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correctyourself:
What if she married another man along the line the man is financially down, she wouldn't stay with the man, because she has no endurance.

Unfortunately she's not aware she doesn't have one of the qualities it takes to be parents. She thinks she's wise.

Na she tell you say she no go stay with the man?

Amarachieze:
➜The question should rather be WHY NOT? if you consider your decision to be the best for your future and happiness hence you called it a red line or flag then you should be thankful that you escaped "death"
➜ Vindictiveness in this matter means you regretted your own decision to call off the marriage. Remember it is not your fiance or bestie that call of the wedding. You did for your safety

1. A red flag is an issue identified before any harm or hurt is inflicted. What happened to this lady is not merely a red flag since she has already been hurt by all that took place. I guess I should ask you why you feel to minimize the impact of what happened to her?

2. You cautioned her against retaliating for the hurt caused her by her now ex-fiancé and friend. You act like the ultimate goal here for her had been just the wedding, which was cancelled, and not even the marriage that comes after. I am simply trying to ascertain why you feel she needs to proceed as though nothing ever happened between them all in this?

G0odharddick:
He is soo right.

How can a lady who isn't a virgin, Someone who has visited lots of guys before and climbed their beds be canceling marriage when she herself isn't a virgin?

What made you women think you can eat your cake and have it back?

The lady only cancelled the wedding because the victim who committed the act was her closest friend (best friend). Na why she cancel am. If it was another lady the man did it with, you think say he go cancel am?

So if your daughter come to you now that something like this has befallen her, this would be your reply?

You will tell her, it’s her fault because she is not a virgin?

You Dey okay at all?

I’m belittling myself by responding to you self

Au revoir

correctyourself:
This your decision would only be wise if he met you a virgin.

The kind of likes you get for this your comment,shows the kind of corrupt society we are living now yet we will be accusing our political leaders of insincerity and deceitfulness. Yes no one is born angel but at a point in time of someone's life you must try to behave responsively, especially going into marriage or on the issue of marriage,a marriage that started on faulty foundation can never last or at best just struggling to keep it together.

The moment you decided you're going into a matrimony with your chosen man or woman you must cut every other relationship you have with your former boyfriend or girlfriend

Obaxxx:
. Kobo, please avoid me . Cuz of you,my other Moniker has been banned unnecessarily

Kobo get plenty wahala

correctyourself:
This your decision would only be wise if he met you a virgin.

Virgin or not, her life and peace first before anything/anyone else

but wont


rather prefer stupidity

OracleJay411:
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mbos:
but wont, rather prefer stupidity

He should, though!

she no wise

10thTenthMan:
Her decision. She is not a child. For a woman like her, it is Her responsibility to determine what she can accept or not accept. She is old enough to face whatever challenges and benefits of her decision(s).

No where is it written than a woman cannot leave a man.

We just hope she took the decision objectively and strong enough NOT TO EVER REGRET!

Nairaland can be a childish and funny place. Some ask if SHE WAS A VIRGIN and that if she is not a virgin she has no moral grounds to demand accountability from the man. Others are deducing that her friend is a reflection of her. That If she make a betrayer a best friend, then she too must have done things like this in the past to another woman’s man. Una well done o, Assistants to the Karmic Diaries. Awon Deputy Supervisors to the Keeper of the Akashic Records. Ndi Supervisors of Dharma Quality Assurance and Enforcement.

The world does not always work like how many of you are thinking and insinuating here. Otherwise we could then deduce that virgins would not have their husbands cheat on them then. Nature will just give them good men. Meanwhile if my experiences are anything, the husbands to virgins usually want to “preserve” their wives and have wild sex with side chics all around, while coming home to their nice, clean, angelic virgin. OR they don’t get the sizzling sex they get from side chics at home, hence to cure the boredom they go out.

I support her decision. If it is clear that they want to remain exclusively monogamous, then he went against this, it is well within her rights m. He didn’t do it with anyone else but her so called “best friend” - (A title I will never give to any human dead,alive to be born).

I mean She demanded it or strongly expected it, and the man accepted it as an expectation and a boundary in the relationship, then so be it.

As for me I won’t marry and don’t intend to. I am monogamous as long as we are together. But I keep my expectations very clear. I shall move on. Peacefully and amicably. That, I am very sure of. I let you know this fact ahead of time. I am NOT DATING TO MARRY ANY WOMAN. Nope, not dating to marry. I am dating for quality experiences.

It's just cruise and if there's anyone human who seriously meant it, that pesin dey crazy, e just remain to mad enter market... Ahn ahn... People sef ..

Obaxxx:
. Kobo, please avoid me . Cuz of you,my other Moniker has been banned unnecessarily

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Its funny how people are reacting over a fake AI generated picture.

Can't you guys see the Gemini watermark on the second pic which shows the AI tool used to generate it?

Wahala dey o.

pocohantas:
Congrats on escaping a community husband.
The people trying to gaslight her should give him their sisters. This is how they make you think cheating is normal until you are in and crying. Then they still turn against you _saying you saw the signs but were desperate or hooked because of money.

chochocho dey sweet until you tell them to imagine if this lady was their sister or daughter. Then them go mute. It takes courage from her for not marrying that nonsense. Honestly plenty women will jump inside just to 'cover shame'. She definitely deserves better!

correctyourself:
This your decision would only be wise if he met you a virgin.

