage/relationship culture".
If you don't have money more than your wife,she may not respect you.
If your wife has money more than you and she is the one paying the highest bills in the family,she herself,her people and the society will look down on you as a man.
They will say it's the woman that is feeding you.
The society,the women folks expect that it's a man that should be providing for the woman and not the other way round.
Be it as abnormal as it is,it has come to stay in our society and it will be difficult to do away with it.

folake4u:
I'm 80% unmarriageable actually cos I have AC, Smart TV, Microwave, Electric jug, and other home appliances.

Let me buy washing machine soon so I reach 100% completion unmarriageable stage. Fingers crossed.

No be wetin she really mean be that..ooo

abbey621:
Poverty oriented mindset, go abroad and see your mate own a full house with luxury car and a job that pays over 160 million Naira per year, naturally such a woman would marry a man in similar status or better.......Na poverty dey worry some Nigerian men hence why they get intimidated by a successful woman.

Nigeria is not abroad.

pocohantas:
It has been 2 years and she hasn't moved out! But she is enjoying them. Sometimes I will call and notice she is home early. In the past she would stay at work until 9pm to enjoy AC and watch TV. Weekends she would rush out again.

This is 2025, if you want to move out, there are declutter pages to sell off your whole property in 24hrs. I had people that wanted to buy my things, they were even disturbing me. Na me no gree sell.

Minimalism is not sleeping with a mattress on the floor while giving money to men and relatives. That is not minimalism!

Nice move jare my Sister. Thanks for helping her. Make she spend on top herself too, not just on men and relatives.

McBishop2020:
I swear with all that I hold so dear!
You're 100% marriageable; a spec for hardworking and responsible man.

Just make sure you are not arrogant and disrespectful to generally accepted positive disposition.

Shalom 👌👌👌

Ah, I'm rude oh and be ogbanje.

Make the man sorry.

Luckysbab:
Okay Aunty Folake luxurious baby.

Eshe Sah.

Pacesetter123:

No be wetin she really mean be that..ooo

Wetin she come mean.

Esthered:
Let's assume she doesn't spend on the interior of her house,nut she buys a land, builds has funds in mutual funds, stocks and other investment vehicles, don't you think that when she looks at her networth she'll still desire a man who's on that scale or more.

I have a former supervisor whose dad refused her to rent a place or drive a car to be marriageable. She was shuttling Akute to V.I daily. My madam married late still.....

Most Nigerian men cannot tolerate a successful lady. My cousin left GSK where she was a marketer with official car and relocated to Calabar and became a teacher in the name of marriage....till date no child and at some point accused her mum one of my favorite aunt of being a witch before the mum died.

Ladies are still getting married every Saturday and other days sha...

Why should I live like a PAUPER because I want to attract a man? This life that's not promised, we're here today and may leave tomorrow so why not live it to the fullest.

Our counterparts in sneer climes are going on vacations touring the world and ordinary rent of 400k and royal chair is an abomination for a single hardworking lady.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

To think they are even proud to be defending this. God abeg o.😂😂😂😂😂

pocohantas:
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Ojbdeclutter

Na this two I fit vouch for. 🙌

Yeah Ojb is legit.

Fuckyoumod:
you did get the meaning of how gentle and peaceful warning to her fellow ladies.

Read again, and this time read between the lines. maybe you go reason with her good advice to ladies.

Alaye go sleep..

Nicely put mate.

Esthered:
Where shold they stay?

A lady working in Lagos and earns well but her parents live in Ikorudu while she works at CBD should not rent closer to her workplace because she wants to be marriageable. Is aunty saying she should sleep under bridge or live in a dipilated house to be marriageable? Aunty doesn't know what a good interior does to one's mental health as a home is a place of relaxation and not TURMOIL.

My sister just bought a washing machine last month and doing her Masters while working and we've always known that laundry is a chore for her. She was squatting with an aunt but needed more space for herself which we deliberated from a place of concern in terms of security and NEVER marriage.

