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A lady has sparked debate on social media after she advised women to marry men who have an “I don’t care” attitude.

In a viral video on X (formerly Twitter), the lady said that any woman who wants peace of mind should marry men “wey no too get sense.”

According to her, men with such an attitude are the best because they are not bothered by unnecessary things and do not like stress.

She explained that if a man with an “I don’t care” attitude returns from work and finds the house scattered, he will simply walk past, go into his room, and sleep without raising alarm, quarrelling, or causing a fight.

The lady also added that if such a man comes home and finds no food, he will quietly enter the kitchen, cook for himself and his wife, and everyone will eat and celebrate.

She further warned women to be careful of men who always want to win every argument, stressing that such men cannot give happiness in marriage.

But she is correct.

If a man does not care, then he does not bother you. She didn’t lie. Let us not let anger, hatred or bias make us miss the message.

This is a fact. A man who does not really care how his house is or a man who is afraid to demand that his house be kept clean and tidy, such a man will not be much of a trouble to any woman. The logic is there and real.


The question can then be, ''What type of man goes out, comes back and sees his house in a mess with a wife at home and does not care''? From the scenario she painted. What type of “Man” will accept that ?

Show me that man, and I will show you a low value man without discipline. A man without a strong, respectable network of friends. A man without shame. A man without order in his life. A man who does not demand accountability because he himself lacks it. A man she will call a whimp and she will eventually cheat on with someone who demands accountability from her.

As per a man bickering with women, she is also very correct. A proper man should not do this. It devalues you. Totally. Are you a market woman? Instruct but do not engage in exchange of words. Instruct. This is how I want this to be done, etc etc. Then inform it is not negotiable. If she shouts, yells, screams, convulses, etc CALMLY REPEAT THE BOUNDARY AND REMAIN CALM.

A sensible man creates boundaries and enforces them, and never renegotiates them. Calling out a boundary MUST NOT INVOLVE Shouting and quarrelling. Don’t get into arguments with her, especially with logic and facts. Tell her once and enforce it. Remove time, remove resources, remove protection, remove provision, remove validation. No reaction/overreaction IS YOUR TRUE WEAPON. But how do you do these things when you do not have value way above her. If you can be easily replaced, then all you have is your self resect. Keep that intact and walk away from a woman who does not respect your boundaries. You are a man and easily manipulated to lose emotional control with someone you are to lead? Don't bring yourself down to that level. Why should I waste energy speaking with logic to a brain and mind run by emotions? Choose your words wisely. Not too much talk. Don’t argue like a child.

She is correct.

But she used the wrong words to describe such men.

Such men doesnt lack sense like she thinks, they are just easygoing, peaceloving and liberal-minded.

I am one of them.

I always wonder why men quarrel or fight with their partners, be it wife, fiance or girlfriend.


Nothing on earth can make me quarrel with a woman. The greatest sin any woman can commit in marriage is infidelity or cheating, but honestly I wouldn't quarrel over that, I will just reduce my rating and trust for you and operate more carefully for my own health, but to argue and quarrel because of that, not me.



Anything that doesn't threaten my life, health and finance, can never bother me, that's who I am, sadly



It baffles me when I hear that some men quarrel with their wives because of food, sex, untidy home, etc. Any man that quarrels over things like sex, food, untidy home, etc definitely need to look inwards

10thTenthMan:
But she is correct.

If a man does not care, then he does not bother you.

This is a fact.

The question can then be, ''What type of man goes out, comes back and sees his house in a mess with a wife at home and does not care''?

Show me that man, and I will show you a low value man without discipline. A man without a strong, respectable network of friends. A man without shame. A man without order in his life. A man who does not demand accountability because he himself lacks it. A man she will call a whimp and she will eventually cheat on with someone who demands accountability from her.

As per a man bickering with women, she is also correct.

A sensible man creates boundaries and enforces them, and never renegotiates them. Calling out a boundary MUST NOT INVOLVE Shouting and quarrelling. Don’t get into arguments with her, especially with logic and facts. Tell her once and enforce it. Remove time, remove resources, remove protection, remove provision, remove validation. No reaction/overreaction IS YOUR TRUE WEAPON. But how do you do these things when you do not have value way above her. If you can be easily replaced, then all you have is your self resect. Keep that intact and walk away from a woman who does not respect your boundaries. You are a man and easily manipulated to lose emotional control with someone you are to lead? Don't bring yourself down to that level. Why should I waste energy speaking with logic to a brain and mind run by emotions? Choose your words wisely. Not too much talk. Don’t argue like a child.

