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BRATISLAVA:
You're off on a tangent. I know what i responded to there.

In Nigeria, men don't work on themselves. They believe all they need is money. But they want the world from women, and condemn women so that women will take up their responsibilities as men. On other words, they want to become women.

and how do you think they gained that attitude? Because you all lost the traditional values you all harp on about so much

If there is a disaster in this country, like titanic proportions are the men of this country of the belief that its women and children getting saved first? Or more the attitude its a free for all?

Take Norway for example (my home)
2 cars break down
1 is a woman and 1 is a man both are stranded in quiet country roads

The phones for help 20 minutes before the woman, who do you think is going to be sorted first?

If a man and a woman are stranded and both are alone and in different areas, what can happen to a woman that doesn't really happen to a man outside prison environments

The majority of men here simply are not men because they are not willing to take a bullet for their wife and kids

DeeScan:
Can the mods do something about this clown

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Notice its only ever Nigerian men saying this stuff when I point out how hypocritical this country is?

jaxxy:
Begs from Family and friends, is very wide, open and unspecific. Some girl consider their toasters as friends.

I personally cannot say if she's honest by her statement but she is diplomatic.

Being diplomatic by shooting herself on the leg? Or didn't you notice she actually wanted the relationship? I believe she could have lied about the whole thing instead of her wasting her diplomatic reasoning to eventually sound f**lish....

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In this particular case I'm siding with the lady.

Op what do you want her to bring to the table?
You want her to provide your needs take care of your financial problem or what exactly?

This issue of asking a woman what she brings to the table is becoming ridiculous.

She literally told you she's a student,or you think she is schooling for fun? Your little mind didn't tell you that she will graduate one day and get a good paying job and contribute financially to the wellbeing of the family?

And what side hustle do you expect a lady to be doing while schooling? Ladies are not like men that can do menial jobs while still schooling.

I believe if she told you she do home services or vendor you will still tag her olosho.

I won't advice my sister or daughter to engage in any side hustle while in school, all she owe me is to focus on his education and come out with good grades while i take care of her financial needs while schooling.

It's becoming irritating mbok!

QuantAnalyst:
Honestly, the guy is irritating 🙄 what else does he wants from a student? Someone that is just trying to pass exams and feed okay. Questions like that should be for working class marriage ready ladies.

But when reverse is the case, what Shou br expected??

Examining the chats alone and her responses, the eyes of the lady hasn't torn like that. That alone is a plus.

The typical naija girl that has seen life, that jump from one hotel to another and twerk online won't even be patient to this extent to give you these sorts of calm responses. They will insûlt your mama and papa.

The girl is still naive and calm like a dove. You can groom this type to become what you want her to be to you.

She hasn't still be damaged like those ones outside today. You can still work with her and groom her.

BRATISLAVA:
Based on the topic of the thread, I'll bet you the person who had that conversation is or was poor. It's the only constant in misogyny. Poor men hate women.

How? The Philippines doesn't have this attitude
Thailand doesn't have this attitude both countries the average salary is a lot less than a Nigerian salary

Where women can literally work in bars to be holiday girlfriends to men like me and still find a husband that adores her later In life

Its not poverty thats a problem with a country its the men that run the country that is always the problem with a country

Brimstone77:
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In this particular case I'm siding with the lady.

Op what do you want her to bring to the table?
You want her to provide your needs take care of your financial problem or what exactly?

This issue of asking a woman what she brings to the table is becoming ridiculous.

She literally told you she's a student,or you think she is schooling for fun? Your little mind didn't tell you that she will graduate one day and get a good paying job and contribute financially to the wellbeing of the family?

And what side hustle do you expect a lady to be doing while schooling? Ladies are not like men that can do menial jobs while still schooling.

I believe if she told you she do home services or vendor you will still tag her olosho.

I won't advice my sister or daughter to engage in any side hustle while in school, all she owe me is to focus on his education and come out with good grades while i take care of her financial needs while schooling.

It's becoming irritating mbok!

Ladies are not like men that can do menial jobs while schooling .. This doesn't makes sense as it needs further explanations . ...


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Fenrir:
and how do you think they gained that attitude? Because you all lost the traditional values you all harp on about so much

If there is a disaster in this country, like titanic proportions are the men of this country of the belief that its women and children getting saved first? Or more the attitude its a free for all?

Take Norway for example (my home)
2 cars break down
1 is a woman and 1 is a man both are stranded in quiet country roads

The phones for help 20 minutes before the woman, who do you think is going to be sorted first?

