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This is arising from a thread which recently hit frontpage regarding a guy who outlined how he spends less than 80k monthly to maintain his "girlfriend"...Off the bat, I think the guy got a very good deal, considering he is sleeping with her regularly ...

Considering how much it will cost him to engage hook-up girls for say 3 times a month to release sperm/tension which also services his prostate, he has a good deal with the girl..

Going by what he said, he spends less than 80k monthly on her ...That's quite a good deal for sex-on-demand... That's a reasonable vagina retainer I guess

Only problem he might have is if he self-deceives himself into believing he is the only one retaining the vagina...As long as one doesn't mislead oneself into thinking he alone possesses such vaginas, a man will be fine until he gets married and more priorities enter the equation.

Contrary to popular opinion and the now rampant "Gehgeh" school of thought, I think having a girlfriend is a cheaper way to have sex, as opposed to hook-up...At least I know that in Abuja, ordering hook-up is at least 50k per night...can go up to 500k or more of you go looking for the very "classy" ones....That's unless you wanna go scraping the slimy bottom of the prostitution barrel like the menopausal or "slightly obviously sick" ones

If one avoids the expensive and everly needy women, and most especially those "no-sex" women, while going for "naive" or "cheap" girls who one can sleep with regularly under the pretence of "love and dating" , one will be getting a far better sex deal financially compared to having to order hook-up ever so often.

And I think it's quite a misconception that sex is overrated for men....Regular sex helps keep the mind sharp and as a matter of fact which has been medically proven, sex leading to regular ejaculation keeps men's prostate healthy...and we all need our prostate healthy, don't we?

Long story short...Men need regular sex if not for anything, for its health benefits..and the world is such that sex hardly ever comes for free ...You can choose the "Gehgeh" way of not ever giving women money, and masturbate yourself into total loss of erection, or until your penis skin peels off...Or you can be more reasonable by cutting your coat according to your cloth and get sex while "being in love" .

So who no get money no go knack woman. Maybe you don't understand women bro. Those broke niggas will knack your girlfriend that she will be cheating without you noticing. Carry woman matter for head at your own risk.

Cum4me:
So who no get money no go knack woman. Maybe you don't understand women bro. Those broke niggas will knack your girlfriend that she will be cheating without you noticing. Carry woman matter for head at your own risk.

You obviously didn't read what I said about not trying to personalize the vagina...What broke niggas are or aren't doing isn't my business.

If armed robbers rape your girlfriend who told you "no-sex", does that mean you should now become an armed robber so that you can collect your own free poosee?

Abi I should become broke so I can join broke niggas smashing for free, or what exactly are you saying?

Abi because refugees collect free rice from refugee camps, I should leave buying rice in the market and join them even when I can afford to buy it?

It all sex, nothing else just sex. How over the years we have degraded to the level of animals and still could not see it, puzzled me.

AllBlack:
He is sleeping with her so?
Is she not sleeping with him?
Is she paying for shelter?
What about all the ad-ons she is getting?
What else?

See the way you are happily talking like he is getting any security or value by reason of her presence.
If a thief comes to the house at night, will she protect him?
what if she sleeps and never wakes up?
Who does the heavy lifting in the sham you call a VERY GOOD DEAL?

You just sat down and cooked another well disguised SIMPlistic DOCTRINE but your facade is made of glass and the BoooLSHT has been spotted.

In all regards, what do you do as regards women, you don't spend a dime, or you don't have sex, I think gone are the days where u get it with singing Westlife, I feel every man spends on the coochie directly or indirectly, stop feeling macho at all time.
The guy was spending 30k, if his income is fair,
Ona nai DAE pay OS with no bobby, no kiss, no head, u go still pay like 20k.
He could get other benefits ranging from washing, cooking etc.

Chaii
Relationship na another Almajiri scheme😎

Why is it sounding like the guy is the only one benefiting...?

Or she is doing him a favor by being with him.



So he has to pay for service rendered.

I think Nigerian guys are the architect of their own problem with these kind of mentality.

Even in the west where this "woke" mentality is originating from relationships aren't this monetized.

Nigerian men have monetized relationships so much that the women have become used to it and have taken it to another level and then the guys are coming-out to cry foul that women like money too much... entitlement etc.

It's when a man doesn't have anything to offer or is too desperate that he tries to entice ladies with money!

