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What is that lie you were told before you got married only to discover after marriage ?

For me I thought that married people enjoy regular sex . Your partner give it to you anytime you desire it . Few months of of getting married. My wife can just tell me she is not in the mood . And she doesn't care how I feel about it. I don't believe in having affair outside my marriage. But this sex denying can make someone go crazy.

On the other side this put woman on a higher advantage. Men need sex more often than them . If she is not in the mood, you will need to beg for it. If any party in marriage is begged for anything regularly. The individual begin to feel he/she has a higher authority in the marriage. That is why men cheat. Because if you expect me to beg for what I should get normally. Then I can get it elsewhere in other to make you feel less important.

The man of the house begging for sex . Makes the woman feel she is too important.

She is a good woman. But I just wish she will be in the mood whenever I need her.

As "Socrates" said in 1978.... Try to marry a woman who is crazzie about you sha. Also boost your seduction game... Work out, even if na daily jogs, smell good steady.

If she constantly sees you dripping, she wouldn't want you taking all that hotness out. She'll want to keep what's hers.

This applies to wives too. Oh, never beg for sex.

The truth is, in this life you can't have it all. If you marry a lady that likes sox she will cheat, if you are unavailable or may be too sticky and needy.if you marry a woman that don't like sox she will use it as a weapon because she is doing you a favor by doing you.you just have to choose your demons so you are not embarrassed. Imagine you hold it until you mess up with her sister coworkers or maid?

Ndubuisipaul1:
What is that lie you were told before you got married only to discover after marriage ?

For me I thought that married people enjoy regular sex . Your partner give it to you anytime you desire it . Few months of of getting married. My wife can just tell me she is not in the mood . And she doesn't care how I feel about it. I don't believe in having affair outside my marriage. But this sex denying can make someone go crazy.

On the other side this put woman on a higher advantage. Men need sex more often than them . If she is not in the mood, you will need to beg for it. If any party in marriage is begged for anything regularly. The individual begin to feel he/she has a higher authority in the marriage. That is why men cheat. Because if you expect me to beg for what I should get normally. Then I can get it elsewhere in other to make you feel less important.

The man of the house begging for sex . Makes the woman feel she is too important.

She is a good woman. But I just wish she will be in the mood whenever I need her.

To be honesty, thats the truth. e be like say I will consider dat cheating because konji na bastherd and not a respecter of any man. imagine been begging for 4 months now

What if your pre-intimacy skills are wack and she's been enduring your poor performance with hopes that you'll improve over the months?

Because unlike you men, we women need that erotic stimulation before we can go all the way, else she'll hardly ever be in the mood for you, unless she's the one asking for it.

Na the same thing I dey face before. Mine was like 4 times in a month. If we do today na till next week she go allow me enter. I had to report her to her mom, in short my mother in law screamed on phone when I told her she only allows me 4 times in a month... 😆. She had to give her daughter serious warning, telling the her consequences. Honestly, it's not easy

Samantha125:
What if your pre-intimacy skills are wack and she's been enduring your poor performance with hopes that you'll improve over the months?

Because unlike you men, we women need that erotic stimulation before we can go all the way, else she'll hardly ever be in the mood for you, unless she's the one asking for it.

Madam when will you ladies accept responsibility and accountability in your life ? So almost all men don't have sex skills? Why is this sex skills not about you? Are women banned from having all these skills you are talking about? It must be men and zero responsibility from the women. Men tolerate women even more but hardly you see a man giving excuses when he is found wanting.

This isn't peculiar to the OP, all married men experience this only few are exceptions

We can't stimulate ourselves and men don't need any erotic stimulation to be in the mood, they're always ready.

And just because you're wack, it doesn't mean almost all men are wack, leave the innocent skillful men out of this.

ExudeLoveToAll:
Madam when will you ladies accept responsibility and accountability in your life ? So almost all men don't have sex skills? Why is this sex skills not about you? Are women banned from having all these skills you are talking about? It must be men and zero responsibility from the women. Men tolerate women even more but hardly you see a man giving excuses when he is found wanting.

