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I was just pondering why society should expect faithfulness from young men who toiled so hard to get to a commendable level in life. This same society has made it clear that men are nothing without money. That their value only lies in what they can provide financially and materially. That is why that girl you are dating has many friends with benefits that you are not aware of.

Why do you think you can tame men on both sides? You expect them to stay out of relationships because they cannot provide your material needs, but still want them to be faithful when they have toiled hard to attain success unsupported. That is unrealistic.

The ideology of our modern society: Men should not date when they are not financially buoyant, women can date as many men as possible no matter how broke they are. Men should be faithful in relationship irrespective of finance. What a joke!

Many guys these days do not care about relationships or romance. They are focusing on their success. But make you nor expect faithfulness from them wen their hand touch money, or else you go cry nwii for inside Nnewi.

I agree. Most women just want a rich simp they can control and manipulate.

If you make money enjoy your life. Even Dangote has mistresses.

Lovely post.

Watch as the nonvirgins yell and rant on here.

And the funny thing is, no matter how much you provide, the woman will most likely cheat on you for the few things you can't provide. Society is rigged against men. Do what you can to enjoy life as much as possible but stay within the law. Don't let anyone dictate what you should or shouldn't do.

Life is a choice; life is a personal race. Do what you want with your life. Stop this society talk. Society is no God. Society isn't you.

It's about CONTROL and to secure the bag, they don't necessarily love you for whom you are.

Faithfulness is the deceptive word.

Na you know the kind of women you flock with.
I built myself alongside my wife as my most supportive ally.... So yes! We both expect faithfulness from each other.

I've come to understand that relationships or marriage may not be essential for men. If you want to lead a peaceful life as a man, it's best to steer clear of relationships or marriage, as they can lead to problems. They tend to work out well for only a small number of men, not for all.

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Rubbish talk.

No one is expecting faithfulness from a man just give sincerity .
You cant be telling someone she is the only one and dodging to do it, are you even a man if you do that .

samuelson06:
Life is a choice; life is a personal race. Do what you want with your life. Stop this society talk. Society is no God. Society isn't you.

Are you living under a rock?

Look around you and see if society is not shaping your very existence

I am with a man who I believe is successful and he gives faithfulness. He doesn't see it as a herculean expectation. It is his personal choice and respect for himself and his body.

If you want to be a community gbola, feel free to do so. Society wouldn't stop you. Many men have done it and none has been jailed to the best of my knowledge.

Which society and what relationship? Society only criticizes poor or unsuccessful men

Rich men are not encumbered in any way

In this modern world, no one but God should dictate how you live your life.

If your wife is successful, don't expect her to be faithful.

That's how your mindset sounds.

It's possible to be faithful. I mean, she too could have steered clear from relationship while you were doing same. You made your money, she made hers. You have your money, she's not begging

If you expect her to be faithful, there's nothing wrong in her expecting same from you.

Successful men have nothing to do with faithfulness to a girl who will not share bills

Shaman Shamah reply cracked my ribs.

'Men we have a meeting tomorrow'

A hegoat will always be a hegoat, be it poor or rich. The difference is that the poor hegoat will be pursuing any available shegoat on heat within its vicinity while the rich hegoat can go miles to look for many breeds of shegoats.

Obakoolex:
Na you know the kind of women you flock with.
I built myself alongside my wife as my most supportive ally.... So yes! We both expect faithfulness from each other.

It is jus you talking
Talking along the line of discussion with OPEN mind

Relationship as much as life in Nigeria is based on transactions-money goes for sex and vice versa, nothing concrete anymore and the same society expect a struggling nigga to be faithful when he stuck the goldmine, they must be joking, let him decide to be faithful if he so want to and not society dictating to him. Where was the society when he was sweating it out with his voice unheard.

Meanwhile, in a society like ours where many worshipped money, people true worth are tie to it doesn't matter if they have the money or not. What do you expect, shambles and more shambles.

It's more prevalent in our political classes that it has found a way to the heart of the common man on the streets, it's bleak.