Guy toto na toto no matter what, ashawo for my side na 1k

Op is the type to commit suicide if she finally break up with him after spending 80k monthly

Continue running Charity organizations

Gggjhhj:
In all regards, what do you do as regards women, you don't spend a dime, or you don't have sex, I think gone are the days where u get it with singing Westlife, I feel every man spends on the coochie directly or indirectly, stop feeling macho at all time.
The guy was spending 30k, if his income is fair,
Ona nai DAE pay OS with no bobby, no kiss, no head, u go still pay like 20k.
He could get other benefits ranging from washing, cooking etc.

Brother... My write up was incomplete (now done) because of Chelsea FC euphoria and sleep but my mind was intact tho.

you are right. Any matured man pays one way or the other but na sense we dey take run am. why? so that the day way konjii comes calling, she will not hang you.

You are wrong (not entirely). We went from sweetmouth to sweet life. Yes we are grown now and you have to spend heavily on yourself from subtle detailed fashion updates to perfumes and financial ability to even buy beer & pepper soup for a babe and say the right words that will make her reason your matter. Many times I have been taken to "the back" for a quickie just because of internationally implanted aura. Finally you spent MORE on yourself and less on O.S and you did it in a way that you have one or two lifelines left (no time to lecture) and if she no wan allign with your splicing, MAKE SHE GO.

Me? Pay OS 20K? No bobby? No HEAD?
Guy where you dey? If say you dey my location I swear I go buy you beer this morning as I dey happy for my club win and call two beautiful, well rounded OS wey go dislocate your left hip and you will not give both of them 20k except you finally choose to do Christmas for them. When they are done with you, na you go start to buy me beer.
Guy forget oh. As a man, take super care of yourself FIRST and look good and dont be socially awkward then you will see magic. Lastly, make you sabi nack. One important thing, avoid guys wey too dey worship babe to the level of paying any babe (O.S or not) more than 3k for nack. Too much talk no dey full basket.

brain54:
Why is it sounding like the guy is the only one benefiting...?

Or she is doing him a favor by being with him.



So he has to pay for service rendered?

I think guys are the architect of their own problem with these kind of mentality.

Even in the west where this "woke" mentality is originating from relationships aren't this monetized.

Nigerian men have monetized relationships so much that the women have taken it to another level and then the guys are coming-out to cry foul that women like money too much.

It's when a man doesn't have anything to offer that he tries to entice ladies with money!

You've put it together brilliantly

Os and girlfriend no too get difference...


The earlier you know, the better for you...


I don talk my own...

buygala:
This is arising from a thread which recently hit frontpage regarding a guy who outlined how he spends less than 80k monthly to maintain his "girlfriend"...Off the bat, I think the guy got a very good deal, considering he is sleeping with her regularly ...

Considering how much it will cost him to engage hook-up girls for say 3 times a month to release sperm/tension which also services his prostate, he has a good deal with the girl..

Going by what he said, he spends less than 80k monthly on her ...That's quite a good deal for sex-on-demand... That's a reasonable vagina retainer I guess

Only problem he might have is if he self-deceives himself into believing he is the only one retaining the vagina...As long as one doesn't mislead oneself into thinking he alone possesses such vaginas, a man will be fine until he gets married and more priorities enter the equation.

Contrary to popular opinion and the now rampant "Gehgeh" school of thought, I think having a girlfriend is a cheaper way to have sex, as opposed to hook-up...At least I know that in Abuja, ordering hook-up is at least 50k per night...can go up to 500k or more of you go looking for the very "classy" ones....That's unless you wanna go scraping the slimy bottom of the prostitution barrel like the menopausal or "slightly obviously sick" ones

If one avoids the expensive and everly needy women, and most especially those "no-sex" women, while going for "naive" or "cheap" girls who one can sleep with regularly under the pretence of "love and dating" , one will be getting a far better sex deal financially compared to having to order hook-up ever so often.

And I think it's quite a misconception that sex is overrated for men....Regular sex helps keep the mind sharp and as a matter of fact which has been medically proven, sex leading to regular ejaculation keeps men's prostate healthy...and we all need our prostate healthy, don't we?

Long story short...Men need regular sex if not for anything, for its health benefits..and the world is such that sex hardly ever comes for free ...You can choose the "Gehgeh" way of not ever giving women money, and masturbate yourself into total loss of erection, or until your penis skin peels off...Or you can be more reasonable by cutting your coat according to your cloth and get sex while "being in love" .

Everything about any business is the advantage of location, quality and bargain skills.
A sachet of pure water is not the same price in Osogbo is not same as Abuja.

AllBlack:
He is sleeping with her so?
Is she not sleeping with him?
Is she paying for shelter?
What about all the ad-ons she is getting?
What else?