You are completely wrong bro.

Not every man is a disciplinarian.


Men who are disciplinarian are always a problem in marriage because they complain about everything and want to discipline everybody around them.


I am happily married for years now.

My wife knows I don't complain about anything at all, she knows this about me. She knows if I dont like a meal, I wont complain, I will rather claim that I am full after few bites or spoons lol, and she will get the signal and smile; I know you don't like the meal, so sorry hun, I know there is much pepper, etc, let me get you something else to eat, even without my approval she will quickly rush to get something else.


She knows my kids prefer my room to theirs or their Mom's, and she suggested several times that the room remains locked whenever I am not around but I always object that it should be kept open for the kids to use as they please. And you know kids, they will scatter everything in the room, my reading table, just everything. If I mistakenly come back earlier and meet the room scattered, I don't say a word, and immediately both the kids and their Mom will get the signal that Daddy is not happy and will immediately swing to action arranging things, kids packing their toys, story books, drawing boards, etc while their Mom arranges others, and within few minutes everywhere is tidied without me uttering a word lol.


My wife and kids have learned my way, including our domestic staffs, even my staffs at the office, they all know that I dont ever complain about things, if I dont like a situation, I keep silent and try organizing it myself and they will get the clear message.


My wife and kids know that if I am silent and not uttering a word, it means something is wrong and everybody will become worried lol.


If I am silent for some time, not uttering a word, my son will start worrying, Daddy why dont you want to say something, Daddy talk, Daddy I am sorry, it's not me its Linlin that did it, she was the one that, bla bla bla and they will start confessing who did what without me asking.



So don't take liberal-minded and peaceloving men's silence or calmness for foolishness, their calmness and silence speak louder than violent quarrels and verbal abuse


I bless God for creating me the way He did because I hardly have issues or disagreement with people. I get along with people easily and I overlook people's weaknesses easily. I always have this natural gift of accommodating people no matter how horrible others think they are, I have room in my heart to accommodate all kinds of people.


The only place I tend to argue with people is online and especially on political matters because I always feel disgusted with Nigeria's overall situation haven been to working nations where it seems like paradise, so when I see Nigerians applaud Nigerian government, leaders and the Nigerian situation despite knowing that Nigeria is not doing well, I feel disgusted

She's right

franchasng:
You are completely wrong bro.

Not every man is a disciplinarian.


Men who are disciplinarian are always a problem in marriage because they complain about everything and want to discipline everybody around them.


I am happily married for years now.

My wife knows I don't complain about anything at all, she knows this about me. She knows if I dont like a meal, I wont complain, I will rather claim that I am full after few bites or spoons lol, and she will get the signal and smile; I know you don't like the meal, so sorry hun, I know there is much pepper, etc, let me get you something else to eat, even without my approval she will quickly rush to get something else.


She knows my kids prefer my room to theirs or their Mom's, and she suggested several times that the room remains locked whenever I am not around but I always object that it should be kept open for the kids to use as they please. And you know kids, they will scatter everything in the room, my reading table, just everything. If I mistakenly come back earlier and meet the room scattered, I don't say a word, and immediately both the kids and their Mom will get the signal that Daddy is not happy and will immediately swing to action arranging things, kids packing their toys, story books, drawing boards, etc while their Mom arranges others, and within few minutes everywhere is tidied without me uttering a word lol.


My wife and kids have learned my way, including our domestic staffs, even my staffs at the office, they all know that I dont ever complain about things, if I dont like a situation, I keep silent and try organizing it myself and they will get the clear message.


My wife and kids know that if I am silent and not uttering a word, it means something is wrong and everybody will become worried lol.


If I am silent for some time, not uttering a word, my son will start worrying, Daddy why dont you want to say something, Daddy talk, Daddy I am sorry, it's not me its Linlin that did it, she was the one that, bla bla bla and they will start confessing who did what without me asking.



So don't take liberal-minded and peaceloving men's silence or calmness for foolishness, their calmness and silence speak louder than violent quarrels and verbal abuse


I bless God for creating me the way He did because I hardly have issues or disagreement with people. I get along with people easily and I overlook people's weaknesses easily. I always have this natural gift of accommodating people no matter how horrible others think they are, I have room in my heart to accommodate all kinds of people.


