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mariovito:
Very debatable and nuanced subject

Especially as traditionally, an African man can't cheat.

EbereGod:
It's fallacious to say that all men cheat.
Truth is, women cheat faster than men.
Gone are the days when women were sexually reserved, these days, many don't care.

Many Nigerian men who cheat pay for it through cash or kind, so this translates to a transactional deal when the " seller" gets the top deal.

When I see guys who brag about their sexual spree, I laugh. You're not really enjoying, she is.

EbereGod:
It's fallacious to say that all men cheat.
Truth is, women cheat faster than men.
Gone are the days when women were sexually reserved, these days, many don't care.

Many Nigerian men who cheat pay for it through cash or kind, so this translates to a transactional deal when the " seller" gets the top deal.

When I see guys who brag about their sexual spree, I laugh. You're not really enjoying, she is.

PastorKosi:
✅ What the Facts Say:
Not all men cheat. Many men are committed, faithful, and value loyalty in their relationships.
Studies show that both men and women cheat, but not all do.
Research from the Institute for Family Studies shows that about 20% of men and 13% of women have admitted to cheating at some point — meaning 80% of men have not.
Cheating depends more on character, values, emotional maturity, and circumstances, not just gender.

🚫 Why the Statement Is Problematic:
It promotes cynicism and distrust in relationships.
It can justify bad behavior, as if it’s normal or expected.
It unfairly condemns good, loyal men.
It may cause women to settle for less or stay in unhealthy relationships out of fear that “all men are the same.”

🧠 What Actually Influences Cheating:
Lack of self-control
Unresolved trauma or insecurity
Poor communication
Opportunity and secrecy
Wrong values or peer pressure

✅ Healthy Approach:
Instead of believing “all men cheat,” it’s better to say:
“Some men cheat, but not all. I choose to value and pursue trust, honesty, and faithfulness.”
If you’ve been hurt before, your feelings are valid. But don’t let the pain define the whole gender — good men still exist

cr7lomo:
Any man that has money will most likely cheT.. especially if thee opportunity presents itself....its natural thing...modernity is just forcing against nature .... a man is not meant to be with one woman.. naturally... its nature

PastorKosi:
✅ What the Facts Say:
Not all men cheat. Many men are committed, faithful, and value loyalty in their relationships.
Studies show that both men and women cheat, but not all do.
Research from the Institute for Family Studies shows that about 20% of men and 13% of women have admitted to cheating at some point — meaning 80% of men have not.
Cheating depends more on character, values, emotional maturity, and circumstances, not just gender.

🚫 Why the Statement Is Problematic:
It promotes cynicism and distrust in relationships.
It can justify bad behavior, as if it’s normal or expected.
It unfairly condemns good, loyal men.
It may cause women to settle for less or stay in unhealthy relationships out of fear that “all men are the same.”

🧠 What Actually Influences Cheating:
Lack of self-control
Unresolved trauma or insecurity
Poor communication
Opportunity and secrecy
Wrong values or peer pressure

✅ Healthy Approach:
Instead of believing “all men cheat,” it’s better to say:
“Some men cheat, but not all. I choose to value and pursue trust, honesty, and faithfulness.”
If you’ve been hurt before, your feelings are valid. But don’t let the pain define the whole gender — good men still exist

MakindeHassan:
Not all men are serial cheaters however you can only boast that you are not a cheat after marrying and staying with one woman all your life without looking at another.

Some men are more disciplined than others and might have an affair once or twice in their lifetime as opposed to those who chase everything under skirt. But that doesn’t mean men are wired to just be with one woman, it’s just self control and discipline. Men can love two or more women.

I just laugh at all these young unmarried guys that sometimes feel holier than thou and brag that they don’t cheat. Live with a woman first for 10-15 years watching her sleep, eat, use the bathroom, get fat and not be attracted to anyone outside all that time before you can brag of your faithfulness.

isaaclech:
It is true, men cheat but we just cheat with ourselves i mean men, we cheat with women can’t stay faithful in their own relationship. So everybody dey cheat, just leave the mata like that.

cr7lomo:
Any man that has money will most likely cheT.. especially if thee opportunity presents itself....its natural thing...modernity is just forcing against nature .... a man is not meant to be with one woman.. naturally... its nature