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Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by Sonnobax15(op): 10:28am On Sep 06, 2025
Good day my fellow Nairalanders...Hope y'all are enjoying your weekend? cheesy. Well,I hope so cheesy

For the first time,lemme talk to my fellow men...This story which I'm about to share is a true life story....

There was this neighbor of mine,who was in his late sixties....A man whom I regarded and saw as a Father figure and indeed I had maximum respect for him.....He was a renowned contractor,and was very good at what his work......He had a wife and 3 daughters whom he neglected and never really cared and had time for...

But one thing I noticed and detested about him all through the time I spent with him when he was alive was his promiscuous lifestyle....He could hardly turn away his face whenever anyone on a skirt passed him by angry. And his love for women with fat and big backside was indeed out of the world,and funny enough,he referred to them as --"Heavy duty". ......I was more or less like his personal Keke driver because I used to take him and his workers to sites....

Then the sad reality about life happened and the same man who used to be very smart,agile and funny was down with an illness.....It took his family millions of naira, trying to save him but at last,all efforts seemed to be to no avail and he gave up the ghost on the last week of last July.....

Now,this was my honest observation... During all the time the man's time on the hospital bed,I noticed that none of his side-chicks ever came or called to check up on him...The one and only time one of them called was when she wanted money but immediately he narrated his predicament to him,she hung up and never dialled his phone again....The only people that stood by him were his wife and daughters....The same family whom he never had time for,when he was hale and hearty......I could still remember how his eyes were filled up with tears and was advising me to be careful and steer clear from too many women.....He always told me to cherish my girlfriend and love her because he could see how we were struggling together at that time.......His words still ring in my head up till this very second and of which one lesson I learnt and deduced from his life,and death was/is--"PLEASE,MEN DO NOT NEGLECT YOUR FAMILY"

Mods.... please do the needful,so that men can learn from this..

Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by dawnomike(m): 11:47am On Sep 06, 2025
Sonnobax15:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders...Hope y'all are enjoying your weekend? cheesy. Well,I hope so cheesy

For the first time,lemme talk to my fellow men...This story which I'm about to share is a true life story....

There was this neighbor of mine,who was in his late sixties....A man whom I regarded and saw as a Father figure and indeed I had maximum respect for him.....He was a renowned contractor,and was very good at what his work......He had a wife and 3 daughters whom he neglected and never really cared and had time for...

But one thing I noticed and detested about him all through the time I spent with him when he was alive was his promiscuous lifestyle....He could hardly turn away his face whenever anyone on a skirt passed him by angry. And his love for women with fat and big backside was indeed out of the world,and funny enough,he referred to them as --"Heavy duty". ......I was more or less like his personal Keke driver because I used to take him and his workers to sites....

Then the sad reality about life happened and the same man who used to be very smart,agile and funny was down with an illness.....It took his family millions of naira, trying to save him but at last,all efforts seemed to be to no avail and he gave up the ghost on the last week of last July.....



Mods.... please do the needful,so that men can learn from this..

Mynd44 Dominique nlfpmod obembet..
This piece you've just disagreed out is very very important...
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by pocohantas(f): 12:06pm On Sep 06, 2025
What was the nature of his illness? Hope it wasn't lifestyle induced? He should have gotten a robust health insurance for sick days.
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by Akinfenwamight(m): 12:07pm On Sep 06, 2025
Sonnobax15:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders...Hope y'all are enjoying your weekend? cheesy. Well,I hope so cheesy

For the first time,lemme talk to my fellow men...This story which I'm about to share is a true life story....

There was this neighbor of mine,who was in his late sixties....A man whom I regarded and saw as a Father figure and indeed I had maximum respect for him.....He was a renowned contractor,and was very good at what his work......He had a wife and 3 daughters whom he neglected and never really cared and had time for...

But one thing I noticed and detested about him all through the time I spent with him when he was alive was his promiscuous lifestyle....He could hardly turn away his face whenever anyone on a skirt passed him by angry. And his love for women with fat and big backside was indeed out of the world,and funny enough,he referred to them as --"Heavy duty". ......I was more or less like his personal Keke driver because I used to take him and his workers to sites....

Then the sad reality about life happened and the same man who used to be very smart,agile and funny was down with an illness.....It took his family millions of naira, trying to save him but at last,all efforts seemed to be to no avail and he gave up the ghost on the last week of last July.....

