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For those that wants to settle down or even have kids. We have so many of them abroad.

obataokenwa:
Abroad by 18, 19, 20 people already have kids so that by 40, they're done training children. More reason they're responsible and focused in life while in naija, a man and a woman of 30+ still dey post sexy pictures on instagram.

Go to titktok and see how Nigerians chase free money and u will know that it will be a long lane for people to ever arrive. Anyday monetisation will be cancelled, alot will be useless

You see people give stupid reasons for being single. A man or woman of 30+ that's not in a serious relationship dont have any reason to blame Tinubu for bad govt.

Na today I just remembered that I am 30years old.. Being single make me hustle at my pace and at desired ninche, therefore giving me decision freedom.. when I broke na only me dey face am, when I cashout na only me dey enjoy am

1m for u.

EmmyMaestro:
Even the ones that are married with 3 to 4 children and living from hand to mouth and struggling to pay rent will make that statement

CodeTemplarr:
You are right in a sense but please reverse the order also and appliy that logic to the otherside a little. Both the man and the woman were delivered the mandate of fruitfulness and multiplication. Why must the man alone be dangote before marrying a random girl? Life no be movie ooo.

Where was it stated that a man must be Dangote before marrying "a random girl"?
Are you men not the ones putting pressure on yourselves?

I have often stated this; no matter the level a man is, there's always a woman for him, but no, he'll always want the one above his reach.
Heck! Even a mad man on the street still finds a mate.

One thing's for sure: it is a man's duty to find the woman for him.

LoneSoldier:
You see this married men acting as if marriage is one hell of an achievement but deep down, they are crying and begging for help.

Is just so funny, single men really have what married men are really craving for, which is Peace Of Mind.

Exactly, they are weaklings. No balls.
Deep down ,they truly crave for that freedom, but they can't make a decision and stand by it. They bend to societal rules and peer pressure.

That's why you see them fornicating up and down, sleeping with househelps. Na married men fornicate pass. And I tend to ask myself, what are they really looking for, if marriage is all rosy and the safe haven they claim it to be.

Mariangeles:
Where was it stated that a man must be Dangote before marrying "a random girl"?
Are you men not the ones putting pressure on yourselves?

I have often stated this; no matter the level a man is, there's always a woman for him, but no, he'll always want the one above his reach.
Heck! Even a mad man on the street still finds a mate.

One thing's for sure: it is a man's duty to find the woman for him.

Do well to create to create a metre or means of measuring a man's level so they can stop punching aboce thwir weight.

Everyone cannot carry the same haughty spirit at work in some of you women. Some reasonable woman actually choose their men by character/values and not pocket size. Stop generalizing.

CodeTemplarr:
Do well to create to create a metre or means of measuring a man's level so they can stop punching aboce thwir weight.

Everyone cannot carry the same haughty spirit at work in some of you women. Some reasonable woman actually choose their men by character/values and not pocket size. Stop generalizing.

Everyone knows their level, both men and women.
It is nothing to be offended by, so there is no point being emotional about it.

So, everyone by themselves should be honest with themselves, and act accordingly.

For every girl you run after, there is one close by, giving you signs that she likes you, but you're ignoring.
So, let's stop forming victims, shall we?

Mariangeles:
Everyone knows their level, both men and women.
It is nothing to be offended by, so there is no point being emotional about it.

So, everyone by themselves should be honest with themselves, and act accordingly.

For every girl you run after, there is one close by, giving you signs that she likes you, but you're ignoring.
So, let's stop forming victims, shall we?

You are funny withyour wild speculations. So marriage is about pocket matching and not character. Wooow. This one don go far ooooo.

CodeTemplarr:
You are funny withyour wild speculations. So marriage is about pocket matching and not character. Wooow. This one don go far ooooo.

Your words, not mine.

Have a good day.

Mariangeles:
Your words, not mine.

Have a good day.

after spoiling it with feminism. You try well well.

obataokenwa:
certain age shows how grown you've become. If from 20-30, you are not focused or have a girl that you guys set a goal together, you have failed in that aspect and even God can't entrust some certain things in your hand. Check all the rich men, they all married earlier cos it has something to do with priorities

This man, you can’t be using your stance to judge others nau.

Who told you that your stance is the SI unit for others?

Na wa o.

cucumbar:
This man, you can’t be using your stance to judge others nau.

Who told you that your stance is the SI unit for others?

Na wa o.

Sorry cos it affected you. My guy wake up, we dont have much time on earth. Achieve things earlier

Hassanmaye:
Please why, we need The why to decide

Ask your dad! Tbh it’s very difficult to explain….but you’ll find out once you are in it

TotoSuckker:
Being single gives you freedom to enjoy your life.

For instance today is a public holiday and since morning I have been indoors eating the to/ tow of two girls who came to visit me

Lies

obataokenwa:
Sorry cos it affected you. My guy wake up, we dont have much time on earth. Achieve things earlier

You don’t know me.

Stop seeing others with your own lenses.

TotoSuckker:
Being single gives you freedom to enjoy your life.

