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Marriage isn’t a battlefield. It’s not a place to test how much pain, anger, or revenge a human heart can endure. Yet, every other week, we wake up to horrifying news — a wife who poisoned her husband, a husband who beat his wife to death, or couples who set each other ablaze in moments of rage.

Recently there is a news of a woman who is alleged to have set her husband ablaze after an argument. Whether this is later confirmed to be true or not, a life has been lost.

No matter the offence, no one deserves to die in the name of marriage. If a partner becomes unbearable, walk away. Separation — though painful — is always better than a prison sentence or a graveyard visit.

We must start telling ourselves the truth:
👉 If you can’t tolerate his attitude, don’t marry him.
👉 If you can’t respect her when she’s angry, don’t marry her.
👉 If you can’t handle the storms of communication, ego, or financial strain, stay single until you can.

Marriage doesn’t fix temperaments — it exposes them. Love alone isn’t enough; patience, emotional maturity, forgiveness, and self-control are the silent pillars that keep a home standing when love starts to wobble.

Too many people are getting married for the wrong reasons — pressure, loneliness, lust, or societal expectations. Then when reality hits, frustration replaces affection, and resentment breeds violence.

Let’s normalize choosing peace over pretense. It’s not weakness to walk away from what drains you. It’s strength.

So please — before you say “I do,” ask yourself:

>“Can I truly live with this person’s flaws without turning into a monster myself?”

If the honest answer is no, then don’t do it. It’s better to be single and sane than married and murderous.

What do you think — is intolerance or poor emotional management the bigger cause of domestic violence today?

It's time we start telling ourselves the truth. If you are toxic and you know you have an unforgiving spirit, just rest. No need to bother marrying.

How can someone meant to be the love of your life be the cause of your death.

Dpsychologist:
Marriage isn’t a battlefield. It’s not a place to test how much pain, anger, or revenge a human heart can endure. Yet, every other week, we wake up to horrifying news — a wife who poisoned her husband, a husband who beat his wife to death, or couples who set each other ablaze in moments of rage.

Recently there is a news of a woman who is alleged to have set her husband ablaze after an argument. Whether this is later confirmed to be true or not, a life has been lost.

No matter the offence, no one deserves to die in the name of marriage. If a partner becomes unbearable, walk away. Separation — though painful — is always better than a prison sentence or a graveyard visit.

We must start telling ourselves the truth:
👉 If you can’t tolerate his attitude, don’t marry him.
👉 If you can’t respect her when she’s angry, don’t marry her.
👉 If you can’t handle the storms of communication, ego, or financial strain, stay single until you can.

Marriage doesn’t fix temperaments — it exposes them. Love alone isn’t enough; patience, emotional maturity, forgiveness, and self-control are the silent pillars that keep a home standing when love starts to wobble.

Too many people are getting married for the wrong reasons — pressure, loneliness, lust, or societal expectations. Then when reality hits, frustration replaces affection, and resentment breeds violence.

Let’s normalize choosing peace over pretense. It’s not weakness to walk away from what drains you. It’s strength.

So please — before you say “I do,” ask yourself:

>“Can I truly live with this person’s flaws without turning into a monster myself?”

If the honest answer is no, then don’t do it. It’s better to be single and sane than married and murderous.

What do you think — is intolerance or poor emotional management the bigger cause of domestic violence today?

Cc nlfpmod Dominique seun

Apt! If you ask me but then it is what it is.

This generation of women should be carefully observed. Unfortunately stupid love and infatuation makes some guys not to see the red flags and run for their lives.

Marriage is avenue to untimely death in the world now.

And if you can tolerate marry abi, I no understand waiting tolerating get to do here.

Easier said than done.

Bleep

I'm officially off the marriage list😎

I lost my father to these terrorist, all I will say is that there's nothing spiritual about marriage, it's pure earthly business. Religion itself has worsened it because of stopping men from polygamy. Men, y'all should start reading books on philosophy .

Tell your girlfriend about adding second wife and watch her disoriented 🤷🏿

Poverty in the land have made ladies go harder and competition is high amongst them to get a rich man. Diabolical approach is high amongst them

True

So many people marry just to tick the box but don't really have the right attitude for marriage

Una go de shout MARRY VIRGIN, forgetting mental health is more important

What if this one na virgin wey her brain don maraaaa

Better to marry a sane olosho than an insane virgin o

Apcnewrecruit:
This generation of women should be carefully observed. Unfortunately stupid love and infatuation makes some guys not to see the red flags and run for their lives.

The op talks about two people in marriage , "man and woman", you should endeavour to talk about generation of man too, it take too to tango and same time take the two couples to make the marriage works

Young life cut short by daughter of eve

They will not listen. That's why I don't give them listening ear when they come crying as if they didn't know what they are going into. I told my wife if we even get to the stage of fighting. We are ending the union ASAP.

OboOlora:
Una go de shout MARRY VIRGIN, forgetting mental health is more important

What if this one na virgin wey her brain don maraaaa

Better to marry a sane olosho than an insane virgin o

Virgin for where, bro followed beauty without brains.

Even if you married and find out the other person is violent, END the marriage immediately

Dpsychologist:
Marriage isn’t a battlefield. It’s not a place to test how much pain, anger, or revenge a human heart can endure. Yet, every other week, we wake up to horrifying news — a wife who poisoned her husband, a husband who beat his wife to death, or couples who set each other ablaze in moments of rage.

Recently there is a news of a woman who is alleged to have set her husband ablaze after an argument. Whether this is later confirmed to be true or not, a life has been lost.