Now,this was my honest observation... During all the time the man's time on the hospital bed,I noticed that none of his side-chicks ever came or called to check up on him...The one and only time one of them called was when she wanted money but immediately he narrated his predicament to him,she hung up and never dialled his phone again....The only people that stood by him were his wife and daughters....The same family whom he never had time for,when he was hale and hearty......I could still remember how his eyes were filled up with tears and was advising me to be careful and steer clear from too many women.....He always told me to cherish my girlfriend and love her because he could see how we were struggling together at that time.......His words still ring in my head up till this very second and of which one lesson I learnt and deduced from his life,and death was/is--"PLEASE,MEN DO NOT NEGLECT YOUR FAMILY"

Mods.... please do the needful,so that men can learn from this..
Even Seun have neglect his family by not choosing his family religion
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by telim:
But everyone knows your last line of defence is your family.
Side chicks only care for your money but some sugar daddies don't understand all in the name sex that requires alot of energy
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by poiZon: 12:10pm On Sep 06, 2025
There will always be men who will be judases, thomases, peters even Tinubus...

So save ur self the stress of vubuzellaing, trumpetting n awareness creating.
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by NotOfThisWorld(f):
It's foolish to expect his sidechicks to check on him at the hospital. Did they have any obligations towards him? No. The only person with obligations was him and towards his family. If he failed to uphold them, that's his prerogative. Nobody asked him to have ojukokoro and be chasing after other women.
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by Hopez456(m): 12:12pm On Sep 06, 2025
Was his illness promiscuity induced or old age related?
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by Terver2025: 12:13pm On Sep 06, 2025
I genuinely support family with all my life, infact I live for them, thank you Lord JESUS CHRIST YESHUA for teaching us the power of love.
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by overall90: 12:14pm On Sep 06, 2025
But op, you didn't tell us how he neglected his family.
That he likes women is one thing but failure to provide for the family is another thing.
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by saintkel(m): 12:15pm On Sep 06, 2025
Family is everything.....even if u become a nobody...family sticks with u for life.....
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by Silentgroper(m): 12:15pm On Sep 06, 2025
Sonnobax15:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders...Hope y'all are enjoying your weekend? cheesy. Well,I hope so cheesy

For the first time,lemme talk to my fellow men...This story which I'm about to share is a true life story....

There was this neighbor of mine,who was in his late sixties....A man whom I regarded and saw as a Father figure and indeed I had maximum respect for him.....He was a renowned contractor,and was very good at what his work......He had a wife and 3 daughters whom he neglected and never really cared and had time for...

But one thing I noticed and detested about him all through the time I spent with him when he was alive was his promiscuous lifestyle....He could hardly turn away his face whenever anyone on a skirt passed him by angry. And his love for women with fat and big backside was indeed out of the world,and funny enough,he referred to them as --"Heavy duty". ......I was more or less like his personal Keke driver because I used to take him and his workers to sites....

Then the sad reality about life happened and the same man who used to be very smart,agile and funny was down with an illness.....It took his family millions of naira, trying to save him but at last,all efforts seemed to be to no avail and he gave up the ghost on the last week of last July.....

Now,this was my honest observation... During all the time the man's time on the hospital bed,I noticed that none of his side-chicks ever came or called to check up on him...The one and only time one of them called was when she wanted money but immediately he narrated his predicament to him,she hung up and never dialled his phone again....The only people that stood by him were his wife and daughters....The same family whom he never had time for,when he was hale and hearty......I could still remember how his eyes were filled up with tears and was advising me to be careful and steer clear from too many women.....He always told me to cherish my girlfriend and love her because he could see how we were struggling together at that time.......His words still ring in my head up till this very second and of which one lesson I learnt and deduced from his life,and death was/is--"PLEASE,MEN DO NOT NEGLECT YOUR FAMILY"

Mods.... please do the needful,so that men can learn from this..
In a bid no to sound like I'm justifying his love for side chicks ..


Realistically, those side chicks would not be able to visit him or call him at that moment for the fear of his wife and children knowing they'd be around him for most of the time and his phone would most likely be operated by them ..

2. They also most likely did not have information of his illness ..

3. Some of them would they didn't really matter as what they had was mostly transactional ..


So there's always a 95% chance that a side chick would never show up or call in times like that except maybe she don get bele for am..
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by obonujoker(m): 12:25pm On Sep 06, 2025
They should o. Don't advise them


One of such men that abandoned his family for a mother of two is regretting as his wife with his 3 children were sponsored abroad without him knowing.

Now it's his Loss
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by Nobody: 12:46pm On Sep 06, 2025
This is very true. I have learned it the hard way. And when you find friends who treat you like family, cherish them but at the end of the day, people can come and go but family stays forever.

saintkel:
Family is everything.....even if u become a nobody...family sticks with u for life.....
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by Nobody: 12:50pm On Sep 06, 2025
If 70% of married men should stay away from having side chicks believe me some women in Nigeria especially divorced and single mothers will die of hunger.

