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Happy Sunday, everyone.
Please, I need your advice.
I started dating a guy from my university back in 2020. We were very close so close that we even lived together while I was still in school. After graduation, he went for his NYSC, and during that time (around 2023), he met another lady, a fellow corper who is older than him.
Since then, he started acting distant, stopped picking my calls and gave me attitude. Eventually, we stopped talking altogether, although we still occasionally checked each other’s WhatsApp status.
Recently, we started talking again. But he told me that he had prayed about me in two different places, and both revealed that we are not compatible. I prayed about it from 2 different places and they said are compatible.
The thing is, we honestly love each other deeply. Back in school, people often mistook us for twins because of how close and connected we were.
Has anyone here ever experienced something like this before?
Please share your thoughts I’d really appreciate it

So let me see, this guy ghosted you for almost two years, then recently told you how it was revealed in a prayer how you're not compatible and you still claim that you guys deeply love each other?

Who are you trying to convince here? Us or yourself? Because from the way I see it, this love is one sided.

The guy is obviously no longer interested in you and he's just using the prayer thing as an excuse to part ways with you amicably... But anyways, the ball is in your court.

seyilolagurl:
Happy Sunday, everyone.
Please, I need your advice.
I started dating a guy from my university back in 2020. We were very close so close that we even lived together while I was still in school. After graduation, he went for his NYSC, and during that time (around 2023), he met another lady, a fellow corper who is older than him.
Since then, he started acting distant, stopped picking my calls and gave me attitude. Eventually, we stopped talking altogether, although we still occasionally checked each other’s WhatsApp status.
Recently, we started talking again. But he told me that he had prayed about me in two different places, and both revealed that we are not compatible. I prayed about it from 2 different places and they said are compatible.
The thing is, we honestly love each other deeply. Back in school, people often mistook us for twins because of how close and connected we were.
Has anyone here ever experienced something like this before?
Please share your thoughts I’d really appreciate it

Babe honestly, he is lying to u... He doesn't want u again... I know. It might sound harsh, but that is the honest truth...

Find a new guy, ur past together has gone behind u... I know u really like those past experiences, but u have to let it pass u behind

A guy that ghosted you for two years came back and you’re telling me it’s love. Nigerians just have another definition and understanding of that word love. I think coupled with sex education, we should also have love education in schools. That’s non or extra curricular education.

First of all, he cheated on you with the older lady and dumped you. You should've moved on thereafter, even if it meant blocking him on Whatsapp. I don't know why you were allowing him to be viewing your Whatsapp status and you viewing his, smh. Secondly, why're you communicating with him again, and allowing him to tell you he doesn't want you again? Who even contacted whom? It sounds like it was you who contacted him to tell him you're compatible, smdh (NO, YOU'RE NOT) because some yeye churches said you are (NO, THEY DIDN'T), while he argues that you're not because the churches he went to said you're not (IRRESPECTIVE OF WHETHER HE WENT TO ANY CHURCH OR NOT, HE'S NOT INTERESTED!!!!).

Does he need to carry a signboard that says he's not interested before you accept it? Please move on! You even titled your post "Marriage Compatiblity". Somebody that left you for another woman and is still telling you he's not interested in you, you're thinking about marrying. Are you okay at all? Please move on. You need to block him on Whatsapp and anywhere else you communicate. All these chatting you're doing with him and viewing each other's Whatsapp status isn't helping. For your own sake, let him go. He's not the only guy in the world. You seem to be stuck on him. Move on, and get some therapy while you're at it.

You need to move on. You're interested in him while he isn't interested in you. That makes the interest unequal. Until it becomes equal with a person, marriage/love is deceiving yourselves.

Her heart is with him.amd she wants us to support her confirmation of compatibility by the church.
The guy doesn't want her but she wants him and believes her love is sufficient for the married to sail.

In simple terms you want him and he doesn’t want you. If you push yourself into his life you will regret it deeply.

seyilolagurl:
Happy Sunday, everyone.
Please, I need your advice.
I started dating a guy from my university back in 2020. We were very close so close that we even lived together while I was still in school. After graduation, he went for his NYSC, and during that time (around 2023), he met another lady, a fellow corper who is older than him.
Since then, he started acting distant, stopped picking my calls and gave me attitude. Eventually, we stopped talking altogether, although we still occasionally checked each other’s WhatsApp status.
Recently, we started talking again. But he told me that he had prayed about me in two different places, and both revealed that we are not compatible. I prayed about it from 2 different places and they said are compatible.
The thing is, we honestly love each other deeply. Back in school, people often mistook us for twins because of how close and connected we were.
Has anyone here ever experienced something like this before?
Please share your thoughts I’d really appreciate it

Forget about that one, let me have your number let's talk, I am also single and Interested in you...

Comfortableme:
Forget about that one, let me have your number let's talk, I am also single and Interested in you...

Chairmo I clap 👏 for you 😂

Find someone else, don't let a guy tell you twice that he doesn't want you
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seyilolagurl:
➜Happy Sunday, everyone. Please, I need your advice. I started dating a guy from my university back in 2020. We were very close so close that we even lived together while I was still in school.
➜ After graduation, he went for his NYSC, and during that time (around 2023), he met another lady, a fellow corper who is older than him.
Since then, he started acting distant, stopped picking my calls and gave me attitude. Eventually, we stopped talking altogether, although we still occasionally checked each other’s WhatsApp status.
➜ Recently, we started talking again. But he told me that he had prayed about me in two different places, and both revealed that we are not compatible. I prayed about it from 2 different places and they said are compatible.
➜ The thing is, we honestly love each other deeply. Back in school, people often mistook us for twins because of how close and connected we were.
➜Has anyone here ever experienced something like this before? Please share your thoughts I’d really appreciate it

1. Living together with a man does not in any way serve as a measure of closeness to the man. A man can live with, even marry a woman he literally hates, simply for the benefits he obtains from keeping her around, which in most cases can be classified as free coochie, free labor, and in some cases, free access to her bank account. So many men literally home—trap in some way— the woman that settled for them — the one available who loves them more — because they cannot have the one they really want — their type. So, closeness cannot or should not be measured by merely having to live with a man.

2. He found a woman who is more his type, which is why there was a distance between you two. He knew his type would probably not want him anymore after a while, explaining the reason for the occasional check-ups, to keep you pining for him and give him someone to return to/monkey branch back to.

3. I am afraid you are wrong! You love him deeply, but clearly, he doesn't. Someone who loves you would never do to you what he did to you. Human behavior has been thoroughly studied to the point that humans can now easily tell love apart from toxic connections.

4. Stop wasting your youth on someone who obviously does not value you as you are. Do not wait for him to baby-trap you or give you marriage as a shackle to keep you committed to what is already a toxic, cheating union. You need to spend your youth learning and accepting who you truly are, so you do not end up in the same mistake that 10s of millions of Nigerian women before you are to this day locked up trying to figure out.

I am looking for a second wife

The only thing of concern to me is that you lived couples life while in school , which means probability of you aborting pregnancy(ies) is 1 . Consider your years with him as wasted and move on . He got tired of you, and it is so obvious . It's only less than 10% of those that live couples life in school end up being together . Sorry about your loss .

I think you're jobless