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Chilipepper:
Terkula Alukwase Fidelia posted!

Wedding Cancelled!!


Today was meant to be my wedding day, but instead, I stand here making a different announcement.

I just discovered that my ex-fiance has been sleeping with my best friend. This betrayal cuts deeper than words can explain, and it’s a red flag I cannot overlook.

I have choose not to settle for lies. I choose to leave in order to live!

As if she innocent of the same act. Go and meet that other guy on standby

Kobojunkie:
1. Wrong! What happened to her can be construed a red flag since it also speaks to the potential future of the relationship. However, it is also more than a red flag since she has, in the present, been burned by what happened. So, it is a red flag and more.

2. Wrong! Your statement confirms that there was betrayal, meaning that harm to her person did in fact take place; betrayal is a form of harm against others, and let's not even go into the abusive aspects of the betrayal that took place.

3. Wrong! Retaliation is payback, in any form, maybe similar, for harm caused. She was betrayed by these individuals. She could choose to retaliate by cutting off any business/familial connections she may have with these individuals. That is what most would logically do in a case like this.

4. That actually is dependent on your personal interpretation of these things and really has little or nothing to do with how others see it. To each his own demons, really!

Your response is very interesting but the answer to to the issue at hand is neither here or there. Why?
Because every coin has 2 faces
A harm that prevents a greater harm is relatively no harm. In fact is a good omen

Retaliation is more than just any negative response to harm done but rather a payback in kind or exact form. Avoiding someone that hurts you or severing relationships with unfriendly friends cannot be refered to as retaliation. Even divorcing a cheating is no retaliation but cheating on her as a payback is retaliation

Amarachieze:
➜ Your response is very interesting but the answer to to the issue at hand is neither here or there. Why? Because every coin has 2 faces A harm that prevents a greater harm is relatively no harm. In fact is a good omen
➜ Retaliation is more than just any negative response to harm done but rather a payback in kind or exact form. Avoiding someone that hurts you or severing relationships with unfriendly friends cannot be refered to as retaliation.
➜Even divorcing a cheating is no retaliation but cheating on her as a payback is retaliation

1. But this statement of yours is the reason why I keep pointing out the fact that this incident isn't just a red flag, but rather a harm that is also a red flag. Additionally, we can't state for a fact that this harm prevented a greater harm (for all we know, this man and woman may have died right on the way back from their wedding, something completely beyond both their individual control), and it is for this reason that we refer to it as a red flag, rather than as well.

2. Any negative action that is a response to an equally negative action is considered a form of retaliation— a payback in kind for form. Cutting off someone who hurts you in a way that renders them unable to receive the same benefits they previously enjoyed from you, in response to a betrayal, is a form of retaliation. Cutting off business connections to someone with whom you were formerly in business in response to a betrayal is a form of retaliation.

3. Divorce is not a form of retaliation? Let me guess, you think all those Nigerian men crying all over the internet because their wives out of nowhere— as if —filed for divorce against them, don't think it as a form of retaliation against them and their mostly dumb egos? You should probably talk to people who have been hurt by divorce about this before commenting any further. 🥱🥱🥱

Good decision. Wisdom is Profitable...

Kobojunkie:
1. But this statement of yours is the reason why I keep pointing out the fact that this incident isn't just a red flag, but rather a harm that is also a red flag. Additionally, we can't state for a fact that this harm prevented a greater harm (for all we know, this man and woman may have died right on the way back from their wedding, something completely beyond both their individual control), and it is for this reason that we refer to it as a red flag, rather than as well.

2. Any negative action that is a response to an equally negative action is considered a form of retaliation— a payback in kind for form. Cutting off someone who hurts you in a way that renders them unable to receive the same benefits they previously enjoyed from you, in response to a betrayal, is a form of retaliation. Cutting off business connections to someone with whom you were formerly in business in response to a betrayal is a form of retaliation.

3. Divorce is not a form of retaliation? Let me guess, you think all those Nigerian men crying all over the internet because their wives out of nowhere— as if —filed for divorce against them, don't think it as a form of retaliation against them and their mostly dumb egos? 🥱🥱🥱

I earlier admitted a harm was done but I have insisted that relatively it is no harm because the person who was injured believe that what had happened saves her from greater harm hence calling off the marriage.

Definition of retaliation is not subject to individual perceptions or interpretations. It a payback in kind and not all forms of reactions to harm. Going by your definition of retaliation it means that by calling off the wedding she has retaliated. But her reaction is not a payback or retaliation against the fiance but a safety measure to secure her personal happiness.

Babaibeji2020:
Well.....might be karma at play!
....show me your friend and I will tell you who and what you are.
Maybe she has slept with her best friend's man.....just maybe she had been sleeping with other women's husband.....just maybe!
That she boldly walked away shows she has been in that situation before, though she was the tormentor now she's vowing not to be tormented.......
....Can't eat your cake and have it,those prayers you made married women to subject themselves to has finally been approved, face it,probably with prayers too......

