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I am 31 I dont have a girlfriend talkless of getting married. any girl I talk to, will start trying to manipulate me into marrying her.

I'm 30+ living my life ...I had left my Parents 8yrs ago...
Living in my house facing my own struggles and successes alone ....I want to win it all with God Almighty

obataokenwa:
Abroad by 18, 19, 20 people already have kids so that by 40, they're done training children. More reason they're responsible and focused in life while in naija, a man and a woman of 30+ still dey post sexy pictures on instagram.

Go to titktok and see how Nigerians chase free money and u will know that it will be a long lane for people to ever arrive. Anyday monetisation will be cancelled, alot will be useless

You see people give stupid reasons for being single. A man or woman of 30+ that's not in a serious relationship dont have any reason to blame Tinubu for bad govt.

Good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth
30+ is still youth.
Being unmarried helps a man make decisions attached to certain risks to better their lives in the future

TotoSuckker:
Being single gives you freedom to enjoy your life.

For instance today is a public holiday and since morning I have been indoors eating the to/ tow of two girls who came to visit me

how does eating infection and licking orifice of a public toilet equal enjoying your life?

always247:
I am 31 I dont have a girlfriend talkless of getting married. any girl I talk to, will start trying to manipulate me into marrying her.

You're not entitled to any girl, so stop trying to cajole them into having relations with you when you have nothing to offer them.

Talk about "manipulate me"! 🙄

obataokenwa:
Abroad by 18, 19, 20 people already have kids so that by 40, they're done training children. More reason they're responsible and focused in life while in naija, a man and a woman of 30+ still dey post sexy pictures on instagram.

Go to titktok and see how Nigerians chase free money and u will know that it will be a long lane for people to ever arrive. Anyday monetisation will be cancelled, alot will be useless

You see people give stupid reasons for being single. A man or woman of 30+ that's not in a serious relationship dont have any reason to blame Tinubu for bad govt.

For abroad abi? And how many people that married at 18 are still living with the wives and husbands of their youth abroad? How many people in your abroad are even getting married these days? No be "partner" and girlfriend and boyfriend them de do now? Have you considered why the divorce rate abroad is higher than Nigeria? Have you considered the fact that the economic situation of those abroad is different from those in your Nigeria? Abi you want a young school leaver without a job to marry and start making babies at 18?

That’s an important observation. In many societies, marriage is still seen as a milestone of responsibility and maturity, so when a man chooses differently, people often interpret it through what I can call cultural expectations rather than personal autonomy.

From a research standpoint, it’s interesting how social norms shape identity. What we often label as “responsibility” is less about an individual’s financial stability or personal growth, and more about whether they conform to the community’s timeline of life events.

In truth, responsibility can take many forms, career, family support, community service, intellectual pursuits and not only marriage. Recognizing this could help society become more flexible in how it values different life choices.

LoneSoldier:
I don't know why is a norm in our society today for a grown up man, doing well financially who is not interested in marriage to be considered an irresponsible man. I think a man's decision should be personal not mandatory or tailored by society.

Marriage should be a thing of personal decision not been pressured by society.

What do you think?

Marriage is a social construct. It’s a bourgeois trap meant to enslave men so as to increase their capacity to the economy. Tell me how men have benefitted from marriage? The indoctrination has been programmed to us from birth that it’s cool to raise a family whereas children lean to their mother most time. Men provide and keep providing and they are only loved by what they provide. I love the fact that a lot are waking up, unplugging from the trap and matrix. Have protected segzx, have fun and take your financial life carefully for old age sake.


By the way, I stumbled on this picture and the pics hit me like fan.

saphiere:
Because they are irresponsible.

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Are you responsible? Give me a proof you are and not being manipulative.

obataokenwa:
Abroad by 18, 19, 20 people already have kids so that by 40, they're done training children. More reason they're responsible and focused in life while in naija, a man and a woman of 30+ still dey post sexy pictures on instagram.

Go to titktok and see how Nigerians chase free money and u will know that it will be a long lane for people to ever arrive. Anyday monetisation will be cancelled, alot will be useless

You see people give stupid reasons for being single. A man or woman of 30+ that's not in a serious relationship dont have any reason to blame Tinubu for bad govt.

