₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
Stop telling lies! 🥱🥱🥱

If all your great grandmas were farmers then what you are saying is that all men were rich enough to own or lease farm land back in the days, something we all know was not true.

Most people had farms in the past. Yoruba women were traders and often the wealthiest people in the land were women. Efunsetan Aniwura of Ibadan comes to mind as well as Madam Tinubu of Lagos. Men were leaders, soldiers, crafts men and sometimes long distance traders etc but there were often more money women than men in Yoruba land. Only that it is unlikely you would be richer than the king sitting atop taxes and most monarchs were men

lawani:
➜Most people had farms in the past.
➜ Yoruba women were traders and often the wealthiest people in the land were women. Efunsetan Aniwura of Ibadan comes to mind as well as Madam Tinubu of Lagos. Men were leaders, soldiers, crafts men and sometimes traders etc but there were often more money women than men in Yoruba land. Only that it is unlikely you would be richer than the king sitting atop taxes and most monarchs were men

. That many were farmers did not mean they owned land or had enough to lease the land.

2. And please, let's stop regurgitating what were mostly lies/propaganda. 🙄🙄🙄

naijapikin2:
➜She will never live the purpose of God for her life as long as she reasons like a second class member of the family. Real men want a lady who has fulfilled her purpose and comes to the table with quality not one who is sheepish... Naive.. and docile...
➜Remember that movie of yester years, coming to america... Why did the prince reject the bride who was groomed from childhood to serve his purpose alone. C'mon such a woman will even be boring in bed😎😎😎

Purpose of which God again? No be una pastors and imams been dey tell women say their purpose is to obey their husbands, have and raise godly children to worship their gods? When did a traditional wife become just a second-class member of the family to these same gods of yours?

2. Ah! So, na Western movies dem dey decide these things for una?

Kobojunkie:
. That many were farmers did not mean they owned land or had enough to lease the land.

2. And please, let's stop regurgitating what were mostly lies/propaganda. 🙄🙄🙄

Land cant be a problem for you if you want to farm. You can use your husband's land or any vacant land but you will pay isakole. You can make palm oil too as it was women's job after men do the harvesting. Trading was almost totally a women's affair and they controlled the markets. Many women got rich through trading. Madam Tinubu had over 2000 people in her household. Efunsetan Aniwura used to send ships to Brazil

lawani:
➜Land cant be a problem for you if you want to farm. You can use your husband's land or any vacant land but you will pay isakole.
➜You can make palm oil too as it was women's job after men do the harvesting. Trading was almost totally a women's affair and they controlled the markets. Many women got rich through trading. Madam Tinubu had over 2000 people in her household. Efunsetan Aniwura used to send ships to Brazil

How many husbands had land? How many women had husbands who could afford to lease lands? Again, stop telling these fantabulous stories, which mainly serve as embellishment and nothing more.🙄🙄🙄

2. They could make palm oil from what? stones? Abeg, cut the bull, o'jare! People like you like to paint pictures of how poverty was not a problem back then, as if the rest of us as stewpid for you.🙄🙄🙄

shaybebaby:
To be submissive requires brain to be on airplane mode. So pick a lane.

But to be a provider does not? Lol the only thing women have to do : cook, contribute to one or two discussions, Simple. You still require ur brain to be on airplane mode?

What you need as a man is a wife that will give you peace, and you will reach your potential.
Women are not naturally providers. It is not part of their divine mandate. If you never marry, you no go understand.
If you see a woman that promises you peace, please go for her.

Kobojunkie:
Purpose of which God again? No be una pastors and imams been dey tell women say their purpose is to obey their husbands, have and raise godly children to worship their gods? When did a traditional wife become just a second-class member of the family to these same gods of yours?

2. Ah! So, na Western movies dem dey decide these things for una?

No God has ever said a woman should fulfil the sole purpose of her husband and neglect herself.

And

Point 2: we learn from all Instances in life including movies. Don't you?

naijapikin2:
✓ No God has ever said a woman should fulfil the sole purpose of her husband and neglect herself.
✓ And Point 2: we learn from all Instances in life including movies. Don't you?

Yet, your pastors, traditional leaders and imams have always taught women that the gods have done exactly that in order to keep them subjugated. 🥱🤟🤟

2. A comedy movie as source of wisdom for you? Ugh! 😐😐😐

Actually if she can give you what she promised, I'll take that. Joy, children and peace of mind beats any money a woman is going to bring in. And, that's not to say she wouldn't bring in if she can.

