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RollinTNDA:
I did this and I regret it till this day

A girl in Europe I had one night stand with
She got pregnant and didn't tell me until i left Europe before COVID 2020
This wereh born my pikin and lock up
Until the baby turn 4 yrs

The worst part it is a baby girl and she looks like a mixed version of me very well.

Since we are apart, the highest I have done is zoom call with them.
And after each call, I start drinking to remove the sorrow. The sorrow of having a child that you won't be able to properly father.

Looking at her I just feel overwhelmed with regret. It tormented me for months to know I have a daughter I might never see physically again. Her mother vowed to never visit Nigeria due to bad news she hears about Nigeria

So my brother please don't do it
If you want to do it
Make sure she will not carry the child and run.
Make sure you are present in the baby life
Or else
You will regret it very well just like I did

Cut tie with her, stop doing nonsense calls and move on with your life. Stop torturing yourself.

koladata:
I don't really think this story is true, to get pregnant out of wedlock, women would rather find someone who is financially buoyant but that does not like them for marriage

Anytime you see a women getting pregnant for a broke man, it's always by mistake even if they are married to the broke make.

Lol. You are not talking about financially independent women. This topic is about women who are financially independent. Even some that are not financially independent too. Time is changing

Natbrowny:
She neeeds a child
The guy is not financially strong

Now
If the guy wants to help by providing the child
She should b ready to help the guy financially

Deal sealed. Else, she's a fraud

yeah

eepeepook:
Finally, somebody with common sense. I believe this forum is full of children who always took last position in school.

Can't some of you make your contributions without having to degrade others based on their contributions?
There are many women out there, even in this Nigeria who don't need any man to support them financially to raise kids. May be you should go out more often and read more and watch more often.

obaidan:
This gender again. Dear young kings, when and if you decide to deal with this gender, ensure you are not holding the short end of the stick. Otherwise, you will weep. They will ask you why are crying u no go fit speak up.

Nice advice.

Jamie248:
Men have always been 'surplus to requirements'

In France already, you cannot do a DNA test without the partner's consent, according to them 'fatherhood is social, whilst motherhood is biological'. And in all the developed world if you divorce your wife you're the one gets kicked out of the house & into the streets. Nigeria will get there eventually

It's same here in UK. So men, beware.

budaatum:
So, basically, she should just buy him and own him? After all, he must be doing something apart from donating sperm, right?

Except, help the guy small now and he'd start to form the boss, yet I should serve him while his brat is bitting my tïts.
Yuk!

his brat you say? 🤔

marlow1962:
I have a friend that is a single lady at age 30, no husband no kids, no boyfriend self. One day we were chatting about her issues, I told her I can help her out but Its going to come with a cost.
Just 2 things I told her, 1= that I won't be responsible for her or the baby or anything relating to her delivering the baby. 2= she's going to pay me.

She was speaking gibberish and I was just looking at her, up til now she's doesn't have any to hold on to.
Still no man and no kids.
I do not feel pity for her cus I know many men that I personally know of that were interested in her, but she dy do baddie, thinking she still has time.

Many women are the cause of their problems.

No woman will agree to this type of evil proposition no matter how desperate for a child she is

MIKOLOWISKA:
his brat yet na you de find pikin o.

joseph1832:
his brat you say? 🤔

Yes, I do say. Every time it's father behaves like a child, I demote his offspring to join him. Otherwise, the brat would be my lovely child after I kick out the man brat.

If you want my services for sperm donation I will gladly do it, you will give birth to a very smart child may be even twins coz I one of a twin, my IQ is above average 115 - 129... I m excellent in learning new languages.. My best subject is any subject with Calculations...
As per Profesion, I m a banker...
In the University I studied Electric and Electronics Engineering with a 2nd Class Upper grade University of Lagos...
I sat for ICAN and Passed within 2yrs Foundation & Professional Exams also passed ACCA..
Also have an MBA University of Lagos.
Contact me through email gwabor83@gmail.com

budaatum:
Yes, I do say. Every time it's father behaves like a child, I demote his offspring to join him. Otherwise, the brat would be my lovely child after I kick out the man brat.

You need Deliverance.

RealityKings1:
Omo is it my eyes or nairaland buttons has improved

It's not your eyes bro. I've been looking for a topic that announced this change here but I've not found any yet.

zedman1:
It's not your eyes bro. I've been looking for a topic that announced this change here but I've not found any yet.

