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If you sense that from such women, just break up and end that marriage. Do not marry

Hamachi:
It's completely understandable to have concerns about trust, loyalty, and emotional baggage in relationships — those things really do matter. But it's also important to be fair and compassionate in how we view people’s pasts, especially when it comes to something as complex as love, sex, and personal growth.

Many people have past relationships or have made decisions they later regret — that’s part of being human. What truly defines a person’s readiness for marriage isn't just their past, but what they've learned from it and how they’ve grown. A history with exes doesn’t automatically make someone unfaithful, just like a quiet past doesn’t guarantee loyalty.

Yes, some people may carry unresolved emotional ties into marriage — and that can be damaging. But that applies to men too, not just women. It’s a two-way street. The real issue isn’t just who someone slept with in the past, but whether they've been honest with themselves and their partner, and whether they're willing to build a relationship based on transparency, healing, and commitment.

If someone is still tied emotionally or sexually to an ex, it is important to reflect, pray (if that aligns with their beliefs), and take steps to be free of those ties. But let’s approach that with encouragement, not condemnation. People change. People heal. And many have gone on to build beautiful, faithful marriages — not because they were perfect, but because they chose to do the work.

Rather than focusing on shame or suspicion, let’s promote open conversation between partners. Ask each other hard questions, talk about the past honestly, and make space for grace, not just judgment.

Love that’s real — whether in dating or marriage — is built on trust, growth, and truth.

I quite align with this....
A lot of men also do this, slept with their ex-girlfriend before getting married. The issue here is just that women cheating carries more weight and devastation to men cheating. Besides, the women cheating also don't do it in isolation, they do it with some of you guys here commenting. Yes, some of you guys here sleep with women: single women and married, but eventually come here to condemn all of them.
Morality in our society is ebbing fast. Women now do tattoos, put multiple rings and chains all over their faces & legs, dance "illegally" on social media and openly talk about sex anyhow while we admire them. Ofcourse, these things will come back to affect some of us.

SmartPolician:
Any woman you didn't meet a virgin can sleep with anything before and after wedding.

That's why I like Peter Obi's explanation: Think less about what your wife does with another man and focus on building a great future for yourself and your children.

did his wife cheat on him, i dont think he was the one that gave birth to to that gaylord

SmartPolician:
Any woman you didn't meet a virgin can sleep with anything before and after wedding.

That's why I like Peter Obi's explanation: Think less about what your wife does with another man and focus on building a great future for yourself and your children.

if atall na your children sef.

Angelfrost:
That's not news...!.

The only reason they married or are marrying the men they are marrying rather than their Ex is because of Availability and Financial reasons.


As long as their exes are within reach, you can be sure sexual escapades will continue.


That's why modern married men are counselled not to sleep on this DNA testing of kids at birth.

Na so o

Here's to the foolish men paying hefty bride price for something their brides have been giving freely all their lives.

MartinCorridon:
Rather I left them for you to wife with 30 page bride price lists

VaginaAcademic:
Na una wey dey marry I hail una o. Me I'm in love with my 2 hands. My hand no dey smell, e dey faithful, e no dey give me heartbreak or infection e dey give me money and pleasure soon I'm going to marry my hand

I nor understand this. Wetin you mean?

Azazyel:
It's really scary but it is rampant sadly. Once they are close to wedding day like this, they'll start calling their exes and doing unwarranted visitations. 2 of my exes came to my house few days to their weddings. This was in December, 2024 and March, 2025. This is why men need to be vigilant and marry women who have the fear of God and women who truly respect them.

As a man, stop chasing women around. If she loves you, she won't stress you. Stop begging!

Na so o.

chidiokay:
Nah, don't play confusion here, Women are naturally whores, if men can get the slighiest idea of what goes thru a gurl mind ... if not society wey clamp down on that gender

No woman in right frame of mind wants more than One husband, give a woman all the power and money she no go marry pass one Man at a time

Women are whures nd dey desire to be hammered as whures, women that get that inside hardly cheat

Meaning?

sylve11:
I nor understand this. Wetin you mean?

aww you're so innocent you never soapy before

Trust a girl/woman at your own peril.