For instance today is a public holiday and since morning I have been indoors eating the to/ tow of two girls who came to visit me

bro, na wa for you oo

ibedun:
Ask your dad! Tbh it’s very difficult to explain….but you’ll find out once you are in it

This is very scary

obataokenwa:
certain age shows how grown you've become. If from 20-30, you are not focused or have a girl that you guys set a goal together, you have failed in that aspect and even God can't entrust some certain things in your hand. Check all the rich men, they all married earlier cos it has something to do with priorities

Why should you set goals with a woman when you can achieve them on your own? What's wrong with getting your life together first? For your information, I've been working since my early twenties and earning good money, so any woman who enters my life will follow the path I've already set. As a piece of advice, don't raise your children with this mindset.

obataokenwa:
I keep saying this, when a full grown youth keeps blaming govt for being the reason hes not married, that person has failed. You can never set a goal backed us with seriousness and never achieve it.
Igbo proverb said..."if a rat outrun a child, he calls it stupid rat"

😂Wèrè gbòde ò. I no hear wetin you yan my guy. Go meet your wife for house, you need those front twins for mental rehabilitation😂 See comment, chai! Nairalands and its supporters of APC😂😂😂

liveyourlife007:
You know someone that his Life has spoilt will be looking for people to join him.

I see married men as miserable humans, especially the struggling ones. Funny enough they will be looking at you singles as someone that's not responsible.
That's someone that still depends on his parents to send garri, plantain and Beans to feed his family.

Tueh.

It's just that we are living in an archaic society.
All we need is a companion, like in the movie with thesame title. An emotional support robot that we can just have sex with and discard at the end, since sex is the main reason men are falling for this scam called marriage.

One elderly modaphoka was telling me that his family responsibility was too much on him. That he is not able to take care of his family as he likes to. And because of that, he wants to die and join his ancestors. Mhen, I felt genuin compassion for this modaphoka.

Fast forward a month later, he was calling me irresponsible for not getting married!!

I mean isn’t that a modaphoka?

Skippyvibes:
Na so Dem dey pressure me with marriage oo every now and then go marry go marry na WA for society o

I go soon kill person on top this matter.

princessyere1:
Why does society picture single ladies who clock 30 as expired ?

They are not expired just closer to expiry date(menopause).
If child bearing is not required, the expiry date no longer apply!!

People just like to exaggerate things to annoy others.

Fredoh:
One elderly modaphoka was telling me that his family responsibility was too much on him. That he is not able to take care of his family as he likes to. And because of that, he wants to die and join his ancestors. Mhen, I felt genuin compassion for this modaphoka.

Fast forward a month later, he was calling me irresponsible for not getting married!!

I mean isn’t that a modaphoka?

The guy is totally confused

princessyere1:
Why does society picture single ladies who clock 30 as expired ?

The reason is because men will look them as too old to marry but me I have never thought that way men always run away from woman above 30s I wonder why..

Am above 30 an I can't lie to you any time I visit my parent they always talk about this things with me that I should go an marry that because I still look younger in body and have much energy I think am young . I told him I don't have a girlfriend oh my dad said I need prayer that I should go and marry that he knows money is not My problem that I should go an be praying that he is not happy seeing me delaying my life . I just don't want to marry two wife or divorce I want to be with one woman for the rest of my life so am very patient I told him that he said I should go and marry or else he will not take me serious but he doesn't know woman is not easy to get if you want a good woman he no easy to find I can't go to my fathers house like before because he will always say this things everytime

Sammy101111:
The reason is because men will look them as too old to marry but me I have never thought that way men always run away from woman above 30s I wonder why..

It’s not nice at all.. the stereotype is alarming

princessyere1:
It’s not nice at all.. the stereotype is alarming

I won't lie to you that how we men think a lady above 30 we think they are old or too experienced .But to be honest can you still see any woman in 30s that is single and not a baby mama .because men think woman above 30s have kids And her looking for partner to put the load on so men will run. But I don't mind dating a woman above 30s is cool but not 40s

Sammy101111:
I won't lie to you that how we men think a lady above 30 we think they are old or too experienced .But to be honest can you still see any woman in 30s that is single and not a baby mama .because men think woman above 30s have kids And her looking for partner to put the load on so men will run. But I don't mind dating a woman above 30s is cool but not 40s

When people die in their 30s you see people crying and wailing that they died too young but stupid people will term women in their 30s that are alive as old and expired it’s crazy !

princessyere1:
When people die in their 30s you see people crying and wailing that they died too young but stupid people will term women in their 30s that are alive as old and expired it’s crazy !

That true Not every men sees it that way some are mature to understand the nature .BUT any woman in 30s that as no kid and is not a babe mama I will gladly love that woman because she kept her self well . 30 YEARS OLD LADY THAT IS NOT A BABE MAMA IS A RESPECT TO LADIES BECAUSE SHE VALUED HER SELF WELL MOST LADIES DONT KNOW MEN LOVE WOMAN IN 30S BUT THEY DONT WANT BABY MAMAS .I LOVE WOMAN ABOVE 30 BECAUE THERE SENSE WILL MARCH YOURS AND NO SILLY GAMES THEN WHY WANT SOMETHING SERIOUS THEN .BUT SOME MEN DONT UNDERSTAND WHEN SOME WOMAN ARE SERIOUS SOME MEN ARE NoT SERIOUS WITH THEM

TotoSuckker:
Being single gives you freedom to enjoy your life.

For instance today is a public holiday and since morning I have been indoors eating the to/ tow of two girls who came to visit me

you fit give me one make i enjoy?

obataokenwa:
Abroad by 18, 19, 20 people already have kids so that by 40, they're done training children. More reason they're responsible and focused in life while in naija, a man and a woman of 30+ still dey post sexy pictures on instagram.

Go to titktok and see how Nigerians chase free money and u will know that it will be a long lane for people to ever arrive. Anyday monetisation will be cancelled, alot will be useless

You see people give stupid reasons for being single. A man or woman of 30+ that's not in a serious relationship dont have any reason to blame Tinubu for bad govt.

are you married