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franchasofficia:
Very irritating guy. Honestly some of these guys on this forum are something else


This is how they dehumanize Igbo culture just to feel good and next others will take their baseless words as truth, it's disgusting

It is out of envy. Nothing more.

As long as I have brothers, I will keep shutting them down.

ediko5:
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You of all people should know that I'm always against young men who are building themselves to marry a lady from the lowest class that will be a liability to them and both of us have quoted each other about that few times. Like I use to say: " why will a man go down from the 10th floor to marry a liability lady on the ground floor?" I disapprove that entirely.

The OP tailored his question to a particular tribe and I believe the reason the OP asked the question is what I highlighted up there.

The two men I know in this situation are not married to Igbo women. I don't know why anything Igbos on marriage (rites) is over-exaggerated on social media.

pocohantas:
Any young budding guy married to a woman from a struggling background would definitely have it hard. It doesn't matter her tribe. What would make it easier is if they are not entitled. In that case whatever you give them is what they will take. If not, your wife would most likely start blackmailing you into absorbng all their expenses and that is the beginning of your financial stagnancy.

Once again, it is not a tribe issue.

I was explaining this exact thing to someone just two days ago. Their whole argument was flawed because it’s never really about whether the family is rich or poor, it's got nothing to do with tribe, it’s about whether they’re content or entitled.

If you marry a woman from a poor background who isn't entitled, you’re in luck. N10k from a son-in-law can feel like N100k to them, and they'll be grateful. But if you're struggling and you marry into a rich, entitled family, they'll still bill you, only this time it's on a whole new level, their own level.

A guy fit show up when his poor in-laws dey do burial with a keg of wine, some yams, and maybe N50k, and they’ll give him a whole canopy, if na entitled rich family, if he no buy cow make I know wetin cause am.

Tallesty1:
I was explaining this exact thing to someone just two days ago. Their whole argument was flawed because it’s never really about whether the family is rich or poor, it's got nothing to do with tribe, it’s about whether they’re content or entitled.

If you marry a woman from a poor background who isn't entitled, you’re in luck. N10k from a son-in-law can feel like N100k to them, and they'll be grateful. But if you're struggling and you marry into a rich, entitled family, they'll still bill you, only this time it's on a whole new level, their own level.

A guy fit show up when his poor in-laws dey do burial with a keg of wine, some yams, and maybe N50k, and they’ll give him a whole canopy, if na entitled rich family, if he no buy cow make I know wetin cause am.

The difference between the rich and poor is, if you don't give the rich, you know they will still survive. But if you don't give your struggling in-laws, your wife's mood would tell you she isn't happy because her family are having it hard. She might not even be angry at you, but herself for not being able to help them. Naturally you go buy the problem and want to step-in. Feeding is a small part, imagine death. Imagine your FIL dies and none of your wife's siblings are able to finance it. Imagine your wife is now the first child/daughter. Those things that happened to Clems in Naija film would start happening to you.

You're right bro, don't marry from a poor background

This conversations is what a man must have with his wife before marriage.

Also, a man should not start what he cannot finish. If they ask him for stuff, he should always say NO than YES. The moment he started showing up, then dependency will be transferred to him.

If his wife wants to raise it up as an issue, then he must be stern and make it clear to her that he has this discussion with her before, and her family responsibilities aint his.

Although he should make sure his wife is financially stable, so she can give her family without asking him directly. But for him to be directly responsible should be a NO.

The issue here is not about him refusing assistance from his household to his wife's family, but about him not being directly responsible for it. Every man must reject that role.

This simple reason and financial illiteracy is the reason so many young men end up poor. No be say dem no see money when strength dey na billing choke them..Imaging a young guy earning 150k to 1m monthly and you get babe or wife wey every day one to three billing of 10k to 40k... how u wan grow..

ediko5:
This your question is the reason many say Igbo men top the chart when it comes to SIMPing men in Nigeria.

Most of 'em behave as if they don't have a life of their own to live, they behave as if they're living their life for their girlfriend or wife.

Imagine where a young man is obligated to train the sibling or siblings of his girlfriend in order to qualify them to marry their daughter according to girls' family.

Nlfpmod

talk what you know

MrHandsome2013:
I mean do you cope.
Guys married to Igbo women from poor background how do you cope

Stop this madness, marry from your tribe and stop complaining

Coming from a poor background and being poor are two different kettle of fish.

ediko5:
This your question is the reason many say Igbo men top the chart when it comes to SIMPing men in Nigeria.

Most of 'em behave as if they don't have a life of their own to live, they behave as if they're living their life for their girlfriend or wife.

Imagine where a young man is obligated to train the sibling or siblings of his girlfriend in order to qualify them to marry their daughter according to girls' family.

Nlfpmod

Na sapa Dey make you reason like this bro..Just pray God showers you with blessing so you no go see your fiancé brother Dey faint cause e never chop since morning..

pocohantas:
The difference between the rich and poor is, if you don't give the rich, you know they will still survive. But if you don't give your struggling in-laws, your wife's mood would tell you she isn't happy because her family are having it hard. She might not even be angry at you, but herself for not being able to help them. Naturally you go buy the problem and want to step-in. Feeding is a small part, imagine death. Imagine your FIL dies and none of your wife's siblings are able to finance it. Imagine your wife is now the first child/daughter. Those things that happened to Clems in Naija film would start happening to you.

Sapa Dey deal with one guy up there..He’s comment reeks of sapa stench..

Kobojunkie:
These men literally seek out women from poor backgrounds to marry so that they can then live life as designed in their minds afterwards. Why harass them for what is their choice?

I don’t even understand what the guy is saying bro.. We Dey pray to make money make in-laws Dey see us and respect us but this guy no want respect from him in laws oo😂

Dzzzz:
Na sapa Dey make you reason like this bro..Just pray God showers you with blessing so you no go see your fiancé brother Dey faint cause e never chop since morning..

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Funny shallow minded homo sapien.
So, your definition of a blessed person is that person who spend like a money miss road?

That man who's under-educated or uneducated but picks a village girl to train her to university and sometimes send her a abroad for a post graduate education ?

Or that man who spend 50 - 70% of his income on and around girlfriend or wife without building himself as a man ?

The way una dey think is very funny 🤣

ediko5:
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Funny shallow minded homo sapien.
So, your definition of a blessed person is that person who spend like a money miss road?

That man who's under-educated or uneducated but picks a village girl to train her to university and sometimes send her a abroad for a post graduate education ?

Or that man who spend 50 - 70% of his income on and around girlfriend or wife without building himself as a man ?

The way una dey think is very funny 🤣

Like I said just pray say make God remove you from the shackles of sapa..