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You're projecting. And you will continue to repeat IELTS if you continue this way.

he clearly stated that he OBSERVED in the course of working for him. Also clearly stated that he's not formed any relationship of any sort. Also clearly stated that he want's to go meet with their family to formalize things if he decides to go forward.

So, where is this grooming you keep talking about happening?

The "girl" is 18, not below.

abbey621:
What is the point of observing a young girl for wife qualities? Any girl below under 18 is considered a minor and observing her physical, mental and social attributes for the sole purpose of having a romantic relationship in the future is defined as GROOMING.....Educate yourself!

Choose any medium you'd prefer, share age / identification documentation. If you are anything less than 10 years younger than I am $1,000
Say na my son. Clown.

edit: What am i even saying? You're 29. lmao

My nairaland profile is older than you

Auxtan:
My son, as you journey through life, you will understand that nothing goes for nothing. And when your something goes for nothing is when you feel betrayed and angry. Always choose the safer route my son.

A girl once told me that since she's 21 years old, she would like to marry a 31 year old man.

Only question would be:
Is she having a mutual feelings or just Yes sir and No sir?
How would you feel if she object to your advances. Wouldn't that affect your ego and business?

no try am coz the feeling is not mutual... wait, u dnt even love her, u only like/adore her for her integrity, smartness and accountability and that is not a basis for chosing a wife.
meanwhile, have u studied her enough to know her life philosophy? her beliefs? do u know the kind of family she comes from? does she have basic home education? what is her social life? how does she relate with the other gender (so u dnt end up marrying a feminist)?
physically, is she ur 'type/taste'?.. ABOVE ALL.... WHAT ABOUT GENOTYPE

P.S= WOMEN CHANGE THE MOMENT U MARRY THEM... IF THEM COM BORN PIKIN FOR U LIKE THIS.... GBAM!!!!!!!!

Marry her first before u send am to sch oo

Lol…you don’t love the girl…you just want to marry her for your own selfish purposes

Patented:
Do you know the girl outside of the employer employee relationship? She can be responsible and accountable to her boss and be weird in her personal life.

Are you guys already into something together outside work? Is the feeling mutual?
Is she mature enough for marriage?

You hit the point .. he's seeing her this way because of the boss to salesrep relationship they were for now .. .

NotOfThisWorld:
What about her and what she wants to do with her life? Is she even interested in you?

if every man was hindered by all these considerations, 95% of married women would still be single.

Jaycobbs:
The day you stop worrying about people's thoughts and opinions of you is the day you'll start living a much better life.

Do you, personally, approve?
Does God approve?
Does the lady approve?

If you get three yeses to these questions, anyone else's approval is just extra.

I'm hoping you're thinking about marriage—if she's wifable and the girl's family are not against it, then do the needful and start focusing on more salient matters.

However, there's a generational difference between you guys. If you're jumping into this pool, be prepared to encounter differences in thinking. You're both at quite different stages in life.

If you can't be patient enough to deal with it, kindly leave her be.

...good luck...
Don't come here in some three months or years later with Super Story ohhhhh
Invite us for the namings and dedication

valentineuwakwe:
Marry her first before u send am to sch oo

This because you think an 18 year old woman of today would not know to abandon you and the child self if she is not happy with living with you? Una no dey learn at all be una major problem! 🥱🥱🥱

AllBlack:
✓ if every man was hindered by all these considerations, 95% of married women would still be single.

But a whole portion of married women are living single even in marriage. In Nigeria alone, almost 50% of married women are breadwinners in their marriages. What does that tell you?

litaninja:
Can pay taxes, can register a business, can vote as to whom will be responsible for the lives of 200 million people, BUT NOT FULLY MATURE TO DECIDE THEIR OWN LIFE?

e make sense to you?

Registering a business or voting in an election are different from making a lifelong commitment!

Auxtan:
My salesgirl understands my business to the point I am considering to just make her my family.

I don't do an easy business and I am looking to scale, which means someone that understands this business is vital for that to happen and preferably a family member.

Now I am thinking of marrying her and also in the process leaving the relationship/dating market that is a distraction.

I don't have issues whatsoever with this my salesgirl in terms of character and even accountability, she's just perfect in those aspects, but my problem is her age.

Right now, I am just thinking of taking this decision of killing 2 birds with a stone might just be the best for me, one is settling down and two is marrying someone that understands my business.

Is a 29 year old man too big for an 18 year old girl? What's the general public perception of it?

PS: For the main time, I haven't made moves on her. But my interviews on her so far shows she's not looking to enter the high institution anytime soon (probably due to funds). But if I become comfortable with the age gap that is my major concern, I'd make moves on her and see if it will be possible. I'm trying to assess general views on marrying girls in their teen like her.

She understands your business.

Does she understand you?

Auxtan:
My salesgirl understands my business to the point I am considering to just make her my family.

I don't do an easy business and I am looking to scale, which means someone that understands this business is vital for that to happen and preferably a family member.

Now I am thinking of marrying her and also in the process leaving the relationship/dating market that is a distraction.

I don't have issues whatsoever with this my salesgirl in terms of character and even accountability, she's just perfect in those aspects, but my problem is her age.

Right now, I am just thinking of taking this decision of killing 2 birds with a stone might just be the best for me, one is settling down and two is marrying someone that understands my business.

Is a 29 year old man too big for an 18 year old girl? What's the general public perception of it?

PS: For the main time, I haven't made moves on her. But my interviews on her so far shows she's not looking to enter the high institution anytime soon (probably due to funds). But if I become comfortable with the age gap that is my major concern, I'd make moves on her and see if it will be possible. I'm trying to assess general views on marrying girls in their teen like her.

With higher institution in sight, she might see you as old due to peer pressure

May I or Others not mislead you to a point were you either don't sleep or wake up to think each day. Please, do your accessibility your self. Groom her for another year or two. Don't rush.