See the way you are happily talking like he is getting any security or value by reason of her presence.
If a thief comes to the house at night, will she protect him?
what if she sleeps and never wakes up?
Who does the heavy lifting in the sham you call a VERY GOOD DEAL?

You just sat down and cooked another well disguised SIMPlistic DOCTRINE but your facade is made of glass and the BoooLSHT has been spotted.

Nack her make and pay (the smallest amount possible) if you have to make she commot for your face. Nothing like benefit for there.

Don't mind all this useless boys , they don't even have game ,they are very weak, very soon they will come crying on nairaland of how women dealt with them

Baronthecelebri:
Guy toto na toto no matter what, ashawo for my side na 1k

I can imagine what she looks like.

Yuck!

AllBlack:
MAKE SHE GO.

Me? Pay OS 20K? No bobby? No HEAD?
Guy where you dey? If say you dey my location I swear I go buy you beer this morning as I dey happy for my club win and call two beautiful, well rounded OS wey go dislocate your left hip and you will not give both of them 20k except you finally choose to do Christmas for them. When they are done with you, na you go start to buy me beer.
Guy forget oh. As a man, take super care of yourself FIRST and look good and dont be socially awkward then you will see magic. Lastly, make you sabi nack. One important thing, avoid guys wey too dey worship babe to the level of paying any babe (O.S or not) more than 3k for nack. Too much talk no dey full basket.

The bold is location dependent.

No sex worker in the Lekki-Ajah axis would collect 20K and allow you to suck her breasts and offer BJ. It is not going to happen. I have read where a patron mentioned paying 100K for ONE ROUND in the same Lekki. Yes, ONE ROUND. This talk of "oh for my place, babes dey wey go knack you well for small money" depends on the taste of the patron. It reminds me of when a lad said the same in the Sexuality section, only for another commentator to visit the mentioned area only to regret. This visitor remarked that the place was full of drug takers and dangerous boys. The girls there looked UGLY!

But hey, i gEt wHeRe i dEy pAy 1k yen yen yen!

Show us the picture of these girls and the areas where they charge 1K per round.

buygala:
This is arising from a thread which recently hit frontpage regarding a guy who outlined how he spends less than 80k monthly to maintain his "girlfriend"...Off the bat, I think the guy got a very good deal, considering he is sleeping with her regularly ...Considering how much it will cost him to engage hook-up girls for say 3 times a month to release sperm/tension which also services his prostate, he has a good deal with the girl..Going by what he said, he spends less than 80k monthly on her ...That's quite a good deal for sex-on-demand... That's a reasonable vagina retainer I guess

Only problem he might have is if he self-deceives himself into believing he is the only one retaining the vagina...As long as one doesn't mislead oneself into thinking he alone possesses such vaginas, a man will be fine until he gets married and more priorities enter the equation. Contrary to popular opinion and the now rampant "Gehgeh" school of thought, I think having a girlfriend is a cheaper way to have sex, as opposed to hook-up...At least I know that in Abuja, ordering hook-up is at least 50k per night...can go up to 500k or more of you go looking for the very "classy" ones....That's unless you wanna go scraping the slimy bottom of the prostitution barrel like the menopausal or "slightly obviously sick" ones

Thank you for your post. It challenges the current notion that patronising hookup babes is cheaper than having a girlfriend. However, there are certain factors to consider:

- Our men, especially when they are financially stable, don't stick to one woman for sexual pleasure. So, if he pays her 80K per month yet goes outside for sexual pleasure, then on the whole, it becomes cheaper to patronise sex workers than having a girlfriend.
- There are days the girl will not be sexually ready compared to the man who has raging testosterone every day. On such days, the man will be compelled to go outside. Also, in marriage, we have arrogant women who weaponise sex towards their husbands with the statement, "Is sex food?" Very arrogant lots! Men who are married to such women will have to seek satisfaction elsewhere.

These factors are the reasons why, on paper and number for number, it is cheaper to patronise sex workers than having a GF.

If one avoids the expensive and everly needy women, and most especially those "no-sex" women, while going for "naive" or "cheap" girls who one can sleep with regularly under the pretence of "love and dating" , one will be getting a far better sex deal financially compared to having to order hook-up ever so often.

The bold is a disservice to the man because, whether there is sex or not, a man is expected to spend in a relationship. Relationship or any sort of engagement with a woman as a man is an expense. Women are an expense. A man must spend. This is a global phenomenon. The koko is to have a woman spend on you as much as you spend on her. I think that is where our men fail at - they just spend spend spend without the woman spending on them, even for once!