The only place I tend to argue with people is online and especially on political matters because I always feel disgusted with Nigeria's overall situation haven been to working nations where it seems like paradise, so when I see Nigerians applaud Nigerian government, leaders and the Nigerian situation despite knowing that Nigeria is not doing well, I feel disgusted

You command respect with action no be by chocho.. and you marry a good woman who understands you because some girls no go send ur papa!!!

All this long epistle to justify being a simp

Spend less time on Nairaland and more time being a man.

You're not " peace - loving" that's the lie she told you.

I can bet anything she regularly goes for Away Matches.

franchasng:
She is correct.

But she used the wrong words to describe such men.

Such men doesnt lack sense like she thinks, they are just easygoing, peaceloving and liberal-minded.

I am one of them.

I always wonder why men quarrel or fight with their partners, be it wife, fiance or girlfriend.


Nothing on earth can make me quarrel with a woman. The greatest sin any woman can commit in marriage is infidelity or cheating, but honestly I wouldn't quarrel over that, I will just reduce my rating and trust for you and operate more carefully for my own health, but to argue and quarrel because of that, not me.



Anything that doesn't threaten my life, health and finance, can never bother me, that's who I am, sadly



It baffles me when I hear that some men quarrel with their wives because of food, sex, untidy home, etc. Any man that quarrels over things like sex, food, untidy home, etc definitely need to look inwards

franchasng:
You are completely wrong bro.

Not every man is a disciplinarian.


Men who are disciplinarian are always a problem in marriage because they complain about everything and want to discipline everybody around them.


I am happily married for years now.

My wife knows I don't complain about anything at all, she knows this about me. She knows if I dont like a meal, I wont complain, I will rather claim that I am full after few bites or spoons lol, and she will get the signal and smile; I know you don't like the meal, so sorry hun, I know there is much pepper, etc, let me get you something else to eat, even without my approval she will quickly rush to get something else.


She knows my kids prefer my room to theirs or their Mom's, and she suggested several times that the room remains locked whenever I am not around but I always object that it should be kept open for the kids to use as they please. And you know kids, they will scatter everything in the room, my reading table, just everything. If I mistakenly come back earlier and meet the room scattered, I don't say a word, and immediately both the kids and their Mom will get the signal that Daddy is not happy and will immediately swing to action arranging things, kids packing their toys, story books, drawing boards, etc while their Mom arranges others, and within few minutes everywhere is tidied without me uttering a word lol.


My wife and kids have learned my way, including our domestic staffs, even my staffs at the office, they all know that I dont ever complain about things, if I dont like a situation, I keep silent and try organizing it myself and they will get the clear message.


My wife and kids know that if I am silent and not uttering a word, it means something is wrong and everybody will become worried lol.


If I am silent for some time, not uttering a word, my son will start worrying, Daddy why dont you want to say something, Daddy talk, Daddy I am sorry, it's not me its Linlin that did it, she was the one that, bla bla bla and they will start confessing who did what without me asking.



So don't take liberal-minded and peaceloving men's silence or calmness for foolishness, their calmness and silence speak louder than violent quarrels and verbal abuse


I bless God for creating me the way He did because I hardly have issues or disagreement with people. I get along with people easily and I overlook people's weaknesses easily. I always have this natural gift of accommodating people no matter how horrible others think they are, I have room in my heart to accommodate all kinds of people.


The only place I tend to argue with people is online and especially on political matters because I always feel disgusted with Nigeria's overall situation haven been to working nations where it seems like paradise, so when I see Nigerians applaud Nigerian government, leaders and the Nigerian situation despite knowing that Nigeria is not doing well, I feel disgusted

The reason why you’re not complaining or shouting is because your wife get sense… assuming you married a “men are scum “ lady as a wife… you would have being seeking advice here on how to drive her away without the kids noticing

franchasng:
You are completely wrong bro.

Not every man is a disciplinarian.


Men who are disciplinarian are always a problem in marriage because they complain about everything and want to discipline everybody around them.


I am happily married for years now.

My wife knows I don't complain about anything at all, she knows this about me. She knows if I dont like a meal, I wont complain, I will rather claim that I am full after few bites or spoons lol, and she will get the signal and smile; I know you don't like the meal, so sorry hun, I know there is much pepper, etc, let me get you something else to eat, even without my approval she will quickly rush to get something else.


