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Married woman, before you exit your marriage, you should know that those women telling you to divorce your husband are unhappy, bitter and angry. They want to ruin your life. Unless it is a case of physical abuse, don't listen to them. Life as a single mother is HARD.

Good advice.

But unfortunately, some prefer to experience how it looks like themselves, instead of learning from the mistake of others..

Are you a single mother yourself?

And if a woman dies in a marriage, it's still this same sets of people gaslighting women to stay in bad marriages that will berate her for dying because of marriage. Not all marriages are worth fighting for. Al

dominique:
And if a woman dies in a marriage, it's still this same sets of people gaslighting women to stay in bad marriages that will berate her for dying because of marriage. Not all marriages are worth fighting for. Al

you conveniently deleted the part where it is said "unless in the case of a domestic abuse" 😀 wth has been going on with you lately? Our sweetest Dominique? E ro ra o. Good morning to you.

dominique:
And if a woman dies in a marriage, it's still this same sets of people gaslighting women to stay in bad marriages that will berate her for dying because of marriage. Not all marriages are worth fighting for. Al

He said "unless it's case of physical abuse". He has a very good point.

Your sweetest? Seems like someone is being very cautious so as to not receive a life ban...😂😂😂

Making sure not to offend the queen, I see...

Tenrack:
you conveniently deleted the part where it is said "unless in the case of a domestic abuse" 😀 wth has been going on with you lately? Our sweetest Dominique? E ro ra o. Good morning to you.

No need to advice, body go tell them

Tenrack:
you conveniently deleted the part where it is said "unless in the case of a domestic abuse" 😀 wth has been going on with you lately? Our sweetest Dominique? E ro ra o. Good morning to you.

What's the highest cause of divorce in this climes if not domestic abuse?

the most reasons for divorce is when a woman no longer love her man or feel anything.


when it comes to nigerian marriage, most men drink alchol and start getting aggressive on their wife , most men dont help out in the house they only care about paying the bills nothing else , most nigerian women go to work and still take care of the house when they come back, 70% of nigerian men stop being romantic to their wife when they clock 50,
tell me whats the last time you gave your wife a back rub or feet, cook dinner for the family,
some nigerian men cant even change their baby pampers or feed their baby.


marriage is about partnership, love and support, its all scratch my back i scratch yours


its sad most nigerian men think money runs the family , tell me why women are divorcing billionailires for guys with nothing but camry lite in his drive way

donogaga:
Married woman, before you exit your marriage, you should know that those women telling you to divorce your husband are unhappy, bitter and angry. They want to ruin your life. Unless it is a case of physical abuse, don't listen to them. Life as a single mother is HARD.

why are some men obsessed with what women do with their lives? Cant you mind your own business ni

dominique:
What's the highest cause of divorce in this climes if not domestic abuse?

smiles. Well, you have a point. But it takes two to tango, other times olojukokoro no dey allow certain spouses concentrate on their marriage.

Samantha125:
Your sweetest? Seems like someone is being very cautious so as to not receive a life ban...😂😂😂

Making sure not to offend the queen, I see...

dawan sef dey. The banning thing is very annoying tbh. It kills morale.

Samantha125:
Are you a single mother yourself?

I am a Man.

Always try to focus on the message, not the messenger.

If as a married man you know you are very irresponsible then let your wife go

dominique:
And if a woman dies in a marriage, it's still this same sets of people gaslighting women to stay in bad marriages that will berate her for dying because of marriage. Not all marriages are worth fighting for. Al

I am only responsible for what I said, not what you understand.

dominique:
And if a woman dies in a marriage, it's still this same sets of people gaslighting women to stay in bad marriages that will berate her for dying because of marriage. Not all marriages are worth fighting for. Al

Do U have issues reading what the op originally posted?

So what do you know about the struggles of single motherhood as a man? Who made you the spokesperson of single mothers?

donogaga:
I am a Man.

Always try to focus on the message, not the messenger.

