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What makes you scared marrying a single Mother? Is it because they may go back to their baby Daddy if he is available?

Truly, we have nice single Mothers and they may love you without ever cheating.

Single mothers are all cheaters, they did still find their way to go back to where they have vommited and still eat there, I'm only pity those that didn't know anything about single mothers

I dont understand the idea of demonising single mothers. They had the courage to keep the baby, while some useless self proclaimed single ladies have committed abortion multiple times. Yet the society victimises the single mothers. It is not right.

joeyswift:
I dont understand the idea of demonising single mothers. They had the courage to keep the baby, while some useless self proclaimed single ladies have committed abortion multiple times. Yet the society victimises the single mothers. It is not right.

Wrong. They have the babies because they plan to use them as meal ticket from men and as means to an end called marriage. When their expectations are not met, they become frustrated and toxic. Look into the stories of single mothers around you and you will find out if I'm lying.

Nonexisting1:
Wrong. They have the babies because they plan to use them as meal ticket from men and as means to an end called marriage. When their expectations are not met, they become frustrated and toxic. Look into the stories of single mothers around you and you will find out if I'm lying.

Yes, you are right but it's time people separate single mothers. The widows are there, women whose marriages did them wrong are there, the kind of ones you just talked about are there. The poster you replied to is right too. A single girl who has perfected her act of not giving birth by abortion or a coded runs girl who is single is worse than a single mother. So there are still good single mothers and good single women. We pray we don't fall into the hands of the worst of the two women.

keemsleek:
Yes, you are right but it's time people separate single mothers. The widows are there, women whose marriages did them wrong are there, the kind of ones you just talked about are there. The poster you replied to is right too. A single girl who has perfected her act of not giving birth by abortion or a coded runs girl who is single is worse than a single mother. So there are still good single mothers and good single women. We pray we don't fall into the hands of the worst of the two women.

Widows, genuine rape victims and women who ran away from physically abusive husbands stand out and you will know them when you come across them. Those ones are victims of circumstances and every sensible person knows that. I for one never lump all single mothers together, never.

There is an iota of truth there

Everything you accused single mothers of, any woman with an ex is guilty of as well. Let’s stop deceiving ourselves.

keemsleek:
Yes, you are right but it's time people separate single mothers. The widows are there, women whose marriages did them wrong are there, the kind of ones you just talked about are there. The poster you replied to is right too. A single girl who has perfected her act of not giving birth by abortion or a coded runs girl who is single is worse than a single mother. So there are still good single mothers and good single women. We pray we don't fall into the hands of the worst of the two women.

But when she was eating the indomitable, fry egg and soft drink she didn't notice the marriage might do her wrong

Any man that get married to a single mom has no choice or due to his age

Olachase:
But when she was eating the indomitable, fry egg and soft drink she didn't notice the marriage might do her wrong

Any man that get married to a single mom is has no choice or due to his age

Pls read what wrote again. Moreover when the guy was cooking the indomie and not using protection was as if sleep sexing. I'm not justifying single mother stuffs all I said was we should differentiate btw single mothers. You see those ones you talking about and the guy talked about are the ones guy should run like Mario from. Have a nice day sir

Nonexisting1:
Wrong. They have the babies because they plan to use them as meal ticket from men and as means to an end called marriage. When their expectations are not met, they become frustrated and toxic. Look into the stories of single mothers around you and you will find out if I'm lying.

Not everyone of them. Generalising them is just so wrong. Some women have become single mothers because they dabbled into fornication and got the outcome; some were defiled (raped), got pregnant and decided not to commit the sin of abortion; some were deceived by their "fiances" to get pregnant before marriage as the tradition of their land and the man probably had a series of "fiancées" lined up and more than one got pregnant; some were in a genuine relationship with each other but were fornicating and the man in the relationship died due to various reasons; some had even done traditional wedding and were waiting for their white wedding when disaster struck; some were dating married men unknowingly and got pregnant before the man's secret got exposed; others were dating married men knowingly but were gullible enough to believe that the man was going to leave his wife as "promised" because he waxed a tale of hating his marriage and that he would soon get a divorce🙄; and like you said, some were cunning, looking for a way to tie the man down with pregnancy, hoping to secure a future with the man, probably through marriage or babymamarism... and then the list goes on and on

