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I have heard that Igbo women are usually very expensive to get married to. Like the families of these women are usually known for their outrageous monetary demands either in the form of bride price or "marriage list".
But what I don't understand is if marrying an Igbo lady seems expensive for an outsider, then how do the average Igbo man get married? Do they invest so much money in marrying their wives like someone from another tribe?

In most part of Igboland there's no separate bride list or bride price for suitors from other tribes... The list is the same for both Igbos and non- Igbos...

As for how men are able to marry their wives, just know that once you're born Igbo male child in Nigeria, your life don become hard from day 1, Nigeria makes it hard, fellow Igbos makes it hard, competition is very high... so you hit the ground running from day 1 inorder to survive, you must work your ass off to succeed

Faber:
In most part of Igboland there's no separate bride list or bride price for suitors from other tribes... The list is the same for both Igbos and non- Igbos...

As for how men are able to marry their wives, just know that once you're born Igbo male child in Nigeria, your life don become hard from day 1, Nigeria makes it hard, fellow Igbos makes it hard, competition is very high... so you hit the ground running from day 1 inorder to survive, you must work your ass off to succeed

this is just the pure truth. A local village boy in Igboland who has not traveled outside of igboland does not know that getting married elsewhere is not a burden. He knows from day1 that to get married, he must hustle to make that money. This is one of the things youths organisations and the traditional stakeholders should look into, times are fast changing, getting married in igboland should also change.

Rubbish talk, as usual. I have clerks of igbo descents in my office who are married to igbo ladies, and they all live in one room apartments in places like Mararaba, Madala, Deidei, or Karmo, so how did they make millions, spent it to pay dowries, only to suffer in marriages?

ChiefOloye:
Rubbish talk, as usual. I have clerks of igbo descents in my office who are married to igbo ladies, and they all live in one room apartments in places like Mararaba, Madala, Deidei, or Karmo, so how did they make millions, spent it to pay dowries, only to suffer in marriages?

And you think people dont elope with others.

Some funny guys go use i love yiu i love you give woman belle, carry them enter one room go dey suffer, them no fit collect list do the right thing


Truth is, any young man that is able to complete what is in the list would be able to afford 2 meals a day and also a one bed apartment. Simple truth

Say what you know

In Onitsha my home town, traditional fee for the woman's head is around ₦50 or so. You can only spend on the traditional marriage according to your pocket.

Tradtionally, what will be requested for you to buy and give the girls kindred won't be more than 200k.

You should say Imo state, especially Mbaise

Faber:
In most part of Igboland there's no separate bride list or bride price for suitors from other tribes... The list is the same for both Igbos and non- Igbos...

As for how men are able to marry their wives, just know that once you're born Igbo male child in Nigeria, your life don become hard from day 1, Nigeria makes it hard, fellow Igbos makes it hard, competition is very high... so you hit the ground running from day 1 inorder to survive, you must work your ass off to succeed

That is why a significant percentage of una go into drugs, baby factory and all other social vice.

Too much importance is placed on wealth and riches in igbo land, that is why you people have so much unhealthy competition amongst yourselves.

Veggieseeddies:
And you think people dont elope with others.

Some funny guys go use i love yiu i love you give woman belle, carry them enter one room go dey suffer, them no fit collect list do the right thing


Truth is, any young man that is able to complete what is in the list would be able to afford 2 meals a day and also a one bed apartment. Simple truth

So no igbo man that paid bride price is living in abject poverty and in one room face to face?

Is that what you are saying?

Bendeco02:
Say what you know

In Onitsha my home town, traditional fee for the woman's head is around ₦50 or so. You can only spend on the traditional marriage according to your pocket.

Tradtionally, what will be requested for you to buy and give the girls kindred won't be more than 200k.

You should say Imo state, especially Mbaise

You have a point here. I think it depends on where you're marrying from in Igboland because I have seen alot of Igbo couples that don't seem to have much, or are even living in one room. It is not possible for a man to spent millions in marrying an Igbo lady just to end up living in one room with his wife. Most Igbo men wouldn't do that.

The statement that igbo marriages or bride price is expensive is not always true. More than 90 percent of Igbo communities, one can get married there with as little as 100k.

The full list could be expensive, but they are mostly optional.

Gideonski:
You have a point here. I think it depends on where you're marrying from in Igboland because I have seen alot of Igbo couples that don't seem to have much, or are even living in one room. It is not possible for a man to spent millions in marrying an Igbo lady just to end up living in one room with his wife. Most Igbo men wouldn't do that.

That's the point.

But some people from south west don't actually understand Igbo, they listens and believe anything they heard about Igbo.

The whole Igbo don't have a single or same tradition on marriage expensies.

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ChiefOloye:
Rubbish talk, as usual. I have clerks of igbo descents in my office who are married to igbo ladies, and they all live in one room apartments in places like Mararaba, Madala, Deidei, or Karmo, so how did they make millions, spent it to pay dowries, only to suffer in marriages?

Oga l, any traditional marriage done in igboland outside the compound of the bride's father and in the absence of the bride's kingsmen is as invalid as an expired ATM card. If they want let them marry their igbo wives in Jabi or Gwarimpa that marriage is invalid

ChiefOloye:
Rubbish talk, as usual. I have clerks of igbo descents in my office who are married to igbo ladies, and they all live in one room apartments in places like Mararaba, Madala, Deidei, or Karmo, so how did they make millions, spent it to pay dowries, only to suffer in marriages?