Dating a "no sex" woman is a failure, except she is a virgin, both vaginal and anal.

And I think it's quite a misconception that sex is overrated for men....Regular sex helps keep the mind sharp and as a matter of fact which has been medically proven, sex leading to regular ejaculation keeps men's prostate healthy...and we all need our prostate healthy, don't we?

Of course! Sex is extremely important to a man's reasoning. Anyone who says otherwise is a liar! If there is anything I detest, it is people who are thoroughly and innately dishonest.

Here are two research statements to support the belief that frequent ejaculation reduces the rate of prostate cancer, which affects Black men more than any other group of men.

- https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0302283816003778?via%3Dihub
- https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/ejaculation_frequency_and_prostate_cancer

Long story short...Men need regular sex if not for anything, for its health benefits..and the world is such that sex hardly ever comes for free ...You can choose the "Gehgeh" way of not ever giving women money, and masturbate yourself into total loss of erection, or until your penis skin peels off...Or you can be more reasonable by cutting your coat according to your cloth and get sex while "being in love"

For one, there is nothing like "free sex". Every man pays for sex via the following ways:
- Cash for hand, aka money for hand, back for ground (the commonest type)
- Commitment, aka marriage. When a man fails to provide, 9 out of 10, the wife refuses to have sex with the man. Even when the man provides and plays his part emotionally, wives still weaponise sex towards their husbands. But that is a story for another day.
- In kind, such as getting a job, contract or sex for grades.

The few cases where a man does not have to pay for sex are when the man is incredibly handsome and/or tall (depending on the location) and a gym instructor. But these cases are not consistent, which is an important factor because men need sex consistently, as we have outlined.

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Good analysis from you, OP.

Gerrard59:
I can imagine what she looks like.

Yuck!

Well, life is in sizes.
That people are paying 100k or more for short-time doesn't mean that is the norm in the society. Abi no be dis Nigeria we dey again?
Looking at people banging for 100k and above as a yardstick is like using people who drives brand new car as a yard-stick for car owners in Nigeria. You have to use the commonest - which is, most use Nigerian used cars and not even tokunbo.
That using a brand new car depends more on location like lekki, Banana Island, Abj doesn't invalidate the fact most uses Nigeria used cars.
The bulk of guys patronizing sex workers will get a short-time at less than 5k per round and less than 20k per night for your average looking lady ( 4 to 7.5 over 10 rated girls).
In Onne as a case study, short time is around 3k and overnight maybe 15/20k and this are good looking PH university girls and other student.

emmaodet:
Well, life is in sizes.
That people are paying 100k or more for short-time doesn't mean that is the norm in the society. Abi no be dis Nigeria we dey again?
Looking at people banging for 100k and above as a yardstick is like using people who drives brand new car as a yard-stick for car owners in Nigeria. You have to use the commonest - which is, most use Nigerian used cars and not even tokunbo.
That using a brand new car depends more on location like lekki, Banana Island, Abj doesn't invalidate the fact most uses Nigeria used cars.
The bulk of guys patronizing sex workers will get a short-time at less than 5k per round and less than 20k per night for your average looking lady ( 4 to 7.5 over 10 rated girls).
In Onne as a case study, short time is around 3k and overnight maybe 15/20k and this are good looking PH university girls and other student.

Current prices? UNIPORT/RUST students o, not dem Ignatius and Captain Elechi Amadi?

I do agree with the rest of your explanation though. But I cannot be with a girl who collects 1K I admit I'm using Lagos prices. But even before I left Nigeria, I would rather hold on than be with a girl who collects 1K.

Gerrard59:
Current prices? UNIPORT/RUST students o, not dem Ignatius and Captain Elechi Amadi?

I do agree with the rest of your explanation though. But I cannot be with a girl who collects 1K I admit I'm using Lagos prices. But even before I left Nigeria, I would rather hold on than be with a girl who collects 1K.

Bros which country u dey now and how much be OS for there day break?

Gerrard59:
Current prices? UNIPORT/RUST students o, not dem Ignatius and Captain Elechi Amadi?

I do agree with the rest of your explanation though. But I cannot be with a girl who collects 1K I admit I'm using Lagos prices. But even before I left Nigeria, I would rather hold on than be with a girl who collects 1K.

Sure, i can't be with a 1k girl too but then, most hook-up girls will have to bring down their prices to adjust to the current reality, else they would be priced out of a competitive, low barrier-entry business.
What you charge can't be bigger than the economy.
If the average man paying 10k for short-time 3-5 years ago had to scale back on his spending due to harsh economy - 2 fishes per food to 1, tokunbo car to nija used, 700k baedroom flat to 400k, then who is a prostitute that you will have keep their own price up without cutting down.

