₦airaland Forum

Raregem9000:
✓ And what if its the man that is taking care of the domestic aspects ( cooking, going to the market, cleaning etc)?

Caaz:
Every monetary marital debt has to be paid,nature itself is in support.
So blame the deptor,not the collector.

essentialone1:
✓ You are not ok at all.

Kobojunkie:
How old are you that you would need for me to break down for you why her labor in the marriage needs to be rewarded same as yours?

I believe a financial literacy tutor should be able to also teach you these things. A wife is not a source of free labor.

davidtemi:
✓ When my wife gave birth in a hospital, I bought pack of malt for the nurses, lo and belove I bought pure water for my first son from one of the nurses and she asked me for the money for pure water, then na #10. That thing shock me seriously

israelmao:
✓ I asked you a question which demands an answer.

Caaz:
That's why you re not my spouse, only odiegwu husbands act like you.you ve no idea the joys that comes with collecting the 4k.

Kobojunkie:
Why you shock?

Gbadugbakun:
I saw this and decided to share it here. Why are our women like this.

Guys what would you do in this situation if you are the one?

Kobojunkie:
I did respond to you.

pocohantas:
My money is my money,
His money is our money mentality.

While I believe loans should be repaid especially when it is a tidy sum that was used as working capital. If it was used to buy something for the general wellbeing if the household, such should be a duty of both or either party. Not a loan. In this case, the 4k should be written off, but for accounting purposes, the man should state clearly that 4k out of it is to repay his debt.

Caaz:
That's why you re not my spouse, only odiegwu husbands act like you.you ve no idea the joys that comes with collecting the 4k.

Caaz:
That's why you re not my spouse, only odiegwu husbands act like you.you ve no idea the joys that comes with collecting the 4k.

Kobojunkie:
The man is the provider, homemaker, cook, cleaning servant, etc. in the home? Where did you find such a case?

davidtemi:
➜That I just paid you #9500 for a pack of Malta Guinness and u are asking me #10 for pure water I bought for my first son

BodePolScience:
That mentality is not good. It shows ungratefulness and entitlement mindset.

I urgently needed 1k to give someone, I asked you and you gave it to me. That same evening, I decided to dash you 10k out of my freewill, you collected it, thanked me and yet still tried to remind me of my 1k debt.

You too think am now

Bizibi:
this marriage thing should not be complicated.

Raregem9000:
➜I've seen someone who does all that and still provide for his family.

Kobojunkie:
you expected that a sentimental gesture you extended towards her should result in her making one towards you too, ignoring her own bottom line?

Kobojunkie:
The one insisting that a woman who gets money due her, referred in this case as pocket money, should not expect a loan owed her to be paid back is clearly the one who probably has a couple of loose nuts somewhere. 🙄🙄

If your Oga borrowed Naira 4000 from you, do you write off the loan amount because he has handed you your salary/pay at the end of that month?

ayusco85:
Tell her take 95k for Ur upkeep then 5k to settle your 4k debt. You have to state it clearly. A debt is a debt and must be repaid

israelmao:
➜Rewarded labour has not broken the rule of financial literacy but it is now alright to regard my money as hers and hers as hers?

Walezy2020:
Abi na na pipo like them get the mentality of his money is our money but my money is my money, which one is bigger 100k or 4k

paragon10:
➜so is the husband paying his wife salary? How does that relate?