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Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by tunjijones(m): 5:36pm On Aug 31, 2025
praisecity:
To be honesty, thats the truth. e be like say I will consider dat cheating because konji na bastherd and not a respecter of any man. imagine been begging for 4 months now
Begging your wife sex for four months?

Which kin men dey for this generation. You have been de-masculanized (if there is any word like that)

That's crazy. My wife denies me sex for 3 days, I wld have started telling her that I will go get it outside and I wld start keeping late night.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Ndubuisipaul1(op): 5:37pm On Aug 31, 2025
tunjijones:
Begging your wife sex for four months?

Which kin men dey for this generation. You have been de-masculanized (if there is any word like that)

That's crazy. My wife denies me sex for 3 days, I wld have started telling her that I will go get it outside and I wld start keeping ate night.
You too dey vex, lolz..
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Ndubuisipaul1(op): 5:39pm On Aug 31, 2025
Fenrir:
You had run crying to your mother in law? "Boohoo 😭 I go married and still get laid, sort your daughter out" what is wrong with you men and marriage here?

You think you need to seek permission to marry and beg for that permission
You think you beg and grovel in the actual wedding process
And you still go crying to each other's parents once married as well

How does your country function at all? Its not a country run by men, its country run by boys that need help and permission and to beg to do anything

You just told the world that you had to run to your mother in law so you could have sex with your wife, thats the literal definition of pity sex, I can just imagine your wife laying there looking at the ceiling counting the seconds it takes for you to finish and climb off of her, seriously what is wrong with the men here? All you seem to do is......

Beg
Lie
Cheat
Commit fraud
Beg some more
Seek permission for everything you do
Beg lots more and Commit sexual assault
After the insult. What is your solution ? Which country are you? And how is it done over there ?
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Tonnyray: 5:45pm On Aug 31, 2025
That marriage is a scam.
There's no bigger lie in existence than the above.
Marriage to the right woman and starting a family with her will keep you wondering and asking yourself how you survived before embarking on the nuptial journey.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Fenrir(m): 5:46pm On Aug 31, 2025
Ndubuisipaul1:
After the insult. What is your solution ? Which country are you? And how is it done over there ?
Im Norwegian/Swedish/Danish but live in Nigeria

I was married to a yoruba woman that died of cancer now im married to an igbo woman and ive never had these problems

Its simple, make your wife happy and they never say no and never even need to think about begging

And before you ask, no I didn't do the humiliation rituals you call weddings for either marriages
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Fenrir(m): 6:35pm On Aug 31, 2025
Ndubuisipaul1:
After the insult. What is your solution ? Which country are you? And how is it done over there ?
And how is it an insult if its true? Nigerian love to beg you keep proving it
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by In4matic: 7:20pm On Aug 31, 2025
Samantha125:
I've said what I needed to say and I'm done... Either you take my advice as woman, or stay egotistical and keep complaining of starvation.

And just because you lack skills, it doesn't mean almost all men are like you... So please leave the innocent skillful men out of this.
You are not correct at all. Show me 1 man in a MONOGAMOUS marriage who doesn't have this complaint .
It's not enough to say such men exist but mention any.
As a married man, you can have all the pre-intimacy skills and yet, the average wife won't still be ready for you more than a couple of times in a month.
It's not for nothing tradition came up with 2-4 wives option to guard against side chic phenomenon
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by In4matic: 7:41pm On Aug 31, 2025
Fenrir:
You had run crying to your mother in law? "Boohoo 😭 I go married and still get laid, sort your daughter out" what is wrong with you men and marriage here?

You think you need to seek permission to marry and beg for that permission
You think you beg and grovel in the actual wedding process
And you still go crying to each other's parents once married as well

How does your country function at all? Its not a country run by men, its country run by boys that need help and permission and to beg to do anything

You just told the world that you had to run to your mother in law so you could have sex with your wife, thats the literal definition of pity sex, I can just imagine your wife laying there looking at the ceiling counting the seconds it takes for you to finish and climb off of her, seriously what is wrong with the men here? All you seem to do is......

Beg
Lie
Cheat
Commit fraud
Beg some more
Seek permission for everything you do
Beg lots more and Commit sexual assault
Please spare us the Male bravado BS! So what should be do?
Beat her into submission?
Start to have an extra marital affair?

