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Dear esteemed men, why will a woman you married that has nothing, came from a poor background, have the audacity to say, "I made my husband what he is today, I was with him when he had nothing" why this said man worked for his money without your efforts, is this not entitlement mentality......


Another thing I have observed around marriage is the fact that a man's money is always a woman's money, why a woman's money is only for her self only, is this not greed.....


Why the hell will I pay 1.5M to 2M for bride price just for a useless liability that has nothing to offer me in the long run, except high BP, I will always say it marriage is the biggest scam in this world.......


Most of the married men, are all crying silently, because if they knew what marriage really is they won't have gotten there self into it, marriage is a path to slavery......


I know two friends my age, suffering from marriage wahala, one came to me yesterday and was explaining his ordeal with me, telling me how his wife is good for nothing and a liability and had it been he knew, he would have remained a bachelor like me, I just smiled, I wanted to convince him to divorce, but he has five kids with his wife already..... But I will still tell him to do the needful....


So dear esteemed men be careful out there, so you don't make a terrible mistake...... Remember we are Kings.....


Bachelor For Life

Do you have sisters, aunt's, does your assertion apply to them?

The thing is, marriage without money is hell.
Marrying a promiscuous woman is hell fire

Esthered:
Do you have sisters, aunt's, does your assertion apply to them?

even if he has sisters and aunts, should that in anyway stop him from saying the truth. Men are now facing reality... You women should bring value. It's no longer business as usual

paragon10:
even if he has sisters and aunts, should that in anyway stop him from saying the truth. Men are now facing reality... You women should bring value. It's no longer business as usual

Wait for the value. They're bringing it.

Esthered:
Wait for the value. They're bringing it.

Omo this talk dey really pepper you for body. You go dey aiight. Whether you like it or not men are waking up. No go get BP o. Shalom

The problem begins with the fact that your mothers, for one reason or another, did not reach out to correct these notions you have of the status of a woman in marriage in time. If you had known from time that marriage is a type of business agreement between a man and a woman were both typically contribute — financially, emotionally, physically(via labor and more). etc.—consistently to the success of the marriage and the individuals in the marriage, you would have no need to ask these silly questions.

LoneSoldier:
➜Dear esteemed men, why will a woman you married that has nothing, came from a poor background, have the audacity to say, "I made my husband what he is today, I was with him when he had nothing" why this said man worked for his money without your efforts, is this not entitlement mentality......
➜Another thing I have observed around marriage is the fact that a man's money is always a woman's money, why a woman's money is only for her self only, is this not greed.....
➜Why the hell will I pay 1.5M to 2M for bride price just for a useless liability that has nothing to offer me in the long run, except high BP, I will always say it marriage is the biggest scam in this world.......
➜Most of the married men, are all crying silently, because if they knew what marriage really is they won't have gotten there self into it, marriage is a path to slavery......
➜I know two friends my age, suffering from marriage wahala, one came to me yesterday and was explaining his ordeal with me, telling me how his wife is good for nothing and a liability and had it been he knew, he would have remained a bachelor like me, I just smiled, I wanted to convince him to divorce, but he has five kids with his wife already..... But I will still tell him to do the needful....
➜So dear esteemed men be careful out there, so you don't make a terrible mistake...... Remember we are Kings..... Bachelor For Life

1. She says that because she has every right to claim a part in the success that is the marriage and its dividends.

2. A man's money is typically considered the dividend of the marriage when the man is the sole provider in the marriage. That should be a no-brainer, really. If the man were a partial provider, the case would be entirely different. If a woman can take care of her responsibilities in the marriage and also make time to earn more on the side, that is typically when her money is regarded as her own. It all depends on the agreement between the man and woman, really. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Marriage is a choice... it has always been a choice. If you don't want to pay 1.5M for a woman, then don't. It is that simple. Look elsewhere for a woman whom you can afford somewhere else. Don't play victim. That is a kind of mental illness! 🥱🥱🥱

4.a. Your friend, with eyes wide open, chose to marry a woman who had no job and no established skills of her own. What did he expect? For the marriage fairy to transform her into a dazzling career woman after marriage? Is your friend a reptard? 🥱🥱🥱

4.b. Well, tell him to divorce the woman; however, that woman will do well to make sure that she gives full custody of all five kids to the man, since they are his kids anyway. When he was busy making them, where were these thoughts of this woman being a liability then? He produced 5 kids and is now suddenly screaming that a woman with 5 children he made her have is a liability? 🥱🥱🥱

Please tell your friend's wife to come online make she come tell her own side of the story.

5. Please go back to your mother for the lessons you missed out on, and also visit your friend's wife to hear her side of the story. In this day and age, you can't really think yourself a king if you can't even reason simple things such as these for yourself. 🥱🥱🥱

Tenrack:
Omo this talk dey really pepper you for body. You go dey aiight. Whether you like it or not men are waking up. No go get BP o. Shalom

Pepper me ke...value seeker and bringer, we'll all be fine.