She knows my kids prefer my room to theirs or their Mom's, and she suggested several times that the room remains locked whenever I am not around but I always object that it should be kept open for the kids to use as they please. And you know kids, they will scatter everything in the room, my reading table, just everything. If I mistakenly come back earlier and meet the room scattered, I don't say a word, and immediately both the kids and their Mom will get the signal that Daddy is not happy and will immediately swing to action arranging things, kids packing their toys, story books, drawing boards, etc while their Mom arranges others, and within few minutes everywhere is tidied without me uttering a word lol.


My wife and kids have learned my way, including our domestic staffs, even my staffs at the office, they all know that I dont ever complain about things, if I dont like a situation, I keep silent and try organizing it myself and they will get the clear message.


My wife and kids know that if I am silent and not uttering a word, it means something is wrong and everybody will become worried lol.


If I am silent for some time, not uttering a word, my son will start worrying, Daddy why dont you want to say something, Daddy talk, Daddy I am sorry, it's not me its Linlin that did it, she was the one that, bla bla bla and they will start confessing who did what without me asking.



So don't take liberal-minded and peaceloving men's silence or calmness for foolishness, their calmness and silence speak louder than violent quarrels and verbal abuse


I bless God for creating me the way He did because I hardly have issues or disagreement with people. I get along with people easily and I overlook people's weaknesses easily. I always have this natural gift of accommodating people no matter how horrible others think they are, I have room in my heart to accommodate all kinds of people.


The only place I tend to argue with people is online and especially on political matters because I always feel disgusted with Nigeria's overall situation haven been to working nations where it seems like paradise, so when I see Nigerians applaud Nigerian government, leaders and the Nigerian situation despite knowing that Nigeria is not doing well, I feel disgusted

Interesting.

So at least You communicate boundaries in your own unique way, which is even very masculine. You mention maids, workers, etc. Assuming without conceding that you have other things, then you are a person of good value. Which sensible woman wants to lose that? Your family , they know what you do not like. They immediately adjust without you needing to shout. They pick off of the energy. Good for you. But as much as you described yourself as peaceful, THEY GET THE POINT WHEN THERE IS A POINT TO BE GOTTEN. They know your likes and dislikes.

Nowhere would I advise a man to get into a verbal sparing match. You maintain your boundary through your body language. In the past, our parents communicated boundaries by mere looks. You got the message immediately and adjusted your act. You knew consequences will follow. This is being quarrelsome or opposite of being quiet. I will never advise that men set and enforce boundaries through shouting and quarrelling and fighting with a woman. It is childish and even brings you down to a level you should not come down to. Mention or communicate what you don't like. But never let boundaries be crossed. I cannot tell men to shout and quarrel when at the same time I advise that one of the ways to create value is not to even engage in such. It is not the severity of punishment that deters crime, IT IS THE GUARANTEE THAT YOU WILL BE CAUGHT REGARDLESS, THAT ACTUALLY DOES.

10thTenthMan:
Interesting.

So at least You communicate boundaries in your own unique way, which is even very masculine. You mention maids, workers, etc. Assuming without conceding that you have other things, then you are a person of good value. Which sensible woman wants to lose that? Your family , they know what you do not like. They immediately adjust without you needing to shout. They pick off of the energy. Good for you. But as much as you described yourself as peaceful, THEY GET THE POINT WHEN THERE IS A POINT TO BE GOTTEN. They know your likes and dislikes.

Nowhere would I advise a man to get into a verbal sparing match. You maintain your boundary through your body language. In the past, our parents communicated boundaries by mere looks. You got the message immediately and adjusted your act. You knew consequences will follow. This is being quarrelsome or opposite of being quiet. I will never advise that men set and enforce boundaries through shouting and quarrelling and fighting with a woman. It is childish and even brings you down to a level you should not come down to. Mention or communicate what you don't like. But never let boundaries be crossed. I cannot tell men to shout and quarrel when at the same time I advise that one of the ways to create value is not to even engage in such. It is not the severity of punishment that deters crime, IT IS THE GUARANTEE THAT YOU WILL BE CAUGHT REGARDLESS, THAT ACTUALLY DOES.

Okay, better understood now, thanks for the clarification

floss:
The reason why you’re not complaining or shouting is because your wife get sense… assuming you married a “men are scum “ lady as a wife… you would have being seeking advice here on how to drive her away without the kids noticing

lol, you guys will not kill somebody on this forum

But dont be surprised that those men are scum ladies online may end up being calm mouse at home and with their man, the irony of internet

10thTenthMan:
But she is correct.