With the hookup menace in Naija, do you know the dangers of STIs? Or the overhead cost of side chic's that sees dating as a full time salaried job, draining the man's resources like a leaking tyre?
Isn't it best to report her to the persons she listens to? If that person happens to her mother, what's the crime there?
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Fenrir(m): 7:46pm On Aug 31, 2025
In4matic:
Please spare is the male bravado BS, so what should be do? Beat her into submission, or have an extra marital affair?
With the hookup menace in Naija, do you know the dangers of STIs? Or the overhead cost of side chic's that sees dating married men as a full time job, draining the man's resources like a leaking tyre?
Isn't it best to report her to the persons the wife listens to? If that person happens to her mother, what's the crime there?
Im Norwegian
A different nationality
A different ethnicity
Different colour

You dont beg and you dont beat and you don't use force

You just treat her right, even if you are married whats stopping you from still dating your wife?
Get off your backside and take her out to dinner occasionally, make her feel like you still value her

Taking your wife out once or twice a month for dinner and drinks isnt that much effort and it doesn't cost much, what is wrong with you men?

Its not that difficult to understand once you men actually marry a woman thats it in your heads.

Why are the options in your heads cheating and beating?

Why you cant just be men? The women here cheat because you do, whats good for the goose is good for the gander

You are hypocrites
You want to be in relationships and in marriages but single at the same time and you wonder why your whole society is messed up? Loyalty is not a concept to you?
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by In4matic: 7:48pm On Aug 31, 2025
Fenrir:
Im Norwegian/Swedish/Danish but live in Nigeria

I was married to a yoruba woman that died of cancer now im married to an igbo woman and ive never had these problems

Its simple, make your wife happy and they never say no and never even need to think about begging

And before you ask, no I didn't do the humiliation rituals you call weddings for either marriages
You're either delusional, or a very bad liar.

Which Igbo girl did you marry without paying her bride price? Where is she from?
Does she have kids for you?

This is an adult discussion, not a story for kids.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Fenrir(m): 7:53pm On Aug 31, 2025
In4matic:
You're either delusional, or a very bad liar.

Which Igbo girl did you marry without paying her bride price? Where is she from?
Does she have kids for you?

This is an adult discussion, not a story for kids.
Go read my other my topics and you will understand

And FYI, I did pay a bride price, I just didn't meet anyone to do it and I didn't do any traditions at all

She didn't want me paying it and I had to go behind her back to do it

There are 230 million of you, do you really think everyone here thinks the same way as you? Especially if that woman lived outside Nigeria for half a decade?
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Fenrir(m):
In4matic:
You're either delusional, or a very bad liar.

Which Igbo girl did you marry without paying her bride price? Where is she from?
Does she have kids for you?

This is an adult discussion, not a story for kids.
When will you understand that when i talk about traditions, I dont mean the bride price

I mean all the crap, its irrelevant unless 2 people want to do it

No consent needed
No permission needed
No introduction or knocking needed
No extended family or kinsmen needed
No Nigerian outfit or kneeling for a blessing or prostration needed

None of it is needed no matter what your families say unless 2 freely say they want to do it without coercion
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by In4matic: 7:57pm On Aug 31, 2025
Fenrir:
Go read my other my topics and you will understand

And FYI, I did pay a bride price, I just didn't meet anyone to do it and I didn't do any traditions at all

She didn't want me paying it and I had to go behind her back to do it

There are 230 million of you, do you really think everyone here thinks the same way as you? Especially if that woman lived outside Nigeria for half a decade?
So you didn't meet Anyone to pay her bride price, so you paid via western union money transfer right?
Or no, you must have credited her Dads Bitcoin wallet.
As I said before, this is an adult discussion.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Fenrir(m): 8:01pm On Aug 31, 2025
In4matic:
You're either delusional, or a very bad liar.

Which Igbo girl did you marry without paying her bride price? Where is she from?
Does she have kids for you?

This is an adult discussion, not a story for kids.
Fella shes from imo and I met her in Norway when I was 35 and still grieving my previous wifes death from cancer she was 22 and her Nigerian partner was beating the crap out of her so beat the crap out of him

Im 40 now and shes 27
And I have a child from my previous marriage

And what does it matter? That crap your families say about kids and bride price not being paid is nonsense

If a womans family try to take the kids without a court order that's kidnapping, and no grandparents in this country or extended family have any legal rights to a child unless a court grants it

No family
No traditions
No culture
Nothing is above the laws of the country
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Fenrir(m): 8:04pm On Aug 31, 2025
In4matic:
So you didn't meet Anyone to pay her bride price, so you paid via western union money transfer right?
Or no, you must have credited her Dads Bitcoin wallet.
As I said before, this is an adult discussion.
Her parents are gone, brown bread, 6 foot under, pushing up daisy's

