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BodePolScience:
From the original post, it's clear that it's a domestic/family or couple matter and NOT a formal or business matter. It's very unromantic for couples to be counting scores. I occasionally collects 2k or 3k from my wife for conveniency reasons and I do give her money in 10's of thousands to do things for herself far far more than the times I collect from her. So it will be an ungrateful act if she asked or reminded of some little money that I might have even forgotten. What she's saying is that she can't make any sacrifice or tolerate any loss but me the constant giver is free to keep giving her and tolerating loss.

ayusco85:
➜It's not that serious. If you want her to dash you don't use the word borrow. If u borrowed from her try and pay her, let it be on record. If u don't want to use the word borrow find a more befitting word to use to collect some small money from her then. It's all about effective communication

Kobojunkie:
1. Wrong!

➜ The money is listed as money meant for her upkeep, and it came from money earned by her husband from his salary during the marriage. It is hers, not a gift. A gift would maybe come from money that the man had before the marriage, which is typically kept separate account from the account from which marriage-related expenses should come.

Also, if my boss gives me my salary at the end of the week or month and adds that I should buy anything I like with it, it does not change anything of the fact that that money is what is due to me, does it?

2. Yes! Marriage has always been a business agreement between a man and a woman.

3. Aren't you assuming the woman had absolutely no savings at all when she came into the marriage?

Firstcitizen:
➜So marriage is a business agreement where one party splits his wages and the other party keeps hers. Smh

Caaz:
That's why you re not my spouse, only odiegwu husbands act like you.you ve no idea the joys that comes with collecting the 4k.

Gbadugbakun:
I saw this and decided to share it here. Why are our women like this.

Guys what would you do in this situation if you are the one?

Gbadugbakun:
So if I'm owing you 4k and I give you 100k you'll still expect me to pay you the 4k am owing you ba. Very well I will collect back my 100k and give you your 4k.

Kobojunkie:
You are not making any sense! The other party keeps hers, how?

Kobojunkie:
Maybe it is because you have never really considered marriage for what it really is, an agreement between two individuals...a partnership where responsibilities as well as dividends are meant to be shared.

The allowance a man gets from his monthly salary== made possible by his wife taking care of all domestic aspects of his relationship -- is not dash money; the allowance a wife gets from that same salary is also not dash money.

Caaz:
Every monetary marital debt has to be paid,nature itself is in support.
So blame the deptor,not the collector.

Gbengageorge:
This argument go far o, you are technically saying that if he comes home from work he can sit in front of the TV and cross his legs. The home front service is fully paid for. Through out the year.

Caaz:
Stop spinning the narratives...the question here is....you dey owe abii you nor dey owe?


Maybe we should liken this same narrative with that girl that collected 40k from emmanuel,and failed to show up,prompting emmanuel to seek for legal redress
And she ending up paying 400k to emmanuel.