I’m planning to settle down (marry) when I’m 33 (by Gods Grace) and I am not going to marry a girl that is above 20. I.e she must be 20 or below and must be a virgin. Anybody can argue with his/her self. I don’t bloody give a damn!

Registering a business or voting are decisions that literally change the course of one's life, what are you talking about?

Kobicove:
Registering a business or voting in an election are different from making a lifelong commitment!

litaninja:
You're projecting. And you will continue to repeat IELTS if you continue this way.

he clearly stated that he OBSERVED in the course of working for him. Also clearly stated that he's not formed any relationship of any sort. Also clearly stated that he want's to go meet with their family to formalize things if he decides to go forward.

So, where is this grooming you keep talking about happening?

The "girl" is 18, not below.

Thank goodness I have already obtained my Ph.D and do not need test of English but continue in your delulu. Observing is a broad term and most times it starts with physical, humans are very predictable, before you can decide you fancy someone it starts with attraction, the physical kind! He does not need to form any romantic relationship before doing the permutations and fantasization, use your brain!

To your other point, you're not making sense try and read the OP's opening statement quoted below and tell me in your experience how long it takes to fully understand a business.

My salesgirl understands my business to the point I am considering to just make her my family

olaJako:
➜May I or Others not mislead you to a point were you either don't sleep or wake up to think each day. Please, do your accessibility your self. Groom her for another year or two. Don't rush.

Groom her for marriage? Are you poeple not tired of deluding yourselves into believing there is a formula to having women? There is no formula to life, but somehow there is a formula when it comes to women? Are women not humans, like you, subjects of life itself?

Fantazy:
I’m planning to settle down (marry) when I’m 33 (by Gods Grace) and I am not going to marry a girl that is above 20. I.e she must be 20 or below and must be a virgin. Anybody can argue with his/her self. I don’t bloody give a damn!

Also, plan to keep your impending future regrets and woes to yourselves... make sure you don't come telling us sob stories about how a friend of yours get this problem or another wey you wan make we comment on.

BrickDevo:
see the nonsense you are talking, he should provides the funds she needs for her life goals and later he can marry her, nonsense, what if later she decides no to marry her? you are not wise i swear.

Then he should leave the 18year old girl alone and look for someone above that age.

18years old wey still dey find the meaning to life, wey just dey mature na housewife he wan turn her to.

I will put it inside.

BrickDevo:
➜ see the nonsense you are talking, he should provides the funds she needs for her life goals and later he can marry her, nonsense, what if later she decides no to marry her? you are not wise i swear.

She could still up and leave/divorce him — maybe even abandon any kids she had to him too — after she has obtained all she wants from him. So?

Kobojunkie:
She could still up and leave/divorce him — maybe even abandon any kids she had to him too — after she has obtained all she wants from him. So?

and become a single mother? girls don't want to have that type of history, so is unlikely to happen.

Exactly

Kobojunkie:
But a whole portion of married womaen are living single even in marriage. In Nigeria alone, almost 50% of married women are breadwinners in there their marriages. What does that tell you?

Do you really think you can just respond to any comment and get a purple heart from everyone? Once again, you have been weighed, measured and found wanting.

1. Whole portion? Ever heard of tautology? Or you were just trying to be clever with words for cheap LIKE clicks?
2. Living single while in marriage? why don't you open a thread for that if you are so concerned about what happens AFTER THE MARRIAGE. You can also do a thread about women who die after marriage.
3. Breadwinners? So you are now a breadwinner statistician? 50% of women?
4. Why so many wrong spellings? is this another case of you rushing to send your comment without properly vetting and correcting?

BrickDevo:
➜and become a single mother?
➜girls don't want to have that type of history,
➜ so is unlikely to happen.

Look around you, there are 100s of thousands of single mothers out there living their lives and are happy too.

2. They don't, but their numbers continue to grow, with many of them the initiators of their very divorce? Are you sure you are tuned in to reality at all?

3. Unlikely to happen in a day and age where more and more women are openly embracing divorce as the best option for them? Again, are you certain you are fully tuned in to reality?

Kobojunkie:
Groom her for marriage? Are you poeple not tired of deluding yourselves into believing there is a formula to having women? There is no formula to life, but somehow there is a formula when it comes to women? Are women not humans, like you, subjects of life itself?

It is clear most of these men are pedos.

AllBlack:
➜Do you really think you can just respond to any comment and get a purple heart from everyone? ➜Once again, you have been weighed, measured and found wanting.
➜1. Whole portion? Ever heard of tautology? Or you were just trying to be clever with words for cheap LIKE clicks?
2. Living single while in marriage? why don't you open a thread for that if you are so concerned about what happens AFTER THE MARRIAGE. You can also do a thread about women who die after marriage.
3. Breadwinners? So you are now a breadwinner statistician? 50% of women?
4. Why so many wrong spellings? is this another case of you rushing to send your comment without properly vetting and correcting?

Why am I suddenly not allowed to use tautology for Pete's sake? 🤣🤣🤣

2. Na craze be this?

3. When did Nairaland begin to enforce grammar rules on commenters, abeg? How much the company dey pay you for this, abeg! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

BrickDevo:
and become a single mother? girls don't want to have that type of history, so is unlikely to happen.

Lmao. You think an 18year old girl that's still discovering what life is won't abandon a baby and husband to better her life?

Ever read of multiple babies been abandoned in school hostels, bushes, churches, mosque here in Nigeria?

Okay na

KosiGee:
She’s an adult according to the law. Encourage and send her to school to further her education.

By the time you are 41, she’ll be 30. This is not a Ned and Regina case here. The age gap isn’t bad

Make he send her go school with the hope of marrying her afterwards abi. lol