If you only read about them online and havent come across or know them offline, you would think all of them are billionaires

Not shaming anyone, but people dey my street for Awka then wey dey do humble jobs and dem get families. Its safe to assume they chose to pay millions in bride price and thereafter, decided to use the remaining money to get a one room apartment and then give their wives the rest to start hawking Okpa


Sense!!!

Bride price and marriage list I spent was not more than 210k few years ago in imo state.

So forget all these talk about expensive, not entirely true

Bendeco02:
Say what you know

In Onitsha my home town, traditional fee for the woman's head is around ₦50 or so. You can only spend on the traditional marriage according to your pocket.

Tradtionally, what will be requested for you to buy and give the girls kindred won't be more than 200k.

You should say Imo state, especially Mbaise

Na this amount I spend too years ago same imo state.

I don't know what's expensive there.

It's families that raise according to their own demands

tunjijones:
That is why a significant percentage of una go into drugs, baby factory and all other social vice.

Too much importance is placed on wealth and riches in igbo land, that is why you people have so much unhealthy competition amongst yourselves.

I can't agree less, what is luxury in some other areas is considered average in Igboland, oppression too much

ZombieDredd:
Bride price and marriage list I spent was not more than 210k few years ago in imo state.

So forget all these talk about expensive, not entirely true

Which community pls

Faber:
Which community pls

orji

ZombieDredd:
orji

Is it Orji in Owerri?

Nwaiyoo:
Oga l, any traditional marriage done in igboland outside the compound of the bride's father and in the absence of the bride's kingsmen is as invalid as an expired ATM card. If they want let them marry their igbo wives in Jabi or Gwarimpa that marriage is invalid

You are wrong. This is pure lie.

People just dey talk wetin dem no know.

Well all I know is that an igbo man can never/will never sell his father's house or land to go and marry.

Only Yoruba do that (even though their bride price is the least expensive)

ChiefOloye:
Rubbish talk, as usual. I have clerks of igbo descents in my office who are married to igbo ladies, and they all live in one room apartments in places like Mararaba, Madala, Deidei, or Karmo, so how did they make millions, spent it to pay dowries, only to suffer in marriages?

and who said dawry in Igboland is in millions?

tunjijones:
That is why a significant percentage of una go into drugs, baby factory and all other social vice.

Too much importance is placed on wealth and riches in igbo land, that is why you people have so much unhealthy competition amongst yourselves.

This was unnecessary.

South west that marriage rites are not as expensive, are there no criminals there? Don't we worship money and the wealthy as well? Not everything has to be tribalistic. We all suffer from the same problems; decadence of the society.

erad:
This was unnecessary.

South west that marriage rites are not as expensive, are there no criminals there? Don't we worship money and the wealthy as well? Not everything has to be tribalistic. We all suffer from the same problems; decadence of the society.

Hey bro... The love of money is more pronounced amongst the Igbos. It's kinda part of their culture. This doesn't mean there are no other social vices pronounced amongst other tribe.

When will this misinformation about bride price in Igbo land stop? People should know the difference between bride price and bride list. In most communities, the bride price is been set by the bride's family while the list is set by her Umunna.

When my sister got married the bride price collected by my parents wasn't up to 3k while the list sum total was around 250k.

Faber:
In most part of Igboland there's no separate bride list or bride price for suitors from other tribes... The list is the same for both Igbos and non- Igbos...

As for how men are able to marry their wives, just know that once you're born Igbo male child in Nigeria, your life don become hard from day 1, Nigeria makes it hard, fellow Igbos makes it hard, competition is very high... so you hit the ground running from day 1 inorder to survive, you must work your ass off to succeed

Little wonder

Gideonski:
I have heard that Igbo women are usually very expensive to get married to. Like the families of these women are usually known for their outrageous monetary demands either in the form of bride price or "marriage list".
But what I don't understand is if marrying an Igbo lady seems expensive for an outsider, then how do the average Igbo man get married? Do they invest so much money in marrying their wives like someone from another tribe?

Why all this stupid complain? Marry from your tribe, As igbo man I hate inter- tribal marriage

tunjijones:
Hey bro... The love of money is more pronounced amongst the Igbos. It's kinda part of their culture. This doesn't mean there are no other social vices pronounced amongst other tribe.

The love of money is more pronounced among Igbos that's why they hustle in their 2 by 2 shops buying and selling

The love of money is insignificant in the Yoruba land that's why every waking moment there are headless corpses strewn all over their roads and bushes

Isn't Oluwa wonderful 😊

SeeWahala:
Well all I know is that an igbo man can never/will never sell his father's house or land to go and marry.

Only Yoruba do that (even though their bride price is the least expensive)

Land in Lagos is very expensive, I believe when they start selling a plot of land in the east from 200m and above then we can judge. Make I know if Igbo man no go sell when he hears 700m

bamvik:
Land in Lagos is very expensive, I believe when they start selling a plot of land in the east from 200m and above then we can judge. Make I know if Igbo man no go sell when he hears 700m

Till that time make Igbo man hold him property tight and go to buy the N700 million naira ones that his Yoruba friends are trying to sell to anybody who has money in Lagos

SeeWahala:
Till that time make Igbo man hold him property tight and go to buy the N700 million naira ones that his Yoruba friends are trying to sell to anybody who has money in Lagos

Trust me many would sell, some sell their only land just to travel abroad. E come be when development enters east, only that they won't sell all completely maybe half of the plot