Rexymania:
➜The thing is, marriage without money is hell. Marrying a promiscuous woman is hell fire

. What has a promiscuous woman to do with anything? Some of the most successful men out there are married to those women you lot regard as promiscuous women, and they are doing great even at that.

This is all while you, non-promiscuous women, are eventually labeled as liabilities or accused of disrespect by your husbands for this side. Continue!

paragon10:
➜even if he has sisters and aunts, should that in anyway stop him from saying the truth. Men are now facing reality... You women should bring value. It's no longer business as usual

....

Tenrack:
Omo this talk dey really pepper you for body. You go dey aiight. Whether you like it or not men are waking up. No go get BP o. Shalom

Which men are facing reality? OP's friend, who dated and impregnated a woman five times, after which he then labeled her a liability, probably for not being able to juggle five kids and a business she likely had no previous experience working at?

Or is it OP who thinks that after paying bride price — which no one is really forced to pay by the way —a woman should never be able to afterwards claim a part of any of the dividends or successes in what is her own marriage?

Na una mama I go blame for not giving you all basic education as far as the place of a woman in her own marriage and her rights therein.

Kobojunkie:
.... Which men are facing reality? OP's friend, who dated and impregnated a woman five times, after which he then labeled her a liability, probably for not being able to juggle five kids and a business she likely had no previous experience working at?

Or is it OP who thinks that after paying bride price — which no one is really forced to pay by the way —a woman should never be able to afterwards claim a part of any of the dividends or successes in what is her own marriage?

Na una mama I go blame for not giving you all basic education as far as the place of a woman in her own marriage and her rights therein.

You go cry tire, come explain tire join. Think I'm like the others who argue with you?

Esthered:
Pepper me ke...value seeker and bringer, we'll all be fine.

na now you talk.

LoneSoldier:
Dear esteemed men, why will a woman you married that has nothing, came from a poor background, have the audacity to say, "I made my husband what he is today, I was with him when he had nothing" why this said man worked for his money without your efforts, is this not entitlement mentality......


Another thing I have observed around marriage is the fact that a man's money is always a woman's money, why a woman's money is only for her self only, is this not greed.....


Why the hell will I pay 1.5M to 2M for bride price just for a useless liability that has nothing to offer me in the long run, except high BP, I will always say it marriage is the biggest scam in this world.......


Most of the married men, are all crying silently, because if they knew what marriage really is they won't have gotten there self into it, marriage is a path to slavery......


I know two friends my age, suffering from marriage wahala, one came to me yesterday and was explaining his ordeal with me, telling me how his wife is good for nothing and a liability and had it been he knew, he would have remained a bachelor like me, I just smiled, I wanted to convince him to divorce, but he has five kids with his wife already..... But I will still tell him to do the needful....


So dear esteemed men be careful out there, so you don't make a terrible mistake...... Remember we are Kings.....


Bachelor For Life

This is because u are copying western idea of marriage. With African idea of marriage, u will act properly

blesdman:
➜This is because u are copying western idea of marriage. With African idea of marriage, u will act properly

. Copying it how? The majority of Africans who are done with the idea of marriage were themselves raised in traditional homes and some polygamous setups. How is any of that Western in orientation?

Baby mama is the good

Esthered:
Do you have sisters, aunt's, does your assertion apply to them?

That doesn't apply to my context, what I wrote up there is the bitter truth about marriage.....

paragon10:
even if he has sisters and aunts, should that in anyway stop him from saying the truth. Men are now facing reality... You women should bring value. It's no longer business as usual

You can say that again brother, most of these women are just so useless, nothing to offer to a man.....

That's why you see men dieing anyhow due to high rate of high BP..... It's painful.....

Rexymania:
The thing is, marriage without money is hell.
Marrying a promiscuous woman is hell fire

You nailed it, money is the reason most of this women go into marriage in the first place.....

That is the same reason Regina Daniels married a man her father's age.....

Carl99:
What you said sadly is true. But there are still lots of marriages that are flourishing with happiness today.

The problem is not marriage. Rather it's those who enter marriage without a proper understanding of it. Why would you marry somebody that does nothing in the first place.
There's is a reason for Courtship.

Marriage is beautiful. Just pray you find the right one

Even though you get a working class lady as a wife, it doesn't mean, that they are useful anyway......

There is this way women are been wired to act as a parasite and the man the host..... Even when the said woman has money, just know you are in deep shit, they will obviously want to take control over your life, after all that is all they wanted all along..... Marriage is not sweet, I can attest to that.... Men all over the world are crying silently, divorce is on the high side this days ....

blesdman:
This is because u are copying western idea of marriage. With African idea of marriage, u will act properly

There is no copying of anything, all marriages are the same everywhere.....

