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Growing up in in your mid teen u garner friends, you so Wish all of them will be true to you like you are to them.. then one after the other, you start to experience life in friendship.

Those that backbiters, the jealous ones, the unfriendly ones, the one who even secretly dislike you, those who can't go the whole nine yards with you.. those who are leeches, the just ok ones, the one who could do anything for you,. Etc

For me and I believe for alot of us we tend to evolve our different ways of relationship with friends.. I have tried the following and got some rather unpleasant results....

I tried cutting one sided friends off my life... yes, I did! and I found my number of friends narrowing that I started being lonely and with less persons to talk to...

I tried I tried telling you to your face method of how much u betrayed me... Turns out this method led to frequent quarelling and shouting in loud voices...

I tried chesting bad friends illbehaviours, this one made me a depressed person and also mks me want to develop trust issues with everyone that put out a hand in friendship with me..I even went to as deep a state as conlusiveness of how u will turn out to b even from the first day of meeting new friends.. ..

Having passed through all these stages and employed different methods of handling friends so I can get the optimal result of dutiful , loyal, good and reciprocating friends... I settled for the strategy of a "tit for tat"

With this strategy, we could be friends and u will b a very stingy and unhelpful person.. but good in company ( cuz I found out that friends offer different varieties to your life to make it spicy)..

I still keep you close and maintain good company with u.. but will also never ever be helpful to you when you are in need.. but be extremely helpful to a fellow friend who is usually helpful to me in times of my need.. the helpful one may not b a gisting one..

We have friends for entertainment, whose vibes you like, they are all outing and fun seeking, u have friends who are rugged and will be by your side in case of scuffles.. friends of patners in womanizing but hate idle company of gist gist gist.. I giv to each friend what u give to me..


that way I found peace with all my friends..

What about you. ?

Ok, but did you find peace with the Bible? Here's what the Bible says:

Matthew 5
King James Version (KJV)
44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;


And Here's Luke 6
King James Version (KJV)
27 “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. 29 If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them.
30 Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. 31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.

32 “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. 33 And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. 34 And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. 35 But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. 36 Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.

DoctorStanley:
Ok, but did you find peace with the Bible? Here's what the Bible says:

Matthew 5
King James Version (KJV)
44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;


And Here's Luke 6
King James Version (KJV)
27 “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. 29 If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them.
30 Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. 31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.

32 “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. 33 And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. 34 And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. 35 But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. 36 Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.

U dnt understand Christianity like I do...

Leme educate you more in this things u are too fast to preach..

Religion is all about taking sides between forces which are all too powerful than human... There are spirits in the afterlife.. these spirits got into a war.

Preceeding this war is an attempt by one of the spirits to convert followers of the other into being with him.. this followers are not as powerful as them , so they are easily swayed... On realizing what the opponent spirit is trying to do, the opposite spirit casted the manipulating one away from his presence and angrily decided to destroy all his followers who have gone astray and tried to follow his opponent


The another spirit who is loyal to this angry spirit pleaded on the followers behalf and explained that they are weak and just only deceived by his opponent, he also pleaded they be given another chance to take a side.. btw him and his opponent...

The spirit now created a new place and one by one he sends his followers there to live a mortal life and die after a period, with the presence of the influence of his opponent spirit there..

There they must make a decision of whose side they belong to..

So u see it.. religion is a thing of the spirit , not as u parade it and plaster it on the pages of any thread.. even if u abstain from sex, u dnt fight, u don't curse, u are so good... If u choose the opponent spirit in the end when u turn back to non human form.. u will b destroyed...


U get it ba..?

It's said that show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are...


As for me, if you ain't relating to how I move, nothing fit make me compromise make we be friends. Funny thing, most people think they're my friends but I do not think they are mine.

I fit dey relate with you but doesn't mean we are friends.

Adaptability and compatibility is the key ...

You have way too many fvcks to give! I have a handful of important people and numerous associates.
I don’t put any expectations or pressure on my associates. Our relationship has never passed the honeymoon stage. If it ain’t good conversations over good food or good coffee then we have nothing else to do.

You need to understand people and accept them or leave them for who they are. People should play different roles in your life and you shouldn’t ever mix their roles.

Family have their rights and responsibilities, friends have theirs, and everyone else is for shits and giggles.

DoctorStanley:
Ok, but did you find peace with the Bible? Here's what the Bible says:

Matthew 5
King James Version (KJV)
44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;


And Here's Luke 6
King James Version (KJV)
27 “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. 29 If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them.
30 Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. 31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.

32 “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. 33 And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. 34 And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. 35 But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. 36 Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.

One should never find peace with the bible (a mental weapon of the oppressors given to the oppressed freely for mental subjugation) you know why? Why will someone love his enemies, bless those who curse him, do good to those that hate him, and pray for those that despite and persecute him? No way! And no wonder Nigeria politicians are using Nigerians to play tinko-tinko.

blacksam01:
Growing up in in your mid teen u garner friends, you so Wish all of them will be true to you like you are to them.. then one after the other, you start to experience life in friendship.

Those that backbiters, the jealous ones, the unfriendly ones, the one who even secretly dislike you, those who can't go the whole nine yards with you.. those who are leeches, the just ok ones, the one who could do anything for you,. Etc

For me and I believe for alot of us we tend to evolve our different ways of relationship with friends.. I have tried the following and got some rather unpleasant results....

I tried cutting one sided friends off my life... yes, I did! and I found my number of friends narrowing that I started being lonely and with less persons to talk to...

I tried I tried telling you to your face method of how much u betrayed me... Turns out this method led to frequent quarelling and shouting in loud voices...

I tried chesting bad friends illbehaviours, this one made me a depressed person and also mks me want to develop trust issues with everyone that put out a hand in friendship with me..I even went to as deep a state as conlusiveness of how u will turn out to b even from the first day of meeting new friends.. ..

Having passed through all these stages and employed different methods of handling friends so I can get the optimal result of dutiful , loyal, good and reciprocating friends... I settled for the strategy of a "tit for tat"

With this strategy, we could be friends and u will b a very stingy and unhelpful person.. but good in company ( cuz I found out that friends offer different varieties to your life to make it spicy)..

I still keep you close and maintain good company with u.. but will also never ever be helpful to you when you are in need.. but be extremely helpful to a fellow friend who is usually helpful to me in times of my need.. the helpful one may not b a gisting one..

We have friends for entertainment, whose vibes you like, they are all outing and fun seeking, u have friends who are rugged and will be by your side in case of scuffles.. friends of patners in womanizing but hate idle company of gist gist gist.. I giv to each friend what u give to me..


that way I found peace with all my friends..

What about you. ?

Get this book, "Hi, Can We Be Friends?" by Tekena Ikoko. You'll understand the meaning of friendship. I read that book back then, it's more inspiration with a little touch of biblical example like that. Read that when I was an ex-xtian