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derico:
This post is gender selective.
Women generally marry upwards...or in their circle...and this rule isn't fair to them, they don't do the choosing, they have to sit and wait, hoping a higher-end man will ask to marry them...

Sometimes, a lady may have to stoop to conquer- just as the storybook.

Lower women will never marry their circle unless really forced to by circumstances. They'll always marry up. Only men are mumu

DoctorStanley:
Language is also man-made but if you don't speak same language you can't communicate. Simple.
Imagine, you can't discuss with her your higher academic stuffs and school experiences because she can't relate

I don't need to discuss my academic stuff with her. There are school mates and work colleagues to discuss with. I'll definitely discuss matters she understands with her and trust me, there'll be a lot of things to discuss.

tanigororo:
I never said that and what is the relevancy of your Question please?

Education is basically learning a new language.
The poor girl simply doesn't speak part of your language - and this is the person closest to you!
Ideally you want someone you can discuss EVERYTHING with.

Jman06:
I don't need to discuss my academic stuff with her. There are school mates and work colleagues to discuss with. I'll definitely discuss matters she understands with her and trust me, there'll be a lot of things to discuss.

And suppose some of those "school mates and work colleagues" are females? How'd you feel if you were her? And will they be there at 2am or so.
This is the person closest to you.
Can't you see OP is right?

Kobojunkie:
How many Nigerian men can afford to send a woman to uni? the ones you describe aren't the majority.

All those traders at Alaba can easily afford it, and many others

Jman06:
A man doesn't need a woman who is too smart. That is what the red pill teaches. My education and smartness will do for two of us.

Why not? I think a lot of men that think that way don't want to be kept on their toes.

Therock5555:
Yes, that is why one of Dangote's daughter is still my target....

That's the point. She'd be looking for a billionaire or higher. And if she married you out of desperation there'd be this unnaturalness to the whole thing

DoctorStanley:
✓ All those traders at Alaba can easily afford it, and many others

How many of them do you think make up what constitutes the majority of Nigerians who are stuck in poverty with what seems no way out though?

DoctorStanley:
And suppose some of those "school mates and work colleagues" are females? How'd you feel if you were her? And will they be there at 2am or so.
This is the person closest to you.
Can't you see OP is right?

So what if you marry someone from a different professional background, would you still be talking about discussing your academics and work with her? Op is not right! People have been marrying from different social class and have done well in marriage.

Kobojunkie:
How many of them do you think make up what constitutes the majority of Nigerians who are stuck in poverty with what seems no way out though?

Enough such that a girl who really wants can get one to sponsor her in exchange for side benefits and possible marriage

Jman06:
So what if you marry someone from a different professional background, would you still be talking about discussing your academics and work with her? Op is not right! People have been marrying from different social class and have done well in marriage.

You speak the same basic language - like someone from Nigeria marrying American than marrying German. The language and class barrier is minimal. As a medic the ideal thing for me is to marry a fellow medic. When you're so close to someone little details matter.

DoctorStanley:
✓ Enough such that a girl who really wants can get one to sponsor her in exchange for side benefits and possible marriage

Are you kidding? So, you think for such a benefit, a woman must then marry the man?

Kobojunkie:
Are you kidding? So, you think for such a benefit, a woman must then marry the man?

That's the whole idea - sponsor her through uni as your future wife. Of course it's a risk because her hypergamous nature resents marrying down (never mind you picked her when she was in the gutter!)

DoctorStanley:
✓ That's the whole idea - sponsor her through uni as your future wife. Of course it's a risk because her hypergamous nature resents marrying down (never mind you picked her when she was in the gutter!)

Would you advise your brother/son to marry someone merely on grounds the person paid for your uni? I think it is a very Stewpid risk. Has always been and should be discouraged, not encouraged in any way.

DoctorStanley:
Believe the OP, life is complicated enough without marrying someone you'd then have to brush up. Besides, she could feel she had no need to be "brushed up", infact feel that as an insult - if you felt she wasn't good enough did she force you to marry her??

Plain logic.😀Mehn I tire oo

[quote author=DoctorStanley post=136474090]Believe the OP, life is complicated enough without marrying someone you'd then have to brush up. Besides, she could feel she had no need to be "brushed up", infact feel that as an insult - if you felt she wasn't good enough did she force you to marry her??[/quote] Plain logic.😀Mehn I tire oo

dederocs:
Absolutely, the only reason you will rather go for a woman with money is because you don't have enough for both of you...some men prefer service and at the end of the day, service is what we all are making money for.

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