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Imagine a relationship where a lady is significantly older than her partner.

What advantages/disadvantages do you see in such pairing? (Experience, energy, societal pressure, life stages)
Do you know any couples like this? Share stories how’s it working out—

Note: The image below is just an illustration!

Well it depends

It doesn't mean much to me but I am not sure I will marry her

She will age so fast

We can just be knacking

Well..

I have been in this scenario like three times, and what I have got to say is..

run!

Brother man run as far as your legs can carry you, even more..

It’s possible,I have dated a few,you just have to be in charge as the man

20 years to 35 years is just 15 years difference.
I'm sure as time goes on, they'll both fall out of love

You’re fine with her age now, but not later.
Does that mean looks matter more than the relationship?

illicit:
Well it depends

It doesn't mean much to me but I am not sure I will marry her

She will age so fast

We can just be knacking

You’re fine with her age now, but not later.
Does that mean looks matter more than the relationship?

RealityKings1:
20 years to 35 years is just 15 years difference.
I'm sure as time goes, they'll both fall out of love

A 15-year gap shouldn’t guarantee a breakup Plenty of same-age couples fall out of love too. Is it really the age difference, or just assuming love has an expiration date?

Luli02:
You’re fine with her age now, but not later.
Does that mean looks matter more than the relationship?

When people age it's not only about looks

Does menopause and mood swings ring a bell...?

Luli02:
A 15-year gap shouldn’t guarantee a breakup Plenty of same-age couples fall out of love too. Is it really the age difference, or just assuming love has an expiration date?

Exactly….your questions are valid🫵

I have dated someone who is 5 years older than me while I was still in the university.

The love did not expire neither we fell out of love…

She relocated out of the country to further more was why the relationship it didn’t work out, moreover we still communicate till date as friends.

illicit:
When people age it's not only about looks

Does menopause ring a bell...?

Okay, menopause is legit. But real love means facing changes together

If you dated someone of your age, she'd hit menopause too - just later. So what's really different here?

Why do you want to know?

Luli02:
Imagine a relationship where a lady is significantly older than her partner.

What advantages/disadvantages do you see in such pairing? (Experience, energy, societal pressure, life stages)
Do you know any couples like this? Share stories how’s it working out—

Note: The image below is just an illustration!

Luli02:
Okay, menopause is legit. But real love means facing changes together

If you dated someone of your age, she'd hit menopause too - just later. So what's really different here?

The difference is that, it is relatable and understandable as I might have lost somethings too at that point


But your wife hitting menopause when u are still virile and agile can upset a lot of things

It's a big factor

Just for knacking, YES

for serious relationship or marriage, NO

How can you end up with someone looking like your grandma? Women age so fast. This is why they get mature early than guys. Go to sec school, you'll find out all the girls there looks like adults and thinks like one. You'll never see them with their age mates

Well, when I was single, I had my fair share of younger partners.

It's so powerful! 💪💪

Every girl must strive to be financially independent early in life to experience it.


Then, if we hung out and the guy impressed me, I could offer to drop him close to his house with my car.

Or I could decide to give him 2k for being a good carpenter.

But, if I'm not impressed, I will give him 200 naira for bike and won't see him again.

This particular married guy thought because he was good carpenter, I would become meal ticket for his wife and children.

Once, I dropped him off and gave him his 500 naira, I noticed he was disturbed and wanted to ask me for more. But I zoomed off before he got the chance.

But as soon he got home, he called me to say that his wife took out his arm card and lost it and now they can't access cash for feeding.

I said ok, lemme see what I can do.

I blocked him!!

Nonsense!

Luli02:
Imagine a relationship where a lady is significantly older than her partner.

What advantages/disadvantages do you see in such pairing? (Experience, energy, societal pressure, life stages)
Do you know any couples like this? Share stories how’s it working out—

Note: The image below is just an illustration!

To your question about advantage or disadvantage, I will never advice any woman to marry an obviously younger man for her mental health.

Our society is not that educated yet.

Also, most times the guys are the underachievers in the relationship and this makes him feel small always.

At the first instance he gets, he will tell you why you should be happy he married an old cargo like you.

This na person wey the wife dey feed, house and clothe o 😄

She will probably go into milking this guy out in every area of his life and health wise

SisterAnn:
Well, when I was single, I had my fair share of younger partners.

It's so powerful! 💪💪

Every girl must strive to be financially independent early in life to experience it.


Then, if we hung out and the guy impressed me, I could offer to drop him close to his house with my car.

Or I could decide to give him 2k for being a good carpenter.

But, if I'm not impressed, I will give him 200 naira for bike and won't see him again.

This particular married guy thought because he was good carpenter, I would become meal ticket for his wife and children.

Once, I dropped him off and gave him his 500 naira, I noticed he was disturbed and wanted to ask me for more. But I zoomed off before he got the chance.

But as soon he got home, he called me to say that his wife took out his arm card and lost it and now they can't access cash for feeding.

I said ok, lemme see what I can do.

I blocked him!!

Nonsense!

SisterAnn and Her Carpenters



This will make an interesting movie and even novel

15 years gap is too much, but 5 years gap is okay

The age gap of 15 years is too much if you're looking to marry her

This is pure manipulative relationship, it won't work

Qatar2022:
This is pure manipulative relationship, it won't work

Why assume it’s pure manipulative?
Toxic behavior can happen in any relationship, regardless of age. An age gap doesn’t automatically make it shady.

Luli02:
Imagine a relationship where a lady is significantly older than her partner.

What advantages/disadvantages do you see in such pairing? (Experience, energy, societal pressure, life stages)
Do you know any couples like this? Share stories how’s it working out—

Note: The image below is just an illustration!

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Apart from sex, the guy has nothing to offer. He might just be fulfilling a fantasy.

Obviously a 35 year old lady will be looking for stability, a child or marriage.

If a woman of that age is dating a 2 years old, it is either she is just looking to control the young guy or she is delulu.

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Imagine a relationship where a lady is significantly older than her partner.

Lutherblaq:
Well..

I have been in this scenario like three times, and what I have got to say is..

run!

Brother man run as far as your legs can carry you, even more..

Share your experiences with these ladies and not just say run like a never been to school person....

Luli02:
Imagine a relationship where a lady is significantly older than her partner.

What advantages/disadvantages do you see in such pairing? (Experience, energy, societal pressure, life stages)
Do you know any couples like this? Share stories how’s it working out—

Note: The image below is just an illustration!

Which kain image be dis wey be say na my spec u use.... I certify the relationship OK

Ask Macron, the french President. He might be in a better position to advice based on experience.

I once dated a lady older than me. Well, the relationship ended.

I wasn’t jobless, and neither was she.

But she wanted to become controlling — I told her, No.

I decided to end the relationship because of this, but she tried to blackmail me over the time we had been together.

I reminded her that I wasn’t the one who wasted her youthful years.

You can’t control me when you’re not feeding me.

Be submissive, or go find someone much older than you, to whom you can actually be submissive.

She’s still single till now… and still reaching out to me.

But I’m already in a serious relationship with someone else.

All my life, i had never dated my age mate, let alone someone older by wide margin. If my son bring this kind of women to me, I won't approve the union.

This is a predatory behaviour. Women marry your age mate.which 1 be say you go dey nack your younger brother age mate.no wonder all this small boys with sagging trousers and skinny legs have no respect for women clearly older than them when the women too will not respect themselves. The other day tiwa savage was making s3ual moves on stage in public with wizkid,why wizkid no go see am finish.as a woman sef if you have too much masculine energy and not leave things that belong to men's circle for men na see finish e go bring. Na men dey marry or date younger women not women marrying younger men