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I've been reading from page 1 and I can say I actually comend the op for bringing this up..

Once again the hypocrisy of the women is been uncovered as usual.. They act like they did not see the post..

Lemme summarize, op said when men are broke, they are shamed, they are told not to come close to a woman, they are told to go and make money etc but when the money has been made, the same society will tell them to be "faithful" to one woman..

The women know about this, the ones commenting up there are aware about this stereotype but once again they say nothing because it favors them..

This must change... Men besides the fact that discipline and focus is our watchword and toiling through the years, we realize that women become more of a property than an asset.. Used for fun and "cruise" as Gen z will say...

I personally was broke shamed countless times, more times than I could remember from females, when I later had money, I broke hearts, clapped cheeks and had multiple females..

It went from comeuppance to craving to fun and now nothing... Society wasn't fair on this particular issue...

Someone once said "them say make I get money before I get girlfriend, but now my money go fit carry three girls, wetin I go do?"

As for me, make money have fun, marry late keep something for the kids incase you clock out early... Dazoll..

pocohantas:
Okay...

Five stages of greiving for his sadistic soul. 😅

Phut:
Five stages of greiving for his sadistic soul. 😅

Lol. Tomorrow he would claim I said I don't need a man in 1982. 😂😂😂

omooba969:
It's about CONTROL to secure the bag, they don't necessarily love you for whom you are.

Faithfulness is the deceptive word.

Very true

Gerrard59:
My issue is married women withholding sex from their husbands. Aside from outsiders dictating to someone how to spend their money, there is nothing I detest than a married woman who deliberately denies her husband sex even when the man fulfills his side of being a husband.

The tales from married men of being denied sex, begging for sex and doing all sorts just to make their wives happy all in the bid to get sex is very worrisome. At the same time, the man gets criticised when he goes outside. I'm yet to read any pastor talk about this issue.

I think most times, the women are too comfortable in the marriage.
Don't get it twisted, women on average like sex just as men.
The same women withholding sex will do nasty things with a junkie outside or start having sex for survival regularly in the man divorces her or the she becomes a widow and needs to survive on a relationship.
The painful truth the society is shying away from is that for most women to perform, they have to be on a slight pressure and not on a relax mode - polygamy if it is affordable (so that it will be in a woman's interest to keep performing to her hubby, else would be pushed aside and forgotten) or a man should forget marriage and just keep women in relationships, that way, it is in her best interest to be having sex regularly with her boyfriend else, the man has a good excuse for dating someone else which may lead to kicking her out.
The best solution to a non-challant attitude or laziness is OPTIONS.
Workers would keep working lazily and keep raising their demands until they know they can be easily replaced, then they buckle up and start putting their best in order not to get out of job

emmaodet:
I think most times, the women are too comfortable in the marriage.
Don't get it twisted, women on average like sex just as men.
The same women withholding sex will do nasty things with a junkie outside or start having sex for survival regularly in the man divorces her or the she becomes a widow and needs to survive on a relationship.

If so, then these women don't like their husbands. Else, why would a woman deliberately withold sex from her husband even when she enjoys it? The same woman won't stay without mocking or disrespecting the man if he doesn't provide. So why is provision constant, but adequate and frequent sex isn't? Her husband o

The painful truth the society is shying away from is that for most women to perform, they have to be on a slight pressure and not on a relax mode - polygamy if it is affordable (so that it will be in a woman's interest to keep performing to her hubby, else would be pushed aside and forgotten) or a man should forget marriage and just keep women in relationships, that way, it is in her best interest to be having sex regularly with her boyfriend else, the man has a good excuse for dating someone else which may lead to kicking her out.
The best solution to a non-challant attitude or laziness is OPTIONS.

Unfortunately, the side chicking model hasn't made these women to prioritise sex for their husbands. I think they actually like it as long as the man provides, except in cases where he transmit a disease or the lady (mostly financially stable) decides to opt out. But the dishonesty from women about the issue detest me. Men know that provision is essential, but women deny theirs. Then, you have some who say frequent ejaculation doesn't reduce the occurrence of prostate cancer (which is lie as frequent ejaculation reduces the occurrence) or those who arrogantly ask: Is sex food?

I really loathe dishonest people! I really do!

ExudeLoveToAll:
You don't see the joke, do men expect women to be successful before starting relationship with them? That's where all these is coming from.

Joke ke? There's nothing funny there.

Frustration is not a joke. There are many poor men that are married, so the topic doesn't even make sense.

Just dey play my fans.....just dey play

autoez:
I've come to understand that relationships or marriage may not be essential for men. If you want to lead a peaceful life as a man, it's best to steer clear of relationships or marriage, as they can lead to problems. They tend to work out well for only a small number of men, not for all.

But you obviously don't believe he his successful according to your submission. Just dey play my fans.

pocohantas:
I am with a man who I believe is successful and he gives faithfulness. He doesn't see it as a herculean expectation. It is his personal choice and respect for himself and his body.

If you want to be a community gbola, feel free to do so. Society wouldn't stop you. Many men have done it and none has been jailed to the best of my knowledge.

Gerrard59:
What do you say about wives who deny their husbands sex?

That's terrible to say the very least

Streamz:


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Things that the earth cannot bear up according to the book of proverbs; an unloved feminist when she finally gets a husband...
We no go hear word again. Chai. Wahala

Bimboscoo:
But you obviously don't believe he his successful according to your submission. Just dey play my fans.

You will be fine, I promise.

Proudlyngwa:
Rubbish talk.

No one is expecting faithfulness from a man just give sincerity .
You cant be telling someone she is the only one and dodging to do it, are you even a man if you do that .

Then God that created only one man and one woman at the beginning of creation doesn't know exactly what he is doing.

Proudlyngwa:
Rubbish talk.

No one is expecting faithfulness from a man just give sincerity .
You cant be telling someone she is the only one and dodging to do it, are you even a man if you do that .

Then God that created only one man and one woman at the beginning of creation doesn't know exactly what he is doing.

Mrexcell:
Then God that created only one man and one woman at the beginning of creation doesn't know exactly what he is doing.

You were there when God was creating only one man and one woman at the beginning abi.

Anyway Man lost that grace.

Till then