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90% of women date married men

ednut1:
This narrative has no statistical backing. Naso una go just dey lie. Most cheating married men prefer young smallies abeg

Where you come get your own stats from then?

APCNig:
Single guys can’t fund divorcees, only we the married ones have the resources to fund them

Not true,
Lots of young men with money these days.
It's a choice thing.

Kobojunkie:
Huh? Who in the world did this to your brains, abeg?

Nothing do me.
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learn that Akwuna-ma-toto is a saying that means "don't worry, for the rest of your days"
Akwuna-ma-toto to you

Helpout12345:
Yes. Most married men prefer younger women but most younger women don't want married men.

Most single men don't want divorced women too.

So you see why married men and divorced women are matches in the dating market?

Give this guy a cold beer you are right them match each other

The kobojunkie here is it a Bot? The bot comment is always not in consonant with the topic as always...

Kobojunkie:
I would ask you for a stat to prove this claim, which you make here, suggesting that most divorced women go on to become sidechicks. Where is the backing for this claim? An unnamed analyst makes a claim, and we are supposed to believe it is fact? What this is saying is that a great number of Nigerian married men have divorced women for sidechicks, abi? Nonsense!

There is nothing Juju about it at all. If you reason it without biases coloring your view, you would see it yourself. Anyways, as for the reasons why some divorced women go on to become sidechicks, well, there are several:

➜ Society claims it is wrong to commit adultery, but then, rather than penalize the man and sidechick, lets them off, and in some cases, Society turns the blame on the wife for not being wifely enough or not having the prowess to protect her marriage from the other woman. All this is pressure placed on the wife, who now finds herself fighting depression, rejection, and also having to continue her wifely duties, all while the man and his sidechick continue to enjoy their lives as though nothing ever went wrong. Imagine a situation where even the man's family members receive gifts and entertain the sidechick behind the wife's back as though to say that they approve of the relationship, even as they continue to insist their son's wife continue to serve him judiciously in the home.
➜ Most Nigerian men treat their sidechicks so many times better than they treat their own wives. I mean, this ain't a hidden secret at all, as even very poor men are known to go out of their way to ensure their sidechicks are well fed before even their own children, talk less of their wives. The position of sidechick in Nigeria is so many times better than that of the wife, who, in many cases, is no more than a provider of free labor in the marriage.
➜ A sidechick has more opportunities for growth than a typical wife would have access to. A sidechick has greater control over her time and freedom than the average wife does, and for an ambitious woman, that is a benefit that is of great importance. Having the man while holding on to her independence is a valuable place to be in.
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Yes, there are lots of benefits to being a sidechick than a wife to a Nigerian man, that is why I believe a wife trading places with a sidechick is a sort of promotion, not a demotion, for a divorced woman.🥱🥱🥱

You're using a social decadence to equate, promote and support social immorality, isn't it?

Men with decent jobs and income must always remember to finance your side babes with adequate funds for survival and to dump dem if they become greedy for more money or your valuable time. This topic is not for the broke/struggling/hungry guys that shouldn't have a sidechick in the first place. 😄
Respect and praises due to the married guys that maintain dey marriage vows and eschew adultery. 😉

Kobojunkie:
Living in Nigeria does not give one superior knowledge of life and happening in Nigeria. Rather, consuming educated knowledge of happenings in Nigeria does. Even if 200 million Nigerian claim that a thing is so, it would not be enough to counter educated facts collected and collated from polls independently researching all those same Nigerians. 200 million Nigerians claiming a thing to be a certain way would not be enough to counter all that has been previously realized of human behavior to this point in time.

The problem here is, you don't have the data, you don't have the fact neither the record of it! Tell me one single poll emanating from Nigeria people to substantiate your claim!
By the way, your opinions on matters relating to Nigerian people are full of falsehood!

gtassure:
✓ The problem here is, you don't have the data, you don't have the fact neither the record of it! Tell me one single poll emanating from Nigeria people to substantiate your claim!
By the way, your opinions on matters relating to Nigerian people are full of falsehood!

. Um...I am not the one who made the claim that 80% of divorced women date married men in Nigeria without evidence of data to back up such a claim. So, how could you confuse me of falsehood? Are you certain you are OK up there? 🥱🥱🥱

MrGerald:
✓ You're using a social decadence to equate, promote and support social immorality, isn't it?

