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If you ask a couple today about marriage, you may hear things like: "Marriage needs patience, It is not easy ooh, you really have to endure, men are something else, women are bla bla bla".
Maybe we should start or keep hearing things like, marriage is so sweet, you will really enjoy it, it makes life beautiful e.t.c

People have been made to believe marriage is some divine decree, written in the stars or sealed by the heavens. It is not. Marriage is simply people deciding to live together under a shared agreement. That’s all. No cosmic stamp. No eternal law. Just an arrangement that humans created.

But over time, it was dressed in rules, rituals, and pressures—until refusing to marry became a mark of shame. Many now enter marriage without knowing themselves, without even asking whether they can coexist with anyone long-term. And yet, we keep pretending it’s the natural order of things.

[color=#9900ab]Marriage may help build pockets of society, but it does not, on its own, raise children. A community raises children. A society raises children. Marriage has merely been inflated into a badge of responsibility, so that avoiding it makes you “irresponsible.” That is a lie we have swallowed for generations.[/color]

[color=#6B3000]You must ask yourself—do I actually want to marry, or am I just ticking a box the culture handed me? Age, money, tradition—none of these are reasons. Marriage is not compulsory. It is not sacred. It is not divine. It is human—fragile, flawed, and entirely optional.[/color]

You have said it all bro

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You want turkey but not an apple, only to endup with a mango

Stay single.. Marriage dey hungary... Get. Married. Dey want to be single... Nothing can satisfy human...

This is because society has created this wrong narrative that a man or woman is not complete until they are married and, marriage has been termed as "settling down". Also, society and religion have also created the wrong notion that marriage is mandatory and make it feel something is wrong with an adult who delays marriage or not willing to marry. They claim it is wrong to have kids outside of marriage. This is 2025, the age of information and people are fast realizing the above narratives are false on all accounts.

There is nothing bad about marriage.

One thing I know is you cannot be at peace with someone who u share roof with 365 days a year, u must have misunderstandings one way or de other, but how u both settle and pull through those situations determines if there would be a separation.

That being said pray to marry the right person.

Thank you. You made lot of sense.

Because you need to get married to see the truth about marriage…







But again,what’s life without proper bedmatics skills seff,I’m here to solve all your woes

If you want to get married, no allow people mouth hold you, get married...


If you don't want to marry, don't allow people's mouth and pressure force you, stand your ground till whenever you're ready...


Ladies don't allow anybody age shame you, do what you want with your life and career, being married or not will not take you to heaven..


Guys don't allow anybody broke shame or age shame you, marry when you have secured the bag enough that your children will not starve....


Married folks, don't allow what the society would say to remain in a volatile marriage, if your mental health is failing, take a break from the marriage, if you kpai in the marriage, your spouse would move on las las...



Thank you...

But they're telling the truth, or do you want them to lie?

How many couples can come out openly and tell you that their union was made in heaven? Most of them are just managing and tolerating each other.

I am glad to see that this generation is finally speaking openly about what marriage truly is and it’s certainly not fairy tales.

Personally, I believe that marriage should be taught as a formal subject in schools. Without early education, how can we expect young women who have grown up all their lives seeing themselves as equals to their male peers to suddenly adopt a secondary role simply because they are married? That expectation is neither natural nor fair.

Likewise, it is unrealistic to assume a marriage is an equal partnership when one partner, most likely the males, shoulders all the responsibilities.

Marriage should not be about hierarchy, it should be about partnership, shared growth, and balanced contirbutions. Preparing the next generation to understand this truth in a formal setting is not just wise, it’s necessary.

Because they lack the good knowledge about the goodness and blessings in marriage and how to unluck them.

Seems you prefer to hear lies than the truth.
Marriage has sent many people to early grave.

Well, every man should get married, none should go unpunished🥺

Marriage is a scam even from Adam and Eve era.

Baby Mama is the BEST

Because it is a prison.

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DrAda:
Well, I am glad that this generation is finally speaking out on what true marriage is. Simply put, it is not fairy tales.

Personally, I am advocating that marriage as a subject should be taught in schools. Otherwise, how do you expect females who have always considered themselves peers to their male colleagues to suddenly assume a secondary role just because of marriage.

Well said.

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People say things according to their experience.
Planes crash but people still fly.
Cars crash but people still drive them.
People suffer food poisoning but people still eat food.
There are so many good things about marriage, allegedly.
Don't take my word for it.
Get married and find out yourself.

FYI, I am not married and not planning to.

Because na who go know. Who nor go nor know.