No matter the offence, no one deserves to die in the name of marriage. If a partner becomes unbearable, walk away. Separation — though painful — is always better than a prison sentence or a graveyard visit.

We must start telling ourselves the truth:
👉 If you can’t tolerate his attitude, don’t marry him.
👉 If you can’t respect her when she’s angry, don’t marry her.
👉 If you can’t handle the storms of communication, ego, or financial strain, stay single until you can.

Marriage doesn’t fix temperaments — it exposes them. Love alone isn’t enough; patience, emotional maturity, forgiveness, and self-control are the silent pillars that keep a home standing when love starts to wobble.

Too many people are getting married for the wrong reasons — pressure, loneliness, lust, or societal expectations. Then when reality hits, frustration replaces affection, and resentment breeds violence.

Let’s normalize choosing peace over pretense. It’s not weakness to walk away from what drains you. It’s strength.

So please — before you say “I do,” ask yourself:

>“Can I truly live with this person’s flaws without turning into a monster myself?”

If the honest answer is no, then don’t do it. It’s better to be single and sane than married and murderous.

What do you think — is intolerance or poor emotional management the bigger cause of domestic violence today?

People don't die in the name of marriage but because they have refused to learn how to be good people while growing up.
Marriage is a place we bring what we have learnt to the table and marry it with that of your partner.
When this do not match, the reason we see many terrible stories of some married couples. It's very hard for an adult to learn new habits in marriage.

Very unfortunate.
It's an irony his name is Samson, his life has sadly been cut short by a Delilah.

Spot on. People see marriage as do or die affair. Na that "for better for worse," weh Bible the use deceive them naim the do them.

Dpsychologist:
It's time we start telling ourselves the truth. If you are toxic and you know you have an unforgiving spirit, just rest. No need to bother marrying.

How can someone meant to be the love of your life be the cause of your death.

Most humans lie alot, thereby marrying someone they do not love at the end of the day.... at any slightest mistake, they will kill spouse.

That lady wey kill that officer don enter wahala

Seun 40 characters don tire you ?

Bros don reduce am to 20 characters

Very soon you will beg us for 10 characters

Another empty advice from an empty head.

Dpsychologist:
Marriage isn’t a battlefield. It’s not a place to test how much pain, anger, or revenge a human heart can endure. Yet, every other week, we wake up to horrifying news — a wife who poisoned her husband, a husband who beat his wife to death, or couples who set each other ablaze in moments of rage.

Recently there is a news of a woman who is alleged to have set her husband ablaze after an argument. Whether this is later confirmed to be true or not, a life has been lost.

No matter the offence, no one deserves to die in the name of marriage. If a partner becomes unbearable, walk away. Separation — though painful — is always better than a prison sentence or a graveyard visit.

We must start telling ourselves the truth:
👉 If you can’t tolerate his attitude, don’t marry him.
👉 If you can’t respect her when she’s angry, don’t marry her.
👉 If you can’t handle the storms of communication, ego, or financial strain, stay single until you can.

Marriage doesn’t fix temperaments — it exposes them. Love alone isn’t enough; patience, emotional maturity, forgiveness, and self-control are the silent pillars that keep a home standing when love starts to wobble.

Too many people are getting married for the wrong reasons — pressure, loneliness, lust, or societal expectations. Then when reality hits, frustration replaces affection, and resentment breeds violence.

Let’s normalize choosing peace over pretense. It’s not weakness to walk away from what drains you. It’s strength.

So please — before you say “I do,” ask yourself:

>“Can I truly live with this person’s flaws without turning into a monster myself?”

If the honest answer is no, then don’t do it. It’s better to be single and sane than married and murderous.

What do you think — is intolerance or poor emotional management the bigger cause of domestic violence today?

The REAL CHALLENGE Here Is That Nobody Really Knows If They Can Handle The Pressures Of Marriage Until They Get Involved!


So, Your Warnings Will Not Solve The Challenge.


The Only Solution To This Issue Is That People Should Really Invest In Their Self's Temperaments By Becoming "Self Conscious" Of What Their Partners "LOVE And HATE" So That They Can Truly Understand How To Co-Exist.


Also, Couples Need To Learn How To Be "More Forgiving" Of Each Other When They Hurt Each Other. Being Quick To Apologize Doesn't Mean That You Are Weak, It Only Means That You Have Mastered "The Essence Of Peace And Empathy"

Motivational speakers without experience can be very sweet to hear...but u made good point ..however marriage is not straightforward, a rich man might get broke at any moment and that in itself becomes a pressure on him and if his wife is not virtuous, infidelity ,lies and nagging can change a good guy into a monster...the key factor is God ,prayer ,hardwork, faithfulness ,honesty, forgiveness and love etc all these comes from God..so get God and get peace forever..God keeps family together in all situations of life ...in riches and in poverty...in accordance to the exchange of marital vows before God and humanity

OboOlora:
Una go de shout MARRY VIRGIN, forgetting mental health is more important

What if this one na virgin wey her brain don maraaaa

Better to marry a sane olosho than an insane virgin o

This virgin thing dey pain una wella

What of those ones wey you fit tolerate before you know them go enter your house switch up for the worse. Leave that talk abeg

She did not even look happy on her own wedding day That is a very evil woman

Nothing is worth the life of another person.


Nothing is worth throwing your own life away for.

Even two best of friends, if they do business without a guiding standard they will have issues either over decisions or task sharing or money or outputs. Marriage is o different.