Yes bro

CorperKola:
Can you imagine being given 3 years probation by your wife whether you will make big money or not
Lol
See woman life
If i was the guy i would accept and if i male big money first thing i do is to marry more beautiful and yoinger wives

If she left I won't mind or stop her, it is her choice . I will never beg a woman for love or men for friendship. If she wants to come back when the money comes, I'll even assist her, but I may never take her back. Life can be so dynamic and life is so funny with things happening around us

Jamie248:
No woman will agree to this type of evil proposition no matter how desperate for a child she is

This one has declared himself the spokesperson of all the women in Nigeria and the world at large
If you hear some secrets that some of us have privilege to know, you will realise how naive you are to have been vouching for people you don't know

I've gotten similar offers from couple of them in their late 20s and mid 30s.

pocohantas:
He should go look for a younger lady and join hands with her. Or do men not want sweet18 again? Better still he can keep hustling. Men age like wine. He would marry at 60.

Lolzzzz...Poco de Poco! The lady is the desperate one in this case you know, not the guy. So, I was just suggesting an easier route for her to kill the two birds with a stone.

marlow1962:
I have a friend that is a single lady at age 30, no husband no kids, no boyfriend self. One day we were chatting about her issues, I told her I can help her out but Its going to come with a cost.
Just 2 things I told her, 1= that I won't be responsible for her or the baby or anything relating to her delivering the baby. 2= she's going to pay me.

She was speaking gibberish and I was just looking at her, up til now she's doesn't have any to hold on to.
Still no man and no kids.
I do not feel pity for her cus I know many men that I personally know of that were interested in her, but she dy do baddie, thinking she still has time.

Many women are the cause of their problems.

And age 30 is old to you? Lol. Such clownery.

Beware of what exactly?

floss:
I don’t think it’s a bad idea if both teams signs an MOU before a legal practitioner or a very strong deity before the match begins to avoid fielding an ineligible player during and after the match.

In reality the visiting team would pretend to play by the rules only to turn around and be calling the other team á deadbeat team and scum, etc.
They may even call the referee who is usually on their side to administer a penalty on the opposing team despite the initial agreement. Any agreement with that team is usually futile as they only remember agreements that favour them and if you make that mistake, you will be responsible for finacial, moral and economic well being of the'goal scored. The worst part is that the goal will grow up being brainwashed into thinking that you are an irresponsible player and a deadbeat.
There is no win for you and you have a liability of more that 25years hanging on your neck!

Bukola94:
Make sure he has something doing and he is not lazy. A small salary is better than none, a handiwork is better than begging and depending on anyone. Give him a chance like two to three years, if he is hardworking, is story may change for good

I pity men who don't have standards for women, you are looking for a woman in her 35s who is jobless with zero funds who still expects the accountability of a child that man is on a long thing.

Natbrowny:
She neeeds a child
The guy is not financially strong

Now
If the guy wants to help by providing the child
She should b ready to help the guy financially

Deal sealed. Else, she's a fraud

Yes o! She must be ready to pay for the sperm.

ExudeLoveToAll:
I pity men who don't have standards for women, you are looking for a woman in her 35s who is jobless with zero funds who still expects the accountability of a child that man is on a long thing.

this is serious, a lot of men have died, and most are dying in silent and fed up. But some women are suffering too in silence and regret even after their men acquire the money, there is no peace of mind, free movement and later regret the decision they made. I know beautiful woman, reserved woman, that complains oga don't have time for me, but he pays the bills, money is not the problem

TrainPark:
In reality the visiting team would pretend to play by the rules only to turn around and be calling the other team á deadbeat team and scum, etc.
They may even call the referee who is usually on their side to administer a penalty on the opposing team despite the initial agreement. Any agreement with that team is usually futile as they only remember agreements that favour them and if you make that mistake, you will be responsible for finacial, moral and economic well being of the'goal scored. The worst part is that the goal will grow up being brainwashed into thinking that you are an irresponsible player and a deadbeat.
There is no win for you and you have a liability of more that 25years hanging on your neck!

You’re very correct, that’s why signing the contract in front of a very strong deity will be ultimate…

floss:
You’re very correct, that’s why signing the contract in front of a very strong deity will be ultimate…

he heh he he ... yours is a fantastic idea to ensure accountability

Girl math. The equation does not ever balance. They think upside own and find someone else to blame for when their illogic backfires.

Jman06:
Instead of marrying the guy and then join hands with him to start a business and make money, she's there talking about getting pregnant out of wedlock..

deolumike:
Girl math. The equation does not ever balance. They think upside own and find someone else to blame for when their illogic backfires.

Exactly, my brother. That gender ehn . E tire person

Victoria Uyai Ukpabio is still on Nairaland? ROFLMAO.

UyaiIncomparabl:
And age 30 is old to you? Lol. Such clownery.

lexy2014:
the message you shared is just what one said she desires.

how is it now "the new pattern the women use now day when time is no longer on their side"?

You still carry your question and answer come here?

Ttalk:
You still carry your question and answer come here?

the message he shared is just what one said she desires.

how is it now "the new pattern the women use now day when time is no longer on their side"?