Promote and support? The way many of you dey like to dey process unsavory truths you like to pretend are not out there ehn... Whoever did this to you do you bad thing.

Fiscus105:
How many women have you seen that divorced her husband on the account of infidelity?

2! And both ended up dating married men!

Kobojunkie:
For many men, the wife is the woman they settled for— to mine free labor and other benefits of having a wife at home from— whereas the sidechick is the woman that is more their type but either cannot afford or cannot measure up to her standards.

That absolutely makes no sense. Could have said the wife at home got a little older, giving birth and having sex for a long time makes it too Familiar. So the man is just looking for some excitement and Validation from her now younger side chick.

donogaga:
A wife will divorce her husband because he cheated on her, after divorce she'll now be dating & knacking husbands whose wives are patient with them despite all odds... No be juju be dat!

Because, they only realised their mistake and fooolishness after they might have left their husbands. They would leave their husbands only to realise that no man wants them and they can't finance their own responsibilities alone. What options do they have left?

TheRedpillguy:
That absolutely makes no sense. Could have said the wife at home got a little older, giving birth and having sex for a long time makes it too Familiar. So the man is just looking for some excitement and Validation from her now younger side chick.

She knows. Don't mind that lady, she only listens to the voices in her head

ednut1:
This narrative has no statistical backing. Naso una go just dey lie. Most cheating married men prefer young smallies abeg

They prefer young girls but how many of them can afford young girls and their demands? Hence, they settle for divorced or single mothers who are cheaper to maintain

TheRedpillguy:
➜That absolutely makes no sense. Could have said the wife at home got a little older, giving birth and having sex for a long time makes it too Familiar.
➜ So the man is just looking for some excitement and Validation from her now younger side chick.

Did you by any chance detest/hate your mother for getting older, giving birth, or even having sex with your father for a long time, or on grounds of too much familiarity while you were growing up with her? Did you, at some point, start to hate your friends/roommate for any of the same reasons? What makes you think that watching someone you love grow older or becoming familiar with such a one makes you begin hating or not liking them much? 🥱🥱

2. Looking for excitement and validation by abusing his wife, whom he supposedly loves? Hahaha!! (Cheating is a form of abuse where a partner denies the right to consent to the other partner while literally putting them in harm's way— emotional harm and STDS come to mind.) And in many cases, follows the abuse up with gaslighting to make the woman believe she is the reason why he chose to abuse, and she ought to bear shame for his cheating on her. What part of all of that screams, "I love you?"🥱🥱

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The telling part of all of this is that if a woman were to offer up the same reasons to explain her cheating on her husband, you would not hesitate to have her kicked out of that house. Yet you want women to believe the same bullsheet reasoning that men would not even accept or entertain? Isn't that the most absurd delulu nonsense ever? 🥱🥱🥱🥱

donogaga:
A wife will divorce her husband because he cheated on her, after divorce she'll now be dating & knacking husbands whose wives are patient with them despite all odds... No be juju be dat!

Because that is the only option left for her. Na which youngman go leave fresh babes they go for tokunbo! Some fairly used, some badly used.

Kobojunkie:
Did you by any chance detest/hate your mother for getting older, giving birth, or even having sex with your father for a long time, or on grounds of too much familiarity while you were growing up with her? Did you, at some point, start to hate your friends/roommate for any of the same reasons? What makes you think that watching someone you love grow older or becoming familiar with such a one makes you begin hating or not liking them much? 🥱🥱

2. Looking for excitement and validation by abusing his wife, whom he supposedly loves? Hahaha!! (Cheating is a form of abuse where a partner denies the right to consent to the other partner while literally putting them in harm's way— emotional harm and STDS come to mind.) And in many cases, follows the abuse up with gaslighting to make the woman believe she is the reason why he chose to abuse, and she ought to bear shame for his cheating on her. What part of all of that screams, "I love you?"🥱🥱

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The telling part of all of this is that if a woman were to offer up the same reasons to explain her cheating on her husband, you would not hesitate to have her kicked out of that house. Yet you want women to believe the same bullsheet reasoning that men would not even accept or entertain? Isn't that the most absurd delulu nonsense ever? 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Truth is if Women could give that excuse, they will so kick the Man out of the house, but you see , women value commitment and that is a little difficult when you are getting old with children as a Woman, but Men don't care about commitment they just want to have sex with young ladies with standing breast and good skin. Women cheat when they get the opportunity, Everytime.