If you investigate more you may found out, that's not actually the main reason.

All these borehole people claiming cents, because their secret have not been opened.

My brethren, someone whom together with her so called friend cannot count how ma y men have slept with them, yet she is saying she is not marrying again, is that not disguise to continue her runs girl life? Only a VIRGIN can make the claim she is making

You should have asked if she was a devorcee


But if it's the other way round, you would have been weeping and gnashing teeth, lamenting how all women are bad and LovePeddler.[/quote]

Kobojunkie:
1. A red flag is an issue identified before any harm or hurt is inflicted. What happened to this lady is not merely a red flag since she has already been hurt by all that took place. I guess I should ask you why you feel to minimize the impact of what happened to her?

2. You cautioned her against retaliating for the hurt caused her by her now ex-fiancé and friend. You act like the ultimate goal here for her had been just the wedding, which was cancelled, and not even the marriage that comes after. I am simply trying to ascertain why you feel she needs to proceed as though nothing ever happened between them all in this?

If she calls what happened to her a red ⛳, the implication by your definition of red flag is that no harm has been inflicted. Notwistanding the pain of betrayal by the fiance and the bestie, she called off the wedding and by extension the marriage for her own good. So, absolutely some harm has been
inficted but comparatively no harm has been done
Now why I advised against retaliation and vendetta; Retaliation means she would be same with those who hurt her.
Vendetta smacks of irresponsibility and regret for her well thought decision.

Which is more painful to a lady?

To discover that her man is sleeping with her Bestie, or to discover that her man is sleeping with his own female Bestie?

Amarachieze:
➜If she calls what happened to her a red ⛳, the implication by your definition of red flag is that no harm has been inflicted.
➜ Notwistanding the pain of betrayal by the fiance and the bestie, she called off the wedding and by extension the marriage for her own good. So, absolutely some harm has been inficted but comparatively no harm has been done
➜ Now why I advised against retaliation and vendetta; Retaliation means she would be same with those who hurt her.
➜ Vendetta smacks of irresponsibility and regret for her well thought decision.

1. Wrong! What happened to her can be construed a red flag since it also speaks to the potential future of the relationship. However, it is also more than a red flag since she has, in the present, been burned by what happened. So, it is a red flag and more.

2. Wrong! Your statement confirms that there was betrayal, meaning that harm to her person did in fact take place; betrayal is a form of harm against others, and let's not even go into the abusive aspects of the betrayal that took place.

3. Wrong! Retaliation is payback, in any form, maybe similar, for harm caused. She was betrayed by these individuals. She could choose to retaliate by cutting off any business/familial connections she may have with these individuals. That is what most would logically do in a case like this.

4. That actually is dependent on your personal interpretation of these things and really has little or nothing to do with how others see it. To each his own demons, really!

Omoluabi16:
chochocho dey sweet until you tell them to imagine if this lady was their sister or daughter. Then them go mute. It takes courage from her for not marrying that nonsense. Honestly plenty women will jump inside just to 'cover shame'. She definitely deserves better!

Ah, all the ones here claim their sisters are married to model men. They don't want their sisters to endure. Marriage wey never start, e done dey knack bestie. With what I read on FB you introduced me to, adultery would soon be a norm on both sides.

LilMissFavvy:
She must do everything to be able to forget and move on, because betrayals like this don't heal easily.

What betrayal, is she a Virginia?

Investigate it, is not the real reason.

immortalcrown:
Noted. It is not the first and will not be the last.

Things like this will continue to happen until the society admits that marriage comes with commitment and responsibilities. You cannot eat your cake and have it. The freedom you enjoy as a bachelor or spinster does not exist in marriage.

That is still note the reality. The reality is that being Male and Female have their rewards or perks as many would call it and the one perk from being a man but women don't like is the ability to have more than one partner. My advise to any woman who can is run your race.

APCNig:
My brethren, someone whom together with her so called friend cannot count how ma y men have slept with them, yet she is saying she is not marrying again, is that not disguise to continue her runs girl life? Only a VIRGIN can make the claim she is making

You're very correct I

Mumu woman

correctyourself:
See this one trying to sell his few properties and relocate to Ogun.

E pain you to the extend that u check my profile😂 osiwi

correctyourself:
This your decision would only be wise if he met you a virgin.

If you investigate more you may found out, that's not actually the main reason.

All these borehole people claiming cents, because their secret have not been opened.

Your daughter will meet same kind of man.

APCNig:
My brethren, someone whom together with her so called friend cannot count how ma y men have slept with them, yet she is saying she is not marrying again, is that not disguise to continue her runs girl life? Only a VIRGIN can make the claim she is making

Seems like imaginations makes you sleep well at night, cos why will you sit down in your 2 by 2 and cook up stories about someone you can never meet in your entire existence?

moscobabs:
It's fake. Na AI generated picture. U people should not be gullible like Facebook people

May you live long and may too much sense not kill you.