Baronthecelebri:
Guy toto na toto no matter what, ashawo for my side na 1k

you dey sock toto?

emmaodet:
Sure, i can't be with a 1k girl too but then, most hook-up girls will have to bring down their prices to adjust to the current reality, else they would be priced out of a competitive, low barrier-entry business.
What you charge can't be bigger than the economy.
If the average man paying 10k for short-time 3-5 years ago had to scale back on his spending due to harsh economy - 2 fishes per food to 1, tokunbo car to nija used, 700k baedroom flat to 400k, then who is a prostitute that you will have keep their own price up without cutting down.

So who are those patronising those girls on Codedruns?

There's money in that country called Nigeria

Gerrard59:
So who are those patronising those girls on Codedruns?

There's money in that country called Nigeria

I am not disputing the fact that there is no money in Nigeria, what we can't argue is that the bulk of the money is in the hands of less than 5%.
5% of 200m people is 10m, so it looks hugeeee when you compare it to rich countries in Europe with less than such population but the truth is that in general, it is a poor country.
What you are seeing is the Pareto principle 80/20 rule.
You only hear of Wizkid/davido/burna boy and Co but the bulk of the musicians are poor.
You may see prostitutes doing fine and earning well but the sheer bulk and majority and wallowing in poverty at the base of the ladder.
I can also tell you that Toyota/Honda and co are selling atleast 500k brand new cars in Nigeria on yearly basis but we all know the bulk don't even have bikes not to talk of ninja used.

emmaodet:
I am not disputing the fact that there is no money in Nigeria, what we can't argue is that the bulk of the money is in the hands of less than 5%.
5% of 200m people is 10m, so it looks hugeeee when you compare it to rich countries in Europe with less than such population but the truth is that in general, it is a poor country.
What you are seeing is the Pareto principle 80/20 rule.
You only hear of Wizkid/davido/burna boy and Co but the bulk of the musicians are poor.
You may see prostitutes doing fine and earning well but the sheer bulk and majority and wallowing in poverty at the base of the ladder.
I can also tell you that Toyota/Honda and co are selling atleast 500k brand new cars in Nigeria on yearly basis but we all know the bulk don't even have bikes not to talk of ninja used.

Na true you talk though.

The koko is to make the money. I am not a fan of continuous complaining as they do on TwitterNG.

Jesus! Those people are embittered!

buygala:
This is arising from a thread which recently hit frontpage regarding a guy who outlined how he spends less than 80k monthly to maintain his "girlfriend"...Off the bat, I think the guy got a very good deal, considering he is sleeping with her regularly ...

Considering how much it will cost him to engage hook-up girls for say 3 times a month to release sperm/tension which also services his prostate, he has a good deal with the girl..

Going by what he said, he spends less than 80k monthly on her ...That's quite a good deal for sex-on-demand... That's a reasonable vagina retainer I guess

Only problem he might have is if he self-deceives himself into believing he is the only one retaining the vagina...As long as one doesn't mislead oneself into thinking he alone possesses such vaginas, a man will be fine until he gets married and more priorities enter the equation.

Contrary to popular opinion and the now rampant "Gehgeh" school of thought, I think having a girlfriend is a cheaper way to have sex, as opposed to hook-up...At least I know that in Abuja, ordering hook-up is at least 50k per night...can go up to 500k or more of you go looking for the very "classy" ones....That's unless you wanna go scraping the slimy bottom of the prostitution barrel like the menopausal or "slightly obviously sick" ones

If one avoids the expensive and everly needy women, and most especially those "no-sex" women, while going for "naive" or "cheap" girls who one can sleep with regularly under the pretence of "love and dating" , one will be getting a far better sex deal financially compared to having to order hook-up ever so often.

And I think it's quite a misconception that sex is overrated for men....Regular sex helps keep the mind sharp and as a matter of fact which has been medically proven, sex leading to regular ejaculation keeps men's prostate healthy...and we all need our prostate healthy, don't we?

Long story short...Men need regular sex if not for anything, for its health benefits..and the world is such that sex hardly ever comes for free ...You can choose the "Gehgeh" way of not ever giving women money, and masturbate yourself into total loss of erection, or until your penis skin peels off...Or you can be more reasonable by cutting your coat according to your cloth and get sex while "being in love" .

Can you help me locate that topic, I've been searching for it to no avail.