And don't assume because you're in Lagos and able to work and school, that every student elsewhere would be able to do that.

Zonefree:
@bolded

This "change her orientation" is the major reason many men are suffering in marriage.

No matter what or who you are, you can NEVER change a female adult.

You lied... I strongly believe you're not married.

My wife had no clear vision of what she wants even as a graduate, she fear computer a lot.

But today, I changed her orientation and she has done virtual assistant as well as HTML& CSS training .
She's currently my writer for my blogs.

Chilipepper:
Man shares a lady's response after asking what she would bring to his life if they dated.

No be every student get side hustle naa

If she can actually provide these things she mentioned, then she is a genius! Do you know what is peace alone? That peace already solve 70% of humanity problem. On top of that, Joy, children, perform her duties as a wife. Pls where is this kind of Lady? You want her to mention money right? Your thinking is small

It means she is matured, in how to communicate, and understand situation and has the ability to handle them with care. It also means she is is a suitable companion who understand her partner and does not treat him like bank, or someone she has compete with or manipulate.

She is also strong on her own and able to do things for herself that makes her confident and fulfilled.

As a good wife she accepts her part as someone who nurtures children and cares for their well being and she makes a house a home.


What about you, you asked for answers, but do you give answers also.

shaybebaby:
What does joy, peace and good wife mean to you?

I mean what does that look like in practice everyday?

Kobojunkie:
How many husbands had land? How many women had husbands who could afford to lease lands? Again, stop telling these fantabulous stories, which mainly serve as embellishment and nothing more.🙄🙄🙄

2. They could make palm oil from what? stones? Abeg, cut the bull, o'jare! People like you like to paint pictures of how poverty was not a problem back then, as if the rest of us as stewpid for you.🙄🙄🙄

Even today that Yoruba land has over seventy million people on their land, land is not a problem if you want to farm food crops like cassava and maize and you pay isakole from your produce in the past. You pay nothing up front. Land can only be a problem if you want cash crops. The society was better organized than today's society because they had nothing like unemployment. They were more productive than others because they made their own clothes, furniture, farm tools, jewels, weapons and etc unlike today when almost everything is imported. Nowhere on Earth was better than Yoruba land in the nineteenth century and before. The only way we are better than our ancestors today is because of the gadgets we have access to now which are mostly imported. There was negligible poverty if any so far the crops don't fail.

lawani:
It is not only thanks for purity but an acknowledgement that you are taking somebody away from the clan to go and be increasing your own population. No women no next generation. It is also the reason the bride price is shared to the extended family. It is to kind of compensate them for the loss. It is one of Earth's cultures and we should not be preaching against it. All cultures that are not harmful should be preserved. One thing that can also be done is to get people that will prostrate on contract. If a King is getting married for instance he will not prostrate by himself

Fella, fib about it all you want
The truth is the truth and your people do nothing but twist history and misrepresent it

If you cannot do the white cloth tradition you have no right expecting prostration or any part of your particular traditions

lawani:
It is not only thanks for purity but an acknowledgement that you are taking somebody away from the clan to go and be increasing your own population. No women no next generation. It is also the reason the bride price is shared to the extended family. It is to kind of compensate them for the loss. It is one of Earth's cultures and we should not be preaching against it. All cultures that are not harmful should be preserved. One thing that can also be done is to get people that will prostrate on contract. If a King is getting married for instance he will not prostrate by himself

Its seriously easy to prove you men wrong on this
Thats how I got my first wifes father sent to prison over it because its fraud

You are using misrepresentation to get an advantage over someone else

Kobojunkie:
Yet, your pastors, traditional leaders and imams have always taught women that the gods have done exactly that in order to keep them subjugated. 🥱🤟🤟

2. A comedy movie as source of wisdom for you? Ugh! 😐😐😐

And I say again. Nope nope nope. No true man of God will tell a woman to live her her life to fulfill a man's purpose, but you wouldn't know that as an atheist that you are. So go ahead and chew on whatever you believe.

2: if you can't learn from a comedy movie. Then your life is really devoid of happiness. Sorry I can't help you neither can anyone talkless of God. (Yeah God a subject that makes you cringe)

Fenrir:
Fella, fib about it all you want
The truth is the truth and your people do nothing but twist history and misrepresent it

If you cannot do the white cloth tradition you have no right expecting prostration or any part of your particular traditions

Virginity until marriage was common in the past only because most women married as teenagers and even today most teenagers are virgins. Are you now saying if a divorcee is being given out in marriage there will be no ceremony in the past and there will be no prostration?

shaybebaby:
Life insurance darling.