Now as a man not just any man,a wealthy Man. A woman will prefer to stay with him even if he cheats and yes it's his world if he chooses discipline to be faithful because they have been a lot together then so be it, but if she is just some girl who married a rich man then if the man chooses can have younger version of her as much as he can. Sorry I don't make the rules.

TheRedpillguy:
➜ Truth is if Women could give that excuse, they will so kick the Man out of the house, but you see , women value commitment and that is a little difficult when you are getting old with children as a Woman, but Men don't care about commitment they just want to have sex with young ladies with standing breast and good skin. Women cheat when they get the opportunity, Everytime.
➜ Now as a man not just any man,a wealthy Man. A woman will prefer to stay with him even if he cheats and yes it's his world if he chooses discipline to be faithful because they have been a lot together then so be it, but if she is just some girl who married a rich man then if the man chooses can have younger version of her as much as he can. Sorry I don't make the rules.

1. Men don't care about commitment, yet these same men have near-zero tolerance for women cheating on them, not committing to them? There are literally thousands of videos of men crashing out after discovering their girlfriend/sidechick — not even wife—had been cheating on them. Yet you are here trying to fiddle us with tales of men not wanting commitment from women? And there are numerous crime stories online of men who murdered their wives for cheating on them. 😏😏

Do you know you are literally talking out of both sides of your mouth at this point in the discussion? And I wonder to what end. 🥱🥱

2. We are not here discussing wealthy men, which I am sure you are not and have never been one of. We are on an issue that concerns the general populace, so let's stop with the ridiculous attempts to deviate from the facts. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
1. Men don't care about commitment, yet these same men have near-zero tolerance for women cheating on them, not committing to them? There are literally thousands of videos of men crashing out after discovering their girlfriend/sidechick — not even wife—had been cheating on them. Yet you are here trying to fiddle us with tales of men not wanting commitment from women? And there are numerous crime stories online of men who murdered their wives for cheating on them. 😏😏

Do you know you are literally talking out of both sides of your mouth at this point in the discussion? And I wonder to what end. 🥱🥱

2. We are not here discussing wealthy men, which I am sure you are not and have never been one of. We are on an issue that concerns the general populace, so let's stop with the ridiculous attempts to deviate from the facts. 🥱🥱🥱

Most men have no idea what value they actually bring that’s why they crash the moment a woman cheats. Instead of leveling up and going for younger, more beautiful women, they drown in emotions. The truth is, it’s always about wealthy men. Women don’t care what regular men think or do. a broke man could catch fire and burn, and not a single woman would piss on him to save him.
The game has never been about love or fairness it’s about the redistribution of resources. Women are wired to look out for what benefits them, it’s not even there fault. Nature designed it that way survival first, emotions second.
That’s why when I speak, I’m always referring to the top 5% of men , men with options. If a man sits in that category, then yes, he can walk away or crash out when his woman cheats, because every woman he chooses should understand the exchange , his protection, his status, his resources, and in return, loyalty and his offspring. If any woman can’t get with that program, she’s replaceable.
As for me , I’m above average. I’ve built something real. I’m a millionaire, focused on running my business and maintaining my health. I’m not delusional enough to believe a woman will love me for who I am. I know what the world runs on , power, value, and results. And even though millions in Naira may not be global wealth, it’s a start. The point is, I’m growing , n I’m not stopping.

TheRedpillguy:
➜ Most men have no idea what value they actually bring that’s why they crash the moment a woman cheats. Instead of leveling up and going for younger, more beautiful women, they drown in emotions. The truth is, it’s always about wealthy men. Women don’t care what regular men think or do. a broke man could catch fire and burn, and not a single woman would piss on him to save him.
➜ The game has never been about love or fairness it’s about the redistribution of resources. Women are wired to look out for what benefits them, it’s not even there fault. Nature designed it that way survival first, emotions second.
➜ That’s why when I speak, I’m always referring to the top 5% of men , men with options. If a man sits in that category, then yes, he can walk away or crash out when his woman cheats, because every woman he chooses should understand the exchange , his protection, his status, his resources, and in return, loyalty and his offspring. If any woman can’t get with that program, she’s replaceable.
➜ As for me , I’m above average. I’ve built something real. I’m a millionaire, focused on running my business and maintaining my health. I’m not delusional enough to believe a woman will love me for who I am. I know what the world runs on , power, value, and results. And even though millions in Naira may not be global wealth, it’s a start. The point is, I’m growing , n I’m not stopping.

