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I have problem keeping a serious and committed relationship.

I always found myself keeping multiple partners & still maintain contact with some of my exes which add to the pool of women in my circle. I find it difficult to detach from them.

This really drains me emotionally and financially as I could get several demands from these ladies at the same time and it really stressed me. Moreover, age is no longer on my side.

In the past, I have lost good girls who were really committed but because I wasn't committed, as I had to juggle all of those girls together.

How do I do away with this problem? I will appreciate any suggestions or advice.

Begin by decluttering your life, then start afresh.
This time, one person at a time.

Nothing wrong with you bro.. You only realized the life you living isn't favourable.. So just do the opposite of what you have done ..... And you good ..

xtianchris:
Nothing wrong with you bro.. You only realized the life you living isn't favourable.. So just do the opposite of what you have done ..... And you good ..

Seriously, if u ask me about my woman. I will even be confused. I usually ask "which of them". At a time i thought it was a spiritual problem ooo

Eddodoh:
Seriously, if u ask me about my woman. I will even be confused. I usually ask "which of them". At a time i thought it was a spiritual problem ooo

Hahaha 🤣😂 . You just getting matured.. you becoming a MAN Change is constant. Enjoy your transition...
But honestly those girls you broke their heart you need to clean those energies if not they Will come back to hunt you ..
Keep it clean with honesty.

You no get wahala, na normal thing jaaree. If any babe love you dem go stay. Just hustle get money and be serious with one babe. If you no need serious relationship give woman Belle collect pikin

Go and apologize to your ex, Jones did the same to me but am still mad with him.

I still miss him small

Bro is totally greed and stupid mindset
You've got to retract from it totally as it could destroy you financially

Youll soon become broke and poor


Youre so greedy in everything that it is very hard to let go so many things in your life not just girls or relationships but other things

So naturally you're so greedy
You feel you're the only person in the world and that you should own everything and all these things shouldn't get off from you

It satanic lifestyle
Retreat from it

Eddodoh:
➜I have problem keeping a serious and committed relationship.
I always found myself keeping multiple partners & still maintain contact with some of my exes which add to the pool of women in my circle. I find it difficult to detach from them. This really drains me emotionally and financially as I could get several demands from these ladies at the same time and it really stressed me. Moreover, age is no longer on my side.
In the past, I have lost good girls who were really committed but because I wasn't committed, as I had to juggle all of those girls together. How do I do away with this problem? I will appreciate any suggestions or advice.

Sounds like you are a case of avoidant personality/dismissive-avoidant attachment style coupled with abandonment trauma stemming from a rough childhood.
https://www.wholewellnesstherapy.com/post/abandonment-trauma-attachment-styles

My suggestion is that you put relationships on hold for a time, make an appointment immediately to seek help from a professional psychotherapist, and take needed steps to resolve the issue of the cage you keep running around in there.

Eddodoh:
I have problem keeping a serious and committed relationship.

I always found myself keeping multiple partners & still maintain contact with some of my exes which add to the pool of women in my circle. I find it difficult to detach from them.

This really drains me emotionally and financially as I could get several demands from these ladies at the same time and it really stressed me. Moreover, age is no longer on my side.

In the past, I have lost good girls who were really committed but because I wasn't committed, as I had to juggle all of those girls together.

How do I do away with this problem? I will appreciate any suggestions or advice.

Wen u think u are a super human and that woman must worship you.

You asked urself, what you are doing for women. If another man is to do 1/2 of them to your daughter, how will you feel?

If you want to have long lasting relationship, start treating your woman as your own biological daughter, you will see positive results within few hours.

fuckJones:
Go and apologize to your ex, Jones did the same to me but am still mad with him.

I still miss him small

Heal! I've moved on. You can't heal if you still have resentment towards me.

No need to be committed. Enjoy every moment. Peace

Different people face different problems. For instance, I’ve been considering mingling again after three years of being single, while you’re here complaining about having too many contacts.

Your problem might not be ordinary. Surrender to Jesus and accept Him as your personal Lord and Saviour. Pray and ask the Holy Spirit for guidance. Bring yourself closer to God for there is nothing God cannot do.

Eddodoh:
I have problem keeping a serious and committed relationship.

I always found myself keeping multiple partners & still maintain contact with some of my exes which add to the pool of women in my circle. I find it difficult to detach from them.

This really drains me emotionally and financially as I could get several demands from these ladies at the same time and it really stressed me. Moreover, age is no longer on my side.

In the past, I have lost good girls who were really committed but because I wasn't committed, as I had to juggle all of those girls together.

How do I do away with this problem? I will appreciate any suggestions or advice.

Oga, nothing is wrong with you. It’s just your personality. Marry many as long you can cater for. Don’t let society dictate to you.

