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tensazangetsu20:
✓ They are asking you to just call and check up on them and its a problem for you. You never ready yet. Keep it up, the right man will find you

If you have to ask someone you believe is in a relationship with you, don't you think that there is all the red flag you need to know the person is probably not fully into you? Not that the person is bad but simply that the person is not right for you and it is for you to move on. Why do you want this girl to bend herself for the man's sake here?

Kobojunkie:
If you have to ask someone you believe is in a relationship with you, don't you think that there is all the red flag you need to know the person is probably not fully into you? Not that the person is bad but simply that the person is not right for you and it is for you to move on. Why do you want this girl to bend herself for the man's sake here?

Well, I only blame the simps in her circle. I am just glad that I dont have to deal with shit like this again

tensazangetsu20:
✓ Well, I only blame the simps in her circle. I am just glad that I dont have to deal with shit like this again

A comment ago, you were blaming her. Now it is the simps to blame? 🙄🙄🙄

pansophist:
You are not being stucked up, you just have standards. You are perfect the way you are sis. Dont change for any man.
The men should understand. You are a busy woman and can foot your own bills. If they cant at least be patience with you, then they are not for you.
A man that cannot tolerate you at your worse, does not deserve you at best. You are a queen. Go girl.

Dump their sorry ass and let the right man find you.

I no fit laugh o 😂 😂

To be fair to OP, it is not everyone likes to call. I do call, but I don't like calling always. However, I am very comfortable with mobile chats. I think her upbringing contributed. But then, she has been used to being chased, but would the intensity continue as years go by? No one can tell.

But it is nice to see men demand that women care for them just as they (men) do.

Afang for Afang abi how dem dey take talk am?

MrMcJay:
Shiloh Ground
Faith Tabernacle
Canaanland
Ota, Ogun State.

Save that address, you will need it.
You will still become a regular guest at Shiloh.

Lol

Best answer so far

Age go tell am soon

Shiloh will be the final destination

Kobojunkie:
. First of all, there is nothing wrong with you, and you don't need to change who you are for anyone out there, including someone who supposedly wants to date you. You don't seem to be the dramatic talker, and that is very much OK. If the guy demands you communicate with him often and you are not comfortable with it, you are allowed to look elsewhere for what you seek instead. The moment you begin to change your person to please others, you begin to hand power over your person to them.

You are at the age where you need to have figured out at least much about what you would need in a partner and what you should not settle for in a relationship. Then search yourself, and honestly ask yourself if this person you are with now is someone you should truly invest your time and effort into. (Note that it could also not be that the person is wrong, but that you are just not ready now—timing is simply off.) If you conclude he is not the one or good for you, please let him know you are not ready, and kindly move on to focus your attention on other, maybe more productive, things. If you see him as the right partner and the timing is right, ask yourself why you are still unwilling to step out of yourself to initiate communication. Is it your personality at play, or just that you are not as convinced of him as you would like to be at this time? Be honest with yourself and be honest with him, too!

Only ever make a change if and only if that desire for change comes from within you, meaning that you have kinda resolved that the particular change would be to your very benefit(and maybe to others as well). Resolve never to change anything about your person in order to please others or because you are being pressured into doing so. That way, you minimize the chances of losing yourself to others. Don't let anyone bully you into doing what you are not ready for or wanting to do. This is your life, so live it the best way for you, and that way you will have no regrets to cry over.

By the way, if you decide that being single is the best way forward, that is OK too. Approximately 50% of the population live and die single— they never get married. So, if you decide singledom is the way, you are not even remotely alone in that.

BeautybyTy don't let this user above deceive you, men of these days are no longer patient like when you were growing up, if he puts in 10 efforts, he expects you too to put in at least 5 efforts, that is what will make him certain you are the one for it.

BeautybyTy:
Good evening Nairalanders.
I am a pretty lady with the right face and body structure with just enough to take care of myself. I am in my 30s but I am not in a hurry to settle down. Yes I have the desire but I am cool.

I came on this family post because of one issue, whenever a man is asking me out they are always so excited about me. Infact they can go crazy, buy me gifts ,money etc but, I noticed that they all complain that I do not call or reciprocate by checking up on them (which is weird) when we are talking..

Growing up,men did the chasing without any complaints and I am built that way. These guys want to speak with me few times in a day which I love but they always complain that i do not initiate the conversation a few times in a week or a day

Two of them have told me they even refrain from calling in a whole day just to see if I would care but I ended up not calling at all.

What brought me to this site is that one of the [b][/b]current talking atage keeps complaining bitterly about it and is asking that I set an alarm each day so I can tell him :

I feel when someone loves you, this is not supposed to be a big deal.
We are barely one month in this talking stage, I just want to be sure he is invested first before I start throwing my cards out.

You’re in a state of confusion don’t know who to choose and like your words above you are not in love with any of them yet cuz caring comes naturally when you’re in love, you can’t force it

Ajibade123:
✓ BeautybyTy don't let this user above deceive you, men of these days are no longer patient like when you were growing up, if he puts in 10 efforts, he expects you too to put in at least 5 efforts, that is what will make him certain you are the one for it.

So, because, according to you,men of these days are no longer patient therefore, it is OP who has to bend over backwards to please them all because you wish to have her believe still that these impatient men are some sort of price she cannot afford to loose? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Will you also advice your own daughter, sister or even mother to do same for the sake of a man? Nonsense! 🙄🙄