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I don't want to be a real man
Nonsense & Ihedioha

That's how you perspire to aspire pple create simps in the society

franugo:
I hope you're being sarcastic 🤌

being real bro, two of my house mate who came from a particular tribe here, said the same thing. I don't want to be a living example.

Is this sarcasm or weed?

Onegai:
Well, the first scenario, the woman was still sleeping with the 2 men until she left her husband for the 2nd man. That, I'm very sure of (please don't ask me how). And nothing happened, so...

I do believe in Spiritual battles, because I believe in God's existence (He is real). Which means there must be an opposite force to Him. Every religion states it: yin and yang, good and evil. Balance. Good will eventually win but evil exists. And evil does have powers.

But I just don't think, looking at how the devil operates, that he'll kill a man whose wife is cheating. Because that situation is already awful, yet he can use that cheated-on man to wreck even more havoc and cause more sin (down to the next generation). It's like chess: why get rid of a pawn that will be useful?

It's why, no matter what, forgiveness is the best way. It is a gift you're giving yourself: you're releasing your pain to the Lord, who is just and merciful (trust me, He will deal with all parties involved , without causing you to fall into sin trying to get revenge.

Now reconciliation, that's up to the Lord as well. The book of Hosea shows what is possible. And men expect women to forgive adultery but won't forgive hers, yet can't understand why marriages keep shaking. Maybe we should stop being hypocrites?

Have a good morning.

Lolz! Definitely I am not gonna ask you how on the first scenario. And you summed everything up nicely. Have a nice day ahead too.

oz4real83:
Unfortunately, this is one of such situations I don't want to be called 'a real man'. Even if I cheat, if she cheats back, she goes

So you are free to cheat whereas she is not?

No cheating should be allowed from both parties, period.

Joke of the year. Send the adulteress away.

No man should have anything to do with an adulterous wife. It is not a simple thing for a married woman to comfortably display her body to be ravished by a man who is not her husband. Mbanu!

I'm from Ohafia, Eziafor Ukwu Autonomous Community, in Abia State. If a wife should have sex with another man aside her husband, if the husband should have sex with her or eats her food, he will fall sick that will defile all medical intervention except if the wife does a spiritual cleansing to free the man, the man will die. So it's not a fairytale.

Kobojunkie:
What history? The history of the brainwashing of you and all others like you who believe such fairy tales?

Chubhie:
As a traditional man, you should know realtime when an unfortunate man attempts to visit your garden. In some traditions, the husband would die in 7 days if he sleeps with the wife or eat food prepared by her. A lot of innocent men don go like animals.

If you know say you be spiritual person, marry well or stay single to live long and consolidate on your powers.

The man doesn't just die like that.
He only dies if he knows or suspect the wife of cheating.
And he will first fall sick before it deteriorate to death if no confession or nothing is done to appease the ancestors.

Onegai:
Hmmm, my cousin's stepmother is still alive and her ex-husband lived even longer than the man she left him and her kids for o...🤔

Even the one that came home from abroad with a biracial baby, the Nigerian husband didn't die in 7 days o...🤔. Natural causes of old age got him.

Even the Ghanaian one that packed herself and her child into a wealthy Yoruba man's house, her ex lived o...🤔

Has anyone checked on Yul's baby Mama's ex-husband? Itzz laike he's alive o...🤔

Infact, when I think of all the Grandmothers I know who left their husbands for another (usually richer) man, most are alive. Sure, the relationship built on Infidelity and Greed failed and the consequences affected their children and everyone regretted it (because God is a God of mercy yes, but also justice), but nobody didn't die in 7 days o...🤔

E be like say the juju no dey work in Igbo land, South South and Yoruba tribes 😔 (because that's not how the devil works, he loves sin and won't kill anybody when he knows that the longer they live, the more likely they too will join the cheating wife to sin, which is a win-win for the devil).

There's a different leaving your husband for another and fvcking another man while still in your husband's house.

haggai247:
Is it in kwale or unkuwani area make I know.

Okwale don't have that tradition.
But Isoko and urhobo do.
But some how, some people no longer follow the normal procedures in traditional marriages (they no longer pour drink on the ground while praying for the couple).
Normally, a married woman (not boyfriend/girlfriend) cheating has consequences.

No problem forgiving her as long as she says it’s ok for me to sleep around with some girls too and is willing to forgive me. This way we can both practice forgiveness

irumole1975:
Many men are self absorbed especially Nigerian men. I read a post on Twitter yesterday about a man who find out his child isn’t his and the wife has been sleeping around with her ex. The man on knowing this stopped all responsibility on the woman and called the marriage quit. What a weak man.

Strong men forgive! They don’t resent and dwell on past mistakes. The children should not suffer because of the little mistake from the mother. Talk to ur wife, ask her why she cheated, apologise to her and let her know you still have her best interests at heart. Marriage is all about forgiveness.

Also, you can try talk to the man she cheated on u with and tell her to stop sleeping with ur wife. Thai way ur wife will know u truly love her and her respect for u will increase.

Nigerian men should learn to swallow their ego

irumole1975:
Many men are self absorbed especially Nigerian men. I read a post on Twitter yesterday about a man who find out his child isn’t his and the wife has been sleeping around with her ex. The man on knowing this stopped all responsibility on the woman and called the marriage quit. What a weak man.

Strong men forgive! They don’t resent and dwell on past mistakes. The children should not suffer because of the little mistake from the mother. Talk to ur wife, ask her why she cheated, apologise to her and let her know you still have her best interests at heart. Marriage is all about forgiveness.

Also, you can try talk to the man she cheated on u with and tell her to stop sleeping with ur wife. Thai way ur wife will know u truly love her and her respect for u will increase.

Nigerian men should learn to swallow their ego

And what happens when their biological father comes to claim the children

kaludestiny10:
➜I'm from Ohafia, Eziafor Ukwu Autonomous Community, in Abia State. If a wife should have sex with another man aside her husband, if the husband should have sex with her or eats her food, he will fall sick that will defile all medical intervention except if the wife does a spiritual cleansing to free the man, the man will die. So it's not a fairytale.

Dude, there are people from Ohafia who live here with me. Many of them have had their wives cheat, and not a single one of them ended up dead as a result of the wife cheating.

noblebright1:
➜Not a story land Bro, in most of the igbo Land, if you find out that your wife is cheating and still eat her food you're a gonna. The only remedy is her for to come and plead for forgiveness and also do the traditional right

. Stop telling stewpid lies abeg! Which Iboland? The same one we know of abi na one for your delusions? Nonsense and eegridient! 🙄🙄🙄

Zinpat:
So you are free to cheat whereas she is not?

No cheating should be allowed from both parties, period.

I don't think you know the meaning of "if"

kiddkash:
And what happens when their biological father comes to claim the children

You beg him not to do that

irumole1975:
You beg him not to do that

Hmm

I don't even know the time we now started knowing wives for cheating.

Before now, it's men who are usually known with cheating.