Pay attention to the ladies doing well here, you'll see that they achieved a level of comfort before saying I do and it raises their standard to seek for the best for themselves. If a lady who wasn't born a nepo works hard and is becoming something, the guy that wants her should also be working hard to be deserving of such woman as she too knows the value she has added and is adding to herself for a better tomorrow.

This is shallow thinking and im not teaching this to my sisters nor my daughters.

You see this thing we Dey drag,na for Nollywood I see am..That’s why I say African Magic done finish some people..So a girl living in Magodo should leave her apartment and move to bariga because say she Dey find love..Movie Name-The Rich Servant

Teymanhenry:
I think people misunderstand what the post truly mean. Some women with lavish lifestyles might have questionable income sources. If the boyfriend visits her two-bedroom flat and notices expensive items, he might wonder how she affords them on her salary. Worst case is if she's not working, that could raise suspicions about her financial situation. We know most of our girls na. Nobody go tell us

That's not what she stated. She didn't bother to differentiate and even if she did, are we saying there are no women who earn legitimately? And when they do, shouldn't they enjoy their money?

Buying washing machine, microwave, TV etc., isn't lavish living. These are basic white goods to ease daily needs.

It's funny and pathetic how we are okay with our women (then girls) living off campus, sometimes in different states, but are apprehensive when the same women (now adults) decide to live alone while working. If these women no work, dem call them liabilities. Now, they do, it is still a problem.

C'mon!

Esthered:
By designing the interior of my house as a spinster to suit my needs, it devoids me of falling in love, being a good wife, mother..... you're funny sha....

Who told you men aren't coming?

K

Gerrard59:
That's not what she stated. She didn't bother to differentiate and even if she did, are we saying there are no women who earn legitimately? And when they do, shouldn't they enjoy their money?

Buying washing machine, microwave, TV etc., isn't lavish living. These are basic white goods to ease daily needs.

It's funny and pathetic how we are okay with our women (then girls) living off campus, sometimes in different states, but are apprehensive when the same women (now adults) decide to live alone while working. If these women no work, dem call them liabilities. Now, they do, it is still a problem.

C'mon!

Why am I not surprised you are here saying this? Jesus! Are you that blessed with low self esteem that you must keep saying these belittling things about yourself?

You still can't see that the post is never about household shiit but the mentality of women who possess them.

luminouz:
Why am I not surprised you are here saying this? Jesus! Are you that blessed with low self esteem that you must keep saying these belittling things about yourself?

You still can't see that the post is never about household shiit but the mentality of women who possess them.

So what's the mentality of women who can legitimately afford a place of their own? Where does a lady who graduated from Unijos but works in Lagos (where she knows no one) reside?

Gerrard59:
So what's the mentality of women who can legitimately afford a place of their own? Where does a lady who graduated from Unijos but works in Lagos (where she knows no one) reside?

*Sighs*

You are a lost cause. I'm done with you.

Luckysbab:
Congratulations to you.

You can respect other people's growth in their own little way too.

What does this have to do with growth? Telling women they should not be successful or display their success in order to attract men is pure foolishness!

Pacesetter123:
Nigeria is not abroad.

Does it need to be abroad before una get sense?

I should work my a** off and live poor to attract a man?
She should attract the poor men that wants her!


I should not be comfortable because I want man ontop my own money? Make I leave soft life ,go live for Ghetto? Or make I dey use grinding stone instead of blenders .

Let God not even allow me meet those kind of men in my next life.

ExAngel007:
https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2025/7/how-will-a-man-marry-you-nigerian-woman-addresses-single-ladies-who-stay-in-one-or-two-bedroom-flat-with-couch.html

Imagine the mentality and thoughtful thinking of a person !!!


Is this a generalization on all single ladies or you're referring to some....



Where do you expect a lady who is duly and legally employed in a firm(govt or private) where she earns #300K monthly and that's not part of her allowances ?