This isn't peculiar to the OP, all married men experience this only few are exceptions

Kingsasian:
Na the same thing I dey face before. Mine was like 4 times in a month. If we do today na till next week she go allow me enter. I had to report her to her mom, in short my mother in law screamed on phone when I told her she only allows me 4 times in a month... 😆. She had to give her daughter serious warning, telling the her consequences. Honestly, it's not easy

My God! This sounds scary..
Once a week is not good enough. I guess you have given birth. Because for me we have not given birth and it's like this. I imagine how it will be when we give birth

praisecity:
To be honesty, thats the truth. e be like say I will consider dat cheating because konji na bastherd and not a respecter of any man. imagine been begging for 4 months now

Since you have not cheated already please don't start. But 4 months is too much ooo . And you go dey pay bills daily ooo . Food, house rent, children school fees, her hair. All the bills, Still she will get mind to tell you she is not in the mood. How on earth can you not be in the mood for a man that gives you everything financially. That your mood is not considerate

I can't beg for sex, though I'm not in a relationship

Samantha125:
What if your pre-intimacy skills are wack and she's been enduring your poor performance with hopes that you'll improve over the months?

Because unlike you men, we women need that erotic stimulation before we can go all the way, else she'll hardly ever be in the mood for you, unless she's the one asking for it.

I learnt the importance of pre-intimacy early in life. Me wey dey give head . I work on her enough before penetrating. She knows that if I start work on her bwest it must end in penetration. She will refuse me touching, or sucking her bwest. So if she doesn't want sex , she will not give that room at all. If I near her bwest she will say I should leave her alone. I don't like this mood thing that God created in women.

Please note she is a good woman. And if she is in her season. She will crave for it and we can do sex daily for a whole week. But once her season ends she will lock gate .

My problem is that I give to her the number of times she needs it during her season. She doesn't have to beg to get it all through her season. Why do I have to beg when I need it

Baronthecelebri:
I can't beg for sex, though I'm not in a relationship

Wait until you get married sir . Can you see all the comments of married men . We all are writing the same thing

I've said what I needed to say and I'm done... Either you take my advice as woman, or stay egotistical and keep complaining of starvation.

And just because you lack skills, it doesn't mean almost all men are like you... So please leave the innocent skillful men out of this.

ExudeLoveToAll:
Madam when will you ladies accept responsibility and accountability in your life ? So almost all men don't have sex skills? Why is this sex skills not about you? Are women banned from having all these skills you are talking about? It must be men and zero responsibility from the women. Men tolerate women even more but hardly you see a man giving excuses when he is found wanting.

This isn't peculiar to the OP, all married men experience this only few are exceptions

Then you guys are just not compatible.

Ndubuisipaul1:
I learnt the importance of pre-intimacy early in life. Me wey dey give head . I work on her enough before penetrating. She knows that if I start work on her bwest it must end in penetration. She will refuse me touching, or sucking her bwest. So if she doesn't want sex , she will not give that room at all. If I near her bwest she will say I should leave her alone. I don't like this mood thing that God created in women.

Please note she is a good woman. And if she is in her season. She will crave for it and we can do sex daily for a whole week. But once her season ends she will lock gate .

My problem is that I give to her the number of times she needs it during her season. She doesn't have to beg to get it all through her season. Why do I have to beg when I need it

Eh yah…pele. It’s the natural progression for most marriages.

Read the following attachment and place yourself as a married man.

Kingsasian:
Na the same thing I dey face before. Mine was like 4 times in a month. If we do today na till next week she go allow me enter. I had to report her to her mom, in short my mother in law screamed on phone when I told her she only allows me 4 times in a month... 😆. She had to give her daughter serious warning, telling the her consequences. Honestly, it's not easy

The day any man begins to take advice from a woman, about women, is the day he accepts defeat.

