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I mean do you cope.
Guys married to Igbo women from poor background how do you cope

MrHandsome2013:
I mean do you cope.
Guys married to Igbo women from poor background how do you cope

This your question is the reason many say Igbo men top the chart when it comes to SIMPing men in Nigeria.

Most of 'em behave as if they don't have a life of their own to live, they behave as if they're living their life for their girlfriend or wife.

Imagine where a young man is obligated to train the sibling or siblings of his girlfriend in order to qualify them to marry their daughter according to girls' family.

Nlfpmod

Oga, do your best and leave the rest. No go die of HBP

MrHandsome2013:
I mean do you cope.
Guys married to Igbo women from poor background how do you cope

are you saying all igbo women are very expensive to nurture?

MrHandsome2013:
I mean do you cope.
Guys married to Igbo women from poor background how do you cope

Any young budding guy married to a woman from a struggling background would definitely have it hard. It doesn't matter her tribe. What would make it easier is if they are not entitled. In that case whatever you give them is what they will take. If not, your wife would most likely start blackmailing you into absorbng all their expenses and that is the beginning of your financial stagnancy.

Once again, it is not a tribe issue.

When you want to marry it's best to look for someone from the same social and economic class as yourself.

Don't go and overburden yourself by marrying a person from a poverty stricken background and be deceiving yourself that love conquers all

pocohantas:
[b]Any young budding guy married to a woman from a struggling background would definitely have it hard. [/b]It doesn't matter her tribe. What would make it easier is if they are not entitled. In that case whatever you give them is what they will take. If not, your wife would most likely start blackmailing you into absorbng all their expenses and that is the beginning of your financial stagnancy.

Once again, it is not a tribe issue.

Bolded, nope you're wrong here. Not all struggling families (even though there are levels of struggling) will have an entitled mentality towards their inlaw. This attitude is more prevalent among the Igbos where parent obligate responsibilities to their son in-laws and the responsibilities aren't optional but a must.

Some of these parents are not really 'struggling parents' rather they have a high level of entitlement to their in-laws wealth.

Also, the issue of begging or entitlement mentality is a result of decay in moral and cultural values in our society. There are struggling parents who have high self-esteem and will be satisfy with the little they have while pushing harder to improve their life

God no go let me or my family member and even my enemy make that mistake.😅

ediko5:
➜This your question is the reason many say Igbo men top the chart when it comes to SIMPing men in Nigeria. Most of 'em behave as if they don't have a life of their own to live, they behave as if they're living their life for their girlfriend or wife. Imagine where a young man is obligated to train the sibling or siblings of his girlfriend in order to qualify them to marry their daughter according to girls' family.

These men literally seek out women from poor backgrounds to marry so that they can then live life as designed in their minds afterwards. Why harass them for what is their choice?

MrHandsome2013:
➜I mean do you cope. Guys married to Igbo women from poor background how do you cope

Did these women from poor backgrounds put a gun to the head of any of these men or something? Why drag the women when they are literally the choice made by these men?

ediko5:
Bolded, nope you're wrong here. Not all struggling families (even though there are levels of struggling) will have an entitled mentality towards their inlaw.

How am I wrong when the post you quoted has this in it...?

What would make it easier is if they are not entitled.

Whether or not they are entitled doesn't change the fact that he would be responsible for them to an extent. So, he must have it hard. Another exception would be if he ignores them. Which is still hard.

I used struggling, as I didn't want to use the word POOR.

ediko5:
Bolded, nope you're wrong here. Not all struggling families (even though there are levels of struggling) will have an entitled mentality towards their inlaw. This attitude is more prevalent among the Igbos where parent obligate responsibilities to their son in-laws and the responsibilities aren't optional but a must.

Some of these parents are not really 'struggling parents' rather they have a high level of entitlement to their in-laws wealth.

Also, the issue of begging or entitlement mentality is a result of decay in moral and cultural values in our society. There are struggling parents who have high self-esteem and will be satisfy with the little they have while pushing harder to improve their life

You do not know Igbos. The bolded says it all.

Kobicove:
➜When you want to marry it's best to look for someone from the same social and economic class as yourself. Don't go and overburden yourself by marrying a person from a poverty stricken background and be deceiving yourself that love conquers all

It is usually not love but a desire to have an upper hand in the union that leads most men looking in those poverty stricken places for women to marry. Why else would a man driving the latest car waltz into a community that barely has any roads in sight, looking for what he refers to as the "right woman"?