Well, the specie called MAN was created to be in charge of God's creation. God who handed over that mandate to man was faithful in His work. Man was created to provide, take care of those under him and reflect that character of FAITHFULNESS to his seed. The society is warped and so it keeps shifting the goalpost but God's standard is sure and never bending. The original order for man is to remain faithful to God and his household.

So, I understand the pain that comes with not getting financially stable early, and the challenge women bring on the other hand. Every man must understand that women are HELPERS. HELP MEET. The office of a MAN can never be filled in by a woman. So, it is required of men to be faithful to God. It is in staying faithful to our call as MEN that it spills to our family. I am faithful to my wife because I am faithful to God. Faithfulness to God requires that I love my wife unconditionally. I don't take instructions from society. I take instructions from God.

They should be of an exemplary good conduct of what they do, not only in their career but marital life.Many are looking up to them.

jmoore:
A hegoat will always be a hegoat, be it poor or rich. The difference is that the poor hegoat will be pursuing any available shegoat on heat within its vicinity while the rich hegoat can go miles to look for many breeds of shegoats.

Well said. I wonder why they bring up this topic and act like the bulk of cheating Nigerian men (and even women) are rich rich.

Funny goaty description. 😂😂😂

What do you define successful?? If its more money its not. Our ancestors were not successful but they took care of their wives.

Any man that can take properly care of himself should be able to take care of his partner

There is a connection you will have with a woman, only her will have access to your third leg. Jumping from one pot to another is uttterly dumb

Obakoolex:
Na you know the kind of women you flock with.
I built myself alongside my wife as my most supportive ally.... So yes! We both expect faithfulness from each other.

real partnership is purely defined as this. But one cannot use are lucky chance to think it easy. Many people have habit that will affect there requirements and screening for right partners. It nature, we let biology take over first, then ride the errors with regret.

I wonder o
IT'S FOOLISHNESS
A successful man is not made for one woman.
It's not fair to just have one honestly.
-They'll not accept you when you're broke.

-They'll broke-shame even though you're likely doing better than their father and brothers

MOST PAINFULLY, THEY'LL EXPLORE ALL THEIR OPTIONS, RIDE WHOEVER THEY WANT, DOUBLE DATE, GATHER BODY COUNT, MANIPULATE YOU ETC

- They never stay faithful and loyal to you ALONE. But the moment you start doing well and can now have options too, THEY'LL START COMPLAINING AND EXPECT YOU TO STAY COMMITTED AND LOYAL TO THEM ALONE.
Especially when they're becoming old, in their decline and don't have much opinions again.

Many will even date married men join, and when they now marry, they'll expect their own husband to stay loyal to them alone...

God forbid, I'LL USE MY OWN OPTIONS TOO AS MUCH AS I COULD.

UNA GO CRY TIRE

Rapmoney:
I was just pondering why society should expect faithfulness from young men who toiled so hard to get to a commendable level in life. This same society has made it clear that men are nothing without money. That their value only lies in what they can provide financially and materially. That is why that girl you are dating has many friends with benefits that you are not aware of.

Why do you think you can tame men on both sides? You expect them to stay out of relationships because they cannot provide your material needs, but still want them to be faithful when they have toiled hard to attain success unsupported. That is unrealistic.

The ideology of our modern society: Men should not date when they are not financially buoyant, women can date as many men as possible no matter how broke they are. Men should be faithful in relationship irrespective of finance. What a joke!

Many guys these days do not care about relationships or romance. They are focusing on their success. But make you nor expect faithfulness from them wen their hand touch money, or else you go cry nwii for inside Nnewi.

Everything is monetize in this current times, this days no girl want a guy who doesn’t press money

That’s a sign of failed leadership in the country, let’s assume we are in Germany for instance as a young person you will definitely get a stipend from govt if you aren’t working, that can pay your bills without howling around to find a guy that will shoulder your responsibilities, this is why most girls abroad don’t love you for material things, I am not judging anyone but the people in govt who put our country in this situation the country has failed our people to think is a man responsibility to care for them when they are in relationship.

Is it too much to be faithful?

Why is this a question?

It's quite appalling that society expects men to be faithful to one woman, known as the wife, when about 99% of the so-called wives had squandered their prime and were just lucky.

Yet, when they get to animal husbandry, theyd pair a male animal with five females or more...



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