Cum4me:
First of all a lot of women marry guys they don't love aren't sexually attracted to. They marry who's ready because they have limited time unlike men. Do you think it's easy for a woman to leave a good DK and live with 2min man all because of marriage. She tolerate sex with her husband because they need to have kid's. Just as a man prefer a woman who cooks very well same applies to the woman who's body has feel different DK. That's why you should try to marry a virgin or a lady with low body count.

Dateline 2012, a lady my younger brother kept telling her she's good wife material fell for him, though they didn't date, he didn't live in the place so only came to work and return to his station. One day he heard she was getting married so next time he was at the state he made it look like he was serious about her, she asked why he didn't say so earlier.
Long story short she confessed she was getting married to a man she didn't love. She offered herself to him saying she wanted to feel what it was like to make love to someone she loves before going to her new husband.
Well, the young man ran!!

VaginaAcademic:
Na una wey dey marry I hail una o. Me I'm in love with my 2 hands. My hand no dey smell, e dey faithful, e no dey give me heartbreak or infection e dey give me money and pleasure soon I'm going to marry my hand

Masturbation don finish this one

Godfullsam:
A woman once told me that her current husband is not the man she really wanted to marry, but somehow she ended up with her current husband (she didn't give details on why she didn't marry her ex).
Here is the shocker, she said few weeks after her wedding her ex was reportedly sick and hospitalised. This woman said she took permission from her husband and lied that she wanted to go and see her mum. She said she travelled to meet her ex and greet him in his base and the both had sex before coming back .

Such opportunities should not be missed

AfeezShomorin:
Masturbation don finish this one

jo soapy

VaginaAcademic:
I done run baby mama things I saw premium shege I'm currently single and in love with my hands. That's why I have the moniker vagina academic. I have graduated and moved on from toto matters. Now I'm chasing money if konji hold me I soapy it away no time I don't want stress.

Your hands can never be a permanent substitute for to/ tow

Azazyel:
It's really scary but it is rampant sadly. Once they are close to wedding day like this, they'll start calling their exes and doing unwarranted visitations. 2 of my exes came to my house few days to their weddings. This was in December, 2024 and March, 2025. This is why men need to be vigilant and marry women who have the fear of God and women who truly respect them.

As a man, stop chasing women around. If she loves you, she won't stress you. Stop begging!

They came and you hammered them, let other men also hammer their exes including the lady you will marry

Helinuss:
Some men do it....pic your poison

It is not a crime

ogascomax:
Just set some of them up them go open mouth like tap. Bring such discussion, act as though a girl is supposed to have test my girls to give her a better stability. Create false stories. Support ladies with body count on trending news. Tease her, act like a liberal man. She go start to dey talk small small. Except she has mastered the game of not opening up so dark part of her to appear good. But most will talk. No be our modern girls again.

After you have extracted the information from her will you use as collateral to take a loan from the bank?

Get one like that for here too beautiful smart and intelligent

MartinCorridon:
Well you need my half eaten snacks.

Trust me I am with another Ibo. They can't ever get enough.

Now use your alternate moniker to Like your own comment

Oga abeg rest!

The woman wey you sef go marry be another person ex so dem don knack am akpako

cutecommend:
How can you sleep with your Exes multiple times during dating and expect to be automatically a faithful and loving wife in marriage? Some weddings you may have seen with couples dancing, celebrating e.t.c, may just be that the lady doing the wedding just had sex with her EX few days to the wedding day. She may even cry tears of joy on the wedding day, while her EX may be a wedding guest mocking the husband that is probably dancing so well in the wedding.

Again, some caring husbands who may have pampered their wives during pregnancy, stood by her during labour, probably cried tears of joy after child birth, may just be doing so for another man's child.

As a lady, you may need to prayerfully cut-off ties with your EX or past sexual partners, and you may need to prayerful undo the impact your past sexual escapades may do to your marriage.

things I'll neva ever do.. What's this generation turning into.. To cheat on my bf sef I no fit.. It is well