If a man does not care, then he does not bother you.

This is a fact.

The question can then be, ''What type of man goes out, comes back and sees his house in a mess with a wife at home and does not care''?

Show me that man, and I will show you a low value man without discipline. A man without a strong, respectable network of friends. A man without shame. A man without order in his life. A man who does not demand accountability because he himself lacks it. A man she will call a whimp and she will eventually cheat on with someone who demands accountability from her.

As per a man bickering with women, she is also correct.

A sensible man creates boundaries and enforces them, and never renegotiates them. Calling out a boundary MUST NOT INVOLVE Shouting and quarrelling. Don’t get into arguments with her, especially with logic and facts. Tell her once and enforce it. Remove time, remove resources, remove protection, remove provision, remove validation. No reaction/overreaction IS YOUR TRUE WEAPON. But how do you do these things when you do not have value way above her. If you can be easily replaced, then all you have is your self resect. Keep that intact and walk away from a woman who does not respect your boundaries. You are a man and easily manipulated to lose emotional control with someone you are to lead? Don't bring yourself down to that level. Why should I waste energy speaking with logic to a brain and mind run by emotions? Choose your words wisely. Not too much talk. Don’t argue like a child.

just earned yourself a follower sir. I would be needing your advice someday. Well-done sir.

MartinCorridon:
All this long epistle to justify being a simp

Spend less time on Nairaland and more time being a man.

You're not " peace - loving" that's the lie she told you.

I can bet anything she regularly goes for Away Matches.

Lafmaoooo

My brother you could be right, but the truth remains that we are wired differently in life.

From childhood, I am peaceloving and always get along easily with people irrespective of their character, and reason I have a harem of friends from childhood down to school days that we still roll together despite their economic, financial and societal statuses; some are richer, occupy positions of authority while some are still struggling but I still get along with them no matter where they live or what they do, I am always the melting point of all, where all childhood buddies and classmates and more come to meet. It's a natural gift I think I inherited from my mother not my father lol.


I enjoy peace a lot and I cherish humility. I don't expect much from people cos I know all humans have flaws including myself so why should I bury others for their flaws as humans?

back in secondary school, I was the only prefect that never flogged any student cos I cant imagine flogging somebody lol


My only fury is towards failed elected government officials and public office holders and their supporters whose actions and inactions inflict hardship, suffering and loss of lives on the masses.

Coming from a gender thats gets super angry because the man didnt notice the new eye lashes they had on, or even compliment the new hair or dress.

It's good she acknowledged that a man must lack sense to accommodate their shenanigans. Good thought process, one borne of desire for perpetual manipulation!

franchasng:
You are completely wrong bro.

Not every man is a disciplinarian.


Men who are disciplinarian are always a problem in marriage because they complain about everything and want to discipline everybody around them.


I am happily married for years now.

My wife knows I don't complain about anything at all, she knows this about me. She knows if I dont like a meal, I wont complain, I will rather claim that I am full after few bites or spoons lol, and she will get the signal and smile; I know you don't like the meal, so sorry hun, I know there is much pepper, etc, let me get you something else to eat, even without my approval she will quickly rush to get something else.


She knows my kids prefer my room to theirs or their Mom's, and she suggested several times that the room remains locked whenever I am not around but I always object that it should be kept open for the kids to use as they please. And you know kids, they will scatter everything in the room, my reading table, just everything. If I mistakenly come back earlier and meet the room scattered, I don't say a word, and immediately both the kids and their Mom will get the signal that Daddy is not happy and will immediately swing to action arranging things, kids packing their toys, story books, drawing boards, etc while their Mom arranges others, and within few minutes everywhere is tidied without me uttering a word lol.


My wife and kids have learned my way, including our domestic staffs, even my staffs at the office, they all know that I dont ever complain about things, if I dont like a situation, I keep silent and try organizing it myself and they will get the clear message.


My wife and kids know that if I am silent and not uttering a word, it means something is wrong and everybody will become worried lol.


If I am silent for some time, not uttering a word, my son will start worrying, Daddy why dont you want to say something, Daddy talk, Daddy I am sorry, it's not me its Linlin that did it, she was the one that, bla bla bla and they will start confessing who did what without me asking.



