₦airaland Forum

RodgersAkpafu:
This is a copout
And this is me being polite

Anyone who is not having some form of incremental progress OVERTIME in this country has himself to blame regardless of whatever "circumstances" you may wanna conjure as justifiable reasons for not moving ahead

It is culturally baked in among Nigerians generally to have wrong priorities and that manifests itself in many ways

RodgersAkpafu:
Imagine a young man who just moved here in February this year and is already talking of "going home" for detty December

You see our ppl are not serious
Me I didn't even advise him
He should do as he likes

HustlaOfLagos:
Shey na by force?

RodgersAkpafu:
Imagine a young man who just moved here in February this year and is already talking of "going home" for detty December

You see our ppl are not serious
Me I didn't even advise him
He should do as he likes

babajeje123:
There are no jobs in the North.

bigtt76:
Good advise. Many people get stuck in London because they think opportunities abound there. True enough there are a thousand and one opportunities there but you go sweat taya to grab one. Gone are they days person de hustle Cannary Wharf, now na up North, you go flex taya 😂

Goke7:
Yes o putin sef don abuse the Nobel people on behalf of Baba 😂

bigtt76:
Oh so we all in the North de depends on benefits? 🤭🤣🤣

HustlaOfLagos:
North like Middlesbrough, Newcastle, Bradford?

bigtt76:
Yea 🤭

HustlaOfLagos:
LOL

The same North everyone is running away from

HustlaOfLagos:
LOL

The same North everyone is running away from

RodgersAkpafu:
That's where I live and I love it

bigtt76:
Toh 😂

Goke7:
My sister parents in-law migrated to the US years ago in their sixties after her father in law retired as a top management staff in one of Nigeria’s mega banks. It was so strange to me then in fact we had to rush my sister’s marriage ceremony then as the man threatened we may have to do the marriage without them if we don’t hasten up, we think say na play o 😂. Apart from his house he sold every damn thing to migrate. He’s almost 80 now living the best of his life ...... The issue is understanding your why and clarity around your objectives with no pretence and reliance on what others think.

HustlaOfLagos:
I just looked at some of the replies to the guy's post and I just dey shake my head.


At the end of the day, I always remember something a classmate of mine said in 2023 that sounded like a joke but entered deep into my brain --

"Na UK be this. If you no ready use your brain upskill, na you sabi. Either you use your brain, or you use your body till old age, na you go choose one"

Every mallam with in kettle and we can all do what works for us

jedisco:
Well said.
People do it. It's only less common among the black community.
Infact, I only started taking the care pathway serious after a colleague used that to bring her parents in (I suspect). Folks had just retired in 9ja and built a house with proper opening ceremony. Within a year, I heard they were moving over - first thought it was a visit- only later got to realise it was full relocation and house was on the market. Baba is posting pics on the regular now. Ticha - a former regular here put her house on rent and moved to NZ with her kids cos she loved it. Vitually all my colleagues who moved over are married with kids...

I don't even want to make it a travel issue because it hardly is. It's all about unapologetically taking opportunities when they arise.

RodgersAkpafu:
That's where I live and I love it

bigtt76:
Na dem know wetin de drive them away, we northerners lovit here 😂

jedisco:
Fair enough at the bolded. Life has no one recipe for success.

Generally, people make decisions and then seek reasons to justify them. In the past, I used to get triggered when folks don't take visible opportunities only to give excuses later. These days I don't mind as much. A free market should reward those who are able to identify such opportunities and take the risk.

Two instances-

A colleague who once helped me out of a fix in 9ja was looking to move to the UK in 2020 ish. When I heard his plan, I follow give the guy ginja. I sent him money to help with part 1 of our two part exam cos he asked. Chap never took the exams then as he found an excuse. On subsequent conversations, it was one excuse after the other. Ultimately told him to make up his mind and act as he wasn't progressing his career back home eitherway. Since then we hardly spoke only for him to reach out to me this year in dire straits as he was needed some finiancial help to take the second part of the exams. He's now passed and was expressing regret at him delaying stuff. He sees the tide has changed and the doors are closing. He'd now need to work terribly hard to get what his mates got relatively easily years back.


Of late it was the Canada PR pathway. When special healthcare draws were introduced, it became popular in my circle. Some of us applied 1-2yrs ago and the scores needed were much lower and was quite clear they'd rise in future. I tried to push a friend who was already considering moving to apply. Chap told me he was looking at moving in 2027 and getting a job wouldn't be an issue so he didn't see the need to. He made it sound like the opportunity would always be there. After I moved, was surprised to hear he was imminently moving (but on a work visa instead). He had got had tired of the UK. Now the scores needed to get the PR draws are much higher and he's struggling to get nominated via a province as the limitations of being on a visa become obvious. Applying for a PR when the opportunity was being dangled would have made things much easier for him.

HustlaOfLagos:
Honestly, if I can get a fully remote role, I'll probably relocate to that area for a few years.

Maybe Leeds, Durham, Newcastle or York. Leeds and Newcastle more developed than the rest though IMO.

West Midlands is quite nice too

HustlaOfLagos:
Fortune indeed favors the brave

Several years ago, I also didn"t move as "I No wan become 2nd class citizen for another man country" along with all manner of excuses all because I was relatively "comfortable" with how things were. I still have friends clinging on to the same mantra right now in Naija and honestly, it can work for some, while others will have to go through it the hard way

Folks that moved in 2008/2009 were already settled when I decided to leave in 2021. Nothing those guys didnt tell me then, they even gave me schools to apply that didnt cost much in the US etc but I didnt even bother to check them

When person wake up, that na in own morning

HustlaOfLagos:
Cheap rent abi?

bigtt76:
Yea if you are in Tech, most roles are remote for now and makes sense to live in the North doing that. West Midlands looks a bit pricey still cos of it's proximity to London

bigtt76:
Not exactly cheap though but very spacious compared to what you get in London. Of course you can still get cheaper ones(HMOs and shared) but cost of living generally affordable.

bigtt76:
True that. Many if us 2ish3d we moved earlier than now but still grateful one moved when it happened. Those moving now, I feel for them but they are a source of comfort for those that moved before them - if you get the point 😏

lavida001:
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/sep/12/prison-officers-uk-skilled-work-visa-rule-change

HustlaOfLagos:
Fortune indeed favors the brave

Several years ago, I also didn"t move as "I No wan become 2nd class citizen for another man country" along with all manner of excuses all because I was relatively "comfortable" with how things were. I still have friends clinging on to the same mantra right now in Naija and honestly, it can work for some, while others will have to go through it the hard way

Folks that moved in 2008/2009 were already settled when I decided to leave in 2021. Nothing those guys didnt tell me then, they even gave me schools to apply that didnt cost much in the US etc but I didnt even bother to check them

When person wake up, that na in own morning

Goke7:
May our people receive sense and know that these opportunities are scarce and will not always be there. I know so many regretting now. I know folks who got Canada ITA here in this UK just two or three years ago but didn’t take it thinking they were super comfortable, now they are back in the pool praying night and day for favour. The same care pathway has been a stepping stone and blessing for so many to move to sustainable careers and better well being here in this Uk and other places in the world. It’s all about perspective and clarity about your why!

gabiomoesu:
@Brine
Bro I don come again o. I’ve been trying to open a Monzo Business account for the company but I found out they only let directors open or be added to the business account because they do a confirmation on Companies House. Since I’m not currently listed as a director on Companies House, that’s been the hurdle.

Do you think it’s alright if I just add myself as a director to get around that? I figured that might be the simplest way forward.

Modified: Hey Brine. Just wanted to call your attention to this in case you missed it. Looking forward to your guidance, please.