How many Nigerians have regular insurance not to talk of life insurance? Which Nigerian insurance company can you trust to actually pay out?

What sort of man shares his private chats with a girl to the public? The girl involved is an innocent calm child judging from her honest and child-like responses but the id. iotaa of a male was chatting her with ulterior motives which is to see her fumble so he would hurriedly share to his friends.... all aimed at massaging his rotten and useless ego. For this he's done, a he's bound to marry wrongly because the next person will tell him what he wants to hear but show him shege in reality

naijapikin2:
➜And I say again. Nope nope nope. No true man of God will tell a woman to live her her life to fulfill a man's purpose, but you wouldn't know that as an atheist that you are. So go ahead and chew on whatever you believe.
2: if you can't learn from a comedy movie. Then your life is really devoid of happiness.
➜Sorry I can't help you neither can anyone talkless of God. (Yeah God a subject that makes you cringe)

Since practically all your gods of men do this, you are invariably declaring that there are indeed no such things as a true man of god, right?

2. Wow... so, people who don't watch or care much for the wisdom nuggets from movies meant to serve instead as comedic entertainment, have lives devoid of happiness? This formulae abi na equation for life and happiness must be garnering you success with everyone you meet out there. 😩😩

3. The same gods that could not help men stabilize themselves as provider and lords over women are now changing their tune, thanks to wisdom gleaned from comedic entertainment. Those are the gods you intend to be of help to me?

lawani:
Virginity until marriage was common in the past only because most women married as teenagers and even today most teenagers are virgins. Are you now saying if a divorcee is being given out in marriage there will be no ceremony in the past and there will be no prostration?

Yes fella, thats exactly what im saying
Its exactly what your ancestors said

Prostration was for the pride meeting a woman as a virgin and marrying her as a virgin, there is nothing traditional about yoruba people at all, just narcissistic

Prostration was only for being a womans first husband and her first man not her second anything at all

Fenrir:
Yes fella, thats exactly what im saying
Its exactly what your ancestors said

Prostration was for the pride meeting a woman as a virgin and marrying her as a virgin, there is nothing traditional about yoruba people at all, just narcissistic

Prostration was only for being a womans first husband and her first man not her second anything at all

I am telling you as a Yoruba man that there can be a second wedding for a woman and the groom would still be expected to prostrate. There is no big deal in prostration to the Yoruba. As a young man the normal way to greet your in law is by prostrating

Clairvoyancy:
1. Because naturally she ought to be more than a wife... Some people don't even know about the potential in them until they are being placed in front of opportunities

2. There's nothing like the right one for you, you make the available one or let the one you choose the right one...

You have spoken well

Kobojunkie:
Since practically all your gods of men do this, you are invariably declaring that there are indeed no such things as a true man of god, right?

2. Wow... so, people who don't watch or care much for the wisdom nuggets from movies meant to serve instead as comedic entertainment, have lives devoid of happiness? This formulae abi na equation for life and happiness must be garnering you success with everyone you meet out there. 😩😩

3. The same gods that could not help men stabilize themselves as provider and lords over women are now changing their tune, thanks to wisdom gleaned from comedic entertainment. Those are the gods you intend to be of help to me?

Your implications do not tilt at the truth... Your ways are and thoughts are a reflection of a failed upbringing. Of course they are true men of God and the fake ones also, in addition to the ones who vainly try to usurp the gospel in all of these God still reigns supreme.

2.if you choose to be unenlightened about such things as movies then sorry to say, your life must be one compendium of boring sequences.
😛😛😛

3 millions... Nay billions of people globally attest to the omnipotence... To the omniscience.. to the omnipresence.. to the all power.. all sufficient God. Your minute knowledge about God not withstanding.

PS: you and I have been through this road before, and trust me I've got the sounds in my trunk to last the whole 9 yards... So keep shooting your rubber pellets. 😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁

lawani:
Land cant be a problem for you if you want to farm. You can use your husband's land or any vacant land but you will pay isakole. You can make palm oil too as it was women's job after men do the harvesting. Trading was almost totally a women's affair and they controlled the markets. Many women got rich through trading. Madam Tinubu had over 2000 people in her household. Efunsetan Aniwura used to send ships to Brazil

You get time