How many young single guys will take major responsibilities of a single mother on his head?

I'm divorced and happy crew for cry blad I swear
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by SeeWahala: 12:52pm On Sep 06, 2025
Hehe 😆😂 this sapele banny guy is very funny oh 😆

A married man is ill and on his hospital bed where his family are struggling to help save his life . . .

AND THIS BANNY GUY EXPECTS THE MANS GIRLFRIENDS TO BE TROOPING INTO THE HOSPITAL TO VISIT AND CARE FOR THE MAN ALONGSIDE HIS OWN IMMEDIATE FAMILY?

The man was not divorced

The man was not separated

The man was not quarrelling with his spouse or kids oooh

BUT OGA KEKE BANNY WANTS THE SIDE CHICKS TO BE IN THE SAME HOSPITAL WARD WITH THE MANS IMMEDIATELY FAMILY


hahaha 🤣😂 no wonder he still believes in the lies this government spews on a daily basis.

Myopia is a disease ajē 😏
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by SeeWahala: 12:54pm On Sep 06, 2025
NotOfThisWorld:
It's foolish to expect his sidechicks to check on him at the hospital? Did they have any obligations towards him? No. The only person with obligations was him and towards his family. If he failed to uphold them, that's his prerogative. Nobody asked him to have ojukokoro and be chasing after other women.
You are a wise person. I was expecting to read more posts like this you posited but alas . . . Nairalanders medullas have been on a serious speedy decline these past couple of years cry
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by SeeWahala: 12:55pm On Sep 06, 2025
Silentgroper:
In a bid no to sound like I'm justifying his love for side chicks ..


Realistically, those side chicks would not be able to visit him or call him at that moment for the fear of his wife and children knowing they'd be around him for most of the time and his phone would most likely be operated by them ..

2. They also most likely did not have information of his illness ..

3. Some of them would they didn't really matter as what they had was mostly transactional ..


So there's always a 95% chance that a side chick would never show up or call in times like that except maybe she don get bele for am..
Another very sound nairalander has been sighted.

God bless your thinking faculty and add to your intelligence 😉
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by judewrites: 12:59pm On Sep 06, 2025
Naturally most men (not all) are polygamous in lifestyle, that's why they lust after most women they find attractive even when married.

However, op you didn't state how this man neglected his family. It's quite common for men these days to provide for both families and mistresses.

However like your story pointed out, men are vulnerable to all kinds of problems or spiritual attacks when they venture out of their marriages for sexual pleasure.
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by kheny12(m): 1:03pm On Sep 06, 2025
The result of promiscuous is sickness.A family will always stand by you ....But a concubine will run away from you when things go south.Only a cursed person's won't listen to this advice.
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by Esthered: 1:07pm On Sep 06, 2025
Ehen. The wife didn't get the best of him but had to care for him at his worst
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by Ifexibe(m): 1:08pm On Sep 06, 2025
"Women cannot appreciate the sacrifices men are expected to make." - Rational Male

"Women are incapable of loving men in a way that a man idealizes is possible, in a way he thinks she should be capable of." - Rational Male

Family is Everything.
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by Samueltemi337(m): 1:13pm On Sep 06, 2025
telim:
But everyone knows your last line of defence is your family.
Side chicks only care for your money but some sugar daddies don't understand all in the name sex that requires alot of energy
Good afternoon sir telim
Happy New month


Xxxxxx
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by ccollins(m): 1:17pm On Sep 06, 2025
obonujoker:
They should o. Don't advise them


One of such men that abandoned his family for a mother of two is regretting as his wife with his 3 children were sponsored abroad without him knowing.

Now it's his Loss
please can you and explain more about so that we can learn a lesson or two from it. Thanks
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by TheBillyonaire: 1:46pm On Sep 06, 2025
He was foolish.

What is the essence of life if family is ignored. Having side-chikitos, is okay, but neglecting family is foolishness beyond comprehesion.

He was a fool.
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by Mummyfour(f): 1:52pm On Sep 06, 2025
Sonnobax15:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders...Hope y'all are enjoying your weekend? cheesy. Well,I hope so cheesy

For the first time,lemme talk to my fellow men...This story which I'm about to share is a true life story....

There was this neighbor of mine,who was in his late sixties....A man whom I regarded and saw as a Father figure and indeed I had maximum respect for him.....He was a renowned contractor,and was very good at what his work......He had a wife and 3 daughters whom he neglected and never really cared and had time for...

But one thing I noticed and detested about him all through the time I spent with him when he was alive was his promiscuous lifestyle....He could hardly turn away his face whenever anyone on a skirt passed him by angry. And his love for women with fat and big backside was indeed out of the world,and funny enough,he referred to them as --"Heavy duty". ......I was more or less like his personal Keke driver because I used to take him and his workers to sites....

