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Rapmoney:
I was just pondering why society should expect faithfulness from young men who toiled so hard to get to a commendable level in life. This same society has made it clear that men are nothing without money. That their value only lies in what they can provide financially and materially. That is why that girl you are dating has many friends with benefits that you are not aware of.

Why do you think you can tame men on both sides? You expect them to stay out of relationships because they cannot provide your material needs, but still want them to be faithful when they have toiled hard to attain success unsupported. That is unrealistic.

The ideology of our modern society: Men should not date when they are not financially buoyant, women can date as many men as possible no matter how broke they are. Men should be faithful in relationship irrespective of finance. What a joke!

Many guys these days do not care about relationships or romance. They are focusing on their success. But make you nor expect faithfulness from them wen their hand touch money, or else you go cry nwii for inside Nnewi.

Modern day society is against successful men. They won't say it openly but simple actions will show.

Badadvisor:
You don't have a man

Okay...

There is absolutely NO reason why a "successful" man shouldn't be faithful to his wife

A lot of successful men are, regardless of how other women throw themselves at them, and thats admirable

ZeemsPropeties:
Accepting the reality is the same as complaining? No one is complaining about anything. I'm saying accept the reality and plan around it.

you did not answer my questions.

are you the one that rigged society against men?

do you not think you are now sounding like women who complain that because they are women, they do not stand a chance?

Obakoolex:
Na you know the kind of women you flock with.
I built myself alongside my wife as my most supportive ally.... So yes! We both expect faithfulness from each other.

God bless

lexy2014:
you did not answer my questions.

are you the one that rigged society against men?

do you not think you are now sounding like women who complain that because they are women, they do not stand a chance?

You are in the mood to argue, I am not. Have a great day, sir.

pocohantas:
Show me one men-are-scum post from my moniker and I will transfer 500k to you this minute. I didn't just date a man. I married him. I hope you can do same to a woman and she speaks well of you like I just did.

Is this challenge open to everybody abi just him?

ZeemsPropeties:
You are in the mood to argue, I am not. Have a great day, sir.

Can you show me the "argue" you talking about?

When questions become "argue"?

are you the one that rigged society against men?

do you not think you are now sounding like women who complain that because they are women, they do not stand a chance?

Rapmoney:
Men should not date when they are not financially buoyant, women can date as many men as possible no matter how broke they are. Men should be faithful in relationship irrespective of finance. What a joke!

Thank you o. Men are forbidden to date or marry when they don't have money but must still be faithful to one woman when they finally made it financially. Joke

AbokiWam:
Is this challenge open to everybody abi just him?

Anybody...

No one gaf
3/4 of the people crying here don't have 2 Kobo to rub together
There are more important things in the world than what people do with their genitals.

AbokiWam:
I wanted to retract before you mention came in.

Well you have always been careful not to type it directly
But there was a fall.
I also saw you have made the same statement around 2018( about not writing the Men are some* word

Here you go..Kindly find below.

Mtcheeeew... that is your evidence?

This?
https://www.nairaland.com/1016929/diaries-section-chat-room/1109#112326322

Hahahahaha! I don't need to be careful dear. If it existed, you won't have to go bring an obvious joke as evidence. Fall indeed.

You can use the whole year to find one.
Take your time. Okay?

Obakoolex:
Na you know the kind of women you flock with.
I built myself alongside my wife as my most supportive ally.... So yes! We both expect faithfulness from each other.

First go run DNA test for your kids, before you dey talk about faithfulness there. Una matter dey tire me. Na woman you dey bold trust 🤣

pocohantas:
I don't care if you do. My husband doesn't want me to subsidise his load. Like I said, he is successful and very capable. When you marry your own, do 60:40 with her. Let her prove her worth to you.

gbam!

Qualityoffer:
Husband? Whereas no form of wedding nor bride price was paid and the man refusing to do any of that now that you have delivered.

Come and help him do it.
Make I fit see front.😀😀

jmoore:
If your wife is successful, don't expect her to be faithful.


That's how your mindset sounds.

You don't see the joke, do men expect women to be successful before starting relationship with them? That's where all these is coming from.

RandomFellow:
It's possible to be faithful. I mean, she too could have steered clear from relationship while you were doing same. You made your money, she made hers. You have your money, she's not begging

If you expect her to be faithful, there's nothing wrong in her expecting same from you.

Even the successful ladies are expecting that tgeir money is for savings while yours is for spending, is as if you aren't part of the world anymore.

Obakoolex:
Na you know the kind of women you flock with.
I built myself alongside my wife as my most supportive ally.... So yes! We both expect faithfulness from each other.