IamAsiri:
Not everyone of them. Generalising them is just so wrong. Some women have become single mothers because they dabbled into fornication and got the outcome; some were defiled (raped), got pregnant and decided not to commit the sin of abortion; some were deceived by their "fiances" to get married before marriage as the tradition of their land and the man probably had a series of "fiancées" lined up and more than one got pregnant; some were in a genuine relationship with each other but were fornicating and the man in the relationship died due to various reasons; some had even done traditional wedding and were waiting for their white wedding when disaster struck; some were dating married men unknowingly and got pregnant before the man's secret got exposed; others were dating married men knowingly but were gullible enough to believe that the man was going to leave his wife as "promised" because he waxed a tale of hating his marriage and that he would soon get a divorce🙄; and like you said, some were cunning, looking for a way to tie the man down with pregnancy, hoping to secure a future with the man, probably through marriage or babymamarism... and then the list goes on and on

above all,LIFE HAPPENS!!......just pray and wish to be on the fair side of it when it strikes!!....

joeyswift:
I dont understand the idea of demonising single mothers. They had the courage to keep the baby, while some useless self proclaimed single ladies have committed abortion multiple times. Yet the society victimises the single mothers. It is not right.

It’s not courage. With the exception of widows, the path that leads a woman to be a Single mother is selfishness, failed attempt to hook a man, poor judgement or promiscuity. Neither are qualities you want in a wife or life partner.

It’s not courage to have a child knowing the child will not have a father. That’s selfishness.

A woman who wants the best for her child will not bring a child to the world without a father. That need to put her own needs first before even her own unborn child is why you want to avoid single mothers. They are only about self not the consequences. They are inherently selfish people.

joeyswift:
I dont understand the idea of demonising single mothers. They had the courage to keep the baby, while some useless self proclaimed single ladies have committed abortion multiple times. Yet the society victimises the single mothers. It is not right.

The society also victimizes those involved in abortion, if I hear you have aborted before that's the end of discussion. Are you also surprised when men are victimized for been poor but women aren't?

dynicks:
above all,LIFE HAPPENS!!......just pray and wish to be on the fair side of it when it strikes!!....

Exactly! That was just what I was trying to prove to that guy who believed all single women are bad and tags them as such accordingly.

casualobserver:
It’s not courage. With the exception of widows, the path that leads a woman to be a Single mother is selfishness, failed attempt to hook a man, poor judgement or promiscuity. Neither are qualities you want in a wife or life partner.

It’s not courage to have a child knowing the child will not have a father. That’s selfishness.

A woman who wants the best for her child will not bring a child to the world without a father. That need to put her own needs first before even her own unborn child is why you want to avoid single mothers. They are only about self not the consequences. They are inherently selfish people.

What would now expect they do? Abort?

I know of a lady who was married and few months into the marriage, the husband died. Should she have also aborted the child, because there would no longer be a Father figure? Has she not been plunged into single motherhood that way?

There have been some of our mothers (talking about some mothers we used to see while growing up) who had to be both the father and mother in every sense of the word, just because those fathers were irresponsible.

Wahala dey,

IamAsiri:
What would now expect they do? Abort?

I know of a lady who was married and few months into the marriage, the husband died. Should she have also aborted the child, because there would no longer be a Father figure? Has she not been plunged into single motherhood that way?

People underestimate things like good or bad judgment when choosing a life partner. Being a single mother is a sign of a woman with poor judgement. That poor judgement will manifested in her becoming a single mother will also manifest itself in many others ways in the course of your relationship with such a woman.

There have been some of our mothers (talking about some mothers we used to see while growing up) who had to be both the father and mother in every sense of the word, just because those fathers were irresponsible.

Maybe you have a comprehension problem.

A woman whose husband died is different. I made that clear in my post.

Every other situation by which a woman finds herself a single mother is entirely her fault.

That she chose to open her legs for an “irresponsible” man is a display of bad judgement…..that’s on her!

read my post again.

casualobserver:
Maybe you have a comprehension problem.

A woman whose husband died is different. I made that clear in my post.

Every other situation by which a woman finds herself a single mother is entirely her fault.

That she chose to open her legs for an “irresponsible” man is a display of bad judgement…..that’s on her!

read my post again.