All I did was send her aunt some money
I will never listen to a Nigerian father or uncle, I wont ever do anything they say

I dont need to, as long as woman consents under the law cap M6 lfn you can just take a woman and marry her

Stop spreading the dark age nonsense, none of you are traditional anyway
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Carazon: 8:16pm On Aug 31, 2025
Kingsasian:
Na the same thing I dey face before. Mine was like 4 times in a month. If we do today na till next week she go allow me enter. I had to report her to her mom, in short my mother in law screamed on phone when I told her she only allows me 4 times in a month... 😆. She had to give her daughter serious warning, telling the her consequences. Honestly, it's not easy
Una shame dey shame me. Begging for sex?
Reporting your wife to her mother because of sex? SHM
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Fenrir(m): 8:22pm On Aug 31, 2025
In4matic:
So you didn't meet Anyone to pay her bride price, so you paid via western union money transfer right?
Or no, you must have credited her Dads Bitcoin wallet.
As I said before, this is an adult discussion.
And why are these the only options in your petty head? All a person needs is the bank account sort code and account number for direct bank transfer? That way you have evidence and not western union or money gram or any of that nonsense any scammers can use, a bank account you actually 100% know who its going to and you can check a bank to verify its legitimacy
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by blesdman(m): 8:40pm On Aug 31, 2025
praisecity:
To be honesty, thats the truth. e be like say I will consider dat cheating because konji na bastherd and not a respecter of any man. imagine been begging for 4 months now
how ? Not possible. Another person de service her
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Fenrir(m): 8:47pm On Aug 31, 2025
In4matic:
So you didn't meet Anyone to pay her bride price, so you paid via western union money transfer right?
Or no, you must have credited her Dads Bitcoin wallet.
As I said before, this is an adult discussion.
And if you check my very first topic A hole, I didn't even marry her in Nigeria
We took 7 people each to hawaii and had a destination wedding, her dream destination wedding
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Tamara69: 8:58pm On Aug 31, 2025
In4matic:
So you didn't meet Anyone to pay her bride price, so you paid via western union money transfer right?
Or no, you must have credited her Dads Bitcoin wallet.
As I said before, this is an adult discussion.
Im his wife and I told him I didn't want the bride price paid I find it insulting that our families use marriage to profit from us. Gotta go, putting our child to bed.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Fenrir(m): 9:03pm On Aug 31, 2025
Tamara69:
Im his wife and I told him I didn't want the bride price paid I find it insulting that our families use marriage to profit from us. Gotta go, putting our child to bed.
Jeg elsker deg dronning
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Kingsasian(m): 9:10pm On Aug 31, 2025
Carazon:
Una shame dey shame me. Begging for sex?
Reporting your wife to her mother because of sex? SHM
Na my wife. Go shameless for your own. People like una dey form tough men online but beg little girls in your neighbourhood for sex everyday
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by praisecity(m): 10:03pm On Aug 31, 2025
blesdman:
how ? Not possible. Another person de service her
With my own best of knowledge am 100% sure she is not cheating at all
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by praisecity(m): 10:15pm On Aug 31, 2025
Ndubuisipaul1:
Since you have not cheated already please don't start. But 4 months is too much ooo . And you go dey pay bills daily ooo . Food, house rent, children school fees, her hair. All the bills, Still she will get mind to tell you she is not in the mood. How on earth can you not be in the mood for a man that gives you everything financially. That your mood is not considerate
Na dat paying of bills dey pain me, man will go out in d morning to hussle for family, and come in d night make he nack to ease stress and wife go still deny him.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Smartguyboy(m): 10:15pm On Aug 31, 2025
Cheating is expensive oh
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by In4matic: 12:02am On Sep 01, 2025
Fenrir:
And if you check my very first topic A hole, I didn't even marry her in Nigeria
We took 7 people each to hawaii and had a destination wedding, her dream destination wedding
Fenrir:
Im Norwegian/Swedish/Danish but live in Nigeria

I was married to a yoruba woman that died of cancer now im married to an igbo woman
In one breath, you are Norwegian.
Swedish and Danish living in Nigeria.

Who speaks flawless Nigerian English despite the confusion of his origins (Norwegian Swedish or Danish).

Who happens to have a thing for Nigerian women.

Then in another breath, you live abroad and happened to have met both Nigerian women abroad.

Yet you are fully aware of the CAP number and provisions of the matrimonial act in the LAWS OF THE FEDERATION OF NIGERIA LFN.

