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ademijuwonlo:
I agree with you 100% because I know most people are just trying to manage. However, some people would feign ignorance as if they don't know you, just because they don't want to help, even when they have the means while some would just be rude, just because they don't want to help.
It doesn't take anything away from people to be kind while letting someone know they can't help at this time.

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There are many ways to support someone going through hard times apart from financial support.

If you can't support financially, you can support through encouragement or at least show that you care.

cassidy1996:
This life, nobody really send you

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Aydot99:
That thing dey vex me. When I come to you for financial assistance and you start giving me advice. But if at the end of the talk you still manage drop something then it's all good.

ademijuwonlo:
You only find out who has your back when you hit your lowest point. Life has a way of testing relationships, and it is often in seasons of struggle that true loyalty is revealed.

When everything is going well, many people will surround you, offering laughter, company, and support that seems genuine. But when challenges strike whether in finances, health, or personal battles, some will quietly withdraw, while the ones who truly care will stay, offering encouragement, sacrifice, and unwavering presence.

Sadly, some friends or people you once stood by wholeheartedly may claim they can’t even remember you when you turn to them for help, showing that their loyalty was only surface-deep. Hitting rock bottom is painful, yet it strips away pretenses and shows clearly who values you for who you are, not for what you have. It is in those moments of brokenness that the strength of real friendship and love shines the brightest.

ademijuwonlo:
You only find out who has your back when you hit your lowest point. Life has a way of testing relationships, and it is often in seasons of struggle that true loyalty is revealed.

When everything is going well, many people will surround you, offering laughter, company, and support that seems genuine. But when challenges strike whether in finances, health, or personal battles, some will quietly withdraw, while the ones who truly care will stay, offering encouragement, sacrifice, and unwavering presence.

Sadly, some friends or people you once stood by wholeheartedly may claim they can’t even remember you when you turn to them for help, showing that their loyalty was only surface-deep. Hitting rock bottom is painful, yet it strips away pretenses and shows clearly who values you for who you are, not for what you have. It is in those moments of brokenness that the strength of real friendship and love shines the brightest.

ibechris:
Money attracts friends and poverty is the barrier that divides.

No-one cares if u helped them before...so whenever u are financially stable,always remember to invest and stop helping people as if u owe them.

Use hour money wisely...
Ensure u are stingy until your money starts working for u. Then u can become liberal if u want to.

From your name I can tell for sure the enormity of betrayals u have had.

Sorry.

MrStarskie:
I think I fall within this assumpt category.
Many of my friends believe i have, not that I live a flashy life style.
I struggle a lot to sustain my business, I am barely afloat but, no month pass without people coming to ask me for money.
my best friend was in need, he came to me for help, I help him get a loan but he failed to pay, I paid back the loan even when he is doing well now.
My cousin who is also a friend came crying, I also got a loan for him, he stopped picking my calls.
There was a day I had a lost of over 3m and I was in a bad mood, my cousin sister whose husband has companies called that she need help, imagine!
Unless a person is sick or I just decided to give out, I don't give money to any one who come for help.
Most of friends and family members have entitlement mentality.

ademijuwonlo:
You only find out who has your back when you hit your lowest point. Life has a way of testing relationships, and it is often in seasons of struggle that true loyalty is revealed.

When everything is going well, many people will surround you, offering laughter, company, and support that seems genuine. But when challenges strike whether in finances, health, or personal battles, some will quietly withdraw, while the ones who truly care will stay, offering encouragement, sacrifice, and unwavering presence.

Sadly, some friends or people you once stood by wholeheartedly may claim they can’t even remember you when you turn to them for help, showing that their loyalty was only surface-deep. Hitting rock bottom is painful, yet it strips away pretenses and shows clearly who values you for who you are, not for what you have. It is in those moments of brokenness that the strength of real friendship and love shines the brightest.

bigpicture001:
It is a lie... A very big fat lie... We all expect something from someone... It may not always b money

Yes, loyalty, trust, solidarity, care, concern.. etc

ademijuwonlo:
People still have friends or people that they are close to but just make sure that they are the solid type that would have your back come rain and come shine.
Good friends are important in life!

merits:
Nothing new about this that is why I have a very small circle 🔴 ⭕ of friends once I find you unworthy I discard you instanta no time to waste time.

Onyiiobi7735:
Every sensible human knows this and would try to greatly cut the level and rate of enjoyment they share with friends, to see who they are truly.
Fools think by flaunting riches around, and all that, they attract friends.
No,they attract parasites( leeches,ticks,lice,hookworms, tapeworms and roundworms).
They attract migratory birds which begin migration to Africa once winter( drying up of the enjoyment well) sets in.

ademijuwonlo:
Well said! I wish most people can be symbiotic in nature and not parasitic (endoparasites and ectoparasites).

parags:
Not just hard times . When you are getting blessed . That is when you should even be more cautious. Some friends will help you when you are down . Not because they are kind but because they really feel good knowing you are beneath them . When you are blessed is when you truly know who cares about you amongst your friends .

EvangelistChuks:
Everyone on this earth is ENTITLED to HELP.
We are all entitled to the help of others.
God forbid you are in a car accident, critically injured and at the point of death and other road users refused to help you and you die? Will you say they are right.A question for those who condemn people seeking for financial help.
Help is not only monetary.

Datedoboy:
Make God your best friend else you will be sorry for yourself. I don't believe in having many friends that's why I had 3 and I use to assist all of them.

One was in a position to assist me and he deliberately refused after numerous financial assistance I have given to him so i cut him off and I know God will push him into my hands someday.

The other one was trying to use jazz on me but God shocked him it didn't work so I removed him as friend in my heart even though we talk once in a while, i am waiting for the day i will expose what he did to his face.

The 3rd one is showing signs of betrayal and I am waiting for him to betray me b4 I cancel all of them.

My years of existence has taught me a bitter lesson. No so called friend is happy for you especially when you're doing better than them and even if all of you are poor, the moment one in d group makes money, he or she starts seeing you as an enemy so what's the purpose of keeping friends?

Build yourself up and have anything you want in abundance, take God as your best friend and don't depend on others. Strangers have helped me more than friends.

franchasofficia:
Do Nigerian women help people that are not their close family members like siblings or loverboy financially please?



Asking for a friend's uncle

Proserpina:
If you want informal relationships with people for the sake of future "hard times" get functional Networks not Friends. Friends are not meant to carry burdens they are not built for.

helinues:
Very funny thread.. I have some people I have caught off. They can't help but they always need help

If not business partners, sorry ain't gat no time for any unfruitful friendship

ademijuwonlo:
I am working on being like you. Do you give people chance to redeem themselves or you just straight-up cut them off your life?