Kobojunkie:
These men literally seek out men from poor backgrounds to marry so that they can then live life as designed in their minds afterwards. Why harass them for what is their choice?

Sometimes you just type for typing sake

ediko5:
This your question is the reason many say Igbo men top the chart when it comes to SIMPing men in Nigeria.

Most of 'em behave as if they don't have a life of their own to live, they behave as if they're living their life for their girlfriend or wife.

Imagine where a young man is obligated to train the sibling or siblings of his girlfriend in order to qualify them to marry their daughter according to girls' family.

Nlfpmod

Lies will take you nowhere in life.

MrHandsome2013:
I mean do you cope.
Guys married to Igbo women from poor background how do you cope

Is this a tribal issue or women from poor background in general?

pocohantas:
Any young budding guy married to a woman from a struggling background would definitely have it hard. It doesn't matter her tribe. What would make it easier is if they are not entitled. In that case whatever you give them is what they will take. If not, your wife would most likely start blackmailing you into absorbng all their expenses and that is the beginning of your financial stagnancy.

Once again, it is not a tribe issue.

As I read this fear catch me
Some men are in this bondage.

pocohantas:
How am I wrong when the post you quoted has this in it...?



Whether or not they are entitled doesn't change the fact that he would be responsible for them to an extent. So, he must have it hard. Another exception would be if he ignores them. Which is still hard.

I used struggling, as I didn't want to use the word POOR.

Financially struggling or not, once the lady's parents have an entitled mentality then the man will have it hard as you said.

Remember people are hardly satisfied with the level of money they currently have. For instance, they can even obligate the son in-law to support the wife's sibling who's schooling abroad

ediko5:
Financially struggling or not, once the lady's parents have an entitled mentality then the man will have it hard as you said.

Remember people are hardly satisfied with the level of money they currently have. For instance, they can even obligate the son in-law to support the wife's sibling who's schooling abroad

This post is about financially struggling families.

pocohantas:
This post is about financially struggling families.

Okay Ma
Sorry I derailed

Solsix:
As I read this fear catch me
Some men are in this bondage.

Don't be scared. But if you try it, you will understand my post clearly and help me explain to ediko5 in a way he would understand too.

Some men feel in charge when their wives depend on them. It makes them feel useful and worthy.

Just the same way many wives monopolize the kitchen. The3y feel that's wht they bring to the table.

However, I don't think most men who marry poor women have ever really contemplated about taking care of the burden of his inlaws. He mind is on his wife.

pocohantas:
Don't be scared. But if you try it, you will understand my post clearly and help me explain to ediko5 in a way he would understand too.

😁 😁
You of all people should know that I'm always against young men who are building themselves to marry a lady from the lowest class that will be a liability to them and both of us have quoted each other about that few times. Like I use to say: " why will a man go down from the 10th floor to marry a liability lady on the ground floor?" I disapprove that entirely.

The OP tailored his question to a particular tribe and I believe the reason the OP asked the question is what I highlighted up there.

grandstar:
Some men feel in charge when their wives depend on them. It makes them feel useful and worthy.

Just the same way many wives monopolize the kitchen. The3y feel that's wht they bring to the table.

However, I don't think most men who marry poor women have ever really contemplated about taking care of the burden of his inlaws. He mind is on his wife.

That's an age-long African misconception and some African men who relocate their wife abroad with this mentality usually learn the hard way

I don't think it's strictly an Igbo thing.

I knew someone who wanted to marry a pretty lady from the middlebelt back then but he was told he'll train her siblings....my guy ran and eventually married an Igbo princess....

MrHandsome2013:
I mean do you cope.
Guys married to Igbo women from poor background how do you cope

Where do you guys even degenerate from?

Every Eke market day, one thing will creep out from his hiding to start vomiting nonsense on this forum just to feel good.


Who told you it's a tribal thing? can't you lots make use of your God given br for once? Odiegwu oh

Mariangeles:
Lies will take you nowhere in life.

Very irritating guy. Honestly some of these guys on this forum are something else


This is how they dehumanize Igbo culture just to feel good and next others will take their baseless words as truth, it's disgusting

Which one is poor igbo girl bla bla. Must you bring tribe in this discussion?