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It is good to have a lovely and beautiful life. But if you have suffered and cried in this life, please count the cost and do not dare enter any marriage that will destroy you. You may not even have capacity anymore to bear pains in marriage.

God help me. I pray for my marriage to be fruitful and successful in Jesus mighty name. Amen

If you go into marriage hoping not to suffer then you will be disappointed. Even if there is money everywhere, sleepless nights over children, running in and out hospitals over their matter, arguments, pregnancies and having to make decisions that will affect the entire household and shape the future of everyone in it is enough suffering. People think suffering is all about money. Poor people mentality and I mean poor in mindset, not poor in pockets.

i swear, na wetin dey delay me from marrying...
i have seen and gone thru alot...

cutecommend:
It is good to have a lovely and beautiful life. But if you have suffered and cried in this life, please count the cost and do not dare enter any marriage that will destroy you. You may not even have capacity anymore to bear pains in marriage.

Sometimes we see the red flags and ignore them hoping we can change the person but Love is not enough,id rather we picked up the pieces and moved on rather than fanning an impending blazing furnace. Good people deserve good people so do the bad people , no good soul deserves to live unhappy but bad things happen to good people sadly.

verminnel:
➜Sometimes we see the red flags and ignore them hoping we can change the person but Love is not enough,
➜ id[b] rather we picked up the pieces and moved on rather than fanning an impending blazing furnace[/b]. Good people deserve good people so do the bad people , no good soul deserves to live unhappy but bad things happen to good people sadly.

Does love exist where there are red flags?

2. Red flags fan flames to consume those who hold on to them.

Kobojunkie:
Does love exist where there are red flags?

2. Red flags fan flames to consume those who hold on to them.

You mean love doesn't exsist?

cutecommend:
It is good to have a lovely and beautiful life. But if you have suffered and cried in this life, please count the cost and do not dare enter any marriage that will destroy you. You may not even have capacity anymore to bear pains in marriage.

so is this advice limited to those who have suffered in life?

Nonexisting1:
If you go into marriage hoping not to suffer then you will be disappointed. Even if there is money everywhere, sleepless nights over children, running in and out hospitals over their matter, arguments, pregnancies and having to make decisions that will affect the entire household and shape the future of everyone in it is enough suffering. People think suffering is all about money. Poor people mentality and I mean poor in mindset, not poor in pockets.

Your points are valid; marriage definitely comes with challenges and sacrifices, but I wouldn't call that suffering. It sounds more like responsibility.

Sleepless nights, raising kids, tough decisions, and even disagreements are all part of building something meaningful together. It only becomes suffering when there is no mutual support, understanding, or respect.

Zanzibar1:
✓ You mean love doesn't exsist?

Granted there are different kinds of love out there but when it comes to romantic relationships, when red flags exist, what you typically have is the deceit riddled kind which can rarely be classified as love.