So don't take liberal-minded and peaceloving men's silence or calmness for foolishness, their calmness and silence speak louder than violent quarrels and verbal abuse


I bless God for creating me the way He did because I hardly have issues or disagreement with people. I get along with people easily and I overlook people's weaknesses easily. I always have this natural gift of accommodating people no matter how horrible others think they are, I have room in my heart to accommodate all kinds of people.


The only place I tend to argue with people is online and especially on political matters because I always feel disgusted with Nigeria's overall situation haven been to working nations where it seems like paradise, so when I see Nigerians applaud Nigerian government, leaders and the Nigerian situation despite knowing that Nigeria is not doing well, I feel disgusted

You have funds that meet your needs, if you are probably struggling. I bet, you wouldn't be this easy going...
Frustration makes most men to flare up, unless they are natural narcist.

MartinCorridon:
All this long epistle to justify being a simp

Spend less time on Nairaland and more time being a man.

You're not " peace - loving" that's the lie she told you.

I can bet anything she regularly goes for Away Matches.

This is not a good comment. You degraded his spouse. That's disrespectful.

franchasng:
You are completely wrong bro.

Not every man is a disciplinarian.


Men who are disciplinarian are always a problem in marriage because they complain about everything and want to discipline everybody around them.


I am happily married for years now.

My wife knows I don't complain about anything at all, she knows this about me. She knows if I dont like a meal, I wont complain, I will rather claim that I am full after few bites or spoons lol, and she will get the signal and smile; I know you don't like the meal, so sorry hun, I know there is much pepper, etc, let me get you something else to eat, even without my approval she will quickly rush to get something else.


She knows my kids prefer my room to theirs or their Mom's, and she suggested several times that the room remains locked whenever I am not around but I always object that it should be kept open for the kids to use as they please. And you know kids, they will scatter everything in the room, my reading table, just everything. If I mistakenly come back earlier and meet the room scattered, I don't say a word, and immediately both the kids and their Mom will get the signal that Daddy is not happy and will immediately swing to action arranging things, kids packing their toys, story books, drawing boards, etc while their Mom arranges others, and within few minutes everywhere is tidied without me uttering a word lol.


My wife and kids have learned my way, including our domestic staffs, even my staffs at the office, they all know that I dont ever complain about things, if I dont like a situation, I keep silent and try organizing it myself and they will get the clear message.


My wife and kids know that if I am silent and not uttering a word, it means something is wrong and everybody will become worried lol.


If I am silent for some time, not uttering a word, my son will start worrying, Daddy why dont you want to say something, Daddy talk, Daddy I am sorry, it's not me its Linlin that did it, she was the one that, bla bla bla and they will start confessing who did what without me asking.



So don't take liberal-minded and peaceloving men's silence or calmness for foolishness, their calmness and silence speak louder than violent quarrels and verbal abuse


I bless God for creating me the way He did because I hardly have issues or disagreement with people. I get along with people easily and I overlook people's weaknesses easily. I always have this natural gift of accommodating people no matter how horrible others think they are, I have room in my heart to accommodate all kinds of people.


The only place I tend to argue with people is online and especially on political matters because I always feel disgusted with Nigeria's overall situation haven been to working nations where it seems like paradise, so when I see Nigerians applaud Nigerian government, leaders and the Nigerian situation despite knowing that Nigeria is not doing well, I feel disgusted

Oshey

Dj YK Mule!

Everything you read here is nothing but a fiction..

franchasng:
She is correct.

But she used the wrong words to describe such men.

Such men doesnt lack sense like she thinks, they are just easygoing, peaceloving and liberal-minded.

I am one of them.

I always wonder why men quarrel or fight with their partners, be it wife, fiance or girlfriend.


Nothing on earth can make me quarrel with a woman. The greatest sin any woman can commit in marriage is infidelity or cheating, but honestly I wouldn't quarrel over that, I will just reduce my rating and trust for you and operate more carefully for my own health, but to argue and quarrel because of that, not me.



Anything that doesn't threaten my life, health and finance, can never bother me, that's who I am, sadly



It baffles me when I hear that some men quarrel with their wives because of food, sex, untidy home, etc. Any man that quarrels over things like sex, food, untidy home, etc definitely need to look inwards

Everyone is Wired Differently thats what makes humanity unique, And also be Grateful you have a Partner that understands you and is willing to make compromises or Else you there would be Tension in your Marriage life.

You're almost perfect.