It's always funny to me when people think "physical abuse" is the only reason women should leave marriage, what about "Mental and emotional abuse," or are women not humans too, mental abuse even kills more than physical abuse because you can't see it but it will be chipping away your very essence until you become a walking corpse.

There was an Aunty that died in our area some years ago, she was 44 years old and very beautiful, she died in her sleep due to high blood pressure, we all know the husband was a very big cheat, he sleep around with anything in skirt and many people told her to leave but she didn't when she died her husband got married 2 months later and it was her sister that was very angry that start exposing all the secrets in the marriage.

So apparently the husband was infertile and the husband mum and everyone was blaming the Aunty of been barren and the husband didn't support her, just told her to bear it because it will be an embarrassment if they find out the blame was on him.

So for years and years this Aunty kept the blame for their lack of children while the husband tried his luck outside with multiple women to see whether he can impregnate anyone of them and for years this Aunty developed HBP, Stress from years of been a good wife. From years of abuse from Mother in law that even knows the truth, from years of family and friends calling her barren and one day she slept and didn't wake up

So tell me if it's worth it to remain in a marriage like that but of course the man wasn't physically abusing her so everything is good right??
99% of married men will never stay with wives cheating on them so why do you expect wives to stay with husband cheating on them, women are humans too with emotions, if as a husband or wife you can't remain faithful than live the marriage and stop putting your partner in mental torture, we only have one life to live so shouldn't spend the limited time we have to be miserable.

They want to ruin your life. Unless it is a case of physical abuse, don't listen to them. Life as a single mother is HARD.

Olawrites:
No need to advice, body go tell them

Even a case of Physical Abuse does not warrant any woman to divorce her Husband, unless her Parents have kept a Belgium-Used Husband for her in their house.

Our Grandmothers endured a great deal of abuse from their Husbands and Heaven did not fall.

Children of Nowadays, because they watched the Kardashian Family on DSTV, they too want to behave like the Amerikanas.

They want to emulate every silly things they see on T.V.

Why even advise them? Let them continue to divorce their Husbands, they will all learn their lessons the hard way by using their slack Nigerian-Used “Vajuju” to fend for themselves & children in this harsh Economy.

These are the same people who'd be disrespecting their vows and spending more time with their side chicks than their wives, but would expect their wives to endure everything because they paid their dowry.

According to them, women must endure all kinds of ill treatment from them while they can't do the same... With just one small issue that could easily resolved, they'd already be running to another woman... A dysfunctional family can take a toll on the children's mental health because they too can sense the negative energy within the household, their father doesn't have to be physically abusive towards their mother for them to sense it.

One of my relative's child once told me how his father would normally go AWOL upon receiving his monthly salary... The boy was just 14, but had to start saving his school pocket money to help his mother with buying some food around the house because he hated the feeling of seeing his mother looking all burnt out due to stress. And the father is also against the idea of their mother looking for employment.

Sandralight:
It's always funny to me when people think "physical abuse" is the only reason women should leave marriage, what about "Mental and emotional abuse," or are women not humans too, mental abuse even kills more than physical abuse because you can't see it but it will be chipping away your very essence until you become a walking corpse.

There was an Aunty that died in our area some years ago, she was 44 years old and very beautiful, she died in her sleep due to high blood pressure, we all know the husband was a very big cheat, he sleep around with anything in skirt and many people told her to leave but she didn't when she died her husband got married 2 months later and it was her sister that was very angry that start exposing all the secrets in the marriage.

So apparently the husband was infertile and the husband mum and everyone was blaming the Aunty of been barren and the husband didn't support her, just told her to bear it because it will be an embarrassment if they find out the blame was on him.