You are lucky, may your union remain blessed!

pocohantas:
Come and help him do it.
Make I fit see front.😀😀

And a successful man you said he is? A struggling man who lied to you about his true worth and almost every other thing. Well, success is subjective. My point in all this is that, a man who lied to you about almost everything cannot be the faithful man you want us to believe he is on this thread.

Qualityoffer:
And a successful man you said he is? A struggling man who lied to you about his true worth and almost every other thing. Well, success is subjective. My point in all this is that, a man who lied to you about almost everything cannot be the faithful man you want us to believe he is on this thread.

Tell me more...
So you mean he is broke?
I don't want you to believe. You are the one overrating yourself. I said he is faithful. 😀😀

Obakoolex:
Na you know the kind of women you flock with.
I built myself alongside my wife as my most supportive ally.... So yes! We both expect faithfulness from each other.

What works for Mr A may not work for Mr B.


Just count yourself among the few lucky ones

Dear op, life generally is very unfair to broke & poor men, it's sad, there is nothing anyone can do about it.

Nobody dictates anything for the rich, people only talk on the side.


With my little years on earth and my little exposure within and outside Nigeria, and from my little encounter with different class of rich men (black, white, India, Chinese), I have come to realize that all men are the same (naturally wired to want to have sex with as many women they find physically and sexually attractive as possible). This natural desire or natural form of men can only be tamed by:


1.) Commitment to religious doctrine and fear of spiritual rewards based on the man's religious beliefs

2.) Societal status; a very popular or respected man in the society may crave to have some off pitch game with one or two ladies he is attracted to, but most times when he remembers what is at stake, the potential scandal, what people would say and how it will affect his reputation, he may sheath his sword and wait till he travels to far away land where nobody knows him much to fulfill that natural craven.


3.) fear of the consequences; this is mostly applicable to men living in western countries with very skewed divorce laws that favor women more. When he remembers the financial and material consequences of playing away match, he may abort the mission till he gets a clear coast someday, somewhere lol


4.) Natural occurrence; this include those that are impotent from birth (eunuchs), and those that suddenly became one due to health challenges and aging.



op my point is this, forget what the society thinks, rich men are still doing what rich men do, or do you think Bible made a mistake when it said that it will be easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter heaven? There are so many temptations and distractions for a rich man not to misbehave once in a while, it's natural and any woman married to a rich man and thinking or believing that he is mating with only her is just daydreaming, unless the man is a very popular religious leader who out of spiritual consequences and for the sake of his ministry or religious status mastered the act of staying away from playing away match.


I am not even rich, but I know the pressure. I see it in reality. So ignore what the society thinks or says, just focus on financial freedom so that you can understand how this life works. When u get to a certain stage in life as a man, u will stop paying attention to such topics cos reality is different


My only advice to u is this; when u achieve financial freedom, don't tell your wife that u will not be faithful to her, don't tell her u will cheat cos all women hate it even though they know the truth about men and life, just do your thing and be a good husband to your wife. Respect her emotion. If you must cheat, cheat with caution and discretion. Successful men don't go about chasing girls around their vicinity or workplace or business environments, only foolish ones do, if you must do, lol, just wait till you get to that stage in life, forget about society, you guys should stop bringing topics like this on social media cos married ladies are also reading lol, u are breaking their hearts and making them increase their surveillance over their husbisss


Let's focus on how to make Nigeria work so that more Nigerian guys can achieve financial freedom and live the life of their dreams, life is good if u have money hehe, let me stop here,


God have mercy on me the unworthy sinner like you did for King David

Obakoolex:
Na you know the kind of women you flock with.
I built myself alongside my wife as my most supportive ally.... So yes! We both expect faithfulness from each other.

Jargons!

Just because you built yourself with your wife doesn't mean his assertion isn't true.

Folks just deflate without addressing matter.

My issue is married women withholding sex from their husbands. Aside from outsiders dictating to someone how to spend their money, there is nothing I detest than a married woman who deliberately denies her husband sex even when the man fulfills his side of being a husband.

The tales from married men of being denied sex, begging for sex and doing all sorts just to make their wives happy all in the bid to get sex is very worrisome. At the same time, the man gets criticised when he goes outside. I'm yet to read any pastor talk about this issue.

RodgersAkpafu:
There is absolutely NO reason why a "successful" man shouldn't be faithful to his wife

A lot of successful men are, regardless of how other women throw themselves at them, and thats admirable

What do you say about wives who deny their husbands sex?

Any rich man that is faithful to one woman is a dund.dee. Same woman will not look you when you are broke or if you become broke tomorrow.

Until women stop looking down on broke men, they don't deserve faithfulness from a successful man.