Clap for yourself. Pàtẹ́wọ́ for yourself. Your comment reeks of someone that attended ilé-iwé alákọ̀ọ́bẹ̀rẹ̀. So you’re the one that want to help them to live their life since they choose not to marry bah? What has been 30 got to do with marriage? I’m 30+, not married and with no kid or in any serious relationship, so that means I’m st00peed bah? Yet, it is a known fact that Tinubu gestapo regime is a weapon fashioned against Nigerians. This time around, read your statement slowly or you’ll want me to borrow you some little sense.

Usually one envious person hard at work spreading rumours.

TotoSuckker:
Being single gives you freedom to enjoy your life.

For instance today is a public holiday and since morning I have been indoors eating the to/ tow of two girls who came to visit me

Na your type be one of the reasons why they think we are irresponsible

Single men in Nigeria not in usa. There are so many celebs in us that did not get married until they were in their 40’s.
But here in Nigeria, they just add to your depression by repeatedly calling you irresponsible especially in places of worship who preach against depression

obataokenwa:
Abroad by 18, 19, 20 people already have kids so that by 40, they're done training children. More reason they're responsible and focused in life while in naija, a man and a woman of 30+ still dey post sexy pictures on instagram.

This lie again! There's no where abroad where teens are having children and raising them. The fertility and marriage rates in the abroad have collapsed! Oyibo no dey born again. Even in China, Taiwan, Hong Kong and heck, Barbados. Marriage and birth rates have plunged.

Nigeria, or at least southern Nigeria shouldn't be any different.

You see people give stupid reasons for being single. A man or woman of 30+ that's not in a serious relationship dont have any reason to blame Tinubu for bad govt.

The effects of Buhari's administration still lives on. That's what Tinubu is solving (the economic aspect). Graduate trainee jobs reduced drastically when Buhari became president. A present 30 year old graduated at the age of 22 when Buhari entered office. How do you think life has been for such a person?

I turned 30 this year, and the number of people asking about my partner and kids is overwhelming! It seems like something about this age triggers these questions, no one asked me before now. I just respond as if I have a partner and kids, and people treat me differently .

Gerrard59:
This lie again! There's no where abroad where teens are having children and raising them. The fertility and marriage rates in the abroad have collapsed! Oyibo no dey born again. Even in China, Taiwan, Hong Kong and heck, Barbados. Marriage and birth rates have plunged.

Nigeria, or at least southern Nigeria shouldn't be any different.


The effects of Buhari's administration still lives on. That's what Tinubu is solving (the economic aspect). Graduate trainee jobs reduced drastically when Buhari became president. A present 30 year old graduated at the age of 22 when Buhari entered office. How do you think life has been for such a person?

Abeg, what is Tinubu solving 🤔

Una no Dey taya to play the blame game?

HelloWorld80011:
When you are unmarried, you can challenge authority or raise insurrection since you don't have any family they can threaten or cause harm.
But a married man above 30 won't cause any fight because he won't want to put his wife through challenges

explains why so called responsible ones are always gathered where blessings are being spiritually siphoned(yahoo) and even justify it with the need to feed their kids as family men. They see it as a societal service and become spiritual tax-locator,collector, enforcer and allocator all rolled in one.

Mariangeles:
You're not entitled to any girl, so stop trying to cajole them into having relations with you when you have nothing to offer them.

Talk about "manipulate me"! 🙄

You are right in a sense but please reverse the order also and appliy that logic to the otherside a little. Both the man and the woman were delivered the mandate of fruitfulness and multiplication. Why must the man alone be dangote before marrying a random girl? Life no be movie ooo.

SpaceX:
They want you working and tap dancing in the plantation.

Say NO to plantation

What nonsense is this one saying? Does this writeup make any sense to you?

HelloWorld80011:
When you are unmarried, you can challenge authority or raise insurrection since you don't have any family they can threaten or cause harm.
But a married man above 30 won't cause any fight because he won't want to put his wife through challenges

Mohammed Yusuf, the founder of Boko haram, was married with wives and children - when he was causing problems in Nigeria - before being killed. So, your logic was wrong!

LoneSoldier:
I don't know why is a norm in our society today for a grown up man, doing well financially who is not interested in marriage to be considered an irresponsible man. I think a man's decision should be personal not mandatory or tailored by society.