Just that men like your type are hardly faithful.
That is the downside.
No offense.

franchasng:
You are completely wrong bro.

Not every man is a disciplinarian.


Men who are disciplinarian are always a problem in marriage because they complain about everything and want to discipline everybody around them.


I am happily married for years now.

My wife knows I don't complain about anything at all, she knows this about me. She knows if I dont like a meal, I wont complain, I will rather claim that I am full after few bites or spoons lol, and she will get the signal and smile; I know you don't like the meal, so sorry hun, I know there is much pepper, etc, let me get you something else to eat, even without my approval she will quickly rush to get something else.


She knows my kids prefer my room to theirs or their Mom's, and she suggested several times that the room remains locked whenever I am not around but I always object that it should be kept open for the kids to use as they please. And you know kids, they will scatter everything in the room, my reading table, just everything. If I mistakenly come back earlier and meet the room scattered, I don't say a word, and immediately both the kids and their Mom will get the signal that Daddy is not happy and will immediately swing to action arranging things, kids packing their toys, story books, drawing boards, etc while their Mom arranges others, and within few minutes everywhere is tidied without me uttering a word lol.


My wife and kids have learned my way, including our domestic staffs, even my staffs at the office, they all know that I dont ever complain about things, if I dont like a situation, I keep silent and try organizing it myself and they will get the clear message.


My wife and kids know that if I am silent and not uttering a word, it means something is wrong and everybody will become worried lol.


If I am silent for some time, not uttering a word, my son will start worrying, Daddy why dont you want to say something, Daddy talk, Daddy I am sorry, it's not me its Linlin that did it, she was the one that, bla bla bla and they will start confessing who did what without me asking.



So don't take liberal-minded and peaceloving men's silence or calmness for foolishness, their calmness and silence speak louder than violent quarrels and verbal abuse


I bless God for creating me the way He did because I hardly have issues or disagreement with people. I get along with people easily and I overlook people's weaknesses easily. I always have this natural gift of accommodating people no matter how horrible others think they are, I have room in my heart to accommodate all kinds of people.


The only place I tend to argue with people is online and especially on political matters because I always feel disgusted with Nigeria's overall situation haven been to working nations where it seems like paradise, so when I see Nigerians applaud Nigerian government, leaders and the Nigerian situation despite knowing that Nigeria is not doing well, I feel disgusted

Funnily enough, I told someone the other day that it seems men with I-don't-care attitude tend to live longer, because nothing about life bothers them.

Mariangeles:
Funnily enough, I told someone the other day that it seems men with I-don't-care live longer, because nothing about life bothers them.

When you are not struggling financially. If you are and you display this nonchalant attitude, you will be termed irresponsible.

Mariangeles:
You're almost perfect.

Just that men like your type are hardly faithful.
That is the downside.
No offense.

Not true! We are faithful to the core

Jman06:
Not true! We are faithful to the core

Ka'm nukwa!

So you can continue your paternity fraud, Kole work, all men must get sense by force.

Women are just selfish creature

A man supposed be "i don't care" or don't reason things but them (women) will never ignore little thing, they easily pick offense over irrelevant things.

What a woman need from a man to tolerate from her, she will never allow her brother to take same rubbish from another lady.

Every woman need a man that spend on her, make her happy, ignore her bad attitude but will never want to take rubbish from a man. Some of them don't forgive when offended.

If a woman don't find a guy attractive, the guy irritates her. She can insult a guy for being ugly or broke but want men to be soft to them because they are weaker gender and at same time fight for gender equity

I pity men that are soft to women, they will just ride you like horse

I come house no food, I’m going back. My wife knows I love eating out. She is always trying not to give me reason to continue to eat out. So if I come and there is no food, I’m driving out immediately to help myself without complaint
Anyway, she’s not even my kind of girl since I love ‘only’ naturally beautiful girls that aren’t fat.
Stomach must( I mean must) be flat.

Me I also get standard

If the picture there is that of the lady, I would rather be an eunuch than marry her type.

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This is one of the "ills" of social media. People who previously never had a means to air their thoughts, no matter how somehow, now have the medium in their palms. Then, for you to be known or be seen, you had the newspapers or TV/radio, where scrutiny is applied before airing. Don't get me wrong, the Internet is the greatest invention mankind has invented after electricity. But this right here is one of its ills.

Such is life. The good, the bad and the ugly.

If you do na problem if you no do na still problem