Gbam! Final comment. This is often the way the world unfolds. You find yourself profoundly wounded by the same actions you once inflicted on others, yet you continue to ponder how humans can be so cruel, conveniently and deliberately ignoring that you have been just as cruel as the one who currently wrongs you. Last last, alcohol is something else, if not, how I go take reason this kind thing wey I type so? But is it not true?

Harbideyme:
Kudos to her. It's better that way than pretending and praying for him to change. The marriage wouldn't have lasted

The lady doesn't deserve the guy bcoz she's the type that wouldn't recognise 'forgiveness' as an important factor in marriage.

She can go to blazes jare! 😏

Amarachieze:
➜I earlier admitted a harm was done but I have insisted that relatively it is no harm because the person who was injured believe that what had happened saves her from greater harm hence calling off the marriage.
➜Definition of retaliation is not subject to individual perceptions or interpretations. It a payback in kind and not all forms of reactions to harm. Going by your definition of retaliation it means that by calling off the wedding she has retaliated. But her reaction is not a payback or retaliation against the fiance but a safety measure to secure her personal happiness.

1. Your conclusion makes no logical sense, though!

2.

Amarachieze:
➜ Retaliation is more than just any negative response to harm done but rather a payback in kind or exact form. Avoiding someone that hurts you or severing relationships with unfriendly friends cannot be refered to as retaliation. Even divorcing a cheating is no retaliation but cheating on her as a payback is retaliation

This Fidelia is heartless.

You dont want the man and you put out his face to the internet so that others wouldn't go for him abi?

E go shock you

komek:
This Fidelia is heartless. You dont want the man and you put out his face to the internet so that others wouldn't go for him abi? E go shock you

The man already has her best friend, what more does he need?

Kobojunkie:
1. Your conclusion makes no logical sense, though!

2.

Not actually trying to impress you but to answer your questions?

Any reaction to harm or perceived harm that aims to safeguard oneself from further harm cannot in any sense or logic be refered to as retaliation but a precaution

Amarachieze:
➜Not actually trying to impress you but to answer your questions?
➜ Any reaction to harm or perceived harm that aims to safeguard oneself from further harm cannot in any sense or logic be refered to as retaliation but a precaution

1. Logic has little to do with impressing, but sticking to that which is acceptable beyond the ruminations in one's mind.

2. You keep trying to redefine it, but the fact is retaliation comes in different forms, as you stated, and even divorce can be used to that end.

[quote author=immortalcrown post=137024767]Noted. It is not the first and will not be the last.

Things like this will continue to happen until the society admits that marriage comes with commitment and responsibilities.
The freedom you enjoy as a bachelor or spinster does not exist in marriage.

See you see sense, some married men or women have not realize they're into married.

Wey the best friend photo make we see the rat face.

Good, good she found out early.

correctyourself:
This your decision would only be wise if he met you a virgin.

If you investigate more you may found out, that's not actually the main reason.

All these borehole people claiming cents, because their secret have not been opened.

She by herself admitted to be moving from me to men by saying she has found love again. To me as a man I would walk away before her. So she had had loves that disappointed you before. It is provoking to any man.

ukaface:
So if your daughter come to you now that something like this has befallen her, this would be your reply?

You will tell her, it’s her fault because she is not a virgin?

You Dey okay at all?

I’m belittling myself by responding to you self

Au revoir

My daughter will be a virgin. She'll be resourceful, valuable and extremely useful to her generation.

She'll made to understand at early age that a woman's value is in her body and a woman's past matters a lot.

If I ever hope of getting a female child (which I don't want and not interested in a female child) , if it happens anyway, she'll end up getting married as a virgin.

The floor is open for more tears 😭

She seems to be in her thirties and just cancelled her wedding !

She just better hope that she can find a future husband who is less than 60years old.

Instead of cancelling her wedding she should have invited her bestie to become her co-wife 😊.

I don speak my own finish!

Fountainofyouth:
Your daughter will meet same kind of man.

See another report about the lady. U should be ashamed.

Best wishes & Good luck to her.
Tivs and their black and white dresses

Wenonawde:
E pain you to the extend that u check my profile😂 osiwi

There's need to check from your poor response, and I discovered is just one of the bunch of some persons that are here.

G0odharddick:
My daughter will be a virgin. She'll be resourceful, valuable and extremely useful to her generation.

She'll made to understand at early age that a woman's value is in her body and a woman's past matters a lot.

If I ever hope of getting a female child (which I don't want and not interested in a female child) , if it happens anyway, she'll end up getting married as a virgin.

The floor is open for more tears 😭

😂🤣😂😂🤣😂😂🤣😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂🤣😂😂😂😂🤣😂😂😂😂

omooba969:
The lady doesn't deserve the guy bcoz she's the type that wouldn't recognise 'forgiveness' as an important factor in marriage.

She can go to blazes jare! 😏

I hope you can forgive a cheating partner
Mr Forgiveness

correctyourself:
See another report about the lady. U should be ashamed.

From u people's imagination, continue

When ur daughter experience same thing, u will shed tears.

papiSNEH:
Na you lose

In what way? Tell same to your daughter when her fiance sleeps with her best friend.

Kwinesther:
In what way? Tell same to your daughter when her fiance sleeps with her best friend.

Okay i will, you can now rest in peace