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tanigororo:
I no understand, so he need her permission to bring his own mother to his own house.
Make she go her Papa house if she doesn't want the responsibility.

Sonnobax15:

May we no marry werey as our partner,to spend the rest of our life with

Would she had refused if it was to be her own mother?

Na this kind of wife dey use attitude dey chase her husband family people from her husband simply because she sees them as a threat to their home

A woman who can't see and take her mother in-law to be like or even to be her own mother is a big red flag....

To think I once dated a girl who jokingly told me that she was happy my mom was late,cuz she wouldn't have loved to want a mother in-law,na from that day I realize say na agric fowl I dey date..

Caaz:
You failed to get the point.
The point is who's going to take and provide extra care for the mother?most men dump their mum on their wives to care for,not minding the wives are also caring for the Kids,herself,husband and the home.


The best person to care for the mum are the daughters,so its best the mum goes to the house of her daughter.

We4all:
You are 33 with an 11 year old son. So, let me assume you married at 21 or had a son at 21. What was chasing you to start a family that early?

Kobojunkie:
It is one thing to have your mother visit as a guest for a day or two, but having her over on a longstay or worse, because she is sick, then you need to be upfront and better negotiate her stay and care with your marriage partner.

Does the man and his wife have space for her during her stay? Will the man be responsible for his mother's care throughout her stay, or is this a ploy to bring in another human burden for his wife to have to deal with? Conversely, the man can easily send his mother to a care home or something where she would be better cared for.

Chilipepper:
Nigerian man laments after his wife refused his request to bring his sick mother to their house

Kobojunkie:
It is one thing to have your mother visit as a guest for a day or two, but having her over on a longstay or worse, because she is sick, then you need to be upfront and better negotiate her stay and care with your marriage partner.

Does the man and his wife have space for her during her stay? Will the man be responsible for his mother's care throughout her stay, or is this a ploy to bring in another human burden for his wife to have to deal with? Conversely, the man can easily send his mother to a care home or something where she would be better cared for.

Kobojunkie:
I don't think it is fair to suggest that the man's sister take care of her mother. She has her own life just as he does. They could both take turns in personally caring for their mother... after all, she is their mother, not just their sister's mother.

Kobojunkie:
It is one thing to have your mother visit as a guest for a day or two, but having her over on a longstay or worse, because she is sick, then you need to be upfront and better negotiate her stay and care with your marriage partner.

Does the man and his wife have space for her during her stay? Will the man be responsible for his mother's care throughout her stay, or is this a ploy to bring in another human burden for his wife to have to deal with? Conversely, the man can easily send his mother to a care home or something where she would be better cared for.

tanigororo:
I no understand, so he need her permission to bring his own mother to his own house.
Make she go her Papa house if she doesn't want the responsibility.

Mabuggi88:
Who be this one

Chilipepper:
What happened to the husband's sisters? If the man is not married, who will take care of the mum?

And to your comment, a reasonable man know that in situations like this, he needs 100% permission from his wife because who will be taking care of the mum? Is not the same wife? abeg try dey reason somethings well before you talk am out.

tanigororo:
I no understand, so he need her permission to bring his own mother to his own house.
Make she go her Papa house if she doesn't want the responsibility.