₦airaland Forum

ukaface:
Don’t equate income to chores Biko aunty
It doesn’t make sense
Everybody should do chores whether you bring or not.

alklas:
It solemly simple. D man provides the basic family needs. While d woman take care of the home
➜But is gud wen d man support her consigning d house chores

emirate9:
Every body cant do chores, by logical reasoning

A woman that does house chores, cook n clean na wife material, virtuous wife But a Man that do same chors naa mumu, simp, gbewu da nii even the eye of his own mother

i can imagine my mom walk into my compound see me sweeping .. the 1st question is where is your wife

emirate9:
➜Every body cant do chores, by logical reasoning
➜ A woman that does house chores, cook n clean na wife material, virtuous wife
➜ But a Man that do same chors naa mumu, simp, gbewu da nii even the eye of his own mother
➜ i can imagine my mom walk into my compound see me sweeping .. the 1st question is where is your wife

Kobojunkie:
Technically, no! The traditional getup of marriage assumes there are set roles for the woman, and those roles include doing of chores. Women in those commitments are more or less glorified housemaids. It is the non-traditional marriages that reject the idea of gender roles, insisting instead on shared responsibilities between the man and woman.

emirate9:
"Do nothing"... you mean the man not washing plate, sweeping the floor and washing the toilet rite !

Any responsible woman cant stand watching the Man she sees as crown/king do all that,... as a wife does it add value when your friends visit and they meet your husband sweeping the compound ... does it give you pride

You give your husband plastic to go n grind pepper ... is that not ridiculing your man before the world

I believe in " Support" ... where necessary But Taking up the Wife role is an abberation. i will take this confused feminist seriously the day they start protesting Men carry their pregnancy tew

emirate9:
➜"Do nothing"... you mean the man not washing plate, sweeping the floor and washing the toilet rite !
Any responsible woman cant stand watching the Man she sees as crown/king do all that,... as a wife does it add value when your friends visit and they meet your husband sweeping the compound ... does it give you pride
➜ You give your husband plastic to go n grind pepper ... is that not ridiculing your man before the world I believe in " Support" ... where necessary But Taking up the Wife role is an abberation. i will take this confused feminist seriously the day they start protesting Men carry their pregnancy tew

Kobojunkie:
This is the particular brainwashing that are fed women to cause them to buy into this submission in marriage nonsense. How does a man, who moments before was a mere individual in the stream of individuals that populate the world, go from being a commoner to a king all because he decided to marry a wife? The same goes for women who think of themselves as queens. No be brain damage be that? 😏😏😏

2. This same man, who later signed a contract to marry a woman, used to grind his own pepper, wash his own underwear, and even scrub his own bathroom. Suddenly, the same man now believes himself beneath all of that because he saved up money to pay bride price for a woman to wife him. Na wa oo!

emirate9:
➜ 1st n foremost Male are naturally "Heads" in any setting down to the animal kingdom
➜ Literally every man that has a home n can provide is a king, traditionally Men symbolize " crown" on women
➜ if i choose to see myself as a king and my woman see hersef as Queen ... its demonstrate self esteem/ self worth .. No apologises
➜ When you are a Bachelor, your circumstances is understandable ... infact you see nosey neibor urging Uncle go marry ... maybe you live in jupita
➜ Equality does not exist anywhere in real sense, one party is doing more or less if scaled

wallaze:
➜As a guy please flee from any lady with all this conditional mentality in marriage
Marriage is for both parties to contribute their best to ensure it's work once you start apportioning duties omo I go leave you run

Kobojunkie:
Almost 50% of homes in Nigeria have the woman both as provider and homemaker. And these are typically women who married under a traditional umbrella.

2. A man doing chores IS NOT supporting the woman. Rather, he is doing his part in keeping the home and family that belongs to him, too. Thinking that doing chores amounts to supporting the woman amounts to arrogance and irresponsibility.

archpope:
If thieves or armed robbers comes calling too na both of them need to carry stick too to fight......shebi una never wan buy medulla ni?

alklas:
➜Am talking about shared responsibilities in a home U misunderstood its meaning

We4all:
Aside washing plates, are there no other chores a man can help with around the house? There are some men who will never lift a finger to help their wives no matter how fagged out she is. A woman cannot be representing a man when it's time sort out PHCN wahala, put on the generator, change the bulbs, or weed around the home, then you still expect her to be sharing bills with you, cooking and washing for you. Did you marry a wife or a slave?

Kobojunkie:
If you indeed believed responsibilities are shared, then why assert that a man doing chores implies him supporting the woman?

alklas:
➜The topic question can help you understand what u asking

Dogalmighty17:
But you find a situation where income only comes from the husband and yet the wife expects him to help her do chores!

lilyheaven:
➜People are just lazy this days. Days of hard labor is a thing of the past. We don’t fetch water We don’t fetch firewood We don’t wash clothes with hands There are blenders and other appliances that aides cooking. A month meal can be prepared at once and packaged inside freezer. We can even shop online.
When this generation of humans complains of house chores, I wonder exactly what they mean.
Some families we have 2 - 5 maids living with them with grown children.

Kobojunkie:
You do realize that you are refrring to maybe just the 1% of Nigerian homes, right?

lilyheaven:
➜Did you say 1% It’s too small

We4all:
My father was a deadbeat. My mom was the provider and still carried out all the house chores.

We4all:
➜My father was a deadbeat. My mom was the provider and still carried out all the house chores.

Kobojunkie:
Your mom remained married even then? Almost 50% of married women in Nigeria live like this in marriage to this day. They are classified as single-married women.

We4all:
➜Lol....Of course! I can recall asking her to leave, and her response was: "over my dead body". Unfortunately, most Nigerian women are like her, and will prefer to die than leave their deadbeats and abusive husbands. I wish them luck!

Kobojunkie:
Stop digging yourself deeper into confusion.