1. It is so very convenient of you to conclude that because these men's behaviors are not tailored to your particular delusion, therefore, they are the problem in expressing what are simple human emotions. 🥱🥱🥱

Again, I am not interested in the details of your particular delusions but in understanding what exactly you hope to gain by offering these contradictory ideas in this situation. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Nature instead has it that all human beings — men, women, and animals — seek that which benefits them. The concept of survival of the fittest suggests that each member of each species seeks out benefits to help them live and thrive, sometimes at the expense of others. So, why in the world are you continually trying to project your delusions above common sense? 🥱🥱🥱

3. You are just a typical Nigerian from all you have spewed so far. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
1. It is so very convenient of you to conclude that because these men's behaviors are not tailored to your particular delusion, therefore, they are the problem in expressing what are simple human emotions. 🥱🥱🥱

Again, I am not interested in the details of your particular delusions but in understanding what exactly you hope to gain by offering these contradictory ideas in this situation. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Nature instead has it that all human beings — men, women, and animals — seek that which benefits them. The concept of survival of the fittest suggests that each member of each species seeks out benefits to help them live and thrive, sometimes at the expense of others. So, why in the world are you continually trying to project your delusions above common sense? 🥱🥱🥱

3. You are just a typical Nigerian from all you have spewed so far. 🥱🥱🥱

It's almost like you are not thinking, you just copy my response and paste it in an AI then paste back the reply. I don't get it. You are not thinking honestly no offense.

TheRedpillguy:
➜ It's almost like you are not thinking, you just copy my response and paste it in an AI then paste back the reply. I don't get it. You are not thinking honestly no offense.

Well, there is not much to think of in your posts which don't align with reality as it presents itself outside of your head.

Kobojunkie:
Well, there is not much to think of in your posts which don't align with reality as it presents itself outside of your head.

What's the reality? What point are you trying to make? Women can cheat on me too, women don't need to be married? We all can be good people and not cheat?
What is it you are trying to say.
My point! Outright if a woman don't want to play ball she should be replaced and the man has little to lose and can always get an upgrade.

TheRedpillguy:
➜What's the reality? What point are you trying to make? Women can cheat on me too, women don't need to be married? We all can be good people and not cheat? What is it you are trying to say. My point! Outright if a woman don't want to play ball she should be replaced and the man has little to lose and can always get an upgrade.

After all the unnecessary running around, I see you have finally landed exactly with exactly what I had stated earlier.

For many men, the wife is the woman they settled for— to mine free labor and other benefits of having a wife at home from— whereas the sidechick is the woman that is more their type but either cannot afford or cannot measure up to her standards.

Yes, some men have very unhealthy attachment styles that connect back to trauma from their pasts and/or unhealthy social conditioning that have them seeing women they are in relationships with as tools... a means to an end. But even that sort of damage cannot be generalized, as there are men out there capable of healthy human relationships.

Kobojunkie:
After all the unnecessary running around, I see you have finally landed exactly with exactly what I had stated earlier. Yes, some men have very unhealthy attachment styles that connect back to trauma from their pasts and/or unhealthy social conditioning that have them seeing women they are in relationships with as tools... a means to an end. But even that sort of damage cannot be generalized, as there are men out there capable of healthy human relationships.

And yeah those Men will be hit in the face with reality soon enough. Probably raising somebody elses kid right now and they don't even know it. Oh yeah, you are referring to real Men

TheRedpillguy:
➜And yeah those Men will be hit in the face with reality soon enough. Probably raising somebody elses kid right now and they don't even know it. Oh yeah, you are referring to real Men

. Real men, for you, are literally just traumatized human beings, many suffering from PTSD. Yikes! 😣😣😣

No wonder you went all around and around saying nothing knew only to then arrive at exactly what I had alluded to from almost my very first post. 😣😣😣