No reasonable man should do it.

Samantha125:
I've said what I needed to say and I'm done... Either you take my advice as woman, or stay egotistical and keep complaining of starvation.

And just because you lack skills, it doesn't mean almost all men are like you... So please leave the innocent skillful men out of this.

Kingsasian:
Na the same thing I dey face before. Mine was like 4 times in a month. If we do today na till next week she go allow me enter. I had to report her to her mom, in short my mother in law screamed on phone when I told her she only allows me 4 times in a month... 😆. She had to give her daughter serious warning, telling the her consequences. Honestly, it's not easy

praisecity:
To be honesty, thats the truth. e be like say I will consider dat cheating because konji na bastherd and not a respecter of any man. imagine been begging for 4 months now

If your wife is denying you sex, consider marrying a second wife if you have the financial means.

Polygamy is part of African culture

You want to deny who sex? Me? In your dreams?

I tell my wife steadily, quarell no dey reach dat side ooo! Collecting must not be hindered by any means. Besides she knows I'm damn good in bed. Na me dey do her shakara. So she no fit try am.

With the numerous women outside you're still denieing your husband from sex. Na only mugu woman go carry okay. Me I can never stop cheating no matter any situation if possible I enter polygamous family at the end of it. Life if just once experience no let any woman kill your vibes

Samantha125:
What if your pre-intimacy skills are wack and she's been enduring your poor performance with hopes that you'll improve over the months?

Because unlike you men, we women need that erotic stimulation before we can go all the way, else she'll hardly ever be in the mood for you, unless she's the one asking for it.

So she is tongue-tied not to discuss hee sexual fantasy with him right? If she runs to this place tomorrow now to create thread about him cheating, you will still be the first to criticize him.

Stephen0mozzy:
As "Socrates" said in 1978.... Try to marry a woman who is crazzie about you sha. Also boost your seduction game... Work out, even if na daily jogs, smell good steady.

If she constantly sees you dripping, she wouldn't want you taking all that hotness out. She'll want to keep what's hers.

This applies to wives too. Oh, never beg for sex.

I'm feeling the art of seduction has waned so much in relationship these days. Even if you're an Olympic athlete, doesn't pull much as it's only if gifts are showered she'll consider you for the game!
Forgotten that it's when there's danger she snuggles close? When danger is averted she flees, her next appearance is when there's a threat, and she's all snuggles again....I might be wrong...

Ndubuisipaul1:
What is that lie you were told before you got married only to discover after marriage ?

For me I thought that married people enjoy regular sex . Your partner give it to you anytime you desire it . Few months of of getting married. My wife can just tell me she is not in the mood . And she doesn't care how I feel about it. I don't believe in having affair outside my marriage. But this sex denying can make someone go crazy.

On the other side this put woman on a higher advantage. Men need sex more often than them . If she is not in the mood, you will need to beg for it. If any party in marriage is begged for anything regularly. The individual begin to feel he/she has a higher authority in the marriage. That is why men cheat. Because if you expect me to beg for what I should get normally. Then I can get it elsewhere in other to make you feel less important.

The man of the house begging for sex . Makes the woman feel she is too important.

She is a good woman. But I just wish she will be in the mood whenever I need her.

Look after yourself young man, have side chic, she don't care if you die or not

Most of them(women) see sex as a side interest even inside marriage.

As for your wife, she is shit testing you. to see how you will handle the issue.

That is when you as the head of the home need to make her see reason why sex denial is not acceptable.

wateva way you want to or choose to pass the msg, pass it. sex involves two players in it.

When one refuses to get involve, then you read to Him or her the riot act.

don't beat or assault the oda person to give in but you also as the man shud cut off privileges she has been getting.

One person shudnt be the clog in the wheel and you want the vehicle to keep driving smoothly. That is mental torture.