No, I don't. After separating the widows and casting blame on the "irresponsible" ones, your last paragraph in my own opinion just stated the fact that ANY woman who has no man in her life but wants to keep and train a child alone is selfish. And that is what I addressed.

And just like I said earlier, some women did not "open" their legs for some irresponsible men, they were forced. Some were raped at gunpoint or knifepoint. In short, some of these women were just victims of circumstances.

IamAsiri:
No, I don't. After separating the widows and casting blame on the "irresponsible" ones, your last paragraph in my own opinion just stated the fact that ANY woman who has no man in her life but wants to keep and train a child alone is selfish. And that is what I addressed.

And just like I said earlier, some women did not "open" their legs for some irresponsible men, they were forced. Some were raped at gunpoint or knifepoint. In short, some of these women were just victims of circumstances.

Ok! Believe what you want.

The world designed men such that you eventually learn to take responsibility for your life or he will never make it.

The world is designed such that if a woman does not take responsibility for her actions there is always some gullible man who will believe her tales of woe. Such men enable single mothers and all those women who fail to take responsibility for their actions.

The proportion of single mothers who were raped is less than 1%. The rest are widows/divorcees and never married.

As far as divorcees and the never married, nobody forced you to open your legs, nobody forced you to marry. You are 100% responsible for being a single mother. At least the child of the divorcee does not have to deal with the trauma of knowing his/her father did not want her.

No man worth his salt marries a single mother. It is a sign of weakness or he is broken as a man. Either you cannot get a proper single woman without kids because you are not doing what you should do as a man and have to settle for a single mother or you are too old in which case you have become weakened by age.

Either way it is a sign of weakness in a man.
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I repeat no man worth his salt settles for a single mother.

The only exception is a widow.

Nonexisting1:
Wrong. They have the babies because they plan to use them as meal ticket from men and as means to an end called marriage. When their expectations are not met, they become frustrated and toxic. Look into the stories of single mothers around you and you will find out if I'm lying.

Evil guys lik u even deny d pregnancy b4 the baby is born


So how are they using it as meal ticket

casualobserver:
Ok! Believe what you want.

The world designed men such that you eventually learn to take responsibility for your life or he will never make it.

The world is designed such that if a woman does not take responsibility for her actions there is always some gullible man who will believe her tales of woe. Such men enable single mothers and all those women who fail to take responsibility for their actions.

The proportion of single mothers who were raped is less than 1%. The rest are widows/divorcees and never married.

As far as divorcees and the never married, nobody forced you to open your legs, nobody forced you to marry. You are 100% responsible for being a single mother. At least the child of the divorcee does not have to deal with the trauma of knowing his/her father did not want her.

No man worth his salt marries a single mother. It is a sign of weakness or he is broken as a man. Either you cannot get a proper single woman without kids because you are not doing what you should do as a man and have to settle for a single mother or you are too old in which case you have become weakened by age.

Either way it is a sign of weakness in a man.
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I repeat no man worth his salt settles for a single mother.

The only exception is a widow.

U shalayé too much
Why u dey stress yourself.....??

Them nor dey explain single mother paroles to a guy......experience is the best teacher

Nonexisting1:
✓ Wrong. They have the babies because they plan to use them as meal ticket from men and as means to an end called marriage. When their expectations are not met, they become frustrated and toxic. Look into the stories of single mothers around you and you will find out if I'm lying.

Many of them were baby-trapped by men who eventually found better options elsewhere. 🤔

Run from any single mothers. Period!

They often make terrible decisions and are quite unstable.

Proceed at your own risk.

Pupanchie:
Single mothers are all cheaters, they did still find their way to go back to where they have vommited and still eat there, I'm only pity those that didn't know anything about single mothers

it is not always true. I know a very upright lady who actually became a single mother as a result of r@pe.

Please spell words correctly when you post, and try to use perfect grammar and punctuation.
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Single mothers just looking for a houseboy, not a husband.

A man to help raise kids and sought bills. If you think is about love, then you must also believe Arsenal will win the next UEFA Champions League.

They cannot be reliable! That's a fact! Anything can still happen between them and their exes for old times' sake. Anything!
I would prefer a widow instead.

You guys need to stop with this generalisation n