Next you had married an Imo lady without performing any rites of paying bride price, you just "sent her aunt some money". Then you recant that you took her to registry with 7 persons!!!. Hmm

Only a kid will not know that as far as Nigeria is concerned, a registry marriage without the consent of parents is mere cohabitation. And there's only one way to obtain consent from Nigerian parents. That's by completing the traditional rites of bride price payment
But you and your alternate moniker are too ignorant to knows these things.

You think by using Google translate to Piece together a few Scandinavian words will help sell your misdirections?
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Fenrir(m): 12:10am On Sep 01, 2025
In4matic:
In one breath, you are Norwegian.
Swedish and Danish living in Nigeria.

Who speaks flawless Nigerian English despite the confusion of his origins (Norwegian Swedish or Danish).

Who happens to have a thing for Nigerian women.

Then in another breath, you live abroad and happened to have met both Nigerian women abroad.

Yet you are fully aware of the CAP number and provisions of the matrimonial act in the LAWS OF THE FEDERATION OF NIGERIA LFN.

Next you had married an Imo lady without performing any rites of paying bride price, you just "sent her aunt some money". Then you recant that you took her to registry with 7 persons!!!. Hmm

Only a kid will not know that as far as Nigeria is concerned, a registry marriage without the consent of parents is mere cohabitation. And there's only one way to obtain consent from Nigerian parents. That's by completing the traditional rites of bride price payment
But you and your alternate moniker are too ignorant to knows these things.

You think by using Google translate to Piece together a few Scandinavian words will help sell your misdirections?
Do a video call fella or be quiet

I was born in Norway
Dad = Swedish/Norwegian
Mum = Norwegian/Danish

Go through my other topics and you will clearly see i deleted own parents and was sent to the uk EMANCIPATED and a legal man at 13

And your traditions and bride price only need to be paid IF a couple choose a traditional wedding, its all a lie you tell yourselves none of it matters and none of it is a legal requirement

Not one aspect is legally required under human rights laws

And as long as something is paid a member of family than they can be quiet too, how does it impact your petty life? I did the same thing when I married my 1st wife except I sent her father to prison over it, all I had to do was record his lies and take it straight to a solicitor

None of you are traditional anyway or your fathers and uncles would make sure all women were virgins until marriage

But the nigerian man loves to beg fathers for pre efed woman that claim to be from traditional families to the point fathers of runs girls demand it as well, you are ridiculous and the joke of Africa

And FYI, I didn't take her to a registry
We left Nigeria for hawaii and took 7 people each for her dream wedding because she never wanted that traditional nonsense

She already had duel citizenship between here and Norway anyway
You men truly strange, you know that, right?

Do a video call like ive said to lots of you, let me press the screen record and post the call on here to clear it for everyone so 7 other people like you finish this and close your mouths on this issue
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Maria96: 12:36am On Sep 01, 2025
Ndubuisipaul1:
What is that lie you were told before you got married only to discover after marriage ?

For me I thought that married people enjoy regular sex . Your partner give it to you anytime you desire it . Few months of of getting married. My wife can just tell me she is not in the mood . And she doesn't care how I feel about it. I don't believe in having affair outside my marriage. But this sex denying can make someone go crazy.

On the other side this put woman on a higher advantage. Men need sex more often than them . If she is not in the mood, you will need to beg for it. If any party in marriage is begged for anything regularly. The individual begin to feel he/she has a higher authority in the marriage. That is why men cheat. Because if you expect me to beg for what I should get normally. Then I can get it elsewhere in other to make you feel less important.

The man of the house begging for sex . Makes the woman feel she is too important.

She is a good woman. But I just wish she will be in the mood whenever I need her.
we have two children and are abroad with no help. My wife is usually tired before work she prepares the children for me to take to day care. And goes to work. Evening too after all chores its already 10 pm. I assist with childcare and chores too. How can she be in the mood for sex after all that? Na once a month i dey collect o. If you cheat abroad and it leas to divorce. Lawyer alone go chop 20k to 30k dollars 😂😂
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Carazon: 9:44am On Sep 01, 2025
Kingsasian:
Na my wife. Go shameless for your own. People like una dey form tough men online but beg little girls in your neighbourhood for sex everyday
Calling mother inlaw because of sex, keep it up. Next is council of elders grin
Re: What Is The Biggest Lie You Discovered After Getting Married? by Silentgroper(m): 9:47am On Sep 01, 2025
Ndubuisipaul1:
After the insult. What is your solution ? Which country are you? And how is it done over there ?
That one na impostor jare ..

No mind am...
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