You go treat infection tire, You gonna luurnnn the hard way 📌

Utanisco:
Bro is totally greed and stupid mindset
You've got to retract from it totally as it could destroy you financially

Youll soon become broke and poor


Youre so greedy in everything that it is very hard to let go so many things in your life not just girls or relationships but other things

So naturally you're so greedy
You feel you're the only person in the world and that you should own everything and all these things shouldn't get off from you

It satanic lifestyle
Retreat from it

Stop being jealous about this. Your comment shows that you are. And by the way, nothing spiritual about this. It’s just mastery of oneself and hormonal surge. Stop terming everything spiritual oga.

You be wómanizer...change before it is too late. Take this advice from me

dammyco:
You no get wahala, na normal thing jaaree. If any babe love you dem go stay. Just hustle get money and be serious with one babe. If you no need serious relationship give woman Belle collect pikin

😂 Lol! Thanks, bro. I really appreciate ur advice and concern.

Kutunban:
Heal! I've moved on. You can't heal if you still have resentment towards me.

Hey Jones, stop feeling important, Sometimes a woman will look back on what she had, not because she wants to go there but to motivate her to do better, no one pick up a rock after finding a diamond.

Kutunban:
Heal! I've moved on. You can't heal if you still have resentment towards me.

lol😂 lobatan! 2 ge 4🤣🤣🤣


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thomas2024:
➜Oga, nothing is wrong with you. It’s just your personality. Marry many as long you can cater for. Don’t let society dictate to you.

A disorder resulting from trauma is not a personality but rather a personality disorder. Note the difference!

fuckJones:
Hey Jones, stop feeling important, Sometimes a woman will look back on what she had, not because she wants to go there but to motivate her to do better, no one pick up a rock after finding a diamond.

Tueh, tueh! Where is the diamond or should I say diamond in the rough? Continue riding in your high horse😂😂😂

Skyfornia:
You be wómanizer...change before it is too late. Take this advice from me

I won't deny that but I now found out that I am hurting myself and no one else. Infact, in my neighborhood, most people believe any girl they see me talking to, I am dating her even though nothing as such.

I was surprised when a lady I was chatting with in my area said that "me that is dating every girl in our area". It's funny but that's how bad I have been casted.

Spiritual problem

Start from stop being a people s pleaser

You will go a long way

You are not alone in this, we are all experiencing the same

Having one woman is like having none

It sounds like you're going through a tough time. It's good that you're recognizing a pattern and want to change. Maybe it would be helpful to take some time for yourself to figure out what you really want in a relationship. Talking to a therapist could also be a great way to get some clarity and support. Wishing you all the best!

See greedy human being? Since only you wan sleep with all the women in the world kindly carry on!

xtianchris:
Hahaha 🤣😂 . You just getting matured.. you becoming a MAN Change is constant. Enjoy your transition...
But honestly those girls you broke their heart you need to clean those energies if not they Will come back to hunt you ..
Keep it clean with honesty.

Stop typing gibberish! Nothing like those girls he broke their hearts coming to hunt him!

Heartbreaks happen both ways! Imagine a situation where all the women start getting hunted by all the guys they broke their hearts and vice versa. Does that make sense to you?

Eddodoh:
I have problem keeping a serious and committed relationship.

I always found myself keeping multiple partners & still maintain contact with some of my exes which add to the pool of women in my circle. I find it difficult to detach from them.

This really drains me emotionally and financially as I could get several demands from these ladies at the same time and it really stressed me. Moreover, age is no longer on my side.

In the past, I have lost good girls who were really committed but because I wasn't committed, as I had to juggle all of those girls together.

How do I do away with this problem? I will appreciate any suggestions or advice.

Check first if you be ogbanje.... Then you appease your people or u go for deliverance

Start by just growing up.
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fuckJones:
Hey Jones, stop feeling important, Sometimes a woman will look back on what she had, not because she wants to go there but to motivate her to do better, no one pick up a rock after finding a diamond.

Don’t flatter yourself. If you had truly found a diamond, you wouldn’t still be looking back at the rock. Diamonds don’t need to compare themselves to stones to shine, they shine on their own. The fact that you keep bringing me up says more about what you lost than what you think you found.

It’s funny you mention diamonds and rocks, because real diamonds don’t need to keep looking back at what they’ve left behind to feel valuable, they just shine. The very fact that you keep referencing me shows you’re still measuring your so-called ‘diamond’ against the ‘rock’ you claim to have dropped. If it was truly better, you wouldn’t have to remind yourself or me; your life would already prove it. People who actually move forward don’t waste energy looking over their shoulder. So let’s be clear: I’m not the one stuck comparing, you are. And that says everything about who really got the diamond and who’s left clutching stones.