If a man and a woman are stranded and both are alone and in different areas, what can happen to a woman that doesn't really happen to a man outside prison environments

The majority of men here simply are not men because they are not willing to take a bullet for their wife and kids

How is there chivalry in poverty? Though they were never chivalrous. I am yet to read a story of Nigerian men going to war. What they need is what women are bringing into relationships.

Keep sending messages between your MTN and glo line for content

Fenrir:
Notice its only ever Nigerian men saying this stuff when I point out how hypocritical this country is?

Mods pls get this impersonator out of my face

Fenrir:
How? The Philippines doesn't have this attitude
Thailand doesn't have this attitude both countries the average salary is a lot less than a Nigerian salary

Where women can literally work in bars to be holiday girlfriends to men like me and still find a husband that adores her later In life

Its not poverty thats a problem with a country its the men that run the country that is always the problem with a country

Lady men are doing well, then.

I will agree with your last sentence.

blacksam01:
The guy asking a student this is very unreasonable....

My ex gf, was a broke as girl back then in skl, only held on to books... Sh could offer you nothing, she begs aunt's and parents for money...

Las las, sh came out first class, finished her service, got a job , did it and resigned after 2 yrs, set up hers ND made it big, so big that sh was worth about 24m at age 26...


So u see, life is not about the now now, a student should not have side huzle, they should face thier books... Their is also a success route through education, everything is not about , huzle huzle....

So the guy sit park well

May God bless you my brother..... I'm really sick and tired of all these nairaland fake "alfas" who don't really know what an alpha male means....

DeeScan:
Ladies are not like men that can do menial jobs while schooling .. This doesn't makes sense as it needs further explanations . ...


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As a guy you can work on a building site,you can even work as a commercial biker while still schooling.

Tell me 2 side hustle you expect a lady to do while in school.

Don't even mention tech because not everyone knows about that.

Chilipepper:
Man shares a lady's response after asking what she would bring to his life if they dated.

If I were the lady asked this question, I will remove myself from the stereotype that the table already exists and has the potential to carry what I am bringing. Who knows the guy could even be a broken table that needs to be fixed. The table should be owned by both parties and jointly built up.

The moral lesson is that a lady should know her worth and not allow any man demean her with subjective profiling.

Brimstone77:
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As a guy you can work on a building site,you can even work as a commercial biker while still schooling.

Tell me 2 side hustle you expect a lady to do while in school.

Don't even mention tech because not everyone knows about that.

Aren't there part time jobs in restaurants, hotels even working as waiter in occasion held in the weekend or across the weak.


So guys are the worker you've seen in a building site ?? Even old women dey work for building site so why can't a young girl.. ..


Well, to each his own ..

BRATISLAVA:
How is there chivalry in poverty? Though they were never chivalrous. I am yet to read a story of Nigerian men going to war. What they need is what women are bringing into relationships.

Women and children is just basic human decency chivalry is.....

A man opening all doors for his woman when out with him,

At restaurants and eateries making sure she is seated and comfortable before he is

Pulling her seat to seat her

Sending her random little gifts, nothing huge just so he knows hes thinking of her

Giving her his jacket or jumper if shes cold

When walking the streets making sure hes the closest to the road

Carrying her when shes exhausted

Etc, how does chivalry need money its care not money? Chivalry is care not financial

The black guy from the marvel movies cant remember his name Anthony something said it best

If you are out and about with your man and other men harass and assault you, you'd expect your man to use his fists to have a discussion with them, so when your man ask you to make him a sandwich then you make him a sandwich

Thats the real problem with Nigeria in this case

The women are becoming men and the men are becoming women and still expecting submissive women

Zonefree:
@bolded

This "change her orientation" is the major reason many men are suffering in marriage.

No matter what or who you are, you can NEVER change a female adult.

For the bolded above, have you ever heard the word "personality"?

Not all adults can be taught or reorientated, whether male or female. That's why some people still struggle to unlearn the things of old to relearn. It has nothing to do with female or that girl alone.

Like someone had pointed out earlier, I'd bank on her honesty and openness if I were to be her suitor (provided she checks other boxes).

Most girls have perfected how to respond to that question of what they bring to the table just like we learn to answer interview questions....and I trust you know that it is not always the case that the best interview candidates are indeed the best person for the job....other factors come into play as well.