Kobojunkie:
The problem begins with the fact that your mothers, for one reason or another, did not reach out to correct these notions you have of the status of a woman in marriage in time. If you had known from time that marriage is a type of business agreement between a man and a woman were both typically contribute — financially, emotionally, physically(via labor and more). etc.—consistently to the success of the marriage and the individuals in the marriage, you would have no need to ask these silly questions. 1. She says that because she has every right to claim a part in the success that is the marriage and its dividends.

2. A man's money is typically considered the dividend of the marriage when the man is the sole provider in the marriage. That should be a no-brainer, really. If the man were a partial provider, the case would be entirely different. If a woman can take care of her responsibilities in the marriage and also make time to earn more on the side, that is typically when her money is regarded as her own. It all depends on the agreement between the man and woman, really. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Marriage is a choice... it has always been a choice. If you don't want to pay 1.5M for a woman, then don't. It is that simple. Look elsewhere for a woman whom you can afford somewhere else. Don't play victim. That is a kind of mental illness! 🥱🥱🥱

4.a. Your friend, with eyes wide open, chose to marry a woman who had no job and no established skills of her own. What did he expect? For the marriage fairy to transform her into a dazzling career woman after marriage? Is your friend a reptard? 🥱🥱🥱

4.b. Well, tell him to divorce the woman; however, that woman will do well to make sure that she gives full custody of all five kids to the man, since they are his kids anyway. When he was busy making them, where were these thoughts of this woman being a liability then? He produced 5 kids and is now suddenly screaming that a woman with 5 children he made her have is a liability? 🥱🥱🥱

Please tell your friend's wife to come online make she come tell her own side of the story.

5. Please go back to your mother for the lessons you missed out on, and also visit your friend's wife to hear her side of the story. In this day and age, you can't really think yourself a king if you can't even reason simple things such as these for yourself. 🥱🥱🥱

Your number one point, I don't go along with it, women doesn't have that right to say such, because behind every mans success is his sweat, hard work, determination, dedication and a slim curve of hope to make it, not you.....


Your number two point, so now marriage is now a business venture, enlighten me more..... You just proved my points, so a man's money is actually for the wife also, because they did an agreement, why a woman's money becomes hers when she works for it, I want to ask you a question, does the man not work for his money also, does he sit and wait for money to fall down from the sky before he gets it....... You people are just something else honestly speaking.......



Your third point, when I said 1.5 to 2M of bride price, I was of the motion to say that you guys ain't worth that kind of amount, that is a scam of the highest order, you guys aint even worth 1,000 naira, you are not worth anything because you came from us, without us you are nothing......



Your fourth point, well like I stated above earlier, I will definitely tell him to do the needful, which is to divorce..... There is a saying that goes this way, all that glitters are not gold, marriage glitters but is not gold .....


Your fifth point, I have a lot of lessons I have learnt over the years, Marriage AKA Suffering ProMax is one of them .....

I hope if you are a female or male or she-male or he-male, or whatever you represent, if a man marries you he will really suffer for sure.....

I'm glad more men are beginning to wake up, but unfortunately not many will. Most will remain in the slave plantation like the weak little puppets they are.

All man and woman want to see the inside of that secret cult called marriage. Then after they start asking for the fastest way back outside...

DelilahMakinde:
All man and woman want to see the inside of that secret cult called marriage. Then after they start asking for the fastest way back outside...

nothing dey inside marriage. It takes mvmvness from a man to get married to all these modern women.

LoneSoldier:
There is no copying of anything, all marriages are the same everywhere.....

check again...compare American, Europe and Africa...distinctly

blesdman:
check again...compare American, Europe and Africa...distinctly

Stop distracting from the issue!

LoneSoldier:
➜Your number one point, I don't go along with it, women doesn't have that right to say such, because behind every mans success is his sweat, hard work, determination, dedication and a slim curve of hope to make it, not you.....
Your number two point, so now marriage is now a business venture, enlighten me more..... You just proved my points, so a man's money is actually for the wife also, because they did an agreement, why a woman's money becomes hers when she works for it, I want to ask you a question, does the man not work for his money also, does he sit and wait for money to fall down from the sky before he gets it....... You people are just something else honestly speaking.......

I already made clear that the ones I blame the most for this are mothers who raise sons who are completely removed from the realities of life and the rights of a woman in marriage.

It is indeed a sad thing to see a son claim his own mother has no right to claim the success of her husband as her own in marriage. It really makes you wonder if this son ever really saw his own mother as a human being at any point growing up. It shakes one to the bone to see a son literally declaring his mother was merely a slave who suffered needlessly in marriage with nothing(not even a share in the success of the man she slaved for) to show for it. 😩😩😩

Una still dey marry? The ones when marry dey run come out,single people say them want marry.una never see anything. Every day I dey thank God say I no succumb to people pressure to get married. By now I for dey cry alone with my problems.omo,I don dodge nonsense.