Pls, complete the characters

People who speak ill about marriage are people who don't want to take responsibility. Marriage is all about being responsible.

marriage require two things to stable for long.


PATIENT


and



MONEY

Roycemadeit:
People have been made to believe marriage is some divine decree, written in the stars or sealed by the heavens. It is not. Marriage is simply people deciding to live together under a shared agreement. That’s all. No cosmic stamp. No eternal law. Just an arrangement that humans created.

But over time, it was dressed in rules, rituals, and pressures—until refusing to marry became a mark of shame. Many now enter marriage without knowing themselves, without even asking whether they can coexist with anyone long-term. And yet, we keep pretending it’s the natural order of things.

[color=#9900ab]Marriage may help build pockets of society, but it does not, on its own, raise children. A community raises children. A society raises children. Marriage has merely been inflated into a badge of responsibility, so that avoiding it makes you “irresponsible.” That is a lie we have swallowed for generations.[/color]

[color=#6B3000]You must ask yourself—do I actually want to marry, or am I just ticking a box the culture handed me? Age, money, tradition—none of these are reasons. Marriage is not compulsory. It is not sacred. It is not divine. It is human—fragile, flawed, and entirely optional.[/color]

how does community and society raise children?

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Marriage is bondage women benefits the most be wise guys 😢




Give her belle and let her be your baby mama is d best both of you will work hard and train d child
💯✌🏾

hmm, bot dont ban me for some minutes, because of some keywords. Maybe because of their experiences or what they others have experienced, they dont want to be in a toxic union, or they have insecurities. Some begin to see it s dull or life draining.

Whatever they think, marriage takes two to make it work, and it requires a healthy, strong foundation. I think it also requires a road map and understanding, some form of healthy predictability and Maturity. I cannot put it in words right now, i am hungry

Cos their own no sweet. Na bad belle cause am. If u marriage is okay u will appreciate

Most women married because of the benefits of the unions. But if we must tell ourselves the truth you will understand most men are not happy

Majority of men are just managing it because of children and fear of old age that may never come.

Some people just like having kids even is poverty while others fear it because of unknown.

It’s better when a man have enough resources as they can overlook everything and use side chick to calm themselves and forget all the marriage problem

Because these days, weddings are less about partnership and more about performance.

Half the pressure to marry isn’t even about love. It’s theatre. Lights, camera, lace, gele. A public declaration that you have “made it” in the love department. Whether that love survives is the subplot nobody likes to discuss. And yet, people line up for their turn, convinced that this time it will be different.

Parents push it because it’s their final stamp of approval: proof they raised you “well” enough for someone to take you off their hands. Married friends push it because misery loves company. Society pushes it because society likes everyone to follow the same tired template.

A wedding doesn’t guarantee happiness. It doesn’t guarantee forever. It doesn’t even guarantee love. What it guarantees is an event, some pictures, a certificate, and the unpaid overtime of trying to make it work.

my brother I was wondering that too until I got married hmmm

Please get to the stage before you will tell your own observation...

Marriage no be beans 🫘


Even the Peter in the Bible claim married people have more problems that's why he didn't marry.

So you must be prepared for it

It's simple. Bad news sells more. There are so many marriages with good testimonies but people don't get talk about it. Even among the developed countries we usually used as an example, there are so many successful marriages but they don't get reported. Like one philosopher once said, if you marry right, you will live happily. But if marry the wrong spouse, you automatically become a philosopher.

Zanzibar1:
You want turkey but not an apple, only to endup with a mango

You have actually slapped my face with this..

With all my life I love slim shady ladies but all have met in my life are oloshos 😢 so the one I finally marry was chubby but the wife material in her is 98% 🤔

Bro that's how I ended up marrying a statue I didn't like but d material in her is keeping us going we now 4years and still getting stronger 💪👍.

But sometimes I feel I haven't gotten to my Destination though 🤔

This thing called marriage ehn 🤔

Instance:
There is nothing bad about marriage.

One thing I know is you cannot be at peace with someone who u share roof with 365 days a year, u must have misunderstandings one way or de other, but how u both settle and pull through those situations determines if there would be a separation.

That being said pray to marry the right person.

There is no right person. people need to go into marriage the same way they go into employment contracts. This will involve careful analysis and exit agreements. We use the illusion of love and societal pressures to overlook red herrings prior. Marriage is a societal not a physiologcal necessity

Because 2 people coming to live as one is hard. For some it's impossible. Been single is fun don't rush to put a ring on her