Then the sad reality about life happened and the same man who used to be very smart,agile and funny was down with an illness.....It took his family millions of naira, trying to save him but at last,all efforts seemed to be to no avail and he gave up the ghost on the last week of last July.....

Now,this was my honest observation... During all the time the man's time on the hospital bed,I noticed that none of his side-chicks ever came or called to check up on him...The one and only time one of them called was when she wanted money but immediately he narrated his predicament to him,she hung up and never dialled his phone again....The only people that stood by him were his wife and daughters....The same family whom he never had time for,when he was hale and hearty......I could still remember how his eyes were filled up with tears and was advising me to be careful and steer clear from too many women.....He always told me to cherish my girlfriend and love her because he could see how we were struggling together at that time.......His words still ring in my head up till this very second and of which one lesson I learnt and deduced from his life,and death was/is--"PLEASE,MEN DO NOT NEGLECT YOUR FAMILY"

Mods.... please do the needful,so that men can learn from this..
I know a man who his ex wife took care of when he was sick, helpless and hopeless. Few days after she left after sacrificing 5 months of her life taking care of him, the man went and got another woman pregnant and still abandoned the same family and woman who took care of him
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by biggz82: 1:52pm On Sep 06, 2025
You see neglect as his personal keke driver because he has side chick's, that's the surface.
Inside you don't know what he does to keep his family together as a single unit.
If he truly neglected his family they will not be by his side when he was down.

Neglect is lack of attention and due care.
His job and lifestyle may seem to you as neglect but in reality his gives his family attention and due care.




[b][i]Don't judge a book by its cover[/[/i]b]
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by GloriousGbola: 2:08pm On Sep 06, 2025
Sonnobax15:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders...Hope y'all are enjoying your weekend? cheesy. Well,I hope so cheesy

For the first time,lemme talk to my fellow men...This story which I'm about to share is a true life story....

There was this neighbor of mine,who was in his late sixties....A man whom I regarded and saw as a Father figure and indeed I had maximum respect for him.....He was a renowned contractor,and was very good at what his work......He had a wife and 3 daughters whom he neglected and never really cared and had time for...

But one thing I noticed and detested about him all through the time I spent with him when he was alive was his promiscuous lifestyle....He could hardly turn away his face whenever anyone on a skirt passed him by angry. And his love for women with fat and big backside was indeed out of the world,and funny enough,he referred to them as --"Heavy duty". ......I was more or less like his personal Keke driver because I used to take him and his workers to sites....

Then the sad reality about life happened and the same man who used to be very smart,agile and funny was down with an illness.....It took his family millions of naira, trying to save him but at last,all efforts seemed to be to no avail and he gave up the ghost on the last week of last July.....

Now,this was my honest observation... During all the time the man's time on the hospital bed,I noticed that none of his side-chicks ever came or called to check up on him...The one and only time one of them called was when she wanted money but immediately he narrated his predicament to him,she hung up and never dialled his phone again....The only people that stood by him were his wife and daughters....The same family whom he never had time for,when he was hale and hearty......I could still remember how his eyes were filled up with tears and was advising me to be careful and steer clear from too many women.....He always told me to cherish my girlfriend and love her because he could see how we were struggling together at that time.......His words still ring in my head up till this very second and of which one lesson I learnt and deduced from his life,and death was/is--"PLEASE,MEN DO NOT NEGLECT YOUR FAMILY"

Mods.... please do the needful,so that men can learn from this..
welllll . . . it is not like the family will smile and welcome the side chick[s] to the sick bed
at that point it is the immediate family controlling access to the man
just pointing this out
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by Amalekki: 2:33pm On Sep 06, 2025
Did he tell you he was expecting sidechicks to be with him at the hospital? His primary constituency reps were out there with him and that's all that matters.

People need to stop fitting the whole world into a single template. Without sidechicks, some men would have been Yaba Left patients long before clocking 50. Sidechick does not automatically translate into family neglect, some of them actually help expand your business empire cool
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by Silentgroper(m): 2:40pm On Sep 06, 2025
SeeWahala:
Another very sound nairalander has been sighted.

God bless your thinking faculty and add to your intelligence 😉
. Why do I feel like you're being sarcastic though


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Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by osuofia2(m): 2:46pm On Sep 06, 2025
If all men be like me, hook ups go stop for this country because I no de look any side chick way only on rare occasions. Family family family. All pussyss are the same
Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Neglect Your Family.. by Nobody: 2:59pm On Sep 06, 2025
The man was a fool and a wicked man. Your wife and family should come first but they should not stop you from seeking happiness and fulfillment from other women.
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