Marriage should be a thing of personal decision not been pressured by society.

What do you think?

They want to wreck his life with the miserable slavery called Marriage.

There is no benefit in getting married. At leas not anymore.

You know someone that his Life has spoilt will be looking for people to join him.

I see married men as miserable humans, especially the struggling ones. Funny enough they will be looking at you singles as someone that's not responsible.
That's someone that still depends on his parents to send garri, plantain and Beans to feed his family.

Tueh.

It's just that we are living in an archaic society.
All we need is a companion, like in the movie with thesame title. An emotional support robot that we can just have sex with and discard at the end, since sex is the main reason men are falling for this scam called marriage.

Gerrard59:
This lie again! There's no where abroad where teens are having children and raising them. The fertility and marriage rates in the abroad have collapsed! Oyibo no dey born again. Even in China, Taiwan, Hong Kong and heck, Barbados. Marriage and birth rates have plunged.

Nigeria, or at least southern Nigeria shouldn't be any different.


The effects of Buhari's administration still lives on. That's what Tinubu is solving (the economic aspect). Graduate trainee jobs reduced drastically when Buhari became president. A present 30 year old graduated at the age of 22 when Buhari entered office. How do you think life has been for such a person?

In a nutshell, all im trying to say is that Children abroad are more focused and set their priorities right from early age. Youths in Nigeria are not focus and most times are ashamed to start small or even learn a skill or trade.

How many kids abroad depend on yahoo for survival or how many of their girls are online or on the road doing prostitution depending on man for survival. Alot of 30+ in Nigeria dont even have headway. Ive advised some and even volunteered to pay for them to go learn skill like electric car repair, solar connection but none accepted my offer. Im talking from experience cos Nigeria is a timebomb of youths doing nothing

liveyourlife007:
You know someone that his Life has spoilt will be looking for people to join him.

I see married men as miserable humans, especially the struggling ones. Funny enough they will be looking at you singles as someone that's not responsible.
That's someone that still depends on his parents to send garri, plantain and Beans to feed his family.

Tueh.

This mindset of yours is shallow and shows other people's life determines your headway in life. If your own priorities are right, you wont end up like them. When you see examples of people that failed in marriage, also go and look for testimonies of those that prospered.

Na they're wahala... do things at the right time fir you but take responsibility fir your actions

Maxxim:
I turned 30 this year, and the number of people asking about my partner and kids is overwhelming! It seems like something about this age triggers these questions, no one asked me before now. I just respond as if I have a partner and kids, and people treat me differently .

certain age shows how grown you've become. If from 20-30, you are not focused or have a girl that you guys set a goal together, you have failed in that aspect and even God can't entrust some certain things in your hand. Check all the rich men, they all married earlier cos it has something to do with priorities

thomas2024:
Clap for yourself. Pàtẹ́wọ́ for yourself. Your comment reeks of someone that attended ilé-iwé alákọ̀ọ́bẹ̀rẹ̀. So you’re the one that want to help them to live their life since they choose not to marry bah? What has been 30 got to do with marriage? I’m 30+, not married and with no kid or in any serious relationship, so that means I’m st00peed bah? Yet, it is a known fact that Tinubu gestapo regime is a weapon fashioned against Nigerians. This time around, read your statement slowly or you’ll want me to borrow you some little sense.

I keep saying this, when a full grown youth keeps blaming govt for being the reason hes not married, that person has failed. You can never set a goal backed us with seriousness and never achieve it.
Igbo proverb said..."if a rat outrun a child, he calls it stupid rat"

Oya, men between 30-39 that are still single and not searching, gather here. Come and mark your register.

I just clocked 1 year 2 months in my new place, none of my neighbors has ever seen me with a woman. They don't know I have repented since Oct 2023 and living a life of sexual purity.

SpaceX:
They want you working and tap dancing in the plantation.

Say NO to plantation

obataokenwa:
This mindset of yours is shallow and shows other people's life determines your headway in life. If your own priorities are right, you wont end up like them. When you see examples of people that failed in marriage, also go and look for testimonies of those that prospered.

Don't say priorities to me. It's an asshole word.
Tell me, are you in a failed marriage or a prosperous one?. So I can decide from which perspective I can analyse your situation.

Cos brother, you sound bitter.