So for years and years this Aunty kept the blame for their lack of children while the husband tried his luck outside with multiple women to see whether he can impregnate anyone of them and for years this Aunty developed HBP, Stress from years of been a good wife. From years of abuse from Mother in law that even knows the truth, from years of family and friends calling her barren and one day she slept and didn't wake up

So tell me if it's worth it to remain in a marriage like that but of course the man wasn't physically abusing her so everything is good right??
99% of married men will never stay with wives cheating on them so why do you expect wives to stay with husband cheating on them, women are humans too with emotions, if as a husband or wife you can't remain faithful than live the marriage and stop putting your partner in mental torture, we only have one life to live so shouldn't spend the limited time we have to be miserable.

dominique:
And if a woman dies in a marriage, it's still this same sets of people gaslighting women to stay in bad marriages that will berate her for dying because of marriage. Not all marriages are worth fighting for. Al

Did u see physical abuse or not

Poverty Dominique! Poverty! When a man can’t afford the basic necessities for his family, his woman is already one leg in one leg out of whatever relationship they have. Every breathing human knows this! Worse of all, this is Nigeria with crippling poverty and unemployment rates. Why do you think singles summit are constantly filled up to the brim? Poverty! Let’s always remember to stay grounded to the root of our problems, not cherry picking from branches of the western world to salve our personal interests.

dominique:
What's the highest cause of divorce in this climes if not domestic abuse?

Sandralight:
It's always funny to me when people think "physical abuse" is the only reason women should leave marriage, what about "Mental and emotional abuse," or are women not humans too, mental abuse even kills more than physical abuse because you can't see it but it will be chipping away your very essence until you become a walking corpse.

There was an Aunty that died in our area some years ago, she was 44 years old and very beautiful, she died in her sleep due to high blood pressure, we all know the husband was a very big cheat, he sleep around with anything in skirt and many people told her to leave but she didn't when she died her husband got married 2 months later and it was her sister that was very angry that start exposing all the secrets in the marriage.

So apparently the husband was infertile and the husband mum and everyone was blaming the Aunty of been barren and the husband didn't support her, just told her to bear it because it will be an embarrassment if they find out the blame was on him.

So for years and years this Aunty kept the blame for their lack of children while the husband tried his luck outside with multiple women to see whether he can impregnate anyone of them and for years this Aunty developed HBP, Stress from years of been a good wife. From years of abuse from Mother in law that even knows the truth, from years of family and friends calling her barren and one day she slept and didn't wake up

So tell me if it's worth it to remain in a marriage like that but of course the man wasn't physically abusing her so everything is good right??
99% of married men will never stay with wives cheating on them so why do you expect wives to stay with husband cheating on them, women are humans too with emotions, if as a husband or wife you can't remain faithful than live the marriage and stop putting your partner in mental torture, we only have one life to live so shouldn't spend the limited time we have to be miserable.

She remained in the marriage because she wanted to after all she was not tied to the man with a rope

Life as a dead wife is harder. Leave if the tides are not suitable and irredeemable.

dominique:
And if a woman dies in a marriage, it's still this same sets of people gaslighting women to stay in bad marriages that will berate her for dying because of marriage. Not all marriages are worth fighting for. Al

read what she said again, but this time slowly

Juliearth:
Life as a dead wife is harder. Leave if the tides are not suitable and irredeemable.

He said unless there's domestic violence.

dominique:
And if a woman dies in a marriage, it's still this same sets of people gaslighting women to stay in bad marriages that will berate her for dying because of marriage. Not all marriages are worth fighting for. Al

OP did say except for cases of physical abuse.

dominique:
And if a woman dies in a marriage, it's still this same sets of people gaslighting women to stay in bad marriages that will berate her for dying because of marriage. Not all marriages are worth fighting for. Al

Did you read the part where it says "unless it's a case of physical abuse"?

donogaga:
Married woman, before you exit your marriage, you should know that those women telling you to divorce your husband are unhappy, bitter and angry. They want to ruin your life. Unless it is a case of physical abuse, don't listen to them. Life as a single mother is HARD.

It mustn't be physical abuse alone, mental and verbal abuse is also part of it.

Nobody supports separation of any kind, some women are married and are still the ones paying rent, children fees and feeding while most of their husbands are doing nothing.

I know of someone whose brother abroad sponsors the daughter's education she's in year 2 now in the university,her husband doesn't know and he has never asked the child how do you do in school with feeding or anything he feels the wife can handle this.

I'm not against what you said but I feel they can actually do better alone depending on the type of job the woman is doing.