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Brothers, let’s have a real conversation.

99.9% of women don’t believe they’re supposed to spend on a man.
They’re taught—directly or indirectly—that provision flows one way: from man to woman.

So when a woman digs into her own personal savings, sacrifices her comfort, and invests in your welfare—
You’re not just “someone.”
You mean something. You matter deeply.

That’s not ordinary. That’s rare.

Most women have been conditioned to receive, not to give—especially financially.
So when she chooses to reverse the current, it’s not just love…
It’s a rebellion against what she was taught, and a testament to how she sees you.


💬 Real Talk:

Have you ever had a woman go out of her way to support you financially or emotionally when you were down?
What did it make you feel?
Do you think it's fair that society discourages women from providing for men?

Let’s break the silence. Let’s share real stories.

One Sister’s Take:

[i] “I don’t think I’m among those women that would not want to take care of their man—especially if I love him and I have the money. I would take care of my man abeg. Men dey try.”[i]

That’s love in its purest form—when it flows both ways.

The Conversation Starts Here.

Drop your experiences below.
Let’s unpack this modern masculinity and reciprocal love together.

Women rarely gives anything for free that is why you must think twice before accepting a woman's generosity.

I have had quite a lot of nice woman and one thing that helped me was stating my stand and maintaining it. Some I reject outrightly.

All my life I forbid promising a woman. A lot of women who happened to be generous will clamp you in-between their legs when you are in motion and ask you to promise heaven and earth for me that is the day you kill my affection.

I do everything possible to stay far from a woman's generosity. No man should crave for it.

Felimax:
Women rarely gives anything for free that is why you must think twice before accepting a woman's generosity.

I have had quite a lot of nice woman and one thing that helped me was stating my stand and maintaining it. Some I reject outrightly.

All my life I forbid promising a woman. A lot of women who happened to be generous will clamp you in-between their legs when you are in motion and ask you to promise heaven and earth for me that is the day you kill my affection.

I do everything possible to stay far from a woman's generosity. No man should crave for it.

Accept it or not, you will still pay. It's better you accept her Greek gift.

Any woman who willingly spends on a man definitely loves him. Yes they exist but they’re only few of them

I dated one during my university days she was even older than me with about 5 years, while I was still a student she was already working. She really contributed financially, emotionally and was always there to support. She left the country a year after I graduated she’s Happily married and we still communicate till date as friends

tanigororo:
Accept it or not, you will still pay. It's better you accept her Greek gift.

I nor fit eat wetin go hook my throat.
Women will easily swear for you with reckless abandon.

Some go even naked swear for you.

OlaOfLagos:
Any woman who willingly spends on a man definitely loves him. Yes they exist but they’re only few of them

I dated one during my university days she was even older than me with about 5 years, while I was still a student she was already working. She really contributed financially, emotionally and was always there to support. She left the country a year after I graduated she’s Happily married and we still communicate till date as friends

Five years older, God forbid!
I have never and will never try that. Ego go nearly kill me.

In fact, I am older than my spouse with more than 10 years. Some men dey try sha!

If I feel that you are a giver/ provider, I have no problem giving you if you are in need. I can't spend on you for nothing

Life is give and take

Felimax:
Five years older, God forbid!
I have never and will never try that. Ego go nearly kill me.

In fact, I am older than my spouse with more than 10 years. Some men dey try sha!

Yes five years older than me and nothing like God forbid as a matter of fact I love dating older women. “The older the berry, the sweeter the juice" older people, or things that have been around longer, often have more depth, richness, and value than their younger counterparts. Everybody with wetin dem like

labake1:
If I feel that you are a giver/ provider, I have no problem giving you if you are in need. I can't spend on you for nothing

Life is give and take

Fact💯

OlaOfLagos:
Yes five years older than me and nothing like God forbid as a matter of fact I love dating older women. “The older the berry, the sweeter the juice" older people, or things that have been around longer, often have more depth, richness, and value than their younger counterparts. Everybody with wetin dem like

Lie from the pit of hell! It's your food so no point contesting it. Some men actually like them older but God forbid.

I enjoy them younger. They are evergreen.

labake1:
If I feel that you are a giver/ provider, I have no problem giving you if you are in need. I can't spend on you for nothing

Life is give and take

Emphasis on the word "can't spend on you for nothing" . If you know what is good for you as a man run from a woman's gift and if you must take from her please I kneel down beg you lock your pre*k. Don't date her. She can strip you off your pride.

God forbid!

OlaOfLagos:
Yes five years older than me and nothing like God forbid as a matter of fact I love dating older women. “The older the berry, the sweeter the juice" older people, or things that have been around longer, often have more depth, richness, and value than their younger counterparts. Everybody with wetin dem like

Ola kilode? Sho wa ok? "The older the berry, the sweeter the juice" Do you mean those 35 years and above that carries lubricant up and down?
Stop whining my nipples.
Dey play!

Felimax:
Lie from the pit of hell! It's your food so no point contesting it. Some men actually like them older but God forbid.

I enjoy them younger. They are evergreen.

What make it a lie You haven’t done older women, I have done both younger and the older ones and I will tell you for free that not all older women are loose and also not all younger ones are also tight down there. I have smash£d a girl in her 20’s who has more experience so no be by age

Felimax:
Emphasis on the word "can't spend on you for nothing" . If you know what is good for you as a man run from a woman's gift and if you must take from her please I kneel down beg you lock your pre*k. Don't date her. She can strip you off your pride.

God forbid!

What a nonsensical way of thinking!
I wonder the kind of people surrounded by you, making you to think this way

Felimax:
I nor fit eat wetin go hook my throat.
Women will easily swear for you with reckless abandon.

Some go even naked swear for you.

you are afraid of swearing.

Felimax:
Emphasis on the word "can't spend on you for nothing" . If you know what is good for you as a man run from a woman's gift and if you must take from her please I kneel down beg you lock your pre*k. Don't date her. She can strip you off your pride.

God forbid!

So its about pride.

labake1:
If I feel that you are a giver/ provider, I have no problem giving you if you are in need. I can't spend on you for nothing

Life is give and take

Then you are not a giver if you have to wait for someone to be the giver first.

Kalatium:
Then you are not a giver if you have to wait for someone to be the giver first.

Can you read? Didn't you see where I wrote "if I feel"

All of you quoting me, be careful because I can lose my cool any moment now

labake1:
Can you read? Didn't you see where I wrote "if I feel"

All of you quoting me, be careful because I can lose my cool any moment now

please do.

Doesn't change facts. Feelings fluctuate, so its not something reliable.

Kalatium:
So its about pride.

Pride is the only thing that follows me to grave. My pride is everything.

Kalatium:
you are afraid of swearing.

I am not afraid pride will not lemme take a woman's money and still date her.

I reject am!

labake1:
What a nonsensical way of thinking!
I wonder the kind of people surrounded by you, making you to think this way

Nonsensical because I think it's stupid to look at a woman's pocket? For real?

I have three boys and I am already raising them to be men. This is also the reason why I don't date anyhow. It's just me.

The Truth is...
95% of women that I encountered in my dating career spent on me but one was exceptional.
I think they did so because they knew I had a lot to offer and they felt the best they could do was to sow a seed in this Guy and see if they could trap him.

Unfortunately, I can only pick one which I did.
Women are very very smart. They never make bad investments. It's men who are very careless with decision-making when it comes to choice of a life partner. Women are way ahead.

At some point 2 entirely different girls who incidentally met each other in my apartment went to the market together, cooked for me on same day, same time, same kitchen, same pot and we all ate together.
These were new University graduates at that time and had jobs. The leading one had wanted to start a showdown but when she remembered I don't take shit and she knew what she stood to lose, she immediately backed off

Ne jam one single mom food vendor...

I wanted to chop and clean mouth but this lady is actually nice, my conscience didn't allow me and she has fallen yakata....


So she's now my food plug/girlfriend but I never eat her food for free, I always pay even though she serves me three times my money worth.....



Sha I never ready to marry, but provided we're still together by then.... Somebody's gonna get dumped...


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Felimax:
Nonsensical because I think it's stupid to look at a woman's pocket? For real?

I have three boys and I am already raising them to be men. This is also the reason why I don't date anyhow. It's just me.

Okay that's good

APOPTOSIS:
The Truth is...
95% of women that I encountered in my dating career spent on me but one was exceptional.
I think they did so because they knew I had a lot to offer and they felt the best they could do was to sow a seed in this Guy and see if they could trap him.

Unfortunately, I can only pick one which I did.
Women are very very smart. They never make bad investments. It's men who are very careless with decision-making when it comes to choice of a life partner. Women are way ahead.

At some point 2 entirely different girls who incidentally met each other in my apartment went to the market together, cooked for me on same day, same time, same kitchen, same pot and we all ate together.
These were new University graduates at that time and had jobs. The leading one had wanted to start a showdown but when she remembered I don't take shit and she knew what she stood to lose, she immediately backed off

Oh wow