Dnt beg or cajole her for sex. I repeat don't force her to sex.
when one person starts bringing the "I don't care attitude or anyhowness" Just read to her the riot act.

gerizzim:
When one refuses to get involve, then you read to Him or her the riot act....

...Dnt beg or cajole her for sex. I repeat don't force her to sex.
when one person starts bringing the "I don't care attitude or anyhowness" Just read to her the riot act.

The Riot Act 😂

I like that concept! We the People....

Stephen0mozzy:
As "Socrates" said in 1978.... Try to marry a woman who is crazzie about you sha. Also boost your seduction game... Work out, even if na daily jogs, smell good steady.

If she constantly sees you dripping, she wouldn't want you taking all that hotness out. She'll want to keep what's hers.

This applies to wives too. Oh, never beg for sex.

when she was single, she visits when she is free, no house shores, with you shores included. The mental stress of marriage expectations she won't express, but if you let konji take cover, your attention is divided even growth wise. If you cheat normally, fire on. 🔥 live too short not to be selfish once in a while.

That marriage is not sweet.

What a big lie! 11 years, and we're still cruising.

My life may not have turned out like this if not for wifie.

I will not cease to tell anyone that cares to listen that I'm a medical doctor today because God used her. The support she rendered throughout my medschool years....doubt I would ever have made it through if not for her.

Wifie's sacrifices are enormous! It's one thing I'll tell my children over and over again!

The biggest lie getting married here, is all the crap your families and extended families say in the process

None of it matters
None of it is important
None of it is necessary
None of it is required
None of it is mandatory

Unless the 2 people getting married say it is
Its utterly bizarre you believe what they say

Ndubuisipaul1:
What is that lie you were told before you got married only to discover after marriage ?

For me I thought that married people enjoy regular sex . Your partner give it to you anytime you desire it . Few months of of getting married. My wife can just tell me she is not in the mood . And she doesn't care how I feel about it. I don't believe in having affair outside my marriage. But this sex denying can make someone go crazy.

On the other side this put woman on a higher advantage. Men need sex more often than them . If she is not in the mood, you will need to beg for it. If any party in marriage is begged for anything regularly. The individual begin to feel he/she has a higher authority in the marriage. That is why men cheat. Because if you expect me to beg for what I should get normally. Then I can get it elsewhere in other to make you feel less important.

The man of the house begging for sex . Makes the woman feel she is too important.

She is a good woman. But I just wish she will be in the mood whenever I need her.

But you Nigerian men like begging, look at your humiliation ritual weddings you literally beg and grovel to a family to marry a woman, its your whole culture as you lot say, Nigerian men beg 😅 make your ancestors proud and keep doing in marriage since you do it for marriage and love it so much

starpower:
when she was single, she visits when she is free, no house shores, with you shores included. The mental stress of marriage expectations she won't express, but if you let konji take cover, your attention is divided even growth wise. If you cheat normally, fire on. 🔥 live too short not to be selfish once in a while.

Hehe... Agbonmagbe my guy!

Sha.... intimacy is more than the sex really. I don't think it's normal to offload all shores to her and still be expecting her to be all rosy in the mood.

Angels like us no dey cheat. I'll do everything right by you, pre-intimacy for 4 days sef (buy random stuff for her on your way back home, send her old pictures of y'all, help her do the dishes, cook that one food you know how to cook 😂)....and don't ask for sex at all.... just cuddle her. My guy, unless na Esu you marry, the sex will blow your mind when she sees how intentional you've been.

And nope, only a mumu partner will try to weaponize this kind of approach.

For me to cheat cos you don't bother about being intimate with me, you go go your house.

praisecity:
To be honesty, thats the truth. e be like say I will consider dat cheating because konji na bastherd and not a respecter of any man. imagine been begging for 4 months now

Begging your wife sex for four months?

Which kin men dey for this generation. You have been de-masculanized (if there is any word like that)

That's crazy. My wife denies me sex for 3 days, I wld have started telling her that I will go get it outside and I wld start keeping ate night.