And lemme also add that you cannot base a decision of who you live the rest of your life with on that simple one line question "what do you bring to the table".... This life no be 2 X 2 ooo.

DeeScan:
Aren't there part time jobs in restaurants, hotels even working as waiter in occasion held in the weekend or across the weak.


So guys are the worker you've seen in a building site ?? Even old women dey work for building site so why can't a young girl.. ..


Well, to each his own ..

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Now i want your honest answer, will you allow your sister or daughter to engage in those hustle you mentioned above?

DeeScan:
Mods pls get this impersonator out of my face

Impersonator? Do a video call or be quiet about the Impersonator stuff

How come everytime I say that to of one you, you act all big and bad before but the second i mention video call to any of you then you refuse to even acknowledge it?

Fella, do a video call and I can record that call and post it

So what else do you want her to bring? Naturally all she said is what she ought to bring, if you want more develop her to what you want. Glory be to to God for those that can already bring the more.

Fenrir:
Women and children is just basic human decency chivalry is.....

A man opening all doors for his woman when out with him,

At restaurants and eateries making sure she is seated and comfortable before he is

Pulling her seat to seat her

Sending her random little gifts, nothing huge just so he knows hes thinking of her

Giving her his jacket or jumper if shes cold

When walking the streets making sure hes the closest to the road

Carrying her when shes exhausted

Etc, how does chivalry care not money? Chivalry is care not financial

The black guy from the marvel movies cant remember his name Anthony something said it best

If you are out and about with your man and other men harass and assault you, you'd expect your man to use his fists to have a discussion with them, so when your man ask you to make him a sandwich then you make him a sandwich

Thats the real problem with Nigeria in this case

The women are becoming men and the men are becoming women and still expecting submissive women

Lol the sandwich one. You've said it all.

There was a time on this forum that Nigerian men were demanding that women go to war, to prove equality at the height of the red pill, and I asked them why women should go to wars that men started. They have no responsibility or chivalry.

The only thing they can agree on is misogyny. Anything else beneficial to society? No, as it won't benefit them directly and soothe their egos. Money is the Nigerian man's chivalry.

Brimstone77:
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Now i want your honest answer, will you allow your sister or daughter to engage in those hustle you mentioned above?

He's advocating it, so he must.

Kobojunkie:
She instead suggests she wants to be a stay-at-home wife, aka a wife-appliance or what many of our grandmothers and great grandmothers were for the man in marriage. That is a lot!

Most of our grandmas and great grandmamas were given farmlands while some others were traders.

BRATISLAVA:
Lol the sandwich one. You've said it all.

There was a time on this forum that Nigerian men were demanding that women go to war, to prove equality at the height of the red pill, and I asked them why women should go to wars that men started. They have no responsibility or chivalry.

The only thing they can agree on is misogyny. Anything else beneficial to society? No, as it won't benefit them directly and soothe their egos. Money is the Nigerian man's chivalry.

To the point that fathers here care more about traditions and ego stroking than the happiness of the daughters and the type of man shes marrying

Your ancestors for all tribes would not have done any of it at all for the people in the country today especially yoruba and prostration if they were so traditional and had the values and humility they claim they would admit they don't deserve prostration if the white cloth tradition is not done as well

The men of this country pick and choose and don't actually value anything but money and their egos in the majority

Before what do u want her to bring to table Mr husband man?

Seun thank you so much for the BLOCK button

Now I avoid posts from very irritating people

The trend this days is making me more lazy.
What more do you expect from an undergraduate?
Make she give you money?

Nonexisting1:
I don't know why you are complaining. If I see a Nigerian girl that will give me all she promised you, I will marry her. She said she will bring you joy and peace, give you children, be a good wife, do her rites and obligations as wife. What else do you want a woman to offer you? Men are providers so don't expect a woman to give you money but if she does, it is okay too. Brother, if she can do all that she said, then I don't see the need for your complaint.

Kobojunkie:
Stop lying about women! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Women were created with equal capacity as other human beings. Unfortunately, a society ruled by men took to training women to be lesser beings than their male counterparts, all for the glory of the menfolk, while lying to them that some god somewhere is the reason why they should not be allowed to be considered equal to men.

The world would have been more chaotic and extremely disoriented , if the women were to lead. Most women are irrational, and also lacks the curiosity of a man like exploring the world.


95% of stuffs that people use today were invented and created by men.

We would have been back in stone age era, if not for men.

We ain't equal, woman!