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We all have desires—dreams of the kind of partner we hope to build a life with. And truthfully, there’s nothing wrong with aiming high. But what happens when our expectations are sky-high while our personal reality is far below the standard we’re asking for?

This isn't about judgment—it's a wake-up call. A mirror moment.

The Kind of Man She Desires:

1 . He must be financially wealthy and capable of fully taking care of her needs.

2 . He must be highly intelligent.

3 . He must be God-fearing.

4 . He must be romantic and deeply caring.

5 . He must be excellent in bed.

6 . He must be tall and physically attractive (as if you can even create an ant).

Now, who is She (in reality)?

1 . She's not a virgin - has had numerous past partners, and advance in age.

2 . She cannot afford her basic daily expenses (needs), having shown little to no resourcefulness or personal drive. She's seeking a man as her means of survival.

3 . She does not believe in submission or mutual partnership in a relationship.

4 . She has questionable character.

Now here's the tough love:
If this sounds like you—and you're still wondering why, after all the prayers, fasting, and trips to prayer mountains, you're yet to find your dream man—it might be time to pause, wake up from your illusion and ask yourself some honest questions (face reality)

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with desiring the best in life. However, ask yourself honestly:

. Do you truly believe that a man with all the ideal qualities you listed - including "intelligence" - would choose to settle down with someone of your current profile?

. Would that be a fair and reasonable outcome for him?


If someone with your current attributes ends up with such a high-value man, then what kind of man should a woman with discipline, integrity, character, and resourcefulness end up with?

It’s time to reflect, take responsibility, and start working on the aspects of yourself that you can change. Growth begins when we stop fantasizing and start being intentional with self-development.

Before asking “Where is my king?”, ask “Am I becoming the queen he's also praying for?”

✍️Tunde Joda

As a man, have you experienced women like this?. Share your experience....

As a proud Pedi girl that was raised by traditionalists parents, my greatest desire has always been a man who's been to an initiation school, the rest can follow.

If you've never been there, I don't want you... I don't care whether you're rich or whatever... There's this unexplainable aura that such men have that makes me want to submissive... Mma wee...😋😋😋... In fact, let me go and submit to my King...🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️

tunde4top:
As a man, have you experienced women like this?. Share your experience....

I made a thread this evening and I asked almost the same question here: https://www.nairaland.com/8494566/men-really-foolish-women-think

Are men really foolish as women think?

Cos it's very funny how a woman will think after she has destroyed herself and she's left with zero value, a man with hundreds of value will rush her for marriage

ediko5:
I made a thread this evening and I asked almost the same question here: https://www.nairaland.com/8494566/men-really-foolish-women-think

Are men really foolish as women think?

Cos it's very funny how a woman will think after she has destroyed herself and she's left with zero value, a man with hundreds of value will rush her for marriage

Women often have a tendency to view the world through ideals or fantasies. It takes maturity and a strong upbringing for some to move beyond this and embrace a more grounded perspective...

That is why men have to be well grounded in taught or reasoning in order not to get manipulated and eventually dragged into woman's frame (fantasy or unaccountable world)

Samantha125:
As a proud Pedi girl that was raised by traditionalists parents, my greatest desire has always been a man who's been to an initiation school, the rest can follow.

If you've never been there, I don't want you... I don't care whether you're rich or whatever... There's this unexplainable aura that such men have that makes me want to submissive... Mma wee...😋😋😋... In fact, let me go and submit to my King...🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️

I hope you find the man you desire. In the meantime, continue to grow and improve yourself in every positive way, especially in the qualities such men would value and appreciate in their women...

All the best sister.

tunde4top:
I hope you find the man you desire. In the meantime, continue to grow and improve yourself in every positive way, especially in the qualities such men would value and appreciate in their women...

All the best sister.

shes happily